My Fiance's Brother Asked Me Out, Should I Keep Mute?

Dear Eya, pls my fiance's brother asked me out, even went as far as sex chatting with me. He knows that I am in a relationship with his brother, but I wouldn't want to be more detailed because he might be a reader of your blog.

 The question now
is should I tell my fiance or keep mute (bearing in mind that I would be getting married into his family, and making enemies is not the best, moreso as they say, blood is thicker than water, will my fiance ignore me? I just don't want to keep anything from him since am not cheating, I tell him everything) and yes, I have prove of my allegation. Pls let your readers give their opinion, thank you and don't publish my address σ.
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  1. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Blessed Eya, so u still blog? Pls find a better job cos blogging isn't for you.If Linda was blogging this way, u for see road advertise for her blog? If you like, come and delete my comment...na u know.Ezewanyi, QOC, pls let's leave her blog for her o

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    1. Ezenwanyi AKA Qoc, AKA all the funny names. I just knew after you deleted your comments that you will come back against Eya in full force cos your heart black like charcoal. Tufiakwa.

      For me I learn everyday on this blog so you can't affect my thinking however you try. Wish you failure with your battles and may you find Jesus the prince of peace.

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    2. Amanda9/02/2013

      Ezenwannyi, how come I don't see your comment on LIB or other gossip blogs where you should be? afterall you have all the time to leave comments with different names.

      I know why... Linda and others never approve your comments on their blogs. Kikikikikikik. They delete them before publishing other comments buhahahahahahaha.

      Farting heavily at your ill-luck. pratatatatapratataprata booom.

      @Poster please inform your fiance before he starts getting suspicious of you and his brother.

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    3. Anonymous9/02/2013

      Are these wives?

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    4. Anonymous9/02/2013

      My dear anonymous 2; 40pm, they 're not wives o.....these ones farting everyday thru thier Toto even wen thier bf is fucking them.Two big cocks no even fit size the bore hole, that is y they like farting..it's thier calling/talent.
      PS; Eya! I COMMAND U TO COME AND DELETE!!!

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    5. Anonymous9/03/2013

      Eya, pls leave blogging to those who hav d calling. Ure trying so hard n yet d result is so apalling.

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    6. Anonymous9/03/2013

      Y r some pple enemy of progress like dis, what is ur biz if Eya conts to blog or not, na ur time n hand she dey use...
      All u pple who wants to leave, leave o bcos na u pple dey give dis blog backwardness n una bad spirits dey affect dis blog..
      U better stop ur negativity b4 it back fires...rubbish....oshi pple.

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  2. Jazmyn9/02/2013

    Keep quiet before you put your self in trouble. Some men are unpredictable. You may tell him now and he will begin to look at you somehow thinking that you enticed his brother.

    Just make sure you warn that his he-goat brother to keep off your courtyard.

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    1. Anonymous9/02/2013

      Seconded.
      Keep all the evidence.
      I would have suggested to break out of such family, but you are already too involved. Watch your step around him. He is a bad brother-in-law-to-be!

      signed:good anonymous.

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  3. Anonymous9/02/2013

    G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡D̶̲̥̅ day Aunty Eya Ąπϑ ...M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ wonderful fam.want U̶̲̥̅̊ all to join ♏έ as i continue to thank God fφя̩̥̊ sparing ...M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ life.finally had ...M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ baby boy on the 27th of August but .Ħ̀ε̅ died shortly after delivery. fφя̩̥̊ ...M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ shame God Ȋ̝̊̅§ giving ♏έ double.EPHY

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    1. @Ephy, the lord is your strength. Thank God for your life and so sorry about your loss, a double portion is on the way for you. AMEN.

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    2. Anonymous9/02/2013

      it is well with you and your family. God will give you the child that will stay.

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    3. It is well even when it seems otherwise, all things work together for good. Double portion is on your way, thank God for sparing your life dear.

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    4. Anonymous9/02/2013

      Thanks Ąπϑ God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ Aunty Deborah.EPHY

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    5. It is well with you EPHY.
      Please stay strong!

