RELATED STORIES

I Am The Other Woman. It Doesn't Bother Me

Hello Mummy Eya, how is Little Chairman and your family? I am an ardent reader of wives connection blog who wants to also share
my story on the platform. Kindly help me post on the blog: I have dated a man for 2 years before he disclosed to me that he is married and going through a divorce. We were supposed to have been married now but I guess the divorce delay has dragged everything along. Now, age is not on my side, I just clocked 30 yesterday and my younger sister is getting married this year. I don't see myself leaving to start dating all over again. Where are the marriageable men in Naija if you ask me? 

In as much as I didn't know he was married before accepting him, I'll stick there and wait till divorce is done and dusted. I see myself
as the other woman but that doesn't bother me. One day it will change from the other woman to the real wife, shikena. This man has all the qualities I ever wanted in a man and to top it all he is rich and good looking. My happiness is that, contrary to what some people might think, I am not responsible for the collapse of his marriage, his wife was a spoilt brat from one rich home who never really submitted to her husband, he wants kids after three years of marriage, she is not yet ready. Should a fertile handsome man remain childless because one ajebutter is not yet ready for pregnancy? Once their divorce papers are signed, I take in even before marriage because waiting for 2 years is not beans. Women clock menopause quite early in my family, not my portion though.

 I have suffered all my life, struggling through school and never really living. Now it's my turn, he was married before doesn't mean he cannot do it again. At this stage in my life, am ready to be a second wife if the comfort is there and am sure I won't have to work and contribute to pay kids school fees (who likes o suffer all their life)? Am honestly tired of suffering and want to live and stress much less. Whoever tries to judge me is judging herself and should cast a stone only if the man they married was disvirgined by them. 
My only worry is how to make them fasten the proceedings and I'll be happy if anyone can help with advice in that area. 

Comments

  1. Johnson2/29/2016

    Poster – what u don’t know, they say, won’t hurt you. Is that really true?? Wake up from Fantasy Island – this man belongs to someone else, and this could have been u! Have u considered that he might not be telling u the whole truth? Ladies – the man that has ALL the qualities u want are all married, and they had not always been that way - they have changed (improved) over time!!
    However, I have a good understanding of how u feel… I have counselled ladies (some much older than you), and it’s not easy! One thing u should know is that God is interested in u and He is working behind the scene. Don’t frustrate His effort!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous3/04/2016

      Uncle Johnson, please would you be my mentor? You are so wise!

      Delete
  2. Anonymous2/29/2016

    So you are waiting for someone's marriage to crash before you can get married? There is clearly something wrong with you. That man is still married and what you are doing is wrong. My prayer for you is that 50 years down the line he is still married to the same woman, they are happy and you would live to regret that you didnt try to look for your own husband. Foolish woman. Have you ever thought for one second that he has no intentions of leaving her and their childlessness is as a result of something else or maybe they both agreed to wait before having kids and he is just lying to you so he can continue to hit that for free. Mumu

    ReplyDelete
  3. Anonymous2/29/2016

    Abeg aunty Eya please stop posting stories like this...........it dishonours the institution of marriage. This is wives connection not side chick connection

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. This comment is too funny I can't deal

      Delete
    2. Anonymous3/01/2016

      True o!!! Abeg this is not the forum for side chicks to gather and take notes!

      Delete
  4. Anonymous2/29/2016

    And are you certain, this is God's plan for you, regardless of how old you are adultery is still a sin.how would you feel if after you snatch this man another baby mama or third wife wannabe bounces you out.those who live in glass house should not throw stones cos that rich brat is human and she also has a God that might not let you have your way.#myonekobopieceofmind#

    ReplyDelete
  5. Anonymous2/29/2016

    REQUIREMENT FOR COURT MARRIAGE:
    Good morning ma, I got your address from google, wives town hall connection
    Please ma, what are the requirements for the court marriage.
    Do I need to go with birth certificate, passport photos, letter from the girl parents, bachelor hood certificate, ring or bible, corporate wears, how much money.
    Please help me, people are frustrating me on this marriage issue, everything I want to do they will try to make it difficult, pls help me so I will just walk into court and get it done.
    Thanks God bless you.

    ReplyDelete
  6. You don't need any of those yet. First, walk into the Local Government council where you want to have your registry wedding and make enquiries. Go there, they'll let you know their requirements.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous2/29/2016

      Madam am highly disappointed with this comment of yours.

