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SHOULD A WIFE MOURN HUBBY WHO DIED IN HOTEL ROOM WITH ANOTHER WOMAN?

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Should she? shouldn't she? Well, Reading all 35 responses below can make you a good Marriage Counsellor, just in case you need to give advice to a grieving woman... Lol.
This question was raised by a Nigerian man Afolabi Mathew on Social media. He asked for responses from both men and women concerning the matter on ground. If a husband who says he's travelling to another city for an official assignment is suddenly

20 WAYS TO SIGNAL HUBBY THAT YOU NEED SUGAR

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Times have changed, in this era, women no longer wait for their husbands to be hungry before cooking breakfast, lunch or dinner. Now, if  wifey is hungry and Oga is not thinking of even a snack, she can unapologetically ask him to come to the dining table. Some signals will work for you, other's won't because people are different and connect differently. Only a look can send signals to one and won't do nothing for another. Learn what works for your case and use it. Don't starve yourself after changing name to his abeg. If

HOW TO CALM YOURSELF WHEN HUBBY UPSETS YOU

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Times are hard, everyone is affected. When unhappy, do not wait for help to come from DH, it may take a while, try to DIY for your happiness' sake. Calm yourself first. Many more marriages are struggling to keep it together. Stress at work, while shopping, at home and even with our loved ones. Sometimes, we quickly get over every other kind of annoying thing but one cuts really deep, that is when you are upset or when the sadness comes from hubby. Please do not let yourself fall into depression... A young Naija wife died not too long ago. The cause of sickness wasn't known. She just

HOW MY MOTHER IN-LAW SHARES OUR BEDROOM

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A worried Nigerian wife shared the post below on Social Media, asking other wives what step she can take to save her marriage and to sort out Mother-In-Law issues..
It all started after my traditional marriage... 2013..
My mil took me to our base (my husband left me the next day because of his work) Lagos I.e one week after my traditional Marriage..with the hope she will go back to the village after taking me to Lagos..
Then we were living in self contained apartment with my hubby...MIL sleeps with us in the same room..instead of her to give us some privacy.. She refused to go...I wasn't angry then .
I took in for my first child...meeting to nine months my husband rented a new apartment I.e one bedroom flat she packed in with us....
She always find fault in whatsoever I do...she controls my

20 WAYS A HUSBAND CAN USE EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL ON WIFEY

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He rejects your cooked meals, even when the hunger is squeezing and churning his stomach. Why? To make you say "sorry|" sometimes over nothing and sometimes over no wrong of yours.He withholds praise and withholds acknowledgement when you do well.Wears a long face and avoids eye contact.Keeps late nights to make you jealous even if it means hiding somewhere close to the house or just parking and sitting lonely in the car till late night.He falls pretend sick and tries to look really miserable such that

RAISING OUR SONS TO BE HUSBAND MATERIAL

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We have read, and heard so many things said about how we women, should keep our husbands happy, so that our marriages will last. So, many write-ups have gone on how to have a successful marriage and sadly, these write-ups have always laid the greater responsibility of a happy home on the wives/women folk! Sadly, yours truly has equally made her own contributions in that directions.

These have all contributed in making the man look like he totally does not have a part in making his marriage work! Our parents raised up men who had little or no instruction on how to keep their homes, how to make

their wives happy etc.! While I do not deny that its important to make the head of the home happy, its most important if the two work together to seek each other’s happiness.

So, this “patrachial” society end up raising men who can almost not function in a home/marriage, men that think that making money alone can keep/make a home, men who put the sole responsibility of raising children on the wife …

'OUR 3 MONTH OLD RELATIONSHIP ENDED THE DAY HE SLAPPED ME AT A FAST FOOD JOINT; HE HAS FOUR SONS NOW WITHOUT A WIFE'

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A happily married Nigerian woman narrates on Social media, what

SHOULD SHE BELIEVE HE MARRIED A SECOND WIFE FOR HER AND THEIR KIDS SAKE?

A Nigerian wife shared this story of her life on Social media. How she found out her Medical Doctor husband's recent late nights
are because he just secretly married a new wife who is supposedly very rich and has opened a clinic for him. She confronts oga and he

WHAT YOUR MARRIAGE TRULY NEEDS (NOT SEX, NOT COMPLAINTS)

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"We need to talk" he texted his wife.
She wondered what was wrong, men rarely use that "We need to

I married early to escape torture from mum, Now My husband mistakenly calls me his secret girlfriend's name... I need help

Madam Eya I am so so sad. I cry everyday. my husband does not

MY HUSBAND REFUSED A COURT MARRIAGE NINE YEARS AGO, NOW WE NEED THE CERTIFICATE TO RELOCATE

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A confused Nigerian wife shared her story on Social Media and honestly tears dropped from my eyes while reading and I couldn't think of  a reply. She needs answers. Should she forgive her husband and go ahead with the court marriage nine years after or fly abroad with her kids and leave the man here in Nigeria? Read below... “I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and

Can A Nagging Wife Change? HOW DO YOU MANAGE ONE?

