My Sister In-law Is The Worst Person I Know, How Do I Tell Her That She Is Rude?

Good morning Auntie Ey, My family used to be very close, just like those Kardashians we see on TV, we are always there for each other especially my parents who I have seen sacrifice a lot just to make us comfortable and happy. This was until my sister In-law came into the picture.
Okay, so 2 years ago my brother was dating this girl and at first she was really nice to me and my family. She was the best of all the other ladies we ever saw him with, I liked her though We never really talked much before then. Then about 2 years ago she got pregnant and her and my brother got married but not a church white wedding because she already
had a church wedding before her first husband died .  They only wedded at the Ikoyi Registry and the traditional engagement that held in her village. Okay, So when she was pregnant I   noticed she won't let me have a second with my only brother, she won't let any of my family members come close to my brother without just being there and staring at the person. When one visits, even if she was in the kitchen, she'll abandon her cooking and come make sure she's right there with him until we leave. Once he was invited for a family meeting without spouses but she insisted on attending with him and that angered my mom so much she cancelled the meeting. And every time I wanted to do something or talk to my brother, she would always be up his ass. She has to be near my brother at all times. It's so  annoying and I don't know how my brother can possibly breathe. She lives in the same house with him, sees him daily so why not goive us some minutes once in a while to see our sibling too.
So she had her baby and when my brother and my sister-in-law would come to our house, she would always leave empty trash everywhere and diapers and baby food wraps and whatever all over our house and I got so pissed off one day I secretly threw all her trash in her handbag when she entered the bathroom to ease herself. I'm so sick and tired of picking up her rubbish  trash and her messing up my house.
 My brother and his wife also had some money problems and my parents gave them a lot of money. I never heard one thank you out of her mouth, it was my brother alone that said "thank you to my parents". She is also very rude to my mother. and I don't think that's fair because my mom gives them so much money I just want to slap her. my mom doesn't say anything to her face, but i want to! 
My mom also threw an expensive First Birthday for her baby and she never said thank you to any of us as if we birthed the baby with her. I have never had a conversation with her I wish that she was nice. I try to talk to my brother about it but he doesn't understand. I don't know but it annoys me so much you don't even know.
What should I do? How should I tell her that what she's doing is rude and wrong?

Comments

  1. Anonymous1/11/2016

    Sister inlaws can be funny. I totally agree with you. It sounds like your sister in law needs a lesson in manners. People do not understand that when you marry someone you are not just marrying that person you are marrying into a family, and personally if you do not like their family than you should have talked to your spouse to be before the wedding. I am so sorry that your SIL is a dumb brain. my husband's sister was a total nightmare until she got married herself.

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  2. Bennie1/11/2016

    It's you, not your SIL who is annoying. Why don't you mind your own business. I can sympathise with your SIL, poor her for having to deal with someone like you who is so controlling and interfering in her marriage. And your approach to her is just sick. sorry for you, you met your match in her. You seem to me like those people who won't let you enjoy your marriage just because you married their "ONLY" brother. Mtcheeeeeew

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  3. Anonymous1/11/2016

    Tell her how you feel. She doesn't care how you guys feel so why care how she'll feel. Your relationship with her is already fucked up so, I see nothing wrong, nothing else will spoil and by the way I like how you put her dirt back in her hand bag. Stupid lazy woman.

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  4. Properly Married Damsel1/11/2016

    Family interference everywhere o. See this one complaining instead of thin king how to grow and start his own family too. "she got pregnant and her and my brother got married but not a church wedding because she already had a church white wedding before."
    SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAD AN ISSUE WITH THEIR WEDDING FROM THE START?

