I Caught My Husband Bathing Naked With My Younger Sister

Aunty eya please I need an advice. I caught my husband bathing naked with my my younger sister. And he refused to
apologize I don't know whether to report them or not. 
Please advise me on the next step to take.

Comments

  1. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Dear poster,theres alot of tins to b worried about,shout to d world and let dem no wats happening in ur home.report to pple he fear in his family and urs some elders he cant say no to.its ur home u have to stand up to ur right i wont say u shld leave d house cos anoda man u will marry might b more bad dan dat.so tell pple and with prayers all tins are possible

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    1. Anonymous9/25/2013

      You need to go back to school dear Anon 7.30pm. No be curse, na advice. Your written English is horrible. I really hope it's because of holy anger against the Poster's husband.

      As for the Poster, this is not a matter to be handled silently or internally. Your husband and sister obviously have no respect for you and can even plan evil against you. I fear for your safety.

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    2. Anonymous9/26/2013

      @Anon 9 :26, oh please must you act like I know it all.
      You need to go back to school to learn how to spell 'only' not holy before trying to correct anon7:30....
      Advice & not look for fault in people's comment.

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    3. Anonymous9/26/2013

      @Anon 5.50 am -- I actually meant 'holy' not 'only', thank you very much!

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  2. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Do we need to spell it out for you? CALL A FAMILY MEETING!!!!!

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  3. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Tufiakwa bikonu!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Men can be dreadful honestly. Karma will hit him real hard. maybe not now but surely. And that sister of yours, may God punish her for the rest of her life. But I got to tell you my dear your own is finished o. He has seen a better version of you. (my greatest fear). You better report them to every possible person. Raise hell!!!

    That said me I would have set them two on fire! Bloody bastards.

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  4. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Shout it tu d world so dat pple ll no & mayb sm secrets ll b brogt tu limelight bt dy r both shameless;2 speechless&angry tu continue,its well.

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  5. The question shouldn't be you don't know whether to report them or not but rather when and how to report them. You definitely cannot let this go just like that. I suggest before you make any move sit you sister down and find out what actually happened. As for your husband since he doesn't even want to apologize don't give him the luzury of listening to him. Call for a family meeting and lay down your concerns. Lastly you definitely have to send your sister away for the good of both of you
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  6. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Pls poster b4 u send ur sister away or call family meeting pls beat d hell out of ur sister 1st, what can fa d rubbish?. For ur husband pls leave him with his degrading behaviour, I hope they have not been having sex?..
    if possible let his responsible friends know about what he has done, d ones u know will finish him with abuses n talk sense into his head..
    Pls ASAP call family meeting, his mother, father n ur parents too.
    Omo, this is a lot to imagine o..pls b prayerful.
    Best of luck.

    Adebubler

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    1. You hope they have not been having sex?

      Of course they have! They actually just finished one round of sex and decided to shower together.

      @ Poster, don't keep quiet on this. If your sister and husband can do this, they can also plot evil against you. Tell it to your family members and inlaws too.

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    2. Anonymous9/26/2013

      Adebubler tanx for ur comment. @poster set a day for ur sis and pretend as if u want to talk to her one one. Be nice to her so she doesn't suspect anytin. lock ur selves in a room and beat the living daylight out of her.
      My anger for ur situation can not be poured in writing. Choi! My sis n husband*a figure in my mouth* I will kill her first b4 thinkin abt wat to do to my husband.
      C betrayal*angry face*
      @poster if u need help beatin ur si pls let knw, wil gladly help u.
      *4giv any typo cus I am so angry

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    3. Anonymous9/26/2013

      *finger

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  7. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Send ur sister away. Definately there is something btw them,is nt possible to let someone c ur nakednes unles u ar sleeping wit d person. Poster u ar too gentle o, if na me,na dat day then go tel m wetin dey btw them.

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  8. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Na wa o! Dem don dey do bad bad thing o. UR SISTER IS A BIG FOOL! HW OLD IS SHE? 4 UR HUSBAND HE IS SHAMELESS! ASK UR SISTER HW IT CAME TO THAT. ALSO MK SURE UR PPLE KNW ABT IT AND HIS? ABOMINATION! Abomicity o.

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  9. wonderful sister and hubby. first, send your sister packing immediately. just hope she ain't pregnant yet. make a serious report to your inlaws and your family. handle wit prayers. this is rather terrible o. but come o, you mean you never noticed anything atall all this while. they must have been doing it right under your nose. gosh! smooth operators. be watchful people.

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    1. Anonymous9/27/2013

      i agree here with you. there was something really going on.

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  10. Pray!! call for a family meeting..God will heal your pain..

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  11. Osenobua n'aba me....

    Do you need a prophet before you blv they are digging each other!

    Well like women love to hear and blv, men don't cheat. They were praying for you in the bathroom.. Special naked prayer!

    Or maybe it's global warming that caused them to bath together.




    Nuff'Said!

