Who Makes The First Move? The New Neighbor Or You?

I watch foreign movies and I see that  when people move into a new neighbourhood, they sometimes take cookies or something to their next door neighbours to introduce themselves as the new family that just moved into  this or that building, and I like it. 

I
don't know if this happens in Nigeria cos we form a lot here o. When you get new neighbors, do you go to welcome them or they come to introduce themselves? OR, do we just mind our businesses until a child is celebrating a birthday when we need their kids and then we go knocking to introduce ourselves as neighbours and invite their kids over?

Which is the proper thing to do abeg, I'll like to know.

Comments

  1. Anonymous1/16/2014

    Simple if you have a new neighbour go over and say hi and welcome them to the neighbourhood. You do not necessarily have to knock on their door you could use opportunities like when you bump into them outside to do so. If there are many stay at home mum's and the new neighbour is also a stay at home mum you could invite her over to one of your homes to welcome her family to the neighbourhood. The best time to welcome them is when they are moving in pop over and say hi and offer to help unload their items.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/17/2014

      Please I neeed the contact of someone that makes smallchops before sunday! Urgent please

      Delete
    2. Anonymous1/17/2014

      07062282288- cuisine exotic

      Delete
  2. No Anon, it is proper for the newcomer to look for the landlords (Those who have been there before you came), do some introduction and chat briefly. That way the old neighbours can decide to invite the new neighbour over or go visit at another time.
    OFFER TO HELP UNLOAD ITEMS when they still see you as a stranger?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/16/2014

      From the first anon 7:21 I was raised to always welcome people who found me in a place and vice versa as in to welcome new people. I do not think it is proper to make new tenants go in search of the "landlord" the term you used. The way I was raised if you come home and find visitors had come you go in search of and greet the visitors not wait for the visitors to come looking for you and greet you irrespective of age. I go to my aunt's house she is not home but is told I am around when she arrives at home she comes searching for me to welcome me.

      Delete
    2. Anonymous1/16/2014

      Nigerians are too overly suspicious try offering to help someone one day you will be surprised at their response. Sometimes people need help but are afraid to ask because of the overly suspicious nature present in Nigeria. In Yankee offering to help to unload or carry items for new tenants/home owners in you neighborhood is the norm

      Delete
  3. Just Married1/16/2014

    I just moved into this neighbourhood on Saturday and so far no one has bothered to even bump into me or hubby not to talk of welcomimg us, should I be bothered by this unfriendliness/

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/16/2014

      dont let it bother u. Just be greeting them and mind ur biz . U knw naija mentality.

      Delete
  4. Anonymous1/16/2014

    when we moved 2 none cared. Til 2day i dnt knw my neighbours vry well. Though it is flat sha. And we dnt care joor. Is almost 7 mnths nw. Evry one mind ur biz. But d landlord and wf are nice . They welcum us

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is better.my neighbour moved in months ago and she comes to my house for everything.even brings leftover food to put in my freezer.na flat we dey live.it pisses me

      Delete
    2. Anonymous1/18/2014

      Na wa o. Just be careful o because dat habit is bad and if u try to stp her na fight be dat. U shuld hv stopped her since..

      Delete
  5. Funny enough I was asking this question just dis morning.
    We also moved last sunday to a new place n we are yet to meet any of our neigbours. I was equally raised to knw that its the old tenants that welcomes the new ones bt I hv also grown to knw that, its not the case anymore, everyone minds his/her own business nowadays.
    Some even see it as beneath them( as someone kindly told me)

    The new trend is to greet n exchange pleasantries when you finally get to meet them aside from that, nobody they bother my sister!

    ReplyDelete
  6. Anonymous1/17/2014

    It depends,I was raised in an environment where the new tenant prepares ugba and all tenants gather at the landlords place. Abroad no one cares, I was raised to help elders but now if I do so I will be looked at suspicionsly

    ReplyDelete
  7. Anonymous1/17/2014

    Hmm,my dear people are different u know,if ur new neighbour comes to greet u,welcome them but I will prefer u the old tenant to go and welcome them cos u will be the one to teach them the rules and regulations of the street,okay let's look at it this way,when a new baby is born is it not the old ones that goes to welcome him? Or do u expect the new born to come welcome u.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Anonymous1/17/2014

    Nobody cares dese days jst greet dem anytym u bump into dem or wen ders an occasion u jst go der & show face.

    ReplyDelete
  9. Anonymous1/17/2014

    Pls , is it good for a pregnant woman to eat banana, does it cause jaundice?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/17/2014

      Bananas are very good for U n d causes of jaundice does not hv banana among them.
      No food actually causes jaundice in children.

      Delete
  10. I would go over nd welcome them to d neighbourhood... From their response, I would know if I'm gonna b friendly or a politely distant neighbour.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Anonymous1/17/2014

    My mum brought me up to relate well with my neighbours Oo┬║°˚ weda new or old until a neighbour's wife accused me of sleeping with her husband something I have never in my life thought of doing just becos I join the man to work. So from that day I signed OYO for myself in my neghbourhood. New or old. TOo bad

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/17/2014

      Lol,but why will u help the man ,why u no help the woman,anyway don't blame her cos u will do same if is u. At my own yard,everybody relates with me well thue I'm not the sitdown make we chat wife but their is only one woman from the same state With me thue she is married to another state,any time I greet this woman she will respond as if I'm blocking her from achiving a devilish goal only her knows but the children will always love to play with my kids any time we are down stairs even to say hi to my little kids na wahala for her but me sha children always love me cos any time her kids sees me they run to me and greet me cause of the sweet pet names I do call them even in their mothers presence.

