My Husband Did Not Grieve Plus Female Pictures On Phone

Good evening ma'am. Am a married woman in my twenties and my husband is in his thirties' we have two kids together.

 I think this man doesn't respect me. Several times I see female pictures on his phone, should I secretly drop it in hot water or how do I handle this?. The recent one that happened and pissed me off  is that he came back from work that fateful night and I asked him if he was ready to eat but he said no and stepped out.

 I asked where he was going only for him to say it's none of my business. I decided to go buy something outside and I saw him and his ex in an awkward corner. I was so pissed that I insulted him and
 threatened to have an affair which I know Ican't do.

 My dad died 4th of November last year and the following day, he went to a female friends birthday. Each time I remember this, he disgust me. I feel like fighting him to vent my anger. Please advise me Cuz I don't want violence, I don't want to misbehave. Thank you.

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  1. Anonymous11/25/2014

    Poster its a pity women find themselves stuck in this kind of relationship. It's either that husband of urs never loved u or u pay him too much attention. Was he forced to marry u or something? Hope it wasn't pregnancy that made him marry u.
    Anyway. It's very obvious he doesn't care. Maybe he never did because u didn't say if he has always been like this or he changed.
    My advice, do ur thing. Are u working, face it squarely ad well as ur kids. Stop insulting him both in public and in private. Do ur normal chores which includes cooking for ur family including him. Cut down on ur expectations of him and see if he doesn't come back to his senses. Help him to respect u,okay. Good luck.

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    1. Anonymous11/25/2014

      Less I forget, stop going thru his phone and don't even consider dropping it into water. Lol. He would buy another one and upload more pictures. When u see him in such compromising position with a female, greet him and pass. It won't be easy but u have to respect urself my sister before he either beats u up to impress the girl or both of them will do it together. But above all, pray about ur situation. don't cheat on him o. Two wrongs don't make a right

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    2. Anonymous11/25/2014

      *lest I forget*

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    3. Anonymous11/28/2014

      Really?
      Do this , do that.
      Very easy to say.

      I ask you...does she not deserve to be happy in her marriage?
      Why marry someone you cannot touch his phone.

      This isn't marriage, this is not a relationship. This is a situationship.

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    4. www.spillithere.com11/30/2014

      you've said it all anonymous 2:34PM

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      Delete
  2. Avoid his phone like pig, stop monitoring him and concentrate on ur work and kids, he will come around someday. But always pray for what u want in ur marriage.

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    1. Anonymous11/28/2014

      What if he never comes around?

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  3. I will advice you get family members involved, or maybe people he respects to talk to him. Its one thing to cheat, its another thing to cheat and throw it on the wife's face. Although cheating is not good, and I don't support it in anyway, but its very bad to cheat and wave it on the wife's face, indirectly telling the wife that she can do nothing about it, a man that does that is capable of beating you. And your husband is doing exactly that, and with the way he is doing it, the day he is going to be violent with you is just a stone throw. So I would advice that after getting family and people he respects to talk to him, at least to respect you and stop acting as if you can't do nothing and he doesn't change, then give him some space. Like stay away from him, he'll come back to his senses someday.

    That's why I advice women to be independent so that in situation like this, you can take care of yourself and your kids and prove to the man that you can do without him, that feeling alone that you can do without him will make him seat up and respect you a lot.

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  4. My sister,don't think u are the only one in this kind of suituation,some men are very stupid,for the fact we women respect our selfs and be faithful to them gives them the right to disgrace them self thinking we are stupid,my dear sister don't mind him that is how 99% of those fools behave. Sooner than expected we will give them what they want,few days ago a female LIBer posted how she cheated on her husband and she is feeling great about it cos his husband cheats on her without Caring how she feels.

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    1. Anonymous11/28/2014

      Most married men are dogs.

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  5. The best way to resolve an Issue is to find out its root first, you have to handle this matter with wisdom, d both of you have to sit down and talk about the issue, tell him how you feel and find out why he is doing all that; to know if you have done anything wrong that has made him act this way. That way only can you get to the bottom of the issue.

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    1. Anonymous11/28/2014

      Can talking stop a man from cheating?
      Which root?

      Stop cheating on your wife
      How hard is it?

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  6. Anonymous11/25/2014

    if you're ok with living with a cheat, then do just that. otherwise pack your load and go. if you decide to stay with him, then you better buy some condoms for when you have sex with him. your life is not a game. if he's cheating, he can bring diseases into your own body

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  7. Jus keep calm nd act wisely.... Violent is not an Option, Always dress Up nd Look FAB more than U do now when Eva ur going out nd even in the House. Give him a Silent treatment

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  8. Madam, you need to sit your husband down and find out where you have erred so as to know how to make amends. Also, you need God's intervention by praying with ceasing. May God restore that which the enemy has stolen from your home. Pls visit www.alabekee.blogspot.com

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    1. praying without ceasing I mean to say.

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    2. Anonymous11/26/2014

      her husband is cheating but she needs to find out where she has erred!!!??? wow

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    3. Anonymous11/28/2014

      Find out how she erred?
      I will not encourage anyone to read your blog.

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    4. Anonymous12/01/2014

      Did i hear you say sit your husband down and find out where you have erred? Hmmm! how many times have i tried that yet it didn't work, mine even sleeps out and he doesn't tell me where he spends his night. Poster, the best thing to do is to live your life independently, look for something to keep you busy and make you happy. forget he exist, give him his food at the appropriate time, never deny him your body, always wear a smile no matter how hard (pretend) dress sexy, make your hair, wash your hair net, last but not d least, sing heartily like you've won a lottery whenever your do your house chores. Come back and thank me later!

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  9. Shayor@soupabowl11/26/2014

    Hey Eya...i'm back! how have you all been? i see the blog is waxing stronger..Thank God for continuous mercies.. missed you all and glad to be back home (here)

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    1. Lady Shayor! Welcome back dear, how is the soup a bowl business going?
      Missed you.

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  10. Just be prayerful and give him some space

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  11. Just be prayerful and give him some space

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  12. And one more thing: please I beg of you, don't nag. Learn to ignore him and don't cheat. When you ask him where he's going and tells you it's none of your business, tell him you are sorry for asking and face front. Just take things easy and don't pay him attention. Try to be cheerful and live your life. When he's tired of whatever he's getting outside, no one will teach him when to come. home. Remember prayers.

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  13. Anonymous11/30/2014

    Like someone said early find someone he respects to talk to him , if u r a Christian ask your pastor. Let his people know.

    But while you are doing that my dear protect yourself , get a condom he must wear one before he sleeps with you at least until he changes his ways if not he might transfer sti to u , worse still HIV/aids so pls protect yourself , this may not prove easy to do though as he might ask you why he has to use a condom for you, that's if you both are not using it as a form contraceptive before.

    Thirdly, be independent, if u work , do not quit your job if u not employed pls my dear look for a bussiness to do, but you MUST empower yourself.

    Lastly, you must learn how to pray, be close to God, pray for your husband everyday and try and pray together with him.
    If there is one thing I have learnt in marriage is this: you can't change anybody, you can only change yourself ,but God can change both you and your spouse, so talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel when he treats you with so much disrespect and then pray God changes him, after all He(God) made him.
    Best wishes .mrs.T

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  14. What if he gives her HIV from his cheating? Will she just go and pray? I don't understand relationships like this

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