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My husband has continued to punish me for discussing him

I've been married since april last year n since then no better peace, I dated my husband for 2 years, we were 2 get married, but I got pregnant and it hastened d wedding. Fast forward to about 6 months, he tried to choke me n threatened, when I reported to my family and his, he threatened to beat me like it ws d last time he ws going to see me, so I left him, stayed in my parents house, with enough convincing, he said he will change, it will never happen again. Last week friday, I used him as my dp, my friend saw his pic n said tell ur hubby to do exercise o, I replied with laugh smiley, den said, he's doing o n eating plenty, she replied tell him to take it easy and greet him for me. Dt ws it, he read my chat and said I ws discussing him, I said how please, it ws a plain joke, he said I cldnt say sorry, den I did.. It didn't end there, he said I must explain y I ws discussing him, I said y is he making an issue out of nothing, it led to insults, all dis while we were in the car. We got home, he started beating me, my neighbors knocked cos of my scream, I ran out with my
phone, called my mum and his mum.

My mum called his dad to warn their son. Dey called 2 tell him, another round of beating started when I ws breastfeeding d baby, I had to bend and cover her while receiving d punches on my head and body. He started removing his shirt to continue, den I saw chance and ran with my open breast to my neighbors house screaming lock the door, dis happened around 2pm and I stayed till 10 b4 my neighbor took me back home.

he didn't say sorry, instead he asked me to kneel and apologize 4 discussing him. I'm dead inside, he tells me my opinions r useless wen I make a suggestion, controlling, never hesitate to insult me, he feels he's so untop, threatens to beat me like its nothing.

Calls me bitch wen he feels like.. I'm so frustrated, I'm only twenty six years old and he's twenty eight. Our baby ws sick, he kept on insulting me in the hospital a nurse had to take me in to console. I'm fed up. Do u think there is any hope here? He keeps saying I was wrong to call my people? Shld I die in silence?
 

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  1. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Ur story is serious ooo but am very sorry. Pls take heart. First u are wrong to report to ur parent, may you should have sort for someone older and spiritual, maybe ur pastor some one who will make him understand better. In my opinion u are both, very marriage is fresh and u both lack understanding and maturity. Give him some space for now,especially for ur health and that of ur child. Psychologically and emotionally for now u are weak. I pray God heals u

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    1. Anonymous3/15/2014

      She told his parents n her beat her up, she should tell pastor mk them kill her? Pls don't say her marriage is early I've bin married since may n I dnt have dis kind of problem. It just depends on d people involved.

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    2. Alloy Chikezie3/16/2014

      I am sorry to say this, you actually married a beast, and if you have dated somebody for 2yrs I am very positive you knew the kind of person he is, even if you don't know, you saw the signs, the hand writing on the wall, that the beast you are dating has a high tendency of physically abusing you or a woman, during marriage, but you went ahead to get pregnant for him, all in the name of "stupid love" and pety hope that he will change, I called that stupid love because, most women this days, they will be deceiving themselves with things like "he loves me, he will change, I love him" and they will find it difficult to quite that relationship, I don't know why women keep giving themselves false hope, and like deceiving themselves? that's not love, that's stupid love because it doesn't comprehend with God's version of love, (1Corinthians 13:4-5) a man who loves you will never hit you, will never beat you, will tolerate you, will be patient with u when you offend him, will even forgive you instead of beating you, example of such is God's love for us, God love us and because of that love, can never be harsh or wicked to us, can never beat us, he listens to us, cares for our feelings, forgives us, but devil because he doesn't love us, wants all form of wickedness for us, so a man that loves u will never beat u

      So ladies if you are with any man that beats you or a man with hot temper according to Proverbs22:24, run from him, he doesn't love you o, he is a beast, and ladies always make this mistake of thinking they can change a man, he can never change, you can't change a man, only God can

      In your case poster, instead of saying the truth that you knew he was like this before you got married to him and you were hoping and praying he will change, you are hiding under the pretence of u got pregnant for him and the wedding was hastened, you are saying that because you are seeking sympathy here, well in as much as I hate violence in relationship and all spheres of life, hate men that beat their woman/wife, and get pained when I see or hear cases like this, you will not get that sympathy from me, because I am tired of seeing women, seeing and sensing the wrong thing in relationship, and even with loads of good and valuable advice, they still continue with that relationship and even go ahead to marry the person all in the name of "he will change, and I love him".