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  12. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Madam poster,sit ur sis down n get d truth n make sure u record wateva she says on ur fone witout her knowledge cos dat kind of man can deny d act in the presence of his family members ,after dat u can call for a family meeting.

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  13. Anonymous9/25/2013

    they have been sleeping together because thats the only way they can both shower together. This is tough though. your sister and your husband !!! hmm God forbid. i hope you do what is right.

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  14. Poster I dnt understnd u o! Wht is ur qtn again? U saw dem bathin 2geda n u dint nt allow d world 2 si dt nakedness? Nw I knw Der r som ova calmm peo. ChoI si gobe

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  15. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Over gentle na curse! Obviously the poster is that type. Those two have been fakcing forever! That's why they can easily take a shower together. And you are still sitting down waiting for apology. Ah. this thing is paining me for u o.

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  16. Anonymous9/25/2013

    Wat kind of family r u 4rm? 4 ur sis to do dat with ur hubby, 2 bad.. Just call a family meet urs n ur hubby family n tell them everytin. After dat ask ur sis to lv ur house..I know is not easy but try 2 4gv n love ur hubby,n pray 4 him 2 cos is not normal.

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  17. Wooow poster, its either u r a very calm person or your husband has left u with low self esteem. Does he love u at all? Imagine! He has d guts not to apologise$ wait a minute after u saw them, what was ur reaction? You didn't beat that sister and and express disgust to ur husband. Pls ooo call a big family meeting, his parents, friends he respects, elders, pastor. He must sincerely be sorry. And for him to be doing this with ur sister in ur house, who knows what he is doing outside. Pls take a stand in prayer, pray against every strange woman in ur husbands life, evey strange woman must surrender and leave. Pray that whatever act that is contray to God words in his life, he should not be comfortable doing it, every atmosphere that is not of the Holy spirit he shall not have rest in such an atmosphere. He will not find rest until he comes to know God and love u as God commanded a man should love his wife. Wake up at night n pray and pray without ceasing. Never underestimate d power of a praying woman, be a prophet over ur home. Decree and declare what will happen and what can never happen in ur home. Sorry for d long talk.

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      That's d way 2go, u are a woman of prayer no doubt, I'm loving u already.

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  18. Anonymous9/26/2013

    Even if U caught them bathing clothed.......dont kp quiet over this matter.

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  19. Too many things are missing from this story for people to give you advice.... how old is your sister? was she forced? is she wasnt, why only your husband had to apologized to you? what is your sister saying in that?

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    1. Anonymous9/26/2013

      Thank u KC, what about your sis? Has she apologised Abi na only hubby apology you care about? Missmich

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  20. Anonymous9/26/2013

    This is indeed sad, your sister doesnt have enough respect for you, why on earth would she do such a thing? I dont really know what to tell you to do but if i were to be in your shoes, the 1st thing i'll do is beat the hell out of my sister and send her out of my house, and that stupid husband, if after expressing myself, he doesnt show any regrets or what so ever, both families must here this, coz this is way out of control.

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    1. Anonymous9/27/2013

      yes yes. family supposed to stick together not betray each other

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  21. Anonymous9/26/2013

    I don't believe this story! Shikena!

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    1. MissDee9/26/2013

      Who cares whether you believe or not? Who knows about your existence by the way. Keep your Anonymous childish thoughts to yourself! Shikena

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    2. Anonymous9/27/2013

      Who knows or cares about ur existence as well, stupid small girl? I'm I not entitled to my opinion? What's ur business if I believe or not, why did u have to click on the reply button if u don't know about my existence? Or have u gone psycho? Or madness has entered ur system. Why don't people like u let others be? U better don't try me on this blog or else, u will hate and curse the day u were born. Stupid missdee, Retarted Fool. Bring it on Bitch!

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  22. Mrs Paddy9/26/2013

    Whattttt??? I don vex on ur behalf! This is the height of disrespect! Poster, i hope that you have borrowed megafone from the nearest mosque to announce this abomination? Chai, women have suffered. That husband of yours is not just a dog, but a cursed dog! Of all the people to band, na ur sister inlaw? And that your sister? Words fail me! Tell anybody who cares to listen abeg. Don't even hide it, shout it, scream it. Let everybody hear it, they have committed abomination and must be exposed.
    Poster, if you dare to sweep this under the rugs ehn, i fear for the future. You better start shouting o, so that their shameful acts will judge them.

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    1. Mrs Paddy9/26/2013

      *bang (plenty typos, na vex)

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    2. Anonymous9/26/2013

      Dear poster! U really do not need to post ur problems here for advice, are u a learner? Are u daft, word of advice, go to mushin market and hire 3 louzy yoruba women, hide dem in ur room and tell dem wat hapnd, invite ur sister in and pretend its a heart to heart sisterly talk, call d women out, tie her on her chest naked on d bed, get cameroun pepper (blackepepper) + yellow pepper fresh ginded pour it on her body and flog the shit ouTta her body wit the help of d market women as well, give her marks to last for a life time den kick her out of ur house, as for ur husband dnt b a dumb fool waiting for him to apologize, give him a divorce and expose him to the whole world, suprise him in church pretending to give a testimony and disgrace him in church, go to his work place and do the same thing, twitter, facebook, google+ all oda social media. I cud neva 4give both, bastards

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  23. Anonymous9/26/2013

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    1. Anonymous9/26/2013

      You are a psycho!

