Should I Continue To Date Him Even If...

Good day to you aunty Eya.Pls ma, don't link my post to my previous post.
 I am 32yrs of age and not yet in any relationship(pls WC family,remember me in your prayers),but there is a guy that says he wants to date me.Mind you,we both went to the same university some years back.Though I don't have feelings for him but considering my age,I just want to give it a trial.


For some months like almost 2months now,we have been pinging BUT he has never
for once CALLED me.Though he pings me 2ask if have eaten,how has been my day and so on but what amazes me is that he has never called me for once  and I am seriously boiling that what kind of guy would say he loves a lady and is not eager to hear her voice.

Please WC family,my question is: Should I continue to date him even if the feelings is not yet there and 

(2) Is there nothing wrong with only pinging and no calls because am beginning to feel he's doesn't love me and he's stingy.He has been working in the bank for over 5yrs,yet he stays in a room.Have persuaded him to leave that place for a better place but he says he has plan for everything and that he was not born with a silver spoon.

Sorry for my long story but candid advice will be noted and taken.Thanks for the advice and a big hug to everyone.
Thanks

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  1. Babe!!! Do NOT date him!! Your Man will come! A man that will give you peace and let you know that he's from God. What kind of nonsense pinging sef? A man that cannot invest into wooing you?? Abeg abeg don't let the devil use your age to frustrate u into accepting rubbish.
    Babe you are Worth every time and effort that should be spent on you. Do Not Relent in prayers. God is not a deaf God. That there is delay in your Life does not mean God is denying you.
    Please my lady, I repeat,Do not date him. And if his pings are beginning to annoy you self don't bother replying again. He ought to have taken your number and called you by now. When you see a man that wants you,nobody will tell u sef.
    I believe when a man wants a lady,he COMES AFTER her with seriousness. And he's not stingy to her. That's my own opinion sha. All the best!

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    1. Relationship means sharing,making sacrifices etc.so if u re in a relationship nd ur partner can nt even sacrifice calling for jst a min den he doesn't luv u becos der is a word dat says action speaks louder dan voice.

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    2. Anonymous7/14/2013

      Seconded!

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    3. I need the like botton plzzz! Soul dear*hugs*

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    4. gloexcel7/14/2013

      Nice 1 soulspasm.. U r really on point wt dat....

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    5. Anonymous7/14/2013

      From Apostle E. A. Adeboye.
      I saw it again. This time more scary. The end-time is more than nigh. It will happen like a flash unexpected and time shall be no more for repentance. In my dream,I didn't make it to heaven despite I was saying my last prayer for forgiveness of sins, it was as if God shut his ears. I saw multitude of people running into a church. But inside that church,screamin­g and shouting everywhere;peop­le making utterances to heaven. Behold it was as if a strange spirit entered into some people more clearly,I remember seeing an old man who was beside me whom the said spirit entered into and as he let out a cry,he disappeared and few other people. At that point,I realized that the rapture has taken place. I cried the more. Immediately,the­ devil took over and started making mockery of the left over Christians. He had a register of everyone's name.... At this point,I woke up. The end is more than near. Don't keep this message and don't get annoyed when u receive this just do the whole world a favour and keep broadcasting His coming, u might save a lost soul. God bless you.mama somky

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    6. Anonymous7/16/2013

      The guy isn't serious and he's quite stingy to boot. Please don't waste any more time with him.make e no block road for better suitor.when my husband was courting me,he spent every single weekend at my place(I was staying with my parents)and we courted for 3 years o,he diligently came to mark register and I knew there was no one but me.Pls keep praying for your soulmate and don't despair.

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  2. My dear I agree with soulspasms ooooo. Do not date him. U guys hav bin on 4 2mnths n he neva call u. Which kin nonsense b dat??? What I tink u shld do is, d next time he pings u, just reply n ask him 2 call u. Don't giv in2 d "pinging" oooo. D fact u r 32, doesn't mean ders no hope. God will bring d rite man ur way. AMEN.