    "every time I wanted to do something or talk to my brother, she would always be up.... She has to be near my brother at all times. Its so annoying...
    SOUNDS LIKE THEY HAVE A LOVING CLOSE RELATIONSHIP-WHY DOES THIS ANGER YOU SO MUCH?
    "when my brother and my sister-in-law would come to our house, she would always leave empty trash everywhere and diapers and baby.... all over our house and I got so pissed off one day I threw all her trash in her handbag?????????????????
    THREW IT IN HER Handbag SERIOUSLY? HOW ABOUT ASKING YOUR BROTHER TO PICK UP THE TRASH INSTEAD, KNOWING FULLY WELL THAT SHE IS MINDING THE CRY BABY?
    "My brother and his wife also had some money problems and my parents gave them a lot of money. I never heard one thank you out of her mouth."
    WHY WOULD THEY THANK YOU FOR MONEY YOUR PARENTS GAVE THEM?
    "She is also very rude to my mother. and I don't think that's fair because my mom gives them so much money I just want to slap her. my mom doesn't say anything to her face, but i want to!"
    SOUNDS LIKE AN ISSUE FOR YOUR MOM TO HANDLE, NOT YOU. ARE YOU JEALOUS OF YOUR MOM GIVING THEM MONEY?
    "My mom also threw an expensive Birthday party for her baby and she never said thank you to us."
    AGAIN, WHY SHOULD SHE THANK YOU?? AND AGAIN, WHATS WITH THE REFERENCE TO MONEY? IS YOUR FAMILY TRYING TO BUY HER LOVE? HOW ABOUT JUST BEING NICE!?
    "I try to talk to my brother about it but he doesn't understand"
    HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND YOUR NASTY INSANITY. SOUNDS LIKE HE IS PERFECTLY HAPPY WITH HIS FAMILY AND YOU'RE THE ONE WITH ISSUES...
    "What should I do? How should I tell her that what shes doing is rude?"
    ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOUR BROTHER IS HAPPY AND GO GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN. FROM WHAT YOU'VE WRITTEN, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT IS WRONG AND BEING RUDE!

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  5. Anonymous1/11/2016

    Madam as long as your brother is happy leave the woman alone. If you say something to her you risk your brother getting angry with you and never speaking to you again. If she doesn't welcome you to their house respect yourself and stop going there. THere is nothing wrong with her leaving her food to come and sit with you guys, if she did the opposite you would accuse her of ignoring you. Your husband is supposed to provide for her so that he collected money from your folks to do that so what?? whats the big deal? I am sure he said thank you what do you want her to do come and kneel down to say thank you too??? What makes you think she was happy about your mom throwing a party for her child if it were me i wont be happy bc its my job why should my mother in law do it. ABeg leave the girl and go to your husbands house

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  6. I understand the difficulties associated with having to share a beloved sibling with his wife or her husband as the case maybe. It is sometimes hard to share your sibling with someone else when you've spent your whole lives being close to your each other. I also understand the pressure that comes with the 'only son' factor in many families as everyone wants his wife to accommodate them and give them space to be with their brother/son. I also don't understand the 'only siblings meeting' part as once she's married to your brother, she automatically becomes your sibling and part of your family.
    Notwithstanding, I read your problems with his wife and indeed, she doesn't sound like she has a good attitude. How could she have overlooked saying thank you to your mom for the birthday bash for her baby? I also hate the fact that she leaves her mess around whenever she comes over to visit.
    However, you must thread with care and highlight the genuinely bad traits she has that you want to brooch. Dirtiness, lack of manners, e.t.c When you have all these facts highlighted, speak to your mom about them to see her opinion and invite your sister in law to the house. When she comes, talk to her and correct her with love. Remember, she is a member of your family already and you have no choice but to love her.
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  7. You are d obnoxious rude sister inlaw poster.wait until you marry na.y cant u look for ways to buy a house in banana island instead of looking for aunty thank you from nursing mother eh?just petty!

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  8. Please nobody should crucify this lady for asking a question. I understand this type of wife who wouldnt give her husband a breathing space. Its wrong to litter the house, that shows she is dirty, and also very wrong not to appreciate when your family lend a helping hand. Even God requires our gratitude not to talk of human. Poster just talk to her like your sister. As for going to their house, forget that and distance yourself from her hence you will not notice any wrong thing she is doing and peace will reign.

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  9. Anonymous1/12/2016

    there are 2 sides to every story. It is possible that poster and her family did something wrong to this lady before she got married to the brother or shortly after. Poster pls mind your business and leave the woman alone. I used to like coming around my inlaws until this christmas that just passed and I have made up my mind that I will limit my visits to them. They can easily narrate the story to others and say i don't visit them but I know that they have done to me that I did not like (something my parents will never do to their son)

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  10. Anonymous1/12/2016

    Well,I feel you should calm down,talk to her about your feeling but be careful cos if care is not taken u might end up becoming her enemy for life.
    Please,can anyone recommend a very good food processor for me?,please also include the price.
    Can a food processor be used also as cake mixer?

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