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  24. Gosh! the kind of advice some of us are giving this lady, am afraid that if she eventually carries it out it will be counter productive. it may even backfire. asking her to pour acid on her husband and sister is rather devilish and puts her in the same level with the culprits. where do you think she will end up. definitely this will trigger off a chain reaction and certainly the govt will come after her. please issue advice that will soothe her pain people.

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    1. Anonymous9/27/2013

      your right,...this type of violence will only make matters worse.

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  25. Anonymous9/26/2013

    wicked anon 2;02pm. If she were to b ur sister. U go pour her acid? Poster this one na witch o..

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  26. rossy baby9/26/2013

    wicked soul. If it were ur hubby u go chop off his peni**. Lol. And cut ur sister her breast.

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  27. Anonymous9/26/2013

    Anon 1.00 well said. I wonder what you are still doing in that house. Call family meeting, expose them. Your sister needs to be cursed. Ur husband should be an ex by now. How can u face such betrayal. This is what happens to people that don't speak up. If na me street people 4 don hear am so he doest feel ok with himself at home, street, office n family. Na waoh

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    1. Anonymous9/27/2013

      she shouldn't divorce him just yet. First, she should advice her sister to get a pregnancy test. if it's positive, then she should divorce him and let her sister have him.

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    2. Anonymous10/04/2013

      First,I would snap both of them naked n post it on all social medias and tag them n their friends. Subsequently I will pretend to have forgiven them even if they dint apologize. I will organise people that will dupe him to his last penny,since am an insider it will be easier. I will establish a good business fir myself secretly With the money.then when I am sure he is very broke n out I will pretend to be cheating on him,probably with a friend of his that will agree to d plan,next move I will file for a divorce. As for my sister,hehehe,she should just forget anything like marriage in her whole life cos I will so frustrate her. Then I know I must have gotten my sweet revenge,cos hell has no fury like a woman scorned. Chiza

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    3. Anonymous11/01/2014

      Na wa o

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  28. Anonymous9/27/2013

    Hummmmm. Its quite sad if ur sister could b this heartless. N for ur hubby he's so shameless so sorry to say that. Well,Ʊ really need to expose them both be4 its too late.

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  30. Anonymous9/27/2013

    The kinda stories they bring here get k-leg, how can u catch ur hubby bathing naked with your sis and u remember blogs even exist? Make una think am na.

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    1. Where she for suppose remember?? YOU?

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    2. Anonymous9/28/2013

      No Nelly, it's YOU. U r the solution to her problem.

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    3. Anonymous9/28/2013

      She should forget her own parents and relatives and remember you nelly and others, as if she dropped from heaven down to earth as an adult!
      How many of you would come here to tell us about your own skeletons in the cupboard?
      For her husband not to feel remorse, it shows that there is more to the story which is not shared!
      Women like gossip, that is why they rush like bees to nectar to suck it dry!
      When she and her husband settles, would you nelly and co be there?
      Do you know what goes on behind their close doors?
      Is it everything you tell people nelly?

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    4. Anonymous9/29/2013

      So it is only from blog people can get solution from nelly? smh

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  31. Anonymous9/27/2013

    The kinda stories they bring here get k-leg, how can u catch ur hubby bathing naked with your sis and u remember blogs even exist? Make una think am na.

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      Thank you for this observation!
      A woman's house is on fire and she remembers to send a mail to a blog?
      Shame would not let me share this kind of matter, because the owner of the blog would know my name and phone number.
      This type of stories pull comments, unlike others.
      Hope someone is not playing on our intelligence?

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    2. Anonymous9/28/2013

      SINCE YOU DON'T WANT US TO REMEMBER BLOGS, KINDLY SUGGEST PROFFESSIONAL COUNSELLORS OR ARE YOU ONE??????
      MTCHEWWWWWWW

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    3. Anonymous9/28/2013

      WHAT HAPPENED TO GOOGLE MADAME? SINCE YOUR LIVES ROTATE AROUND BLOGS AND THE INTERNET?
      WHAT HAPPENED TO CHURCH COUNSELORS MADAME? SINCE YOU ARE ALL SO RELIGIOUS?
      NO! AM NO COUNSELOR, NONE IS THE OWNER OF THIS BLOG OR YOU AND OTHERS!
      BEFORE THE COMING OF BLOGS, DIDN'T PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO RESOLVE THEIR PERSONAL ISSUES?
      IS THERE ANYTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN?
      PLEASE, TAKE SEVERAL SEATS BACKWARDS AND KEEP YOUR HISSSING TO YOUR SELF!!!! KAPESCH?????

