4 Months After I Moved To My parents House, My Husband Has not Called

Hello Aunty Eya,  Sometimes I take actions thatI feel are to the best interests of our families, the people I love and care about  but then, things just turn like I am dreaming,  from
bad to worse and then, all I can do is just cry on my pillow,  ILove  him so much,  I love him with all my heart, if I knwe this would backfire this way, nothing on this earth would have me da me move.  I feel so ashamed  of myself. My children have been dragged into this by my foolishness and selfishness.

I was too disappointed after serious talk about family's ( financial problems, our inability  to save because  he just likes o spend and spend even the last kobo,  taking care of  kids sometimes like dropping them off at friends birthday parties or even taking them to school and picking them off even if it means just once in a week, my job is more demanding,   he gets mire time for yimself but won't assist in anyway with our daughters. relationship maintenance is solely my business, if we have issues,  I am always the only one that tries to fix things up with my husband)


I got so angry after the heated argument, I did not leave any message , then moved to my parents house with our two daughters from home , almost four  months now , He never once approached me or daughter. I called him twice before with my cellphone, he didnt pick up and declined. How come if me and the kids  kids were in danger? When we left the house,  ten hours later, the kids used my phone to call him. He picked it and said he was with friends. Kids asked him when he will come take them out?. He replied he didnt know when he'll have a day off from work, and he that he wont have any  day off soon .Kids were so disappointed too. Should I need to face the reality he doesnt love me anymore?

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  2. Poster, listen to me. Take your kids and go back home. You both exchanged bitter words and he is hurting too. See, no two marriages are the same. After two kids, you already know the type of person your husband is, somewhere in your head, maybe you suspected he might not come looking for you. Now the kids are already being dragged in, take them home. Forget about what anyone will think, inform your parents before leaving. No body chase you away, so, return home ASAP.You both will talk and make up at home.

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  3. It's never wise to solve a lovers spat by moving out! Where are you moving to? The home you know and the home your daughters know is the one you and your husband built. I see no reason why you couldn't talk with your husband about his excesses and see if you both could work it out first instead of moving.
    Now, you have no choice but to do what Aunty Eya has advised. Take your kids back home. But this time, you should have a heart to heart talk with him. Expect nasty comments as he obviously wasn't the one who asked you to return and he might say things like 'you left and I survived....blablabla...' just pass your points across and all will be well. Don't forget to pray too before you move back.
    Best of luck!

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  4. Anonymous11/18/2015

    I definitely agree that she shouldnt have moved out but what type of husband/father does not ask after the well being of his family or at least the kids. Then what about OPs parents why have they not sat the 2 of them down to talk to them. Abeg this story has holes in it joh

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  5. Thanks for all your responses. I'll try to do as you have advised even though my parents are not in support.They never gave their consent cos dad didn't like my husband's attitude. They don't really care and my dad keeps saying that he is capable of taking care of me and kids but I still love my husband no matter what.

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    1. So sorry about all you are going thru, but pls park your bags and return home. what ever misunderstanding you both have try to settle it in your bedroom, infact don't even let your right hand know you are quarreling. As for your husband you have to understand that maybe his love language is not the same with yours, but i believe he has a nonchalant attitude and that is the reason why he isn't taking up his responsibility, not saving and doesn't care if you all are fine. Take this time out to evaluate you home, check the foundation of your home very very well to understand what amendments you need to make. Pray for him to take up responsibility because i know nothing kills a married woman more than the burden of holding up the home, both financially, spiritually and physically.

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  6. Why ever move out? Don't ever do dt again no matter d degree of misunderstanding u guys are having or had. Well d deed has been done, just keep pride aside and go back just as anty Eya says

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  7. Anonymous11/19/2015

    I very much believe only the Supernatural can help things at this stage. It is not wholly giving a Religious leader prayer point but being involved too. I mean the person wearing a coat knows where it itches better. You crying out repentantly and sincerely to your creator is far more effective than anyone doing for you. You will pour it out as detailed as it is. Going away will complicate issues. Here are some encouraging Bible verses to start with.
    1 Peter 5:7GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)

    7 Turn all your anxiety over to God because he cares for you.

    (All that has bordered them can be turned over and he know how to resolve things. H e knows how to sort out what as gone wrong with one of his creation).

    New Living Translation Psalm 55:22
    Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

    (Burdens shpuld be given to the Lord not to men of God. They should only help you pray wit a guide. Try the Lord your self and see dear.)

    Matthew 11:28-30GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)

    28 “Come to me, all who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. 29 Place my yoke[a] over your shoulders, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble. Then you will find rest for yourselves 30 because my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

    (All the burden of your wife and husbands can be resolved with the Almighty. Please contact HIM. Solution lies with HIM.)

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  8. Madam forget about your pride do the right thing and go back home. your hubby might say some horrible things when you go back, be prepared for that, but dont worry, you went back to to work on your marriage. Back it up with prayers.. all the best.

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