When My Husband Think's I'm not around; Annoying

Hello Aunty Eya and wives connection fam. This is really just a rant but over the past few weeks, my husband and I have been talking about having kids after just 5 months of marriage. We've been together for 2 years as fiance and fiancee hustling to gather money for wedding, but married only five months back. We are both only 27. 
I snoop on him and know quite a few blogs and forums he reads. I noticed him making stupid remarks on a forum he visits. It's an open forum, predominantly male users. He's been talking about how Beyonce is the only true hourglass female and how Rihanna makes him wanna diggggg. I don't think he knows I can see that stuff but I think he's being an idiot. And, frankly, I'm disappointed that he's like that when he thinks I'm not around. I thought of confronting him but won't he think I've been spying on him?

It's making me feel weird. I don't know if I want to be all gigantic and pregnant while
having him obsess about other women. At least in my current state, I can put him in his place. He's a very physically attractive guy and I've always tried to make sure he gets his ego boosted. I'm Starting to wonder if I took that too far and now he's being a jerk. Top that off with the fact that I sometimes feel like he chose me because I was the safe bet.
I'm a decent looking woman. I'm pretty, I have a pretty face, well brought up and good mannered... my only real downfall is how short I am. Physically, my husband treats me like a toddler, like I'm his child who needs parenting. It's very annoying and I'd rather not make it worse by getting all fat and pregnant in front of him at this time, maybe later after 40. 

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  1. Swerry are you sure you are ready for this marriage? Pls lossen up dear, don't go bearing grudge or snooping this early or even bug your head over some online comment.

    Some folks have alter egos over the Internet, some say things they do not really mean or can't do in real sense, some have bipolar behaviours.

    BTW you sound like you want to be in control, **scoffs at you. Please where is the thought of having babies at 40 coming from? Really. There is more to life. Again work on your esteem, you are just beautiful with your height and he choose you that way, out of thousands of women.

    Too many things to say from your write up, I just do not have the strength.

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  3. Anonymous5/25/2016

    Young lady, those words weren't meant for your eyes but you went like curiosity that kills the cat. You have seen what you were looking for snooping around. Oya carry belle and settle down proper.

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  4. Anonymous5/25/2016

    Poise and grace 101

    The British upper class believes it a thing of poise , grace and something worth displaying when your children exhibit politeness courtesy and good manners

    In their own opinion, children who lack good manners are of the commoners


    Please, carefully look into the list below to see where you may want to make amends , on yourself or the young ones you are caring for.

    Children, if not properly groomed may never get to the Top in life

    Manners take you to where your education cant irrespective of your Status, money or the who you know factor.

    1) going to your child's school dressed indecently? Think again

    2) speaking rashly to your child's teacher

    3) cursing, using foul words or swearing infront of your children

    4) using makeup on children

    5) dressing indecently for children (they loose the sense of their princess hood)

    6) putting earrings on your son's ears

    7) your child hold the cup or glass ware by the brim and you don't correct

    8) your children don't greet and you just feel they will come around one day

    9) your children eat with their mouth opened and you feel they will grow up some day

    10) your children bring home something you did not buy and you say nothing

    11) they talk Back at you and you conclude its okay since you are a 21st century mummy

    12) They interrupt when you are speaking with another adult and you think they are bold and clever

    13) They exercise authority over their nanny and domestic staff and you let them be

    14) they say things like my driver is on His way...

    I am not an advocate that children should call your domestic staff aunty or brother, calling them by name when they are not young people is not poise either
    The use of Miss, Mr or Mrs will look good on them.

    15) your children don't say Thank you when they have been helped or served something and you are cool with that

    16) when your children cannot stand children who are less privileged

    18) when they pick their nose with their hands

    19) when they don't wash their hands after visiting the washroom

    20) when your children take something from the fridge without taking permission

    21) when your children don't knock on closed doors

    22) when your children don't collect from your hands the stuff you bought in as you walk in through the door.

    23) when your children request for a bribe to carry out their home chores or extra task.

    24) when your children act like their grand parents irritate them

    25) when your children have not learned to get up from the chair for the elderly to sit
    26) when your child tell a lot of lies

    27) when your child ask 'who is that' at a knock on your door instead of 'please, who is there'

    28) when your child is always seated by your visitors when being served drinks etc.

    29) when your children still point their fingers at other people

    30) when your children play and jump around when prayers are going on.(age 4 above).

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  5. Are you considering not having a child to still look sexy for your husband? My dear, leave that story....get pregnant and get over with it now that you are still young. Then, glam up with your kids and look superb. When it comes to men, you can't expect that you know them so well....

    www.adaezewrites.com

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  6. Who sexy epp? Even wit d fact dt u don't have a baby yet he still admires Beyonce,having a baby doesn't make u less sexy if u package urself well,the Beyonce giving u headache doesn't she have a baby? Wasn't she once pregnant? Pls work on urself esteem .having a baby is d best thing u can do with ur life trust me even if u become ugly and shapeless after its more than worth it.

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  7. Who sexy epp? Even wit d fact dt u don't have a baby yet he still admires Beyonce,having a baby doesn't make u less sexy if u package urself well,the Beyonce giving u headache doesn't she have a baby? Wasn't she once pregnant? Pls work on urself esteem .having a baby is d best thing u can do with ur life trust me even if u become ugly and shapeless after its more than worth it.

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  8. Who sexy epp? Even wit d fact dt u don't have a baby yet he still admires Beyonce,having a baby doesn't make u less sexy if u package urself well,the Beyonce giving u headache doesn't she have a baby? Wasn't she once pregnant? Pls work on urself esteem .having a baby is d best thing u can do with ur life trust me even if u become ugly and shapeless after its more than worth it.

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  9. Even if he says Beyonce is the most beautiful woman to your face it doesn't matter mbok. To you is Beyonce not fine? Y looking for issues where there's nothing? Abeg enjoy your marriage and hv your kids asap. It's normal with guys to always do dt. Don't u have friends u talk naughty with? Weda marriage or not everyone should still have their space n life. Even as a lady I still admire Beyonce n nicky alot talk more of guys. Get over what you saw n stop creeping into his space. Remember there's always someone more beautiful out there. Be confident in your skin, love yourself dts all u got.

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    1. New Momm5/26/2016

      Comment of the month. That's genius.

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