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    4. You can help yourself by not visiting and leaving comments. We like to bting our issues here and advice ourselves but you are NOT NEEDED HERE. GO AWAY and leave us alone after all you are single and still seriously searching, Why are you here Madame Anon? Oh sorry you missed your way while trying to locate GOOGLE. SMH for your stupid comment.

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    5. You can help yourself by not visiting and leaving comments. We like to bting our issues here and advice ourselves but you are NOT NEEDED HERE. GO AWAY and leave us alone after all you are single and still seriously searching, Why are you here Madame Anon? Oh sorry you missed your way while trying to locate GOOGLE. SMH for your stupid comment.

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  32. Anonymous9/28/2013

    Na una sabi o. If u pple cant gv the poster advice u guys shuld shut ur trap!and if u think its just fables. Na una sabi.

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      Yes, na we sabi. Leave us with our sabiness na. Wetin concern u?

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    2. Anonymous9/28/2013

      U shud 1st learn 2 shut ur own maggot-infested trap of a mouth!
      wat sound advise was she given so far? dat she wud heed 2?
      y'all, repeating d same monotonous talk?
      did she tell y'all, she does nt no wat was going on in her home b/4 it climaxed 2 this?
      women! y'all, r d greatest, cunniest creatures on planet earth!

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  33. Anonymous9/28/2013

    AnonymousSeptember 28, 2013 at 4:18 AM
    Thank you for this observation!
    A woman's house is on fire and she remembers to send a mail to a blog?
    Shame would not let me share this kind of matter, because the owner of the blog would know my name and phone number.
    This type of stories pull comments, unlike others.
    Hope someone is not playing on our intelligence?

    MAY SHAME NOT LET YOU GO TO ANY HOSPITAL BECAUSE THE DOCTOR WILL SEE THE DIRTY UNDERPANT YOU ARE WEARING AND THE NURSES WILL KNOW THE COLOUR OF YOUR RED PANT.

    WHEN YOU ARE SICK, MAY SHAME PUSH YOU TO LOCK YOURSELF IN THE ROOM UNTIL YOU KPEME. #ignorantIlliterate

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      WHEN I AM SICK, I GO TO THE HOSPITAL, YOU IGNORAMUS, NINCOMPOOP ILLITERATE!
      LEARN TO MAKE LOGICAL EXAMPLES AND NOT FAR-FETCHED-RANDOM THEORIES THAT ARE PARALLEL TO EACH OTHER, THAT COMES INTO YOUR MEDULLA OBLANGATA INSTANTANEOUSLY!
      YOU OPEN YOUR FOUL-INFESTED SMELLING MOUTH TO CALL ME AN ILLITERATE BECAUSE I DISAGREE WITH YOUR MYOPIC THINKING?
      THIS IS WHY Y'ALL FOLLOW BLINDLY LIKE THE EWE'S WHO FOLLOW THEIR LEADER WITHOUT THINKING FOR THEMSELVES!
      IT IS YOU THAT WOULD KPEME , WHEN YOU DON'T SEE THE ONCOMING CARS, BUT FOLLOW AS AN EWE LEAD TO THE SLAUGHTER HOUSE!
      BLOODY NIGERIAN ILLITERATE!!!! NO WONDER YOUR MEN ALWAYS TREAT Y'ALL LIKE TRASH!!!!!!

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  34. Brandy9/28/2013

    Sure shame will not let you go to deliver at the hospital cos the staff will know your address. Ignorant people like you should not have access to blogs cos they are meant for the transformed.

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      Blogs are meant for the transformed? Ok, I see u r transformed. Clap for urself

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    2. Anonymous9/28/2013

      @Brandy, please talk with common sense!
      What has giving birth got to do with infidelity?
      Learn to make a logical example, and not far-fetched theory!
      Transformation? You must be kidding me!!!
      With what i read here, i am yet to see the transformation in all your lives!

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    3. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Transformation? With all the negativity in blogs? I am yet to see it! smh

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  35. Anonymous9/28/2013

    Yes we are ignorant, thanks. It's just common sense, and it's so unfortunate u lack it. Ur house is on fire and the first thing u think of is coming to a blog to table ur matter. U that talked about going to the hospital, how does that relate to the situation on ground? When u r sick, u definitely go to the hospital, that's the solution innit. When u catch ur hubby bathing naked with ur sister, is posting it on a blog and waiting for advices from various readers with different opinions the solution? Just think about it. In my own opinion u r the ignorant person. U just don't think outside the box. FYI, I'm not the anonymous that wrote about 'shame'. But I agree with her and the previous anonymous. Ur house can't be on fire, and u log on to a website to start seeking for a way out. Are u a loner, don't u have family members, no mother, no brothers, no uncles, no aunties, no friends? No bodyyyy? If the story is true, u wld have taken one or 2 steps before coming here to table ur matter. Not that u will just sit down, feeling relaxed and decide to send a mail to wives connection. Pleaseeeee put on ur thinking caps

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    1. Anonymous9/28/2013

      Good talk!
      When a house is on fire, you raise an alarm IMMEDIATELY!
      How many of these women talking here, would readily wash their OWN dirty smelly under wears outside for all to see?
      Some have the love child of their husband living with them! Some have caught their husbands with their mistress on their matrimonial bed! Some have caught their husband with their relatives and maids but they settle it in the family way, and stay put in the marriage!
      Mschewwwwww!