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So yesterday, I got a mail, replied and decided not to publish it here. However, thinking about it today, I feel it might be useful to someone on the blog so, here is it below and my reply to sender...

Dear Madam,

I read your post/blog on the internet on Nagging Wife. I will like if you can share with me how to

Can a woman with Rhesus negative blood type give birth to children?

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Hello wives connection. I am a young student who found your blog on Google and needs help.  My parents both have positive blood groups;  mum is o+ while dad is A- Both me and my elder brother are negative and people keep telling me that I might give birth to just one child in my lifetime, that if I lose the first pregnancy I might remain barren because negative blood group causes miscarriages.  Is it true ma?

Wife rants on Facebook after receiving insults from hubby's babymama

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A mother of four,  identified as Ruth Brownie on Facebook is not only hurt that her husband is still sleeping with his baby mama, but also frustrated that he has taken sides with the said woman who finds pleasure in humiliating her. According to the frustrated Nigerian lady, since she gave birth to her last child who is barely 2 months old, her husband rarely spends time at home as he is mostly with his baby mama.  She also said that her husband is proud of his sex life with this baby mam as he comes home every now and then to boast about it. Below is her post shared on a Facebook page...

Dress to kill him at home, not outsiders, not house uniform everyday

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DRESS TO KILL YOUR MAN AND NOT OUTSIDERS. DO NOT WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE GOING OUT BEFORE CARING ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK! Let him return from work and meet you looking sweet and refreshed.  Ok, you as a woman, when your husband dresses well and looks good, don't you feel something? When your husband is very careless and unkempt with his looks, do you like it? Not to talk of men that are well wired to be moved by what their eyes see whether at home or abroad. See, It's very easy for very busy mums especially full time housewives to start depending on robes,  boubou,  big gowns and all kinds of lose and free clothing because that's what keeps you comfortable considering you are not going to any office or attending an event. Eventually that daily same look becomes a lifestyle. 

Sharon O, in the enlightening post below, encourages women too look their best even at home.  A lot of women have lost their homes because they did not pay attention to their looks, they got so carried away with ca…

"Am I supposed to relate with my husband like an employee? he says I have no right to be angry at him or tell him that I feel insulted"

Is a wife wrong to be angry at her husband?Good morning Aunt Eya:
I was wondering if you could help post on your blog or respond to me personally.Hope your family is great. Firstly, I want to thank you for this opportunity to reach out to you via this means. I have this little problem that won't make me sleep well. please I need your advise on this one. My name is Bekky (you may change the name for privacy concern) and I have been married for four years now. I don't know...but is it wrong for me to be angry at something that upsets me?  Anytime I have a slight fracas with my hubby and it has to do with money or something else and i

In a relationship with an Urhobo man who is into traditional worship

I would wish my post to be anonymous and would love to get responses concerning this issue that has been bothering me for sometime.
I have been in a relationship with an Urhobo man for three years and was invited to his family house as at last year, only to realize on my own that they are still into traditional worship.
He made me understand that marrying him would not force me into the religion but that I

Can a wife give viagra to poor performing husband without his knowledge?

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Hello Aunty Eya, kindly help me post on the wives blog. I needs readers comments and help please. My husband and I have been married for 5 years now with 3 kids but I have never enjoyed him in me. I still have memories if my University days and how it used to be so much fun and climax with my then fiance although things didn't work out between us. I graduated, got married and I do truly love my husband but not in the bedroom. The 3 kids we have is just by the grace of God. He has never lasted even 2 minutes in me and that makes me wonder how I get pregnant in the first place. Most of the time, By the time I begin to think of relaxing and enjoying him, he has already ejaculated and will soon fall into a deep sleep. I complained to him that I suspect he is suffering from quick ejaculation but he countered and explains that not every man can go more than 2 minutes. 
Anty Eya pls help. I don't want to live the rest of my life in a man's house never experiencing pleasure. There …

Re: My Husband's irresponsibility has no part 2. Hubby replies separated wife and those who left comments

If you didn't read that post in 2016, read it here. A Nigerian wife sent a mail for posting, she was tired of her hubby's ways and wanted to know the next right step to take. Many blog readers left comments and right now we do not know if the poster is still married to her husband or divorced. So, this morning, I opened the blog and saw messages from her husband. He has replied and insists that his wife's post was  not the whole truth and also replied some comments left there. 
See his replies below:

Stubborn Tonto Dikeh deletes all photos of estranged husband on Instagram

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Actress and mum of one, Tonto Dikeh has deleted all memories of her estranged husband on her Instagram page. I'm so disappointed and pissed already. A pity how some women cannot even try their minimum best to keep the family together. Marriage is hard work and whoever is entering that door should be prepared to work hard and to look the other way a times. As an actress and make-believe-expert, I hope Tonto didn't think that the scripts she acts in movies are what marriage is all about? Is it that most actresses go into marriage expecting things to be the exact way we see on the large screen? I am so very disappointed in you Tonto, every marriage gets to that wilderness period of dryness, lack of affection, trials and patience and tolerance. This marriage sure brought you so much joy, having your own family and settling down into a more responsible woman gave you more fans but you won't keep

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