      Delete
    2. Anonymous1/17/2014

      Wetin she help the man do abi u no read her comment well u just jump to reply

      Delete
    3. Anonymous1/19/2014

      dont mind her. She didnt understand d comment. Mtcheew.

      Delete
  12. Wen my neighbours moved in,i jst had a baby @ d tym,i went ova 2 say hi,bt afta dat anytym I met dem outside i'd jst say 'hi' I dnt go in2 their comp xcpt wen necessary,n d respect is der.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Wen my neighbours moved in,i jst had a baby @ d tym,i went ova 2 say hi,bt afta dat anytym I met dem outside i'd jst say 'hi' I dnt go in2 their comp xcpt wen necessary,n d respect is der.

    ReplyDelete
  14. I would so appreciate it if I move and old tenants come to welcome me, it'd make me feel loved. So in this case I'll reach out first to a new neighbour coz am the one that supposedly knows the terrain better.
    However I'd be a little discreet coz too much reaching out, they might feel encroached

    ReplyDelete
  15. Anonymous1/17/2014

    It depends on the neighbour oo, whether old or new. Before they start to see you as a gbeborun that cannot mind her business.You never know whether they are good people or not. I'd rather wait and study the neighbour first before reaching out to them, new or old. I no fit shout abeg.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/18/2014

      All you have to do is say "hi welcome to the neighbourhood if you need any help or clarification with anything in this neighbourhood feel free to ask me I live at number 39" no one is asking you to go over for amebo session with new neighbours

      Delete
    2. Anonymous1/23/2014

      Anon 11.32pm. I'm not saying one should go for 'amebo sessions'. if you have ever been unlucky to meet the kind of neighbour I had for 6 years, no one will tell you to learn to mind your business until you are sure of the kind of neighbour moving into your compound or neighbourhood. I pray you never encounter 'Mdm General' as a neighbour. I'm talking from experience so don't misquote me.

      Delete
  16. Anonymous1/19/2014

    i stay in an estate, when i moved in, in my wedding gown, what i got was stares, no one came to say hi, during the naming ceremony of the kids, no one bothered to peep to see what is going on, its very unsettling cos i dont know my neighbours incase of energencies(God forbid) i had to go gate to gate to invite their kids for our birthday party, some came and now the parents are a bit friendly.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Anonymous1/19/2014

    I've lived in the same building for 5 yrs, we all don't enter each other flats, we greet when we see on the way. When I had my kids, only 2 of my neighbors came to congratulate us those times. So I'm paying back in kind too, when my neighbor had hers meself no go. Building of 6 flats, we don't enter each other's flat, d something taya me, but in a way its good too.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/19/2014

      Thank God u knw sai e gd. What are u entering each others house 4? Mind ur biz! Is d best o

      Delete
    2. When neighbours can't enter each other's houses? Naaa, not a good neighbourhood abeg.

      Delete
    3. Anonymous1/20/2014

      entering each others house 4 what? To gossip, or to help in domestic wk? Just tel me.

      Delete
  18. Anonymous1/19/2014

    It is bad when neighbours do not relate not to talk of not entering each other's houses. Incase of an emergency, let me tell you that it's your neighbour you call first before your your sister arrives from another town, your neighbour must have intervened.

    Hubby wasn't around when labour started at midnight and who took me to hospital and stood by till the following day when my husband arrived? My neighbour and his wife. Be concerned if you live where neighbours cannot be neighbours, wetin all of una dey hide inside una houses???

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Anonymous1/20/2014

      u can be friendly with ur neighbour. But as 4 going to d house to sit down and talk. Nt me. I greet, talk with mine but i have neva entered any ones house. We are in d flat 4 7 mnths nw.

      Delete
  19. Hahaha. I have this neighbor that only started talking to us the day armed robbers attacked her compound and she needed my husband to come around. Unfortunately my husband wasn't home( me I ran and locked door o. But I called other neighbors to help sha) now she even let's her kids visit. Strange world

    ReplyDelete
  20. Hahaha. I have this neighbor that only started talking to us the day armed robbers attacked her compound and she needed my husband to come around. Unfortunately my husband wasn't home( me I ran and locked door o. But I called other neighbors to help sha) now she even let's her kids visit. Strange world

    ReplyDelete
  21. Anonymous1/23/2014

    its nt bad to chat with them but i wil nt enter there and sit down or make it a habit.

    ReplyDelete
  22. Anonymous1/24/2014

    Anonymous 9.05 am .....chao chops....fantastic. Numbers,08059362881,08166593218. U ll thank me laer....

    ReplyDelete
  23. Anonymous1/24/2014

    Ahan,how du I get my name to appear on this fin nah? It was only anonymous dt went thru.*crying*lolll.neways, d lady lukn for small chops,call chao.
    Oluwatomi.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Anonymous1/24/2014

    Ahan,how du I get my name to appear on this fin nah? It was only anonymous dt went thru.*crying*lolll.neways, d lady lukn for small chops,call chao.
    Oluwatomi.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Click on the pictures to make them bigger.
Feel free to email us with comments, suggestions, recipe ideas, or pretty much anything!
Contact Email: cuulme@gmail.com

Most comments are by other blog readers. Always seek Professional Help First.
“As an Amazon Associate I earn a little commission when you shop from links placed on this blog.”

SHARE THIS POST