      And also, it was wedding you prepared for, not marriage, like you rightly stated, because if it was marriage, you would have left him before even the wedding, and that's the mistake most people make this days, they prepare for wedding rather than marriage, some month or yrs into the marriage they start having unbearable and intolerable hitches

      I know people change, and people may argue on ur behalf that maybe he changed after the marriage, so let assume he changed, somebody that has no history of anger or tendency of beating a woman can not just change like that in six month after marriage, even if he will change, he is not used to beating a woman, it will be gradual, by now it would be maybe just slap, but for that beating to have gotten to the level it is now, in just six month, then, ego, anger traits, a woman beater, an abusive nature in him, jealousy at its highest level, pride etc had been in him a long time ago when you were even dating him, and u knew and saw it, and you went ahead to prepare for wedding, and also went ahead to put an icy on the cake by getting pregnant,

      you said the two of you where to get married, marriage is an agreement between two people, so stop hiding under the fact that u got pregnant, your getting pregnant only spiced up the preparation, infact it was you who hastened the wedding

      Marriage is for better for worse, that's the vow you took with him, so carry your cross and keep praying that God will change him


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    3. Anonymous3/16/2014

      haba! a lil sympathy wont hurt u, the gal is going thru alot enough as it were.

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    4. Anonymous3/16/2014

      I tire o. So how have you helped her now? Just sat there and passed judgement.
      With or without this epistle, the deed has been done what she needs now is a solution.

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    5. Anonymous3/16/2014

      So sorry to learn what some people go through in marriage. Pls wives connection readers, I desperately need a BQ to rent on d island. Tried going through estate agents but no success thus far. I am an easy going, born again christian, married and need a place 2 rent for about 1 yr cos hubby is not in d country at d moment.if you live on d island and wish to sublet your BQ or you can be of help, pls leave your contact with aunty eya, and I will reach you through her. Thanks

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    6. Anonymous3/17/2014

      So she should not tell her parents abi? let the man kill her, if she can not talk to her family, who she should talk to ? strangers? Marriage is for better or worse, so she should remain there until the man kills her eh? then all of you will write RIP for her.
      Please if you dnt have any good advice to give, pls don't write anything. Nonsense.

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  2. Anonymous3/15/2014

    My dear, quit the marriage. Please. That's all I can say. And the day u will leave take him by surprise cos if he as much as smells it, he will kill you o. His story really reminds me of Arowolo.

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  3. U r not wrong 4 calling ur parents. I tink u shld giv ur husband a brk. B4 he kills u

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  4. I disagree with anon 12:02. Your husband has a huge problem and you are not wrong for telling your parents and his. If you continue to stay in this marriage , he may kill you. He needs professional help and you cannot help him with this. I would suggest you going to live with your parents and give his an ultimatum to seek help for himself (wether it is regular counseling with your pastor, marriage counselor or someone that he looks up to that can teach him how to have a good marriage and how he's suppose to treat his wife). Even if it takes more than 1year to live with your parents it's ok. Your life and your child's safety is more important. You need to leave and build your self confidence again (seek separate counseling for yourself). You are too precious to go through this... I'm just curious as to how your husband learned to beat his wife? Did his dad beat his mom? I think this is a very cowardly act and it shows that your husband is very weak. He should fight with someone physically stronger than him so he will know how it feels to receive beating. This is not fair to you. A word is enough for the wise. God will help you through this. Please be strong.

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    1. I forgot to mention, if you don't see change and remorse for what he has done, or he refuses to get help please leave the marriage. This is not a small thing o. I am talking about serious counseling and being apart for a very long time (1 year plus).

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    2. Anonymous3/27/2014

      LEAVE HIM NOW DONT BE ANOTHER TITI AROWOLO...PLS HE HAS MAJOR PROBLEMS

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  5. Your husband needs to spend some time in jail. Where is the police when all these is happening? He needs to be reported to the police so they will take him away fosometime. Otherwise, he is going to kill you. This guy thinks you are his private property he can treat anyhow and he has no fear of mistreating you. You either need to get the police involved so they can mistreat him too or if you have older brothers, uncles or cousins, who can go over to your house and warn him not to lay his hands anymore on you.

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  6. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Poster: wt is really scaring me is that he said, since I think my parents can save me, wen I die, its only autopsy dey can do and he won't leave a mark..