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    2. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Wetin u dey talk sef?

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    3. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Wetin u dey talk sef?

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    4. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Wetin u dey talk sef?

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  36. There's something called sponteniety and reflex. If a fly came close to ur eye the first thing will be to blink. So poster what was your first reaction? Cos I believe u must have already said or done something before coming to the blog, its not possible to experience this and the first step is to the blog. I'm only speaking according to my understanding of how basic human instinct works. Also, an appology from ur husband; that's if u get one, is not the solution to this. The family he is from and ur family must work this our especially if he marriedd u the proper way. This na abomination!

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  37. Just to answer married u'll be suprised at how much dirt women sweep under th carpert. My husband bathing naked with my sister, the father of my children fucking my sister? Abeg FUCK that marriage

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  38. Anonymous9/28/2013

    I am the anonymous that wrote that shame talk.
    SHAME unto ALL you LIARS and PRETENDERS and HYPOCRITES who come here to talk nonsense, when you hide your own dirty underpants in your house!
    When am sick, i go to the HOSPITAL!
    When i want to give birth, i go to the HOSPITAL!
    When i need sound advice i go to my PARENTS or a TRUSTED ELDER OR CLERIC!, and not random strangers who know NOTHING about me, but be blabbing their mouths and be pretending all is well in their own homes! When all i read here are pathetic stories from y'all!
    Is the owner of this blog not going through challenges in her home? Why don't she wash her own dirty linens to y'all?
    Called me an illiterate? Because i dare speak my mind?
    Blogs transforms? I laugh in Spanish! Which blog? God is the only one that transforms!
    Y'all, pretenders are the bloody illiterates that cannot think out of your myopic brains!
    Y'all cannot think out of the box!
    That is why some women are said to have fish brains! And men would always have the upper hand!
    Gossips you'all are! That like hearing the tales of other women woes, so that you can sit around your tables and talk about it!
    Is the owner of this blog a COUNSELOR herself?
    When i have a problem, i know where to GO! Not to ignoramus on blogs, who are not faring better themselves!
    Common sense ain't common as it is said!
    Caught your husband with your sister, and you are asking other women who probably have caught their own husbands several times cheating on them, on what you should do???? Don't you have relatives?
    I would rather not wash my dirty linens in the public but in the privacy of my house!

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  39. Anonymous9/29/2013

    If a wife caught her husband naked with her sister bathing, her first reaction would be shock, then rage, if possible beat her sister, then quarrel with her husband. Then she would call her mother or any of her siblings to report her sister's betrayal. The sister would not sleep in that house that night, and her belongings would be gathered to be sent back to her parents home! Family would come to intervene.
    She would barely sleep that night because of anger, and likely confide in her BF through a call, because she wants to be comforted, rather than typing out a mail to a blog, asking strangers what she should do?

    Well, if she is the type that needs to hear from other people before taking a decision in her life, no wonder her husband see no need to apologize. The way things are going, some women would need advice from blogs before they sleep with their husbands or what to cook for them. Before the coming of technology, marital issues were solved amicably without making drama about it.People saying is for others to learn from, are economical with the truth, because they don't bring their own problems to be tabled for discussion.

    What have we not heard or seen from the past and around our environment and family? Are elders not there to advise us? Children, teenagers, adolescent, have hijacked the internet, that some comments lack maturity, but insults if their views are not accepted. Anonymity has overtaken the blogging world, that you don't know if it is a 10 years old you are arguing with or giving advice from a childish point of view!

    Blogging is for entertainment and money making venture, so why are people taking it so personal or a do and die affair? Whosoever decides to bring his/her personal issue to blogs, do so at his or her own risk because you are only exposing yourself to millions of people with different views to life.

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    1. Blossom9/29/2013

      I had a similar situation in my marriage about 15 years ago, as a newly wed. Looking back can't believe I was so naïve. I had a distant relation living with I and my husband to babysit while I go to work. For some reason I travelled for one week and left her alone with my husband. On my return she informed me my husband had sex with her several times. I still remember how hurt and disappointed felt. I even considered she may have been telling lies. But common sense prevailed and I realised she wouldn't just make up something like that. I confronted my husband and he denied it furiously. I informed my parents while the girl had to leave to stay with another relation. I then went to my in-law's family house and told my motherinlaw and my husband's eldest brother.

