Showing posts from February, 2016

What Is Too Much Love?

Aunty Eya, please post for me, I just read somewhere that Nigerian girls misbehave when they are shown too much love. That during

He has abused me verbally, emotionally and physically

Aunty Eya,i 've been following ur blog bt never commented.U are doing great with d blog more grace.
Now i have a relationship challenge which i need the house to guide me on decision(s) making.I'm in a long distant

The Amazing Secret About Fertility In Humans You Really Are Not Conscious Of

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No Banking Day In Protest Of Excessive Bank Charges

Join CAFON (Consumer Advocacy Foundation Of Nigeria) To Declare Tomorrow March 1st No Banking Day In Protest Of Excessive Bank Charges:

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POS Deducted My Money For No Reason. How Do I Get It Back?

Good morning Aunty Eya, please this is urgent. It's serious. Help me ask on wives connection blog if anyone has experienced what I

Parents Can Now Relax:Child-Friendly Search Engine 'Kiddle' Launched

I love this! Parents and guardians can now relax when kids use the internet.

A child-friendly search engine which bears a remarkable resemblance to Google has been launched.

I Am The Other Woman. It Doesn't Bother Me

Hello Mummy Eya, how is Little Chairman and your family? I am an ardent reader of wives connection blog who wants to also share

Parents As Teachers Versus Internet

Hello, please help me ask blog readers their opinion on this. My kids these days, though in Primary school, primary 4 and 6, do not rely on me for homework supervision or help with other school assignments. They just go online and home work is done. They

We Do Not Have A Relationship Anymore. I Feel Stuck

Good evening wives connection friends and And Eya, I have tried my best not to post here but it seems I have exhausted all other options. I have been with my husband for 20 years,

Where Would You Love To See Your Spouse Helping Out More Often?

Hello Aunty Eya, I need to know if other couples share same experiences like me and hubby or I am just too far away from reality. I have four kids 2 boys and 2 girls aged between 10 and 1 year. It has

Test Yourself: Who Among These 4 Is Lying About Her Age?

Ok, so, this is just for fun please oh. To see who watches soap operas only and who watches News and Info TV too. If you don't know these 4 superstars at first glance, that means I pass you small with current news, that also means start adding some news and current affairs to your schedule, lol, and in case it's true that you

Seeing Double: One Of These Ladies Is Not Kim Kardashian

Can you tell which pic is not Kim? The first or the second? 

Important Medical Tests Before Getting Married

Hello Aunty Eya, thank you for this forum that has taught me so much in life. God bless all friends of wives connection blog, their comments have been of immense help. Ok, I need another help please. My fiance and I are getting married this year. We are planning to go for HIV test and Genotype too. I need to know if there are other important medical tests we need to undergo before

My Husband And I Have Not Been Getting Along Very Well Lately. How Do I Get Him To Be Nicer?

Good morning wives connection friends and Aunty Eya, My husband and I didn't spend much time together before we got married. We dated for about a year but most of that time was spent apart because it was a long distance relationship.Most of our arguments start when I am offended by his way of communicating with me. I think he  dramatizes issues and I feel like when he doesn’t like something I’ve done he attacks me verbally, which I find very hurtful. I am definitely the one whose emotions get escalated quickly, and I end up being the most upset and talkative but usually he starts the arguments.  I have really tried to help him see how the way he approaches me with problems are hurtful to me, and have tried to discuss how he can communicate with me without being hurtful. He

Unable To Post Comments. Why? You Need Tutorial?

Hello aunty eya how is the family? Have been unable to post comments on the blog for some time now guess it's my browser or something. Please help me post this comment as anonymous on your last post "why dos his family ignore me.?Thank you.
" He is your fiance and you get visit him anytime you want... but he still lives with his parents. You said he works out of town so probably when he comes home he needs to spend time with his family and you show up and spend days. You need to

Why Does His Family Ignore Me?

Hello again Aunty Eya, this should be my second time posting on the blog. Last year the advice I got here helped me resolve some issues amicably with my parents. Ok so i know this probably doesn't seem like a big deal but it really upsets me because my fiance and I are we are long distance and we don't get to see much, so whenever he is around, I try to make the best of that time. so i will spend about 2 to 3 days at their house at a time so its pretty awkward for me being around people for that length of time who are obviously avoiding me. I used to not care at all, i thought maybe they don't like me or are just shy but who cares? i'm having fun with my fiance. Recently, when i've been over at his house I've just felt really excluded and uncomfortable around them. They will have conversations

Can We Cook This Yam With Vegetable Egg Sauce Weekend?

