Monday, September 29, 2014

How to Prepare Snails For Cooking, Pictures From Scratch

This is how to place a snail in preparation for chopping off just the tip.
 Hello Ugo, your request came in right on time as I was about to go prepare some snails when I saw your mail. Yes, there is a very simple method of shelling your large snails without getting the kitchen messy. There is no need to crush the shells with a hammer cos that is a lot of work cleaning the broken pieces from your snails.

Some readers saw our crunchy peppered snail recipe and wanted a step by step snail preparation procedure but then, for no reason, I just couldn't remember the camera when I cooked snails. Sometimes I let the sellers clean my snails but not when a particular seller washes with alum. Snails washed with alum do not really taste natural to me. Thankfully this seller doesn't wash with limes so, the snails were brought home whole.

Cleaning your snails at home is the best. That same bowl of alum water is what snail traders use to
wash all snails bought in a day, that's from morning till night. They won't even leave that thick dirty water where buyers can peep, it's either under the table or a bit further where you can't see clearly.

Items For Easy
Snail Cleaning:

  1. A cleaver or machete
  2. Atable knife
  3. Limes or alum dropped in the water

How to remove slime from snails 

First cut off the tip with a machette, stone or cleaver as shown in the pics below.
Secondly, with a table knife put in through the cut tip, swirl the knife in and push out the snail through the large open end.
Finally, cut out the little shell still stuck on the snail, remove entrails and drop in the water solution containing alum or limes.
Wash, scrubbing the alum on the snail and in seconds you see that the slime is all gone.
Rinse and divide from the middle with a knife as shown in the pictures below.
Finally, add to a pot of salted boiling water to harden and get them crunchy. Leave to boil for about 3 to 5 minutes and you have your NO SLIME, CRUNCHY Snails. Weldone!
 With a butcher's knife or machete or even a hammer, chop off the

Blended Afang Soup

Afang soup cooked with very well blended afang and boiled water leaf
 The  afang soup s already on the blog were all cooked with just a little bit of pounding and no boiling of water leaf. We have egusi afang soup, some yummy groundnut afang soup, and a few others. This time I tried to do things differently. I always thought that those who blended afang leaves before cooking did not know how to enjoy this delicacy but I was wrong because the taste is the same and for those who like their afang soup very very soft, this is a softer version than the pounding. The soup was so soft I caught a few gentlemen licking their plates with five fingers and taking more soup without swallow just to drink with a  dessert spoon. To me, afang soup is afang soupm never disappointingm anyhow you cook it just remember to add crayfish. For hubby, THIS was extremeIy delicious as he made sure I preserved some until friends came over for lunch and he specifically asked for "that soft afang soup" lolz.

We always

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Jewelry Arrived After Aliexpress Refunded My Money, How Do I Pay Now?

After Dee's first blog lecture on how to shop on Alibaba, Aliexpress, I decided to give it a try and when things didn't work out as expected, I published a post narrating my experience on Aliexpress shopping

Month's have passed and I forgot about it all. Sincerely speaking, it discouraged me from shopping Online. All the baby items in my cart, never went back to look at any. Last week, we got a call to come to the post office for a parcel and no one bothered because we weren't expecting anything, hubby even said it must be scam. Yesterday, behold a parcel from China post and honestly, hubby asked the man that brought it to step back and open it himself.

What? Standing face to face with the beautiful sets of jewelry that I thought never arrived cos honestly even though both sellers have great positive feedback from buyers, I couldn't hold any successful conversation or chat with any, it always took like forever to get them and whenever I did, the chat automatically cuts and reconnection never worked. Even when I tried to complain that my goods didn't arrive, there was confusion. The first one a man, promised to check and get back to me but never did or maybe couldn't get back. The second seller, a lady only responds to my Hi and then everything goes dead, no more response. Ok, delivery date expired and my transaction was to be closed in a matter of days if I did not respond with a feedback on delivery or non delivery of my goods. I asked for a refund or my goods and after a while got alerts on my phone and my money was refunded thrice just the way I paid.