      Delete
    2. Anonymous2/29/2016

      What is wrong with her comment?
      Why do u want to get married but you cannot go and ask their requirements? You need also to have a date for the wedding. Call them if it is possible.

      Delete
    3. Anonymous2/29/2016

      Sorry ma'am I thought your comment was directed to the poster!

      Delete
  7. The reason you accept that status is because you too lazy to work for your own man.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Anonymous2/29/2016

    Good day ma pls is it possible for a HIV positive person to get someone serious and responsible pls riches is not my desire. Pls let me hear from u

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes, you can.
      You have to be honest and upfront about your status and let God do the rest.
      The revelation doesn't have to come immediately you meet the person but as you both get to "know each other" not when full blown "liking" has started o-
      God will grant you your heart's desires in Jesus name Amen.

      Delete
  9. Poster, I'm sorry to say but you sound really desperate. You dated a man for two years before finding out he is married which means the man failed to be transparent with you. That's definitely a red light which you have chosen to ignore. You want to marry quickly because you are clocking 30? That's a wrong reason to get into marriage. You are also citing financial freedom as an advantage. Why would you be comfortable to live off a man with no plans to make your own money? You are wanting to get married for all the wrong reasons and also to the wrong person. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you. With that man, you will never be his one and only. You need a change of values.

    www.preciouscore.com

    ReplyDelete
  10. Why? What's wrong with my comment? should I list out items to buy when enquiries have not yet been made? You can help list out the items before advising him to go make enquiries.

    ReplyDelete
  11. He doesn't need to go photocopying birth certs and buying goats and rams without meeting the Registrar first. Is he also going to fix the wedding date himself at home?

    ReplyDelete
  12. Anonymous2/29/2016

    Dear poster,
    What makes you think that the man is being honest with you??
    You do not know the reason of their divorce and this man will not put himself in a bad place. SO he will say anything to make his wife look bad since she is not there to defend herself.
    The qualities you see in a person, will duffer from those you will see when you start living with them.
    This man might not be what you are looking for.
    Take it easy.Don't let age rush you into marriage.

    ReplyDelete
  13. please go and ask for the requirements. different registries with different requirements. http://www.abujahousewivesblog.com

    ReplyDelete
  14. Anonymous2/29/2016

    Poster i am sorry but my dear that man is decieving you, he will keep giving you stories of "we are going through a divorce bla bla bla...." and before you know it his wife will have a baby. I have a friend in your situation and now the real wife of the guy has his second child. Dont sit there and wait for a divorce that is not going to happen, the longest a real divorce will take is 1 and half years and the couple would need to have been separated for 1 year. If he is still going home to her everyday then sweety nobody has filed and divorce papers. Just dust your shoes,cry your tears and go and look for another man that respects you.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Karma is a bitch dts d only word I hve for u poster

    ReplyDelete
  16. Poster this man is not going through a divorce, he is only telling you the divorce story to keep fast forwarding the wedding date. You are obviously on his case to marry you so he has to come up with an excuse that sounds "real". How come he is just informing you he is married after 2years and it doesn't bother you that you have been in the dark for 2 years.
    He has observed you desperation and love for money so he is ready to keep leading you on.
    You need to love, value and respect yourself first or no one else will. You desperation has made responsible single young men to easily spot you for who you really are and therefore not touch you with a bar pole.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Anonymous3/01/2016

    I also have a feeling the man is lying to you too. So sad. It seems all men in an affair always have bad wives..yet they never leave them! It seems you are desperate. 30 years is not old..why are you so stressed out. Calm down. Why not work for your own man. Let him go ..If he is serious let him bring the divorce papers. Right now he has a free cow he can milk so why pay for the milk. Hmmmm.. Be wise oo sister. These handsome men look charming even when they are sitting on the toilet.. the lies will be so sweet as are the kisses and love..but the truth is the truth!

    ReplyDelete
  18. @poster: I think you sound desperate but I want you to understand that there is a difference between Getting Married and Staying Married and Staying Happily Married. Suit your choice.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Click on the pictures to make them bigger.
Feel free to email us with comments, suggestions, recipe ideas, or pretty much anything!
Contact Email: cuulme@gmail.com

Most comments are by other blog readers. Always seek Professional Help First.
“As an Amazon Associate I earn a little commission when you shop from links placed on this blog.”

SHARE THIS POST

RELATED

SHOP HERE