It's posted on the blog already. This yam and egg sauce with some vegetable twist is an old post. I made this one last weekend, enjoyed it so much I just have to remind us to try this again. Recipe for yam and vegetable egg sauce.  Even if you don't like this meal, just click on the link to see my old pots when I started blogging. It took serious bashing and yabbis for me to change pots o. After one commenter finished me with jik and bleach together, I had to quickly rush to the market and upgrade my pots, now I'm the one enjoying a stainless steel kitchen.

Antenatal Care In Port Harcourt. Suggest Best Hospital

Aunty Eya Good morning. i'm just confused as to where i'll start antenatal care here in port harcourt. I stay in choba Uniport and i'm in my final year although i'm not based here.

Pampers Baby-Dry Review

So, I got loads of pampers baby dry to use on Chairman and share my experience with other moms.  What I put down here is my personal touch with pampers. My baby will soon be 2 by God's grace, and, since birth, I have tried over 5 different brands of diapers on him so, in this department?  I can type authoritatively.

I hope to help other parents make smart choices when it comes to diapers.  On my baby, pampers baby dry  is smaller and less bulky than some bands that I have used. It sees my baby right through the night. Below is the diaper he wore at 6PM, slept all through the

Buy Quality Beads. Handmade Bags For Less

Assorted beads and quality hand made bags on Sale. Delivery is nationwide. Even if you live in the creeks, we can deliver to you within one week. We are into bead making, leather bags and

My In-laws Living With Us. How Do I Make Them Leave?

Hello wives connection, I have a little challenge bothering me. To some, I k now this is nothing and it actually was nothing to me too  in the beginning. My wife's younger sister and her husband have been living with us for the past 5 months. They couldn't afford rent after he lost his job and she alone cannot pay for the big house they rented. They approached my wife who later asked if it was ok they move in with us and I agreed, that was then. 
At first it wasn't a problem. I wanted to give them a hand. Now that "hand" has turned into a "handout". Her sister works, the husband doesn't. My bills are becoming bigger as we pay more for everything now. NEPA prepaid metre is not helping matters at all. The electricity bill has gone up almost double what we used to pay, Waterboard has increased their bill saying that we consume more drums of water recently. Food that used to last for one month in the store now finishes before the month ends. They don'…

Natural Eye Brow Tutorial For Beginners

When it comes to makeup, a lot of us are scared of doing it ourselves because we are told only professionals can do it. I learnt this watching videos like this, so you can too. In this video I'll teach you how to draw/fill your eye brows like a professional using your everyday makeup, so you don't need to be a professional or buy expensive makeup to achieve this. 

What you need: 
Eye pencil
Concealer or Foundation

Foreign Soap Operas Destroying Our Ladies Emotionally. Example; Telemundo. Tis True?

"There are two kinds of books; those that build you, help you grow and put you on course, and there are those that will destroy you, not because they are fetish but because they fail to follow realities." - Anonymous 

I have witnessed the effects of some of the movies we as Nigerians take delight in and I can say that they are unhealthy for our lives, emotional wise.
For those who remember "Cuando Seas Mia" (When you're mine), being one of the very few first Spanish-Mexican movies that graced our Television set several years ago. Its effect on

One Thing You Love About Yourself

Anything you know that you love about yourself. However you feel about yourself, your insecurities, there must be one thing you love, nothing is insignificant. Ok for me, I love my dentition, My teeth are naturally  so white, I didn't know until my teenage years, I started to hear people make

My WIFE Makes Fun Of My Body. It Upsets Me

Good morning madam Eya and my wonderful wives connection family. Am a guy who loves what is happening on the blog. As a guy, I  can generally make fun of myself. 
However, I have a couple of insecurities about my body. My wife makes fun of both of them daily. Her comments are funny and are not meant to hurt me. But I don't like it. She does it in front of our children and they began doing the same cos they don't think it's not ok. For kids that age, if mummy calls daddy "Mr short legs" then it's fine to call him that.. An example of what is happening would be, she hugging me, then sliding her hands down my back, pass my but to my legs while

Bible, driver survive after car bursts into flames

(CNN)Divine intervention? That's what one witness is calling it after a driver and his Bible survived a car accident that caused the vehicle to burst into flames. The accident happened on State Route 385 in Memphis, Tennessee, when a Jeep went off the road and quickly caught fire. Several good Samaritans came to the driver's aid, trying to get him out, according

How To Cook Afang Soup With Just N1000 (One Thousand Naira)

Good morning Eya, Good morning to my good people on the blog. Anty, I saw your easy afang soup recipe on the blog, though I am from the North and we don't cook much of vegetable soups, I'll like to try it. Na student I be o. I can't afford all that orishirishi in that