This transaction

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Baked Sticky Chicken With Colourful Jollof Rice

Baked sticky chicken with delicious Nigerian jollof.
Except fo the lemon skin, baked chicken, red jollof spice and side vegetables added here, the recipe, method of cooking is same as our emergency jollof rice. One whole lemon skin is grated without the white part because that white is bitter. Grated into the pot of onion, tomato paste and other ingredients being fried, i.e before adding the stock or water used for cooking.

Washing drumsticks to be marinated and baked

Preparing the marinade for my delicious sticky chicken
Ingredients For The Chicken Marinade:
In a large bowl, I mix together the following ingredients before adding my 2kg chicken.

  • 3 table spoons my garlic ginger sauce  
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 2 tablespoons (what we sometimes refer to as dessert spoon) olive oil
  • 1 table spoon white vinegar
  • 1 table spoon honey (optional) I don't think I'll add honey next time cos two of my kids not used to seeing honey added to our cooked meals refused to even have a taste, despite everyone testifying to them that it tasted heavenly ...local Naija breed gals! Come to think of it, I think honey is what gives the chicken that delicious stickiness.
  • 1 teaspoon chilli sauce
  • 3 teaspoons my pepper sauce 
  • 60 ml soy sauce. You can measure with baby's drug cup, lolz. That's what I did anyway.
You can crush your garlic and grate some ginger if you do not have the sauce ready at home. For pepper lovers, add or reduce the pepper, those without pepper sauce can add ground fresh pepper but quantity? no idea yet till I try it.

I always tell us that we can always adapt food recipes to our individual taste. If you do

Monday, September 22, 2014

Delicious Jollof Spaghetti, Enjoy

A serving of jollof spaghetti.
 Cook with the recipe for our jollof pasta and you'll just get it right. The ingredients mightb not be the same, but same cooking method.
Cooked spaghetti waiting for

Thursday, September 18, 2014

My Marriage Is A Mistake, I Regret Every Passing Second

Hello, Am an ardent reader of wives connection  blog.  My name is Roseline Chukwu from Imo State, Madam Eya pls be kind enough to delete my details before posting this. I have a situation that I need your advice and that of others.

I have been married for two years and 8 months now and we are still believing God for fruits of the womb. My problem is my husband's attitude towards me. Every  little misunderstanding we have he would keep malic with me for days even when he is the one at fault. He has no job but  follows politicians, attends meetings with some of them and in the process they may dash him money and that is how feed and do other things. This is is a man that made me believe with some convincing evidence before we got married that he is a graduate only for me to find out later on that he dropped out of school. 

We are having fertility issues cos diagnoses shows he has a very low sperm count of below 5 million.  But instead of seeking medical help from hospitals he prefers taking herbal medicine. I dragged him to my gynaecologist some time ago but he swore not to go back to the hospital that the doctor is very expensive. 

 I am just confused. Of late he started going out without telling me his way about and would also stay late into the night. I have sat him down severally and expressed how I feel towards these issues to him all to no avail. You may ask why I married a jobless man in the first place?  The answer to this is that I was tricked into believing that he would get a job soon considering the caliber of people he mingles with coupled with the fact that he made me believe he had good certificates to go with.


Monday, September 15, 2014

This Conversation Has Lasted 5 Days, Can You Please Help With Advise?

Beebe sent a blank mail to me with a title "Can I talk to you?"

Eya: Hi Beebe, it's only your name showing. No mail included.

Beebe: Can I talk to you ma?

Eya: Yes you can. ALL EARS

Beebe: Am in serious trouble and all I can think of is to run away cos I don't even understand myself. My life is complicated dnt even know where 2 start from cos am screwed and...sad

Eya: How is it complicated, are you sick, homeless or what?

Beebe: Don't just know where to start from am not sick or homeless....where do I start from..my name is (real name witheld by Eya) ,yoruba,20yrs old guess am ruinned now, went to yct{yabatech dint know what happened, I dint further and was collecting my school fees and other stuff, later went for pre degree @aaua{adekunle ajasin)  on getting there, I don't know what happened, didn't pay my School fees though it was given tome. I did the post UTME, did not pass though I didn't have interest in going 2 skull have always wanted 2 be a fashion designer. can't tell my parents all dis cos they are only interested in school and choosing a lyf that I dont want. Now dat I am ruined dont know what 2 do or who 2 talk 2.

