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WHAT I DID WHEN HUBBY THREATENED ME WITH THE DREADED WORD

Aunty Eya, I read an old post on the blog that really described my husband. There are women in my situation who are just there thinking that a bad marriage has no solution but please aunty share my story on the blog site and after reading, they'll know that we have a solution for a bad, loveless, unemotional, and abusive

SEE WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER CONFESS INFIDELITY TO A BLACK AFRICAN MAN

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Confessing to a Nigerian husband that you cheated on him with another man might be the end of your marriage. It is a big risk and if you are not a risk taker, Don't try it. African men are different

MY HUSBAND WAITING TO GET AN APOLOGY WHEN IT'S OBVIOUS I AM NOT WRONG THIS TIME

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Hello Anty Eya, as in you may know me but am writing you with a different Email so I can remain anonymous. How are you Aunty? Am an old customer, started reading your blog even before I met my husband and recipes on there have really made me my husband's favorite chef until yesterday that I got very confused. 
Please help me, I was about to post in a Facebook group I belong but am not the kind of person that can withstand

HOW TO BE HELPFUL IN THE KITCHEN AT THE IN LAWS' WITHOUT HURTING YOURSELF

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Not by taking over all the cooking and creating stress for yourself. When you go visiting would be or already in laws, while getting ready for the big wedding or during these Holidays (Christmas is fast approaching). seeing the way that our African family setting is and how some people are quick to judge daughters in law, there's

A LOT OF MEN DON'T LOVE THEIR WIVES, THEIR SELECTION IS BASED ON "WHO IS FIT FOR THE WIFEY ROLE"?

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Most men who get married do not settle for the girl they fell in love with. They don't propose to the girl that their heart is panting after. Instead, they pick one they feel is a 'wife material' ( whatever that means to them) Or one they see as 'reserved', maybe conservative, maybe innocent looking, will make a good mom for their yet unborn kids and

HUSBAND RESIGNS AND WANTS WIFEY TO LEAVE THE WELL PAYING JOB TOO BECAUSE HE TOOK HER THERE

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Jealousy in marriage is real and because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it's non existent. Jealousy in marriage can be very deadly oh. If your spouse is jealous/envious of your success, check the level because there are different levels of this kind of jealousy and envy. If it's serious, mind your self oh because it's not from my mouth you'll hear that life is more important than marriage. immediately I saw this post shared on Social media, I couldn't resist

HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN TO MARRY

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The right man to marry is not your Lord, not your saviour, is not your messiah, not your Automatic Teller machine, neither is it your boss. The right man to marry is not the richest man on earth, not the

HOW TO TREAT A LAZY HUSBAND

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This is a post that has been shared so many times on Social Media. It just makes me feel like there are some people you help until you become bankrupt yourself yet their condition will not change, why? Because they are just like that. They make no effort themselves! Imagine that a woman proposes to a young man with 5 million Naira and od other expensive items, for two years, I mean two whole years. She didn't see any investment, she didn't see any returns from the initial five million Naira she gave him for free and

HOW NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR MARRIAGE

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Hello Aunty Eya. I am an old follower of your blog who used to comment anonymously but stopped talking and when quiet too when you stopped cooking and sharing your wonderful recipes with us like you started. I found your blog 5 years ago from Linda Ikeji's, when you just started blogging and frankly I got hooked to your delicious food and advise. I have tried a bunch of recipes from your blog and they all turned out delicious.  At a point I stopped

WHEN THE KIDS STARTED TO ARRIVE, MY MARRIAGE BEGAN TO WITHER

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Three months into our marriage, Laura was the best woman I had ever met!
Talk of who spoke my love language the best, it was Laura!
Planning surprises, pulling up loving pranks, praying for me, tickling and pecking me out of the blues, sending my heart some quakings, making me love God more and climbing higher and higher spiritually, making me laugh more and making me more healthy were all Laura’s handiwork in those three months!

I got home on the 23rd of July, 2016 to meet Laura looking sullen in the couch. Her body was hotter than the hottest boiling ring. I

TOO MUCH TALK ALREADY ABOUT CHECKING HUBBY'S PHONE, JUST DO YOU

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Why all the talk about checking your husband's phone na? The coming of gadgets and social media shouldn't be the end of family/marriage o. If your husband has never checked your phone

SHOULD A WIFE MOURN HUBBY WHO DIED IN HOTEL ROOM WITH ANOTHER WOMAN?