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    6. Ephy I was shocked reading this. Am speechless and all I can say is Be Strong, its not easy but its the best option. Double portion awaits you as you decreed, we await your testimony.
      Big hugs love, its very well with you

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    7. So sorry about the loss EPHY. Be strong and God bless.

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    8. Anonymous9/02/2013

      So sorry my dear, God will restore all dat u have lost, including ur baby, its well with u, stay blessed.

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    9. The Lord is your strength Ephy. It's sad hearing this but it is well with you. A beautiful baby who will live is coming soon.

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    10. I'm so sorry to read this. There's no shame my dear. Pain maybe, but no shame. It wasn't your fault.

      May God heal and comfort you. #hugs

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    11. Shayor@Soup-aBowl9/02/2013

      Ephy love! So sorry for ur loss, I love dt in all tins, u still gave thanks! God will restore bountifully dear!

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    12. So so sorry about your loss Ephy! Please keep up your spirit and keep thanking God. He will definitely restore you. Take care dear, you're in my prayers

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    13. Anonymous9/03/2013

      @Ephy, It is well. Had a similar experience sm time ago but our ever faithful God wiped my tears with beautiful babies.

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  4. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Please poster except you don't love you man just tell him sharp sharp. You need not ask this question do the right thing abeg!!!

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  5. Anonymous9/02/2013

    @ Aunty Eya,Amen Ąπϑ Amen.Thank U̶̲̥̅̊ Ąπϑ God bless ЧЯ kind heart.EPHY

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  6. Please poster I doubt if ur fiance's brother wokeup oneday to ask you out and sex chat with you.
    Something must have given him such confidence and I guess it coz of your level of familiarity and your previous discussions.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  7. Please tell him!!!!!

    Do you value your peace of mind at all? I see this as a battle waiting to happen if you don't VOICE OUT NOW!!!

    Your supposed BIL is asking you out? What nonsense!!! He doesn't RESPECT his brother and you as his brother's would be wife, simple.

    If you tow the line to keep quiet, good luck but don't be surprised if he tries to "rape" you one day when you both are alone in the house.

    Then kasala go burst and all the blame will be heaped on your head.
    If you tell your fiance, the worst that would happen is the end of the relationship, which is better than having a BIL who desires you secretly(covetousness-an envious eagerness to possess something).

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  8. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Trust me, nothing gave him such stupid confidence, we just relate normally as friends without any bad air in btw us, his brother even knows, we joke @times nd dats it, I don't dress inappropriately or entice him in any way, and its not like he's tryn 2prove a point 2his brother, dere's no beef btw dem, dat's as far as I know

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    1. You better tell your husband and show the proof you have likewise. What if you keep mute and this stuff back-fires in the future? Your fiancee will find it hard to trust you again if he hears it elsewhere.

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  9. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Bona, I disagree with u on dis one. Some philanderers just love to try their luck. Another possible reason could be that he somewhat doesn't see u as a his brother's wife to be or probably sees u as one of his brother's side chicks...

    Whatever the reason could be, I suggest umake it known to ur fiancée(if he truly is oo). You could stylishly ask him questions like what position his so called brother thinks u hold or sth related sha..

    Jst my opinion though...*waitingfortheothers*

    Omalicha..

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  10. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Bona, I disagree with u on dis one. Some philanderers just love to try their luck. Another possible reason could be that he somewhat doesn't see u as a his brother's wife to be or probably sees u as one of his brother's side chicks...

    Whatever the reason could be, I suggest umake it known to ur fiancée(if he truly is oo). You could stylishly ask him questions like what position his so called brother thinks u hold or sth related sha..

    Jst my opinion though...*waitingfortheothers*

    Omalicha..

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  11. Limit your communications with him and munch the so chat and show your fiance.
    Make sure you have a matured conversation with your fiance before showing him the chat and tell him the whole truth coz that brother will eventually set you up if you don't agree to his proposal and refuse telling your fiance too.
    Better to tell your man the truth and risk whateverthan his brother doing it for you
    God be with you

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  12. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Poster, if u are indeed telling d truth. Hw can ur fiancee broda just woke up one mrn blabing nonsense! If u knw u are nt d one dat entice him, u had better tel him o. I knw sum guy are just stupid. Sha. Na u knw hw ur fiancee is sha.. D bal is in ur court..