      Hmmm it wasn't a small matter, to Cut a long story short, there was a family meeting with my parents, close relatives and inlaws in attendance. My husband couldn't deny it anymore. He appologised and was madee to pay a fine and do certain other things. My parents then took in the girl and trained her and settled with her family. I was so disappointed, and started using the creche for all my children afterwards.

      Yeah I stayed in the marriage after a lot of older relatives spoke with me. It wasn't easy. I don't trust my husband to this day. I know he must be getting some outside, but have never caught me.

      Poster do not sweep this matter under the carpet!

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    2. Blossom9/29/2013

      Sorry meant to say I have never caught him.

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    3. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Hmm... all join. he has never caught you na

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    4. Blossom9/29/2013

      Juvenile you!

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    5. BeeCee9/29/2013

      ANON 1:12AM, WHO ARE YOU???? I DO NOT KNOW YOU, SAME WAY NO ONE HERE KNOWS THE POSTER. YOU ARE TALKING TRASH.

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    6. BeeCee9/29/2013

      ANON 1:12AM, WHO ARE YOU???? I DO NOT KNOW YOU, SAME WAY NO ONE HERE KNOWS THE POSTER. YOU ARE TALKING TRASH.

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    7. Anonymous9/29/2013

      LIKEWISE YOU Beecee! YOU ARE ALSO SPEAKING TRASH BECAUSE I KNOW YOU NOT!

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  40. Anonymous9/29/2013

    anon 8:02pm and anon 2;52pm. Go to hell! And leave us alone. Yeye pple.

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    1. Anonymous9/29/2013

      U senseless fool. Go to hell on earth and burn to ashes. I hope u understand what I mean by 'hell on earth'. Yeye animal. I am anon 2.52pm and my name is SUSAN.

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    2. Anonymous9/29/2013

      i am anonymous 8:02pm, u wud b d one 2 go 2 hell, wt ur cursed lips, dat like hearing, talking&gloating over other people's demise. u r d foolish one dat hs no thinking faculty in her head!

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    3. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Don't mind all of them!
      This is why UCHE of an old post abused ALL of them as over-sabi, ITK, and 2-goody-shoes wives that seat in front of their computers dishing out advise, when their own lives is not better!
      They don't ever learn! They want juicy jest to talk with their friends, not really caring about the poster's feelings. BTW, why has the poster not commented as others do?

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  41. Anonymous9/29/2013

    A quantum of unequalled cerebral jaundice is the root of all your rantings

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    1. Anonymous9/29/2013

      ROTFLMAO.

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    2. Anonymous9/29/2013

      And your point is?
      Couple un-related words together to sound like the fool you are 'upstairs'.

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  42. Anonymous9/29/2013

    Susan. Perish o. Burn to ashes.

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  43. Anonymous9/29/2013

    we all react to events differently, not in a particularly defined or outlined manner. Those of you who think she shouldnnt blog about shold think twice. of course, no one wld immediately come here and atart blogging without an initial reaction, probbaly family has asked her husband to apologize and all in the family meeting and he has still refused to, maybe there hasnt yet been a family meeting, just maybe it happened that after shouting and calling everyone, a date has been fixed for the meeting and she simply needs advice on what to do. she is confused, so if u have nothing constructive to advice, kindly pass by joor, nobody put a gun to your head! @poster, this is a grievous offence, even if ur hubby apologies, its not enough o, he had something to do with your SISTER. ur blood SISTER, many women forgive random cheating with another woman outside, but this shows ur hubby doesnt value u, ur children if any, and ur marriage and he most certainly doesnt love u. he is shameless, Its only YOU who can decide if u can stay in such a marriage o. Its entirely up to you. but if u ask me, Madam, i will leave him if am the one. wow!

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  44. Anonymous9/29/2013

    thank u vry much anon 1:19pm. U said my mind. I wonder sum women do nt want her to visit d blog.

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    1. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Visiting the blog is not the matter on ground, but for women to know it is not everything that happens in your home you ask the public for advise. There are some things that are strictly personal and confidential. I wonder if any woman would come here to ask for advise if she caught her own mother in an adulterous act?

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  45. @ Poster, there is nothing wrong with bringing your story to wives connection OK? Women here advise like we are talking to our younger sisters.

    FYI, seeking for advice here does bot mean you washing your dirty linen in public cos no one advising you can say your name or address. A woman in Labour knows no shame. Do not let negativity by one or two omments becloud your judgement. Everyone has his/her own opinion and it's left for you to pick what is best for you and thank God that people even bother to give advice to strangers they do not know and may never know.

    We all can share our thoughts but only God has the final answer.

    I always told you guys that hubby complains that since I started blogging, I have reduced the attention I give him and now being like more interested in my Online stuff. The complains escalated upto when he felt it's an addiction that needs be cured. So, he cured it his way by doing away with the "ingredients" I use for blogging.