Can't tell my parents anytin my dad wld mke my life miserable am down dnt know what 2 do am finished my mum has been the one sponsoring I and my siblings through skull and everytin just feel useless cos when my mum would get 2 knw the truth dont just know. Guess I already spoilt tins Living a fake lyf.

Eya: Yes dear, you were living a lie. They will expect you to graduate and that is when you'd be exposed. Can I post for advise cos this is really overwhelming.

Beebe:My dad wld soon get to knw and I cnt jst face it jst feel lyk comittimg sucide.Please could you hide my identity.Thank you ma

Eya: Yes, your parents will

Sunday, September 14, 2014

First Time Mum: Has Anyone Been In This Situation?

 I must say that I have learnt a lot from wives connection blog though I never knew a day would come when I'll have to write in for help...

Am a first time mum,had my baby ten days ago and I had a little tear which the doctor said didn't need to be stitched,its painful like crazy and am so scared even after d normal everyday hot water massage

Initially I couldn't

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Is It Wrong Not To Support This Wedding?

I saw this comment by an anonymous reader and didn't know what to say so I didn't reply. Can anyone help with advise please:

Good morning everyone. My sister is getting married soon but am not happy. My sister met a young man and they started a relationship. Introduction was fixed and a wedding date. The church demanded for a HIV test and the man tested positive. 

My sister is negative. We all now kicked against the wedding. But she insisted. That nothing is going to change her mind she must marry this guy. 

We all thought maybe she has been exposed to the virus that's why she wants to marry him. 4months after she took another test still negative. 2 months after that still negative. But my sister still insists on marrying him. 

I know HIV is

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Ebola And Nigerian School Resumption Date, A MUST READ

Nigerian schools and Ebola, do you agree with September Resumption Date?
I got a mail this morning from one of my kids School here in Abuja and I totally agree with their decision, here is the mail:

....... School will like to remind you that the opening date for school is still on OCTOBER 13, 2014. Parents and Guardians can come to the school from Friday 12, 2014 to pick up home work for their children from 9am to 2pm as part of their continous assessment. Thank you.
When I saw this mail, I started thinking about other Schools. Are Schools really going to resume on September 22? Really? The people in Government, do they have kids in Nigerian Schools? Do they have friends and relatives working in Schools?

Thinking about boarding Schools, students travel from all over the country, all towns, cities and villages to resume.

Well, I'm just thinking aloud.
Below is a mail from a concerned Nigerian Mother Efe Farinre:

   Read and tell us what you think about September Resumption Date...
I just received a mail confirming that schools will re-open on Monday 22nd September, 2014. After reading it, I felt compelled to put on paper my thoughts since the announcement of same by the Federal Government. One thing that struck me is that I am yet to receive information about confirmed (not advised/suggested) nationwide measures that have been put in place to ensure the safety of our children from the Ebola virus upon resumption at school in two weeks." Continue...
 The reason for moving the resumption date forward by three weeks was given as “containment of the Ebola virus in Nigeria”. How does that statement stand in view of the present situation in Port Harcourt?

I returned to Lagos from a week’s trip to Abuja on Friday 5th September, 2014. The first issue I had,which I mentioned to an airport official was that just before boarding the planes (in Lagos and Abuja), passengers (adults and children) are given a rub-down. The officials checking our bodies were wearing gloves. However, the same gloves were worn while touching a good number of people.
 The officials were protected, but how about the passengers being touched with the gloves that had been used to touch many others? On arrival at the Abuja airport, the temperature of every passenger was taken before entry was granted into the Federal Capital Territory. Of concern is that on departure from Abuja, this was not the case. Worse still, Lagos State that had the index case of Ebola welcomed us without any precautionary measures of any kind. We simply picked up our bags and walked into the city. With instances where infected people have traveled from one state to another, we should be worried.