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  3. Anonymous7/14/2013

    Funny enough, these guys don't see anything wrong with not calling, especially if he is on your bbm contact. That is why you should jokingly chip the calling part in. About the age, pffftt, I'd still say that its just a number. How can you date somebody that you can't imagine yourself kissing? Do you guys hang out at all? Abi una wan date for bbm alone? You need to be more lively to attract men. Smile at people everytime, it helps.

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  4. Women have great sense of intuition given to us by God. Sadly, many of us refuse to heed when we sense something is off with something or someone. We'd rather silence that "voice" and forge ahead and eventually land into trouble and then start to sing "coulda, woulda, shoulda". Please don't be in that group. You know something is off, run for the hills.
    I pray God sends your's your way. Its hard especially when you start to think age but please listen to that voice in your head. Sometimes, we are our own best counsel.

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  5. If you still aren't convinced by Soulspasm's advice, then carry out a simple exercise: Delete either your BBM app OR delete his pin from your bbm contact list. Find out what happens next........ Simple!

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    1. Lol I like this. Seconded

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    2. Anonymous7/15/2013

      Or better still turn off data services for one straight week. Let no PING!!! Get delivered n see wat happens.

      If Ʊ think Ʊ want d relationship, Ʊ can get his number n call him.
      Reduce wat Ʊ say wit him on BBM n tell him Ʊ feel odd typing always...

      Fact is as a man, once I can reach Ʊ in a day via anymeans, I feel Ʊ r ok.
      My gf made me realised she wanted more dan seeing her updates n knowin she was fyn...lol
      I know it sound stupid but just her updatin sumtin made me ok n we might book n appointment 2 see in 2weeks time, n I won't even disturb me till den, doesn't mean I don't lov her, just means am not stupidly romantic....am just about reality n not day dreaming + I trust her.

      BoBo

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  6. Queen Of The Coast7/14/2013

    One room,probally uses BB pearl maybe d phone can't call out sef.
    I don't like poor men so my advice to u is wait abeg.
    He might even be a contract staff sef.how old is he?since both of u went to d same uni

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  7. Johnson7/14/2013

    1. How did this relationship start?
    2. How do you meet - I mean face 2 face meeting?
    3. He does not call... your own phone no dey make call?
    4. What kind of guy is he - shy, withdrawn, bold, outgoing...? Very possible the guy liver is failing him...
    Not calling is not a good sign... However, responses to the questions above could give a different view.

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  8. Am sowi to say this bt seriously dat guy does not appriciate ur essence at alll! Waht is ping compared to calling you!! He is just beein stingy and probably feels bcuz he says he want to date u u wil jump at the offer perhaps he might knw ur age. I knw one bad tin ping does is dat u find urself reducing ur call units but for cryn out loud I stil make calls wen necessary. If u are neccessary to ds guy he would ve called u. Pinging is an ardinary act by everyone, he should step up and do an "extra ordinary" which I doubt if it is anywah!!.

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    1. I forgot to add, don't feel so demoralized cuz of ur age sweety, My God is a perfect planner, his ways are so far from ours. He wil do it in his own season. Just be good, smile always cuz it fades out d wrinkls and glow out ur youthful beauty.. Do that which make u feel happi, socialize wen necessry. Good luck.

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  9. Anonymous7/14/2013

    Thanks everyone,I really appreciate and I say a big AMEN to ur prayers.@Johnson,I added him on facebook late last year so it was around Feb dis ye dat he pinged that can we date?that's how we met and started.I neither said yes or no bcos I just wanted to give it a trail.He's kind of strict and bold guy.We separated after I told him wat I want in a guy 4some tym of which he never called during dose period as in btw March and early June. He later pinged around june dat can we date again,of which since den up till this night,na only pinging ooooo.I wanted to tell him dat can't he call?I purposely didn't call him bcos I think he is supposed to do that first.Of course,he has my phone nos.The day he even wanted to come to my place,he pinged truout.He just called for some minutes that he's @d gate. That's y I decided to ask WC .Thanks evryone,God bless u all
    POSTER

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    1. Anonymous7/14/2013

      What of if I tell him 2b calling and he starts calling,should I give him the chance or not?Or just be friends with him with nothing attached?
      POSTER

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  10. gloexcel7/14/2013

    My dear wen u meet ur man, u ll kw. Dat man want 2 use ur head. Plz b vry smart here cos he might b testin u... Dnt call him n dnt tell him 2 call u either.. Play d game wt him n somtim dnt reply his pings 2 fast btw u r a lady * do shakara na* moreover wen its ur turn no devil can stop it

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  11. Johnson7/14/2013

    @Poster... your guy has a high tendency of being stingy. You need to put in to the test - make him take you out and get him to spend. Also follow other strategies given by others.
    Pinging no bi relationship oooo... you're too matured for this kinda game!