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    1. Anonymous3/15/2014

      Gosh your husband is retarded

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    2. Please poster RUN, RUN and RUN don't even look back. Your husband is sick in the head and needs help fast.

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    3. run my dear, but before you do, arrange people to beat him up too, let him get a taste of how it feels. stupid!!!

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    4. OK, he said this and you are still looking for advice on what to do? Seriously? That's YOUR murder he is talking about right there. He already sees you as a corpse, a CADAVER!. And you're still there?
      Chai!

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    5. happymrs3/17/2014

      WHATT!!! Jesus! And we are still here talking plenty... Girl pleaaaase run for your life please. Somebody talking so casually about murder??pls my dear ur family still need u and ur baby too. Get away from that idiot fast.

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    6. Anonymous3/17/2014

      And youre still there? seriously, dnt worry, maybe when ure dead and there is no one to look after your child that you will realize that you should have ran when u had the chance. Marriage is not a do or die affair. If its not working, walk out. or they will carry your dead body out, simple. You are living with a beast. A man that doesn't want to get better and a man who doesn't love you.

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  7. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Dear Poster, with your last comment it's obvious that your husband feels he's Zeus! File a complaint with the police and take ur daughter with you to your parents house. It's not by force to be married to him.

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  8. your beast has serious low self esteem issues. sigh..ladiessss!!just because you get pregnant you should not marry him!! you need to leave and start your life because this will not stop soon. i mean you left already and he came back to beg and he's still beating you..please save yourself for your daughter and not for a beast that may kill you soon or make you disabled !!! marriage nor be by force!! YOU ARE ONLY 26!!!geez

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  9. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Am sorry to say,pls ladies,let's learn to keep ourselves before marriage by not having sex! If the foundation is faulty,what will d righteous do? The bible says NO to fornication.Arowolo dat killed his wife 2,d wife was pregnant b4 d wedding,I also read on a blog about a pregnant lady dat d husband killed some weeks after marriage! Don't you know dat dese men will tink u used pregnancy as a trap for dem,so marriage na by force! Its even a respect for d lady to keep her legs closed before marriage. Ladies,no matter what,observe ur spouse in ur relationship,forget d loveydovey bcos dese men already exhibit dis traits but we are always blind to it bcos of d love we have for dem! Also,PRAYER is also a key factor b4 marriage! Pray,pray and Pray and don't ignore some warning signs or tink dat d man will change after marriage.I have a friend (talking from personal experience now) who was also pregnant b4 her wedding,after giving birth,d husband ran away and up till now,he's nowhere to b found! Ladies,if u rush in,u rush out!Am in my thirties and av neva had sex bcos av made a vow to my God that its only my husband dat will av sex wit me and dats even after marriage! Am just saying the plain truth and I pray God helps us all-AMEN
    ADEYANJU

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    1. Anonymous3/15/2014

      I had sex with my hubby on d 1st date.
      we ve two lovely kids.
      He has never ever used it against me, he even tells pple that it is love at 1st sight.
      He spoils me rotten, I have access to he's money at all times, I know how much he earns, he spoils me rotten.
      I think it depends on d man.
      poster: u were right to report to he's parents just that he has no respect for them.
      pls leave b4 u die there, we are deserve happiness.
      That environment is bad for a child, u may think shes small but toddlers soak things up like sponge

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    2. Anonymous3/15/2014

      We all*

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    3. Anonymous3/17/2014

      Anonymous 6:03, sex before marriage is WRONG, what is bad before God is bad. I guess God made ur husband specially thats why he treats u that way so u gotta thank God for him.Anonymous 3:06, pls keep protecting ur virginity and our God who rewards will surely reward u handsomely and you ll testify dt it pays to honor the word of God.
      As for the poster u need to stay away from ur husband for some time while u pray for him. Note:not divorce, am a strong voice against spousal abuse/ Divorce. Give him time, it doesn't matter how long while God works on him cos if u keep living with him, it may cost u your life.God be with you

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    4. Anon 6:03 like seriously you had sex with ur hubby on the first day and u are proud to say it, just thank your God u are lucky cos having sex with a man before marriage is wrong whether first day or last day...dont encourage such cos not everybody will b lucky as u were!!