It is understandable that we want our children educated, but we need to be reminded that we can only educate the healthy and living. Ebola virus in Nigeria is an unprecedented occurrence that has to be handled as such. “Better safe than sorry” should be the motto here. So far, we have been blessed in the manner that no child has contacted the disease. Children play indiscriminately with one another.
 A child of what age can be guaranteed to identify the symptoms of the Ebola and keep away from it? How many times do we have to remind our children not to put their hands in their mouths and cover their mouths when they yawn, cough or sneeze? How do we tell them not to play with their friends as they are used to or not to show concern if one of them gets hurt and is bleeding? How can we really be sure that our 3 to 16 year olds would be safe from Ebola in a place where we cannot control who they come in contact with; a place where they share toilets, eat and play with others. How about our babies at crèche who we can’t even attempt to explain this to and who cannot verbalize their day at “school”?

I am the typical “Nigerian Mum”….ensuring my kids are on top of their school work, home work and leisure activities. At this time, I must pause and realize that prevention is the only option here as there is no cure! If the children have to stay home a little longer while this epidemic is eradicated or contained NATIONWIDE then so be it. If this implies a shorter Christmas break this year or just four weeks of Summer break next year to make up for the lost education time, so be it.

 One thing I am sure no parent wants to deal with is the anxiety if a child comes home with a fever. We

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Quick Cook Jollof Pasta With Beans, Corned Beef

A beautiful serving of jollof pasta looking as delicious as it tastes.
 This my signature pasta, please don'tb get bored. I'm trying to like other shapes but this still tastes and feels better for me. I never enjoyed the ones with a hollow middle. This dish was so rushed that I think I shocked myself. Everyone that ate, asked for extra. We have cooked pasta a lot of times in the past but this, I mean, this particular pot turned out tasty beyond expectation. It cooked in 8 minutes but I allowed one more minute before turning off the heat.


  • Pasta 2 packs
  • soya oil
  • pepper sauce
  • Seasoning cubes (4 chicken cubes)
  • Salt

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

Smoked Turkey Stir fry With Pasta By Mavis

A serving of smoked turkey stirfry with pasta.
 This is mavis. am sorry i have not contributed to the blog for a while.i made this stir fry over the weekend and i want to share it.lol..i used cabbage.carrot.onions.tomatoes.green pepper.spring onions.soy sauce.chilli sauce. 

Mavis takes her time to cook well and carefully decorate before presentation, she also shared the curried rice with shredded chicken, gravy. and the very deliciously nutritious plantain porridge with crunchy snails, fish, liver
try and link old pasta posts later. For how to make stir fry check out how to make Nigerian fried rice sauce BUT use less oil pls. Stir fries are made by just pouring the

Monday, September 08, 2014

Fashion Designer? Workers Needed Urgently

Hello good people of wives connection,
Good morning and happy new week
Please I have a problem, I recently just opened a fashion house but I have been having problems with tailors . It's like they all have a generational curse (sorry to say this) . I pay well but none of them ever stays more than a month. My friends in the business are also complaining about the same thing saying tailors are never serious or responsible .

I have thrown my problems to this blog about three times in the past and I always got solutions here. So please if there's any one out there who knows a very good tailor that would be ready to sit down and work please help me with their contacts. If you need mine please just comment below and I would drop it for you .
I have invested so much in this business and I can't afford to be looking and my machine chairs empty with no serious worker on them.

Please help . Today is monday and nobody is at work, Monday that is to be taken seriously . I have 6 workers and

Suya Jollof Rice By Omalicha

Suya jollof rice served with egg and vegetables. Oh No not suya, this is another emergency rice she cooked months ago without suya but with same process.
 Okay this is what happend, the food was inspired by the fact that I didn't want chicken and chips for dinner which is what everyone was having.i wanted skmething ricy and spicy. But there was no frozen meat or chicken or fish or any animal in the house.so I went to the junction and bought suya(allow them put enough suya pepper,beef and gizzard)N1000 worth. So that with every spoon I take I crunch something.
3 cups Rice
N500 worth Suya or more if you can afford
2 Red and 2 yellow pepper
3 large carrots 
1 Green chili
1 large Onion
Just a pinch of grated ginger
1 clove garlic
Turkey or chicken stock I used from a previous meal
1/2 teaspoon Thyme

How to cook suya jollof rice

  1. slice all the veggies including the suya into tiny bits
  2. Mixed them all up and set aside
  3. Wash rice about 4 times with lukewarm water (I dont parboil unless i'm making white rice)
  4. In a dry pot add rice, turkey stock or any stock you have at home even beef stock and seasoning.mix all up, check for seasoning add more water.
  5. Put on heat to cook.
  6. On medium heat in a large pan, put about one cooking spoon of olive oil and when hot add all your veggies and suya, then stir fry.
  7. Pour contents in frying

Saturday, September 06, 2014

She Is Five Years Older, Should I Proceed Or Withdraw?