    When I demanded for a replacement, I was told it won't happen until my addiction is cured and I begin to give him more attention. All the "ingredients" were later replaced sha if not, you guys would have seen my post asking for advice on HOW TO MAKE HUBBY REPLACE MY GAD'S

    Poster, Your case is not the worst that ever happened and I know it has a solution. There is an end to all this. I have seen a marriage end because a husband impregnated his wife's younger sister. A few years later, they are back together and the younger sister did abort that pregnancy. Now she too is married and having her own kids but I don't think her elder sister relates well with her.

    Just know that God will see you through.

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    1. A million likes for this comment!

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    2. Anonymous9/29/2013

      Anytime we get on to you, you come out with a sob story!

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  46. Anonymous9/29/2013

    Thank u aunty Eya. Luv ur comment dear!

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  47. Anonymous9/29/2013

    let dem go! u r all chanting now. Later u wud b d ones saying dis blog is so dry! under anonymous! c 80+ comments! gud rating! make una. siddon there dey form voltron while she is happy over d high taffic!
    as 4 d poster, i believe u wud hv found solution 2 ur problem by now .gudluck.
    y is it now eya comes out 2 give her 2 cents, instead from d beginning?

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  48. Anonymous9/29/2013

    Bloggers all over are making money from the tale of woes from readers as magazines and newspapers do by sensationalizing it, and few people are advising that caution should be taken, but people who stake are challenged are fighting back tooth and nail. I really don't blame the bloggers, but the people who present their stories to them. If mugu no fall, maga no go chop! That is the survival slogan on the street. Best of luck to them all.

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    1. you sound so jealous babe, hope you are not a failed blogger?

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  49. Anonymous9/29/2013

    Mrs Ayambem, thank me for pulling traffic to your site this week, i would make the 100th comment, and let peace be. It was fun, bringing a little excitement into your dry blog, as your readers have complained so much. So readers, i hope you had a nice time. Like it is always said in Journalism, controversy sells! Ciao!

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    1. Original Poster9/30/2013

      liar, for trying to impersonate me, may your husband sleep with your sister before your eyes.

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    2. Anonymous9/30/2013

      Ewu, brainless impersonator. You witch

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  50. Anonymous9/29/2013

    So anon 8.26pm are u saying u cooked up this story to help draw traffic to Eya's blog? Buahahahahahahahahahua.....!!! So people have bn slaughtering demselvs here over a lie? Hehehehehehehehehehe...! Ko da o!
    If Eya cannot get stuff to blog abt no need to send fake stories to waste people's time. No be by force o! Shiorr!

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    1. Anonymous9/30/2013

      hahaha evil genius, we know who u r, continue to reply yourself and later deny it. SHAME

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  51. Original poster9/30/2013

    who is trying to impersonate me??? I brought my problem here for advice please and please. Original poster

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  52. Anonymous9/30/2013

    Oh boy,there are really some bitter people on this blog. Abi na one failed blogger dey cause all this wahala?

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  53. Anonymous9/30/2013

    Hmmm...the husband's behavior is despicable and he had no excuse for the ignoble act.

    However, having said this, I need to put in some words of advice to the women. You need to improve yourselves. A lot of women just lose it after childbirth. You see, I am a Christian, a spirit filled one and by the grace of a God I live righteously and I have never cheated on my wife, not even once. But at some point, I realized, I started finding my wife's sis very attractive. She stays with us. I realized that despite the fact that she does work and is equally as engaged as her sis she is always well dressed and quite attractive, you would never see her in an unattractive wrapper or with her hair undone. She reminds me of my wife before we got married. Trust me, every natural man would prefer her to her sis, my wife. Despite the fact that she does more chores than her sis and looks after the kids more, you would need see her looking 'unbeautiful'. No matter, how much work she's done , she takes her time to dress neatly albeit decently. When I noticed the attraction, I had to commence on serious fasting and prayers.

    I once heard a colleague complain about the same issue, infact to solve his own problem he had to ask the sis inlaw to leave the house.

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  54. Anonymous9/30/2013

    Cat got all of ya tongues? HaHaHa! Una don hear am from a man's perspective na. Everybody shut up. To The spirit filled man eyeing his sister in law, may God deal with you accordingly. I na ara nshi nkuta.

    Wives you don here am na. We have to step up. For the likes of us that have really hot sisters, I guess its time to ditch d wrappers and take up d bum shorts. I don't know if all these shit count but what can a woman do.....

    deep sign....