Below Is The Text Message My Wife Sent The Male Doctor

Hello Eya and friends on wives connection. My wife and I went on a short break to Dubai which is supposed to be like our honeymoon since we've never had one after two years of marriage.  I wasn't meant to be going but due to some unforeseen circumstances and the decision to make it our long forgotten honeymoon,  I ended up going with her, she w'd have gone alone if I didn't work out things fast enough in my office.  At the last minute before take off to the airport, the idea was for my wife to see my younger sister and meet up with a male Doctor friend and get my sister to help him out on some things.  Anyway when we got there,  I couldn't connect wifi so to contact Naija and do a few things Online, I used my wife's phone and then came across a message from a few days earlier from the Male Doctor friend, it  said... where are you?  my wife replied:  Only landed on Friday.  He replied oh g**** I had Viagra and I thought you were gonna meet me up. So, I showed my …


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Married For 23 Years, Never Enjoyed Intimacy

Hello, I have being married for 23 years but things are not as easy as people think. Many of the women having extra marital affairs did not intend to do so. I got married at 21 as a virgin. I used to beg my hubby to have sex with me at the early stage of our marriage. I got tired and decided to forget about it.

 Last year 2015 we had sex once on the 24th Dec. I have never enjoyed sex and feel worst when ever i have sex with him. I have tried talking to him about my wants and what he should do to enable me enjoy the act but he is not interested . I have feelings but what do i do when i feel bad after sex. My hubby is not

My Divorce Diary

I found this on WhatsApp.  Not a poster seeking advice.

I met my ex-husband Musa at a friend’s wedding in Sokoto. My father was a lecturer at the University of Sokoto. I had just been accepted by the University to study medicine. The year was 1992. I was 18 years old and very beautiful. Almost immediately I entered university men were chasing me like flies. At first it was scary then I started getting used to the attention.The day I met Musa, I wasn’t even in the mood for any man. I was frustrated because I was rushing to go back to school, but my friends would rather continue partying at the wedding cocktail.
When he spoke to me his English wasn’t even good but there was something about him that made me listen to

Knorr Seasoning Versus Maggi Seasoning. Which would you?

If you were to cook all your Nigerian soups with just one of these two

All Three Kids Fathered By Other Men, Should He Divorce His Wife?

Hi Aunt Eya and friends of wives connection blog,
I have a friend who is going through hard time. He just discovered that the three kids he has been raising are fathered by other men.He has lost hope. He does not know what to do. Whether to divorce his wife or stay. He came to me for advises but i am lost and i do not know what to tell him.

What's The Difference Between Gravy, Sauce, Soup And Stew?

Hello Aunty, please do not laugh at me. I need help with differentiating some of our Nigerian meals, knowing where they qualify. Gravy, soup, stew and sauces, I don't know the difference. Who knows should please help a sister out. Also list Nigerian food that fall under these categories. Like white soup, does it come under sauce or soup? I'm confused because other world culture soups that

Ok To Ask For My Fiance's Password?

Hello Aunty Eya, kindly help me post on the blog: My fiance's phone has never been unlocked, he is the only one that can use it. Once he drops it, in seconds, it's locked already. Like, you have to know the password to use any of his gadgets, even his Ipad and

I Think My Husband Has A Disorder Called Sexsomnia, He Never Believes It Is

I need help Madam Eya, I discovered wives connection on Facebook, checked the website and got hooked first to the recipes then to the marriage tips. I have been married for 6 years with 2 boys. I have a major problem that got me searching online for days and weeks and months until now I think I know what it is but my husband gets me even more confused. I believe my husband has a disorder called sexsomnia; it is a parasomnia that results in the person affected to instead of sleep walk to engage in sexual activity. I read a lot about this on webMd. It started happening just one year into our marriage. He started acting strange during sleep at night. All he ever did then was basically fondle me out of no where in the middle of the

Do All Men Watch Porn?

Hello Aunty Eya, happy weekend to you nd my wonderful wives connection family who 
have helped me learn so much more about life and relationship. Please help me post this anonymously . I have a feeling my husband reads the blog.
I always read articles, blogs, forums etc, etc that blatantly say ALL men watch porn, 
ALL men check out other women, ALL men think about women other than their partner.. My 
husband of 3 months adamantly denies being like this. He's not a religious guy, he's not 

In January Google Didn't Know Olajumoke Orisaguna. In February, The White Man Can Say Her Name

Olajumoke Orisaguna
From her "village," she moved to the city
Not to sell her virtue and body for mammon
But to work hard and with all the hard-work,
It was only a profit of $1 a day

It was challenging, with a baby and far away husband
She persevered, she kept walking and hawking
With the tray of bread balanced on her head
She sought for her daily bread

Everything she needed to make it is with her
But she needed a "TY Bello"
And chances are that they would never meet
For It is not likely "TY Bello" eats that kind of "bread"

Best Nigerian City To Live And Raise A Family. Lagos Or Abuja?

