My true story….
I was dating this guy, I so much love him believing he loves me too because he do takes care of my needs. Our relationship was just 3 months old when he got an admission into a polytechnic. He said to me one day, “baby if you don’t go to school, I won’t marry you”.
I was thinking it was a big joke. Because he knows I am not that dull and I have the ambition to further my education if not for family background.
Lo and behold, 5 months of our relationship, he stopped taking my calls. All efforts I made to find out the reasons behind such behaviours from him proved abortive hence he didn’t give me the chance to.
I tried and tried, but he kept mute about it and it made me felt like one who does not exist at all.
It was painful anyways!
One day, after a month of none communications from him, I saw him with a new ride (car), this is a guy I was dating when he was driving an okada, no car yet then. Then I began to ask myself, does it mean he left me just because he wanted to buy a car? No one could answer that question of mine. I felt really bad about the whole thing, but it gave me reasons to think about my life and to be strong for my family.
SILENT HARDWOK BEGINS
I forgot about him. Worked very hard and got admitted into the university for a B.Sc programs. He never knew about it. While he’s was ND. I am not laughing at him o, no no.
When I was in my final year, he came to my work place one day with a wedding card. Inviting me to his wedding. Then I asked him! I hope your wife is a graduate? He said no that she just finished her secondary school and was learning how to sell drugs in a chemist. I said ok, that is not good to marry a woman who didn’t go to school o.
On the process of our discussion, a colleague of mine came and asked me… Chisa, have you finished your exams? I said yes. That it was project that was remaining.
This my guy looked at me and asked in amazement… Are you in school? I said yes. He was dumbfounded.
‘I CAN’T ATTEND YOUR WEDDING BUT I’M A GRADUATE NOW ANYWAYS’
The only thing I said to him was… I can’t attend your wedding. But I wish you luck in your marriage. He said but he wanted me to be there. I told him I have an appointment with an important personality on that day, and I walked away from him.
Why am I saying this to you, many ladies feel when a guy left them it’s the end of the world, no. It’s not. Get a life, think about your unfulfilled potentials, think about where you come from.
I never allowed his word to make me feel I was a nobody.
My fiancee of today is in his M.Sc program and his family is not after my job, but after my education. The first question they thrown at me was… Are you ready to further your education? Even when I told them I have my first degree, yet they want me to continue.
You see, when God wants to bless you, he doesn’t take permission from anyone. Just be good, open minded and you will see yourself doing the extra ordinary things in life.