Man who was forced into an arranged marriage at 24 narrates whats happening in the marriage

A Nigerian man has revealed how his family members forced him into an early marriage arranged by them. He stated that they felt like since he was 24 years and had a good job already, then he should get married.

According to him, his family believes that when a male child has a job and he’s earning money no matter how little, then he’s ready for marriage. He further that it was an arranged marriage and he wasn’t given the opportunity to get to know the lady that was arranged for him.

However, he finds it difficult to love the lady after the marriage even as he tries so much to love her, but the feeling wouldn’t just come. He summoned courage and spoke to his wife about how he felt and she said she felt the same way too.

The lady then eventually opened up that she was also in love with someone else and didn’t like the fact that her marriage to him was arranged even without her consent

Read his full story below as shared by THOA;

“I got married when I was 24 years. My family believes that when a male child has a job and he’s earning money no matter how little, then he’s ready for marriage. It was an arranged marriage, I wasn’t given the opportunity to get to know her. My parents said ‘She’s from a good family and that’s the most important thing’. We got married and I tried to love her but found it very difficult. She wasn’t my type of woman. I spoke to my parents about it but they wouldn’t hear of it, they said ‘Give it more time Yusuf’ and I did, yet the love didn’t come.

I got the courage and spoke to the woman I got married to about how I felt and she said she felt the same way. She said she had someone she loved and wasn’t happy being married to me. We spoke about it and we finally decided to go our separate ways. There wasn’t much our families could do to keep us together, so they let us separate. She’s now married to the love of her life and she has 2 kids. I saw her last week and she looked very happy. I am yet to find someone though, but I know I will soon.”

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