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  12. Anonymous7/14/2013

    Everybody tanks ooo.I really appreciate.@Johnson,its true dat am too matured for this kind of game but I don't want it to be like people will be saying 'na shakara she dey do 4guys dats y she's not yet married' and am tired of being single.Those of u dat r lucky with guys won't know wat God has done 4u and I pray He does such 4me too bcos am so lucky with guys(speaking positively).I no I will come back here 2share my testimony when am married.Tanks
    POSTER

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    1. Johnson7/14/2013

      You shall not be disappointed... God will surprise you plesantly, IJN!

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    2. Amen poster, pls forget about this man! How can he ask you out on bb? No going out or a date! Pls God will bring someone better for you.

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    3. Fyn Ijebu Chic7/16/2013

      My fiance asked me out on fb oooo.lol.(We've been friends for 4yrs). He tuk me out d weekends after dat and spoilt me silly, I still did shakara sef. Dis is someone dat I was in love wit b4 he asked me out. BTW, my fiance is shy and all dat bt loving someone involves sacrifices.
      I advice u carry yoursef wit dignity, dnt act too desperate, men sense dis. And girl, do shakara for all u worth(nt too much ooo), a man dat loves u will still treat u ryt!

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  13. @ Poster, AMEN ooooooooooooooooo

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  14. Anonymous7/14/2013

    In the same position with poster, so called guy I'm dating only calls once in a month and if I complain he says 'pinging is cheaper'

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    1. Anonymous7/15/2013

      Lmaoo!!! @pinging is cheaper. Where do u pple get such men from??

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    2. Boyfriend calls once in a month?!!!! Jeez! Na wah o, girls chop shit cos of having a man to call thiers.U know Wat? U girls shld jst get busy.Bury urslf in ur job or whatever u do and stop looking for love.Love will find u wen u least expect it.I can testify to that.xxxx

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  15. Well to each his own oo. My own na too much calls. To d extent dat if we hv nothing more to say we will jst b quiet and listen to each oda breathe. Some guys prefer to ping, some prefer to call. I dnt think ur problem wit dis guy is about call or no call but simply general negligence on his part. Frm d way he sounds, he aint serious. Dnt b suprised if u complain about call nw, he will start givin u a minute call 3 times a day and yet u will still feel sometin lacking. Chill dear, ur complete man will come, wit calls, pings and video chat. Amen

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  16. Dear poster pls run for ur life!
    Don't worry bout ur age, God will do it due time!
    Bless U!

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  17. Anonymous7/15/2013

    Thanks everyone.I have taken 2ur advice and I'll wait for the man God has ordained for me.Hugs to everybody!
    POSTER

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    1. Anonymous7/15/2013

      Haaaaaa.....see gobe.

      Issokie.

      Bebe

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    2. Anonymous7/15/2013

      Better know dat not all men are d same.....its wen Ʊ hear dat he is gettin married @ d end of dis year dat ur eye wil clear, den Ʊ wil cum 2 WC 2 say Ʊ think he was cheating.
      How can he be married in less than 5months after Ʊ broke up.

      Wise up sister, leaving a man should not b 4 a flemsy excuse as such.

      Moreover, men r like babies, teach dem wat Ʊ want dem 2 know, Ʊ might not put it in d face, let him reason it out.
      Why didn't Ʊ try wat ace said first? Make urself unreachable via the bbm chat and see if he won't care 2 find out vis calling after 3days?
      Am not sayin Ʊ should be desperate cos of ur age, buh Ʊ should also be willin 2 sacrifice.