The last time I visited Lagos was to attend a wedding, have never lived there but have read, watched on TV and heard a lot about Lagos life and traffic. To be honest, I love Abuja. I read somewhere, the writer gave 10 reasons why Lagos is better than

Private Versus Public Display Of Affection

Would you prefer your husband or boyfriend, fiance holds your hand, kisses you in public or  he waits till you get home?

Pick Your Favourite Michelle Obama Look

Good morning good people on the blog. Looking forward to a restful weekend?

I Finally Gathered Courage And Approached My Husband. He Has Given Me The Option Of Staying Or Leaving. I'm Yet To Decide

I Got This From WhatsApp, Not A Reader Seeking Advice : Read Below :


I'm a marriage counselor by profession and want to share briefly, something that will benefit every woman. My husband and I were married for 25 years when I discovered his other family. A woman with 3 children for him. We have 2 girls. She has 2 girls and 1 boy. I discovered this through our family doctor. My younger daughter was applying to pursue her Masters abroad and had gone to take some tests at the lab. She is 23. She has a job so could not get the results herself. So I offered to get them for her.  

When I got to the clinic for her results, they gave me a package but the nurse asked if I can also wait for my second daughters tests. I was a bit confused because my older daughter is not even in Ghana. I comported myself and asked to see the doctor.

 A woman herself, she looked into the matter and immediately saw the discrepancy! The second test belonged to another girl. Sa…

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome And Pastor Anita OFFICIALLY DIVORCED. What Next?


Appreciation: I'll Give It A Try

Aunty Eya may God please bless you for me and every other women out there that you have directly and indirectly helped in curbing their  marriage issues.
My husband is yet to be convinced about the drugs,though I've made a call to the agency,he told me to send him the result of my Xray through whatsApp,I think I'll  give it a try.

Sad:The Closest Person In My Life Does Not Want To Ask About My Health. Says 'You're Not Depressed, You're Just Miserable'

Hello Eya and WC peeps, This is my first post on the blog. I don't really know where to begin. My wife and I have been married for nearly 3 years. Though we are very conservative, we both from the North, Communication is very important to me but it's something my wife struggles with a lot. I feel that she's not interested in my feelings most of the time, and isn't all that interest in  feelings and communication contribute to the health of a relationship?  She's a very 'practical' Hausa girl with a strong impulse to just 'get on with it'; if there's something to be done, just do it and don't waste time talking about it and how it makes you feel, expressing emotions,etc. This manifests in all sorts of our relationship problems, but what's happened over the last 24 hours illustrates the point well. We've been through a bunch of crap in the last two years:

The Olajumoke Story By Praise Fowowe:

Carry Olajumoke's Husband Along!

Dear Ladies! How Far? Men Half Suffered

Please give him a chance.  He truly loves you. 

Never Judge Anyone

I received this shared message last year, learnt a lesson and forgot about it. Saw it again today and this time I won't let it go without sharing...

A doctor entered the hospital in a hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy's father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor. On seeing him, the dad yelled:

"Why did you  take all this time to come? Don't you  know that my son's life is in danger? Don't you have any sense of responsibility?"

The doctor smiled and said:

Getting To Know Ourselves

My dear fam, it's time for Knowing me, knowing you...
I'm officially very young! By God's grace I moved from level 1 to 2

Let's Pray For Your Husband...

Madam, good morning ma, God will bless you and your family. I read your page everyday. I think below content will be useful for the wives in the house.
Praying For Your Husband From Head to Toe Let ’s Pray: Dear Lord, I pray for my husband from head to toe.
His Mind - That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes -That You will keep his eyes from temptation and

A Baby Girl For Siba Mtongana

Her boys have a sister !
If you are a foodie, you watch Food Network? Like me you record her show Siba's Table? then you need to congratulate her. Right up till yesterday, She has been the only female in her house. Most times I go to the channel, all I'm looking

Gizzard Fried Rice Updated

HOW TO COOK NIGERIAN FRIED RICE WITH GIZZARDGizzard replaced liver in 2016. I remember when I used to cook cow liver, dice and add to fried rice for that brown colour and extra protein. It's now easier to find gizzard than liver, so I tried and it delivered. Adding gizzard by my taste palate is way better. This is the only way I can enjoy gizzard because I don't like them. When

What Nigerian Man Will Marry A Woman That Doesn't Like To Cook? Step Forward

Good day Aunty Eya, Good day WC family.  I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we've been doing great. He's very ready to get married. I'm not the most domestic girl around town nor am I anywhere near being a traditional wife, but I know that's the kind of wife he wants. I went to a boarding school, never really spent time at home. Then proceeded to a private university. I know I can cook but there's no interest. I used to love to cook with mom as a child but not anymore. I don't like to cook or stay in the kitchen and I keep asking myself what Nigerian man will want to marry a wife that doesn't like to cook? With time may be I'll begin to feel differently but right now I'm not in a cooking mood.

