Should I Let Her Come Visit?

Good day everyone. Please kindly advice me.

My name is Celine. I have a cousin sister and we are very close. We share secret and things. People call us twins because of the closeness and also we somehow resemble and are of same age only that she is my senior with 3 months.

The issue is that I got married 2013. Even before I agreed to marry the man, I used to tell her everything so on the day of introduction, she couldn't come because she was writing exams.

When the traditional marriage ceremony was fixed, I told her and luckily she was at home so I told her to collect the Ashebi cloth I bought for her from my Mum for D day. She said ok only for her to go back to the city where she stays without the cloth. when I asked her why she said she forgot. We continued talking even till on the 25 Dec. and d ceremony was on 27th Dec. but she didn't tell me anything until 26th night she then called and told me she won't come for my marriage. I asked her why and she said she won't tell me on phone, till we see which I don't know when. I was so surprised and angry. Everybody was asking why she didn't come. & I didn't know what to answer.

After the ceremony I called her and told her that I am disappointed and angry with her for what she did. She said she was sorry. After the call, she stopped calling, picking my calls or even chatting with me on FB when I send her message. We didn't talk for 5 months and suddenly she called that she want to come to my house and spend some time with us.

People are telling me not to allow her any access to myself or my home that she may have evil intention but i feel that is not fair considering how we were. Do you think I should allow her visit or tell her not to. And do you think her she may have a good reason for failing to come.

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  1. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Don't allow her into your house

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    1. Anonymous5/07/2014

      I don't think its necessary to know why she did not come for your wedding as some people are suggesting. Let sleeping dogs lie because she will definitely not tell you the sincere truth. Please just ignore the message just as she has been ignoring you on FB. I hope you have not already given her your address.

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  2. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Pls pls n pls don't aIiow her into ur house. U pple can plan to see else where but not in ur house. Pls no body contact like hogging or gift items. Keep her at arms lenght. ----- D Moon !

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  3. Anonymous5/06/2014

    please don''t allow her into your home. Wisdom they say is profitable to direct, be wise.

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  6. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Would she be coming to spend d nyt or just come and leave? If u guys were as close as u said u were then I think you should hear her out nd from what she has to say u would decide either to keep her close still or not. Visit www.mariasdesire.wordpress.com to discuss ' men of God and the family'.

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  7. Anonymous5/06/2014

    That ur cousin is a jealous person! Dnt ever. I repeat dnt ever! Dnt and dnt. If she come na trouble be dat. U can bet it

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  9. Please do not allow her come to your home.
    See her somewhere else- pray before you go and keep her at arm's length, smile- no need for unnecessary hugging.
    Be wise, finally, not after people are done advicing you, you go mushy and think of "how we used to be".
    She should be able to tell you why she has acted in the way she's been- but do not let her into your home.
    People are just weird sha.

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  10. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Poster if you let her in your home you are on your own. No be today when best friends steal each other's husbands. My moms very close friend tried to break her marriage bc here was broken. If you are compelled to meet up meet with her in a public place closer to her area than yours

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  11. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Dont allow her come to your house. The heart of man is desperately wicked...... Why would she call you all of a sudden to come visit you. Keep communicating on the phone but pls guard your home.

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  12. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Tnk u for d coconut oil tip but how do I use it

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  13. Don't allow her stay with you but she can come to visit, not spend a night o and when she comes visiting, be prayerful…www.bride2mum.com

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    1. Anonymous5/06/2014

      hummmn. She should nt come at all. Haba. A jealous cousin! Yes. She shuld be prayful.

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  14. Anonymous5/06/2014

    personally i wont allow her come visit. we can keep talking over the phone,but whatever needs to be said,should be over the phone...teresa

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  15. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Babe now i am tellin u from experience DO NOT ALLOW HER INTO UR HOME!!!