      My bf goes in communicado 4 3straight days just 2 see if I would get up and cum 2 his house...I was used 2 calls, pix n bbm...now he made me realised all those is not enough, he didn't have 2 tell me, now he has given me d spare key 4 his house just 2 ensure that I know dat I have 2 see him as often as I can n even get 2 d house and wait 4 him if he is not home.
      Sometimes he Pings me and says I should give him d smart card number(dstv) that's when he knows am off duty and should be @ his place even without tellin him.
      Ʊ can mold ur man in2 wat Ʊ want.

      And 4 not loving him yet, its becos Ʊ r stil contemplatin and thinkin Ʊ got better choices out there.

      Be wise.

      Nuff said.

      BeBe

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    3. Anonymous7/15/2013

      Ru a learner??? Biko store d number on ur phone as DSTV scard for ease. And the poster is not desperate too. Good u hv found someone u can stick with allow others to experience same and not manage or tolerate.

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  18. The comments above have said everything. I have nothing different to add o. Since you want my comment too, all I can say is that HE IS STINGY. If you know you can manage a stingy man, then carry on, cos no one is perfect. The one that is not stingy may have another fault.

    Moreso, know that the fact he is a Banker does not mean he has too much money. We are all in this country and know what many bankers are going thru in recent times. Things may not be as easy for him as you think.
    Try and have a talk with him before deciding to cut him off.

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  19. Funny Enough I think I want to second bebe.. Y not try to get to know the guy first? What if he doesn't know this is how u feel? Don't just write someone off as stingy, try to get to know him first,let him know how u feel and listen to what he has to say first.. All men are not the same o, that one man behaves one way doesn't mean everyman should behave same way..don't be in a hurry, just try to know him first,be friendly and all and just relax.. God will fix everything soon IJN

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  20. Anonymous7/15/2013

    Aunty eya and wc readers please this is off topic: i am dating a guy that claims he love me, but he hardly give me money to take care of myself he is always complaining to me that his family distrubing him for money too much, there was a day i went to his house i brought the indomie i cook to eat with my money. Any time i go to his house he always reserved #200 naira to give home and that is not even up to my transport. But he always cliam he want to marry me and i should be carried away by other mens money. He always take of the future and he said he want to teach to be hardworking girl From mercy pls i need your reply eya and wc readers.

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  21. Anonymous7/15/2013

    Aunty eya and wc readers please this is off topic: i am dating a guy that claims he love me, but he hardly give me money to take care of myself he is always complaining to me that his family distrubing him for money too much, there was a day i went to his house i brought the indomie i cook to eat with my money. Any time i go to his house he always reserved #200 naira to give home and that is not even up to my transport. But he always cliam he want to marry me and i should be carried away by other mens money. He always take of the future and he said he want to teach to be hardworking girl From mercy pls i need your reply eya and wc readers.

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  22. Anonymous7/15/2013

    Aunty eya and wc readers please this is off topic: i am dating a guy that claims he love me, but he hardly give me money to take care of myself he is always complaining to me that his family distrubing him for money too much, there was a day i went to his house i brought the indomie i cook to eat with my money. Any time i go to his house he always reserved #200 naira to give home and that is not even up to my transport. But he always cliam he want to marry me and i should be carried away by other mens money. He always take of the future and he said he want to teach to be hardworking girl From mercy pls i need your reply eya and wc readers.

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  23. Anonymous7/15/2013

    Meanwhile, I tease my honey for over calling??? Kai, Honey'm I apologise for teasing you cos you call me so often when we are apart. A man that wants you will chase you, call you, want to see you everyday even if possible. Pursuit is the proof of desire!

    Babe, this guy is not serious. Don't let him come and block the doorway for more serious contenders abeg. Delete him from your bbm and if he calls you, tell him you deleted him because you don't think he is serious and you don't need a time waster right now.

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  24. Anonymous7/15/2013

    32, HOLD ON YET OK? God will hear you. dont jump from frying pan to fire o, married but wishing you are single cos of the wrong person. My cousin married at 37,to the most fantastic of men. Two years later, she is till gusing how she trusted God and he never failed her cos her husband has a good heart. dont rush God's time is the best

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