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    5. Anonymous3/19/2014

      She's not d only 1.her own is even sane, as in 2st date. Dat means she saw him 4 sum tym b4 dey went on a date. Had sex wiv ma hubby on d 1st day I met him at a frnd's n it was d most intense feelin. D feelin was very mutual. Married 2day wiv a son n very heavy expecting anoda. It is wrong yes buh stil wrks.

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  10. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Poster please leave that marriage, you are too young to be going through this kind of DV, you need to be alife to take care of your baby

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  11. Anonymous3/15/2014

    whether she had sex before marriage and got pregnant is not the point, there are several people my parents inclusive who got pregnant before marriage and are happily married till today.

    Madam poster I take God beg you please leave that marriage as he was beating you when you were breast feeding what if something happened to the baby? Clearly the man hates you and that child abeg run o! Even if he comes begging don't go back until you have a conviction that he has changed

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  12. Anonymous3/15/2014

    poster did u heard of titilayo a banker that was killed by her husband? this is how it all started.. if u don't run for your life hiaa.

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  13. Dear Poster. One of the worst things this boy-in-a-man's-body can do to you is not just giving you scars but reducing your self esteem to nothing thereby making you feel life and all men are worthless(which is a huge lie); and at which point some persons start considering suicide but that shall never be your portion if only you embrace wisdom .
    He definitely needs help but doesn't know it yet.

    If you can, prepare him a great meal when he's back home. After eating, kneel (painful but do it) and apologize to him. Don't be in a hurry to harsh him. He'll be gloating thinking he's won.
    I will advice you to park your bags and leave that house to your in law's(if you have such good relationship with them) or to your parent's house.
    He'll come begging but please don't return to that house until:
    • He's ready to seek for help and is already on it
    •You've prayerfully surrounded and fortified yourself.

    This man can kill at this state. Don't give up on the man you loved and married but please know that you must be alive to enjoy the changes you seek.

    Good luck and make una dey share testimony coz it encourages us

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  14. pickme3/15/2014

    Everyone telling her to go back wen she see change in d man, wat if d man pretend to change for her to come back and she goes only for us to hear she is dead or disfigured? (God forbide) my dear take a walk never to look back get a job or business if u don't have and take care of ur child.

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    1. Anonymous3/17/2014

      Exactly!!! Why should she return to a killer? The guy actually deserves a thorough beating or a minimum of one week with hard labour behind bars. This is one of the reasons my heart bleeds for Nigeria. No protection whatsoever for women. This man belongs to the zoo...chai.

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  15. From my experience, I'll advice u too leave d marriage now b4 he kills u before time. Men like that don't change . I always put mine in prayer n fasting that he shd change instead it got worse. Just take ur daughter n leave without him knowing, u can get a job or start up a biz. Its well dear

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  16. Poster please keep us posted on this issue. Don't bottle things up nor try to do it all on your own. We are all here for you, OK?

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    1. Anonymous3/15/2014

      Poster: alright I will. Jst thinking of wt d future holds.. I knew from d 1st slap dt it cld only get worse from here, and I told him.. Dis didn't happen yle we were dating.. I'm more of d touch me and its d end of d relationship kind of person.. Finding myself in dis situation I felt so ashamed.. I considered suicide but I tot of my mother and my baby and family, I'll only break their hearts.. So deep in tots abt wt to do from here

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    2. Like seriously?i cant believe this!and u saying u thinking of what to do?Lawd have mercy!are u stupid or he has beaten your brain away?
      do u have a sustainable source of income?
      if not is that why you are still in this prison?
      In 2014 u allow a man to beat u and u still stay?i cannot believe this crap!
      and as somebody said a marriage that was constructed on pregnancy is totally flawed and bound to fail!
      Let him marry u for the right reasons not because you got pregress.
      and i cant believe some people wld use christian tag on them and condemn people who try to uphold Bible standards.U dont know better than our creator and wrong is wrong!
      Poster abeg run for ur life and DONT EVER GO back!that beast isnt fit to be called a husband,he deserves to rot in jail and dammit report him to the Police!
      I'm angry at him but more ANGRY AT YOU bcos u give him the green light to do this nonsense to you..