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Should she? shouldn't she? Well, Reading all 35 responses below can make you a good Marriage Counsellor, just in case you need to give advice to a grieving woman... Lol.
This question was raised by a Nigerian man Afolabi Mathew on Social media. He asked for responses from both men and women concerning the matter on ground. If a husband who says he's travelling to another city for an official assignment is suddenly

20 WAYS TO SIGNAL HUBBY THAT YOU NEED SUGAR

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Times have changed, in this era, women no longer wait for their husbands to be hungry before cooking breakfast, lunch or dinner. Now, if  wifey is hungry and Oga is not thinking of even a snack, she can unapologetically ask him to come to the dining table. Some signals will work for you, other's won't because people are different and connect differently. Only a look can send signals to one and won't do nothing for another. Learn what works for your case and use it. Don't starve yourself after changing name to his abeg. If

HOW TO CALM YOURSELF WHEN HUBBY UPSETS YOU

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Times are hard, everyone is affected. When unhappy, do not wait for help to come from DH, it may take a while, try to DIY for your happiness' sake. Calm yourself first. Many more marriages are struggling to keep it together. Stress at work, while shopping, at home and even with our loved ones. Sometimes, we quickly get over every other kind of annoying thing but one cuts really deep, that is when you are upset or when the sadness comes from hubby. Please do not let yourself fall into depression... A young Naija wife died not too long ago. The cause of sickness wasn't known. She just

HOW MY MOTHER IN-LAW SHARES OUR BEDROOM

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A worried Nigerian wife shared the post below on Social Media, asking other wives what step she can take to save her marriage and to sort out Mother-In-Law issues..
It all started after my traditional marriage... 2013..
My mil took me to our base (my husband left me the next day because of his work) Lagos I.e one week after my traditional Marriage..with the hope she will go back to the village after taking me to Lagos..
Then we were living in self contained apartment with my hubby...MIL sleeps with us in the same room..instead of her to give us some privacy.. She refused to go...I wasn't angry then .
I took in for my first child...meeting to nine months my husband rented a new apartment I.e one bedroom flat she packed in with us....
She always find fault in whatsoever I do...she controls my

20 WAYS A HUSBAND CAN USE EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL ON WIFEY

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He rejects your cooked meals, even when the hunger is squeezing and churning his stomach. Why? To make you say "sorry|" sometimes over nothing and sometimes over no wrong of yours.He withholds praise and withholds acknowledgement when you do well.Wears a long face and avoids eye contact.Keeps late nights to make you jealous even if it means hiding somewhere close to the house or just parking and sitting lonely in the car till late night.He falls pretend sick and tries to look really miserable such that

RAISING OUR SONS TO BE HUSBAND MATERIAL

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We have read, and heard so many things said about how we women, should keep our husbands happy, so that our marriages will last. So, many write-ups have gone on how to have a successful marriage and sadly, these write-ups have always laid the greater responsibility of a happy home on the wives/women folk! Sadly, yours truly has equally made her own contributions in that directions.

These have all contributed in making the man look like he totally does not have a part in making his marriage work! Our parents raised up men who had little or no instruction on how to keep their homes, how to make

their wives happy etc.! While I do not deny that its important to make the head of the home happy, its most important if the two work together to seek each other’s happiness.

So, this “patrachial” society end up raising men who can almost not function in a home/marriage, men that think that making money alone can keep/make a home, men who put the sole responsibility of raising children on the wife …

'OUR 3 MONTH OLD RELATIONSHIP ENDED THE DAY HE SLAPPED ME AT A FAST FOOD JOINT; HE HAS FOUR SONS NOW WITHOUT A WIFE'

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A happily married Nigerian woman narrates on Social media, what

SHOULD SHE BELIEVE HE MARRIED A SECOND WIFE FOR HER AND THEIR KIDS SAKE?

A Nigerian wife shared this story of her life on Social media. How she found out her Medical Doctor husband's recent late nights
are because he just secretly married a new wife who is supposedly very rich and has opened a clinic for him. She confronts oga and he

WHAT YOUR MARRIAGE TRULY NEEDS (NOT SEX, NOT COMPLAINTS)

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"We need to talk" he texted his wife.
She wondered what was wrong, men rarely use that "We need to

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