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  16. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Don't allow her into your home.. Infact stop any contacts with her as she did u earlier.. Don't keep malice but stay very far. She's jealous of u. No Use ur hand pour sand inside ur Garri. U've bn told

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  17. Anonymous5/06/2014

    Dear poster, there are two big things here that stand out. Number one is that as close as u were and she couldn't attend ur wedding, she should have been quick to show sincere regret and explain to u why she couldn't make it, not posting u like she did. Number two, she has refused contact with u for the last five months and calls u all of a sudden, not to say hi but bcos she wants something from u: to come to ur house. She may not have diabolical intentions, but she is not a good friend either and does not love u. So pls, relegate her to where she has relegated u for the past months. Don't think about how close u were in the past bcos frankly, she doesn't give a shit! She's just after her own selfish desires.

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  18. Anonymous5/07/2014

    Don't allow her into your house abeg, I don't even allow my so called friends to my house oo, she's upto no good smh some people I tell you

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  19. Anonymous5/07/2014

    Don't allow her to come to your house. See her somewhere else and let it be an open place. Pray before you see her and be in spirit when you her together. Its well.

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  20. More than 90% of the people here say NO. I think you should say no in a suttle way... For example, tell her you won't be available that period and go ahead to find out why she had behaved the way she did.
    The spirit is giving you signals that should not be ignored and it's important you protect your home.
    On the other hand, she might know something about your hubby that she couldn't share with you... which ever way, she has not done well and does not wish you well.

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  21. BUSOLA5/07/2014

    Ist of tell she has to explain to u why she didn't have come to ur wedding, I'm not very sure she didn't have any exams during ur introduction she avoided coming also, don't let her come until she explains why she didn't come for ur wedding even after she explains still don't let her come

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  22. Anonymous5/07/2014

    jealous cousin and best friend I had one. she was more than jealous of me .she will get rid of me if a chance present itself. I always loved her dearly cos of my mother and her mother's good relationship. she is a wicked soul, back then in sec school( I was d best student, teachers will never stop admiring and encouraging me. classmates will fight each other to be close to me) she will never stop gossipping about me to people, just backbitting me all the time. all d same I loved her like myself, although I use to confront her and she will deny saying anything against me swearing with her father's grave. the last straw that broke the camel's back was when she was trying to seduce my fiance right to my eyes hmmm. I cut her off my life forever, she did'nt come for my wedding neither do I care. I hardly even remember her at all these days. such is life. @ poster if u allow her enter your home don't come to WC family seeking for on how to deal with a 'HUSBAND SNATCHER' cos that is her aim or worse to take your life. don't u watch 'zone realities' on dstv? envious and jealouspeople are the most deadly.walahi

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  23. Anonymous5/07/2014

    pls tell her you are not around, and also try to know why she cut you off like that

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  24. chubi umeh5/07/2014

    Oh no! My dear, don't tell lies. Don't say †ђ3 plain truth either cos it will declare war btw ƴ۵џ two. Just ignore her like she did to ƴ۵џ. I sense a great deal of jealousy.
    Hmmm poster o? Don't use ur obi ebele/ ezigbo mmadu carry gobe put for ur head. ℓ̊ rest my case

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    1. Anonymous5/08/2014

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  26. Anonymous5/07/2014

    Rubynnia: Everyone has spoken! Just ignore her like she ignored you. Because someone is family doesn't mean they want the best for you.

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  27. Anonymous5/07/2014

    Run fast fast away. That girl is up to no good.

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  28. Be very diplomatic when you tell her so that it won't be an issue of "quarrel" BUT DON'T LET HER STEP INTO YOUR HOUSE. I wouldn't even advice you to see her face to face. Just keep every contact on the phone.

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  29. Anonymous5/08/2014

    Discuss this with your husband and get his opinion.

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  30. Anonymous5/09/2014

    Please I have a lot of married friends and they develop sanctimonious and I-know-better attitude just as they start planning their weddings.I think you should talk to her about what went wrong before you let her visit. And also ask yourself what you did wrong, ppl that close to you don't just change. Your attitude towards her may have changed, maybe you didn't even notice. She may have had a good excuse for not coming.

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  31. Anonymous5/12/2014

    Don't ever let her come near your home. She's such a wicked girl with an evil heart. If you let her near you, your story will be used for Nollywood movies. She's obviously not happy for you and will do anything possible to take away your joy. Just ignore her. Don't even take her calls.

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