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    3. Anonymous3/15/2014

      Marriage constructed on pregnancy is NEVER destined to fail abeg.
      it depends on the man.
      I know lots of solid marriages where d bride was heavily pregnant on d D day.
      pls dnt generalise

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  17. Fyn Ijebu Chic3/15/2014

    Poster, pls do me a favour and return to your parent's
    I know pple will talk(na dem get their mouth)
    For the next 3years, focus on yourself and your baby.
    If he gives u a divorce(accept it and move on)
    Some men have foundational problems and cannot change except God changes dem, dey can only pretend to have changed.
    He will come begging if u've been good to him but don't be moved by his tears(na salt and water)
    Thousands of pple out there love you and you are too young, beautiful and talented to die.
    Remember the Ikorodu lady,it aint easy but @ d end ur peace is assured.
    We love you!!!

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  18. Anonymous3/15/2014

    My dear sister...... What are u waiting for????? Run like snake, lion, tiger, hyena,cheetah etc dey chase u at once! Your story sounds like one of my very dear friend! She left with her pregnancy! Pls leave abeg, biko, jor leave.

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  19. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Please leave that house. Sometimes these men that maltreat their wives act like demigods or like these women don't have families.Go back to your parents,get it together and stay alive for your daughter and parents. People will talk and speculate, but everything will be alright in the end. Your husband doesn't deserve your love or any other person's for that matter. Mscheeew

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  20. Anonymous3/15/2014

    Na wa o. Poster we all here can type from now till tomorrow that you should leave before he kills you. But the truth remains that you know the monster you are married to more than we do.
    After all the advise, everything is in your hands.

    PRIORITIZE your life and that of your baby, mum dad and everyone that loves you .

    This was not the purpose of marriage; to kill your joy and make u less a human than u were before. This is not the purpose of marriage; to make u contemplate suicide.

    You need space. You need to get your life back. You need to focus on God, life and the beautiful things God gives in life.

    Staying with him will not make u think of these. All u will think of is how sad life is to u. Thats why u think of ending it.

    My advice to u. RATHER THAN ENDING YOUR LIFE, END THE MARRIAGE #NuffSaid

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  21. Anonymous3/16/2014

    Dear Poster, if you have time to write about this and read the advice then please please please take one action at a time: Abuse of any form is not acceptable. Dont wait for your parents to solve anything. Take the matter in your own hands!!!! Please take these firm steps. YOU ARE WORTH IT AND DESERVE ONLY THE BEST!!!
    1. When he is out of the house pack a bag with the your belongings, hire a taxi and go to your parents house straight. . Thank God you have parents to go to!
    3. If you value your life, initiate divorce..whether its traditional or modern. Get a lawyer fast and initiate the divorce. So that legally he has no claim to you. He will show many colors and say wonderful poems of how he has seen the light of God and angels and has changed. IT IS A LIE. DO NOT BELIEVE HIM!!!
    Men are simple. A man is judged by his actions not what he says, His action of beating you while even breast feeding shows who he is. SIMPLE!! Nothing but God will change him and even if God change him I wouldnt step near him. If they they tie up a lion's mouth should I still go and sit near it??? NOOOOOO
    Remember what God says about love in the Bible"
    "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
    THIS IS NOT LOVE!!!!! You are worthy of proper love and care. This is not what God intended. You deserve absolute love and care. You are valuable and precious. Walk away from this. God will take care of everything. Value yourself and walk away!!!

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    1. I like your paa, for a moment i thot it was me who had written this especially your point no3,it soo important because some would advice her to go back if he comes begging.
      but one thing i have realized is that if he comes begging,it means he has missed his punching bag and his househelp not you the person as a wife.
      A man who pummels you when breastfeeding his own child!kai!he is more than a monster.
      and please dont pray for him or look inwards at yourself,there is ABSOLUTELY no justification for a man who hits a woman!NO
      JUSTIFICATION!
      and pls read 1Corinthias 13:4-8 that how LOVE is supposed to be.
      Please i beg you let NO ONE deceive u to look inwards or pray for him,it wont solve nada.Leave and get a divorce!All men are not the same,better men who love and respect women abound.
      Thank You.

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  22. Anonymous3/16/2014

    God be praised women of WC finally making sense in advice to DV victims keep it up ladies this is the way to go. Poster the ball is in your court we do not want to read of your husband's trial for murdering you few months down the road. That is all.

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    1. Anonymous3/16/2014

      Take several seats anonymous. This case is peculiar. Its probably the worst so far.