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  13. Mrs Ay.9/02/2013

    @Ephy,d Lord is ur strength,very soon we ll rejoice with u.It is well.

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  14. Sorry dear Ephy, it is well wit U n ur Fam, Ur blessing is here N double.

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  15. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Thank U̶̲̥̅̊ all fφя̩̥̊ ЧЯ prayers Ąπϑ ЧЯ kind words to ♏έ Ąπϑ ...M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ fam.I pray that God W̶̲̥̅̊ȋ̊ƪƪ always βε̲̣ there fφя̩̥̊ each Ąπϑ everyone of U̶̲̥̅̊ IJN.Amen.EPHY.

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  16. God will restore all that u have lost in double fold. In Jesus name, amen

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  17. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Omalicha has said it all. He sees you as a side chick. But even if you were his brother's side chick, what gave him the right to try that rubbish? Clear us on this story please.

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  18. Anonymous9/02/2013

    Tnx y'all wc fam, av made up my mind to tell my fiance about it to be on d safest side, but with tact. I'll first ask him wat he'll do if he were in my shoes, before nackn him d whole story, tnx again wc fam, u d best! Even doe @bonnario, its not wat u think, And aunty eya, luv u much.

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  19. Anonymous9/03/2013

    So sorry @Ephy it is well with u IJN. All that the locust,cankerworm and caterpillar has eaten shall be restored in double folds IJN. @poster no need to use scope to tell him,he's nt yet ur husband pls,jes tell him as raw as it happened,u ve nothing to hide,I believe this is a test ur fiancee needs to pass in order to further strengthen ur relationship. If u r sure u did nothing to entice his brother,den go ahead n tell ur man n watch his reaction afterwards to know his level of maturity on issues and to know if he really loves u. That's what I wud do in this situation o,scrutinise all things and hold unto the truth!!!

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  20. It depends on how close these brothers are. If they are really close (some brodas are like friends) It might be a bad idea to tell your fiance what is happening because the brother could use their closeness and turn it against you, I have seen cases like that. It also depends on what your fiance is telling his people about you. I dont know if formal introductions have been made and the family is aware that you guys are getting married, just like someone said earlier, the brother might be thinking you are one of his side chicks and want to try out his luck. If they have sisters, then you can confide in any of them and let them know what is happening. They might want to inform the brother or tell the wannabe ursurper to behave himself. You also need to warn his brother sternly to stop sending you sex chat.....let him know if he continues then you wud report him to his brother. Lastly, make sure you keep these evidences, you just might need them someday. Good luck and cheers

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  21. Diamond Girl9/03/2013

    Honesty is always the best policy. If you plan to marry this guy, he should be informed about what his brother is doing. Do you know if they planned this together to test you and see what you will do? Ladies, always, always marry your friend, someone who you can talk to about anything. The moment you start to pick and choose what to tell your fiance, watch out. You just maybe starting out on the wrong footing.

    ...Telling it like it is!

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  22. Anonymous9/03/2013

    Hello poster, it seems to me your fiance and his brother may be trying out your modesty and honesty. If that is the case, telling is the only option and his reaction will give way to that. If on the other hand the brother is just a complete lunatic on his own, I suppose telling is the right way also.

    Wish you the best!

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  23. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  24. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  25. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  26. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  27. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  28. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  29. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  30. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  31. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  32. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  33. @Ephy, the Lord is your strength ,he will see you through in Jesus name .Be strong !!

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  34. @Ephy d lord is ur strength, just be patient eh u will surely testify! Am praying for U!

    @poster tell ur fiance and warn that BIL very well!

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  35. Anonymous9/04/2013

    @EPHY it is well with you.

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  36. Anonymous9/05/2013

    @ poster, what if your fiance knows but they're both testing you? This one needs wisdom to handle sha

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