 In being his girlfriend, I feel like I've given up my individuality. I think I've given all that I'm willing to give and if


This Is a sponsored post, not written by me. Have you been battling with problems of infertility? 
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Carrot Goat Meat Sauce To Serve With Rice, Yam, Plantain

This carrot sauce is something I made last year and have been reluctant to post because the goat meat was over cooked. I forgot the meat on the cooker, it got over cooked but I still made the sauce with it. I just wanted that goat meat flavour in this sauce. Although

How To Plan A Three Hundred Thousand Naira Budget Wedding Including Trad, Registry,Church

Hello Aunty Eya, please help me post this on the blog. I need help with planning a budget wedding. I have searched online, searched the blog for older posts and what I can find is a budget for a five hundred thousand Naira Budget Wedding. My fiance and I cannot raise that much this time. We both

Igbo Names That Start With The Letter K

Good evening Aunty Eya, Please I need Ibo names starting with letter K for my unborn

Can A Cheater Change?

Hello friends on wives connection,  and Anty Eya, I'm  not really sure how to go about this but I need some advice.. I've been with my fiance for almost two years and our relationship has been great! Or so I thought... I've found out that he's been having a flirty text relationship with girl he used to know back at school and last month while we were having a bad patch he admitted he was weak and they met up and one thing led to

Broken Trust, Can This Be Fixed?

Hello Aunty Eya, Hello wives connection, please come to my rescue. Okay am a first time poster on the blog and pretty nervous. I'm really sorry for the long mail I'm sending. I'm in a serious relationship,  and I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. Everything moved pretty quickly and we do currently live together in faraway North where we both work, even though none of us comes from the North. She has a drinking problem and we've struggled with her anger and the lack of emotional support she gives me. She has her own problems from previous experiences and past relationships. She has trouble opening up and doesn't really know how to talk about her feelings. I'm a huge

Coconut Milk Moi Moi With Tuna Chunks

Coconut milk moi moi with tuna chunks appeared first on wives connection.  The combination of coconut  milk with tuna chunks in Nigerian moi moi is something we need right now. Good nutrition. We have moi moi recipes on the blog already and if you think there's no need for this, then try it and see yourself cooking moi moi daily because


WHAT IS SHEA BUTTER? 100% Pure & Shea Butter is an all-natural vitamin A cream. Shea Butter has shown to be a superb moisturizer, with exceptional healing properties for the skin. We now have a growing list of skin conditions where 100% Premium Shea Butter has been shown to be effective. Shea Butter has many useful properties and has been traditionally used as a decongestant, an anti inflammatory for sprains and arthritis, a healing salve for babies’ umbilical cords, a lotion for hair and skin care, as cooking oil, and for lamp fuel. However, the protective and emollient properties of shea butter are most valued for skin care. In Nigeria, Shea Butter is applied to the skin and hair as a moisturizer and is also a main ingredient in traditional black soaps. Vitamin A in Shea Butter is important for improving a number of

Blog Giveaway For Readers With The Most Comments In 2016 (Season 1)

Good morning dear fam! So, I woke up this morning with this thought in my head to do a small giveaway for at least 2 readers with the most comments on wives connection this year, and, I'm thinking to myself, how do we count comments now to pick the two readers? Is there a widget that can help us do this? Ok, sha, 2016 is just about 2 months old so, that shouldn't be too difficult. 

You guys please let's help out. Do the voting and if we all respond, then this type of Giveaway should continue till eternity. You know what? whoever reads a blog and begins to type a comment is actually helping the blog and other readers who gain from those comments. You can imagine if everyone reads and leaves without a comment, the blog will feel so empty. For instance, there is no time I check this blog without getting statics of so many people reading different posts. if all the many readers take a minute or two to leave a comment, do you know  

Basmati Rice And Baked Beans In Beans Porridge

After naming this recipe, I looked at the title again. Adding baked beans to cooked beans porridge is something I recently started to enjoy, especially if I want to serve the beans with boiled rice and, the beans is cooked with vegetable oil. No reason for the