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    2. Anonymous3/16/2014

      Where do you want me to take pick them Wembley or White Hart Lane or Vue? Pick one and let me know please okay.

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  23. Please leave! leave as soon as possible…You can get better and you deserve better!

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  25. My name is patsy, and I say LEAVE!.

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  26. Anonymous3/16/2014

    poster, do u want to be killed? Pls abeg leave d house o,

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  27. Anonymous3/16/2014

    Hmmm na wah o,ds one hard o,consult ur pastor,seek for advice,I no even know wetin to talk sef,may God direct u on the right path to take,its well o,ds marriage mata sef,hmmm,is not a do or die affair o,mrs m

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  28. Khadeejah3/16/2014

    poster what in God's name are you waiting for? believe me his attitude will only get worse. on the average kids from abusive home eventually turns to also be abusive. do u want your kid to grow up seeing this? Pls dear you really need to up and leave ASAP.

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  29. Anonymous3/17/2014

    Now another annoying comment on WC...you should not tell parents but talk to your pastor. When has your pastor become more important than you parents. Its people like dis that causes the WC headline we saw some time ago. Please please and please.....serve God, leave that marriage, file for divorce, earn money, bring up your child and another relationship will come calling. By d time you experience true love, then you will thank WC for this advise.

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  30. except there is something else your hiding concerning this maybe from your side,then you wld have gone a long time ago probably writing this as a form of testimony for what God did to save you.every reasonable human being should know by the content of this post that your husb should be in no other place other than the psychiatrist or home for mentally deranged people under heavy bound.save your life by taking this bold step bc your are the only person that can do that.not your parents or parents in law or even wc family members.or do you want another person to help you thake care of your baby while you are on eternity leave 6 by 6?this is just the bitter truth.

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  31. Anonymous3/17/2014

    Abeg leave. please please please. you are very young. go and focus on your life and baby's. please am in tears for you, leave and before your baby is wean you can take up teaching job. AND MAKE SURE HE DOES NOT GET CUSTODY OF YOUR KID, SO REPORT HIM TO ANY HUMAN RIGHTS TO START FORM THERE CUZ HE WILL SURELY ABUSE YOUR BABY.

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    1. Anonymous3/17/2014

      A spell caster is of the devil and the word of God is very much against it, pls read the bible in the book of Acts 16:16, Acts 8:9-24. The devil will give u a gift and will take it back seven folds.All that the native doctor helped u achieve is not real, the man ur married to and other things will soon fizzle away. Only the Lord Jesus gives gift without adding any sorrow to it. Proverbs 10:22. Pls seek him and accept him as ur Lord and Saviour

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    2. Anonymous3/17/2014

      419 tinz, you need Jesus!

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  33. Anonymous3/17/2014

    Hmmm dis DV issue,I hope my brother's wife is reading this stories,even as her sis inlaw have adviced her several times to leave d marriage for where she's still there o,my brother almost killed her a day after xmas heavily pregnant,she lost d pregnancy and she has not gotten herself up till date,my brother beats and insult her in d present of her two girls even in public sef@ poster pls leave that marriage it is not worth it,ur life is more important.may d Lord be with u

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    1. Anonymous3/17/2014

      you are a good person, even though he is ur brother but u still choose to call a spade a spade, just pray that God will show her what to do at this point cos i must tell you when a woman loves her husband too much, all advise will fall on deaf ears esp. in cases such as this.just pray for her

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  34. Anonymous3/17/2014

    Kai na wa for some men oh....Totally shameless!

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  35. Anonymous3/17/2014

    dear save ur life and that of ur baby. No body not even the church supports any marriage that is a risk to life. Please separate yourself from him and save ur life. Even if it means being single for the rest of ur life its better than being a married woman in d grave killed by her hubby Its about ur daughter now, be alive for her. The kind of marriage u had depends on wether u can divorce him but what ever be the case be where ur life is secure.

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  36. Anonymous3/17/2014

    dear save ur life and that of ur baby. No body not even the church supports any marriage that is a risk to life. Please separate yourself from him and save ur life. Even if it means being single for the rest of ur life its better than being a married woman in d grave killed by her hubby Its about ur daughter now, be alive for her. The kind of marriage u had depends on wether u can divorce him but what ever be the case be where ur life is secure.