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  55. Anonymous9/30/2013

    Aunty eya, is that why there have been no updates? you are gating again. A beg this issue is sensitive. Allow us to air our views. ah ah

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  56. Anonymous10/01/2013

    Hahaha...last 3 comments are so hilarious. I don’t come here very often, but every time I do, I thoroughly enjoy myself.
    I would like to make a few comments:
    - It is not a sin to be tempted, it is however as in to fall into temptation. So quit judging the last guy who commented
    - Love is not magic, it is not charm. It is a living thing, it grows and dies. it has to be nurtured and nourished.
    - Ladies and guys need to constantly improve themselves and keep themselves attractive for their spouses. Most of us fell in love with our first jobs, our first cars, our first church but being in love with them didn’t stop us for going for better cars, better jobs and another church, did it?
    - Most of us once we’re married, just let go, we stop taking care of ourselves, we start growing fat, we start having the same hair on for weeks, we start wearing the same wrapper/boxers for weeks every evening, we start nagging. I once read Beyonce, yeah Beyonce (that sexy, talented and beautiful lady), explain that she does a lot to make sure she is constantly keeping her man. The question is if Beyonce, with all her beauty and talent could keep improving herself, what’s your excuse? Work? Your career can’t be as big as hers. Children, she’s got children too. Same thing with guys, no excuse. You need to keep yourself in shape, serenade your wife and beat the completion
    - Let’s get real, forget vows for a minute. Truth is put yourself in your spouse’s shoes, if you’re a guy and you are asked to choose between yourself and your sister, who would you choose? Same thing, gentleman, if you were a lady and you are to choose between yourself and your cousin, who would you prefer? Wouldn’t you rather have that guy/lady that smiles every time you walk into the room and always has her/his hair well done and is not wearing the same gown/wrapper/kaftan not nagging life out of you.
    - It’s difficult combining work, childbearing, home-keeping with looking good. But it is something we need to do. Asking our spouse to keep loving us and keep being enthralled with us when we’re not putting in our best to be the best for them is like asking your employer not to fire you and hire a fresh graduate when you refuse to keep up with latest innovation in your line of work. It is like putting pounded yam and nicely cooked vegetable soup in front of a man/woman everyday and asking him not to touch it and instead feeding him cracker biscuit and water. One day, while you’re not watching,he would throw off your cracker and pounce on the pounded yam
    - Those of us who have sister-inlaws, neighbor’s sexy daughters, brother-inlaws, sexy bachelors etc living around us. We have a lot of work to do.
    Having said all of these, please note that infidelity is as in and a crime. We should stand by our wives and husbands regardless of their flaws

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  57. Anonymous10/02/2013

    Aunty Eya

    How can we get this topic back on the front page?

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  58. So what about us who still look very nice after childbirth, even better than most unmarried women out there and still get lots of compliments from men outside yet we never get any compliments from husband and even get rejected most times. How do you explain that?

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    1. Marriedchic3/14/2014

      My dear I wonder... there is no excuse pls. Even though my hubby has added weight and grown a pot belly, has no time to take me out or give attention, and I'm seeing fine trim dudes and nicelooking guys, some toasting me sef is that why I will throw my marriage vows out of the window and cheat on him?? As for me o, there is NO excuse for cheating. If I am overcoming the temptations he should do likewise. Not only men are tempted. Even when I felt I wasn't beautiful anymore after a few kids and some extra weight, was surprised to find that some men will still try to toast with my wedding ring on, some even with pregnancy!!.... Will i say because my hubby doesnt have time for me oand i am getting this attention from others then i should just give in to some yeye temptations?? Marriage is a commitment for life. Both parties must see it as such. Whatever you want from it is what you should invest into it and not expect miracles. Tired of hearing that excuse that wives have lost shape or are no longer looking sexy and therefore the man should cheat. Get real guys..are u the same as u were the day u married ur wife?? The golden rule still stands. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. I personally think it is a lame excuse (my opinion tho). Also it makes me wonder why men boast so much of being stronger, wiser, and intellectually higher than women when just a small temptation will floor them just like that...meanwhile most women stay faithful for years to the same spouse... That said, I'm not advocating that when u get married you should abandon your personal grooming or stop looking good for your spouse, but people should stop using that as their excuse to cheat when they are ways of encouraging your spouse to look or dress the way you like/want. For my sister Bbet, prayer is the key...bcos I don't know what to suggest in such a case. Pray seriously for such a man and do ur best as a wife. At the same time find things that make u happy/cheerful and engage in them. Don't be gloomy or depressed but find happiness from other sources, one day he will notice. God will see you thru.

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  59. Anonymous10/07/2013

    http://www.WorkPayment.com/?invite=90689

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  60. Anonymous11/22/2013

    We do not have a culture of support hence the outrage. Our women are dying in silence because they shout it loud and hear "sister stop airing your laundry" :go and pray for him" :love him even more, he will come around". 20 years later, she is the step mother of 2 kids and a disease carrier. Get real Naija wives. Support groups like Aunty Eya's are what our mothers needed to save them from the hands of some of our evil fathers. A good faith based support group will encourage you and you will get sensible opinions. What if her parents are the type to say "God forbid o, dont bring that kind of shame to our family name...go back to your husband's house and stop whining...is he not providing?" Make una dey make pant dey wear you. Don't seek help because you are covering the shame of a man who has no shame.

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