Good morning aunty eya how's your family I have a problem I'd like you to put up on your blog for discussion I am a student and I am in a very serious and comiitted relationship.

 early last I found out this girl was five years older than I am though she doesn't look it!I battled with it for a while and then I let it slide. the issue is I love this girl so much I'd love to marry her after school but till now we have never discussed age together but we re intimate on other issues. something tells me she knows I am younger but she really doesn't Act it and of recent that feeling has come back again,though we have been through thick and thin ve got this feeling that when we officially get to talk about our ages she would leave me so am really troubled.what should I do!

Eya's Reply:
Hi, sorry

Thursday, September 04, 2014

Blackberry Phones Can Use Instagram

Wives connection couldn't join instagram all this while because I thought that only Android devices like Samsung Galaxy have the Instagram app. One of the reasons I went shopping for a better Samsung Galaxy Phone.

After publishing that post announcing that we are now on Instagram, an anonymous reader left a comment and wow... Blackberry users can be on Instagram. I saw that comment and was still sceptical until Adaeze replied that she tried Ingrann too and it worked. Good News for some of us.

See the comment below:

 Anonymous said...
Hi people, I use instagram on my bb, it's igrann but I use one of the Z series BB anyway. dunno if it's on other BB. check your app world it could be there...

Thanks Anon. These days, with

Wednesday, September 03, 2014

The Fifty Basic Needs of A Nigerian Kitchen

I got this very short mail from an about to wed reader who is not Nigerian herself but getting married to a Nigerian man. She just discovered the blog and searched unsuccessfully for basic items in a Nigerian kitchen.  Below are the kitchen items I listed in my reply. If you know of any not on the list, please update.

I remember we have old posts on this. Before you look at the list below, you may want to know the fifteen most needed kitchen items

1. An electric cooker, gas cooker or a kerosene stove
2. A set of cooking pots, a set of five is fine
3. Cooking utensils
4. Plates, saucers and bowls
5. Cutlery
6. Plates rack
7. Food processor or blender. If you can get the food processor with 32 functions, that'd be great because it saves you from buying a blender, mortar and pestle and even manual graters.
8. Sandwich toaster
9. Bread toaster
10. Sieve
11. Airtight plastic containers for storing grains and foodstuff like garri, crayfish etc
12. Mugs and cups of different sizes
13.China, preferably white
14. Aprons
15. Hand gloves
16. Napkins
17. Dish washing liquid
18. Chest Freezer
19. Refrigerator
20. Dinner sets
21. Sets of drinking glasses
22. Hot water flask and electric kettle if you do not have hot water running
23. Fry pan
24. Pressure cooker
25. Rice cooker
26. Deep fryer
27. Can cutter
28. Strainer
29. A plunger incase of

Tuesday, September 02, 2014

wives Connection On Instagram

Lovely spags,Find us on Instagram. 

wives connection meat pie by Ope and other mouth watering meals. 
We are now on Instagram. Follow wives connection or wivesconnection.
For blog inactivity, the mails you guys send are not different from issues that have already been tackled on the blog, so,  reason for my replying with the links to old related posts to avoid boring us with same or related posts.

Our recipes are coming later today or tomorrow morning please. I have many in my Gallery, just need some time to write the full recipes and publish. If you can cook ANY Nigerian/African meal not yet on the blog, kindly share with us abeg na.  A lot of people are bored with and tired of the regular status quo. Anything delicious nutritious and not too complicated, we'll love to try. Please don't hoard oooo, share with us @ cuulme@gmail.com

My post on how to