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  37. Anonymous3/17/2014

    dear save ur life and that of ur baby. No body not even the church supports any marriage that is a risk to life. Please separate yourself from him and save ur life. Even if it means being single for the rest of ur life its better than being a married woman in d grave killed by her hubby Its about ur daughter now, be alive for her. The kind of marriage u had depends on wether u can divorce him but what ever be the case be where ur life is secure.

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  38. Anonymous3/17/2014

    dear save ur life and that of ur baby. No body not even the church supports any marriage that is a risk to life. Please separate yourself from him and save ur life. Even if it means being single for the rest of ur life its better than being a married woman in d grave killed by her hubby Its about ur daughter now, be alive for her. The kind of marriage u had depends on wether u can divorce him but what ever be the case be where ur life is secure.

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  39. Anonymous3/17/2014

    dear save ur life and that of ur baby. No body not even the church supports any marriage that is a risk to life. Please separate yourself from him and save ur life. Even if it means being single for the rest of ur life its better than being a married woman in d grave killed by her hubby Its about ur daughter now, be alive for her. The kind of marriage u had depends on wether u can divorce him but what ever be the case be where ur life is secure.

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  40. Priscy3/17/2014

    Plz I beg you for the sake of your child....RUN and NEVER look back. Haba, who da hell does that ur monster of a huband think he is. Kai, I'm pained. I wish I knew you, I would just arrange some soldiers to handle dat ur hubby for you small. @ least make him test hin own medicine.

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  41. Madam don't u hv brodas that can teach him a lesson?

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  42. Anonymous3/19/2014

    Titilayo covered her own, made excuses that Akolade will change. She left and he came begging that he has changed. His facebook was another 'Sermon Central'. But where is Titilayo Arowolo today? Dead; butchered by the same husband who she returned back to after his supposed 'change'.
    Do not be another number to the list of victims of domestic violence. PLS Run for your life and the life of your daughter. Do not look back. This is his nature, he will never change until Jesus Christ returns.
    If you love your daughter enough, pls run from this beast cos if he murders you, chances are that he gets a death sentence or a life jail term and your daughter ends up technically an orphan. Is that what you want? Remember, 'Wisdom is profitable to direct' So be wise.

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  43. Anonymous3/20/2014

    Madam Poster take him unawares and get out of there with your daughter. Come back with your family and arrest him. He must sign an agreement that he should be held responsible if any should happen to you. Get a job& give yourself some time before you hop into another relationship.

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  44. Anonymous3/20/2014

    You need to be very careful. I don't think he will change. Remember dead body no dey marry person.

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  45. Anonymous3/20/2014

    My dear, my advise is this, if u work or have ur on money good, but if u don't quickly rally round gada enuf money evn steall a lot of his money n Valuables get urself a place in anoda town or city not close 2 ur parents or his,just a nutral place, change ur line n place make sure u take ur child n don't let him notice ur moves o, b4 he gets back frm whr eva uv gone, just call ur parents n tell dem ur safe, let him settle himself wit his parents n urs,if he comes begging wit grate change n remorse 2 ur parents n dat wud be after much investigations on his new behaviour, den comme back 2 him , but if he dosent pls after say 2yrs, pls devorce him n remarry,and be more careful this time,Note old habits die hard, he may never change ,xcept by Gods intervention,and in all don't 4get 2 always pray,wish u d best dear,be strong especially 4 ur child

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  47. Yoshie3/21/2014

    Poster, what are you still doing there. We don't even know you to attend your wake keep. Abeg, ruuuuuuuuuuun before you start speaking from the grave. Think of your child.

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  48. Anonymous3/22/2014

    Sorry poster, u married a boy with an overwhelming inferiority complex! Get out of the marriage and concentrate on urself and kid. Dedicate ur life to God.

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  49. Anonymous3/22/2014

    unto the lord be the glory
    great things he has done
    unto the Lord be the glory great thing she has done
    congrats ma

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  50. Anonymous4/09/2014

    HMMMMMM i feel so much pain for u poster cos my situation isnt as bad less dan a yr married and while i was takin my oat trouble was already brewin so u shld know from day 1 of my marriage,pls wat dis lady needs is help askin her to report to human rights (WHICH ONE) asking her to get a job wer?women in situations like dis r lost emotionally nd physically like in my case how do i move?i brought in electronics hw do i move all dis or sell dem dat he wont notice? pls if any1 can help dis lady give her solutions yes she knows d solution is leave but how?

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