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RE: Should I Continue To Date Him Even If...

Good day aunty Eya.Pls,I would like you to link my post(Should I continue dating even if.....).Pls,don't reveal my ID.
  Fortunately or unfortunately,my BB subscription expired on Monday,so there was no pinging.He didn't even bother to call or send message to my facebook or phone.


This morning after subscribing for my data bundle,I pinged 2 ask why he didn't even bother to call,he said he thought my subcription has expired.I confronted him that Y didn't  he call,thereafter I
deleted him from my BBM as suggested by Jay and some WC family.After deleting him,he sent a message to my facebook(below is the message he sent).

NOTE: We saw only once oo and we never ever talked about sex! Infact sef,I have never had sex before and he was the one that pinged that we should date.
Guys message 2me--- I'm some how wondering why you deleted. Because I didn't call you when I thought your subscription expired ?

Does that imply having your contact is all about love affair. Sometimes in life we need to reason beyond marriage and sex so that we can see what lies ahead. It is absolutely wrong for you to delete me from your contact without my consent as you did not add me without my consent, so also to think that every man is all about sex and all those immoral dealings. Please stop being childish and grow up. Life is not all about sex and I don't think I have ever asked or beg you to have sex wiht me.

Since I have known you how many times have we seen, let alone discuss with you about sex and all those. I feel very humilated and angry. Life is so simple, I don't know why you can't say 'I don't want us to date again but we can keep the friendship part.

Well I don't really blame you, you must have deleted me out of your past experiences but I guess what, I still contact my ex as friends because life goes beyond where we are now.
Sorry for the  long epistle but I am yet to reply him and ur comment will help.Thanks

Comments

  1. If you really have moved past this guy then you'll apply the principle of "SILENCE IS GOLDEN" here.

    You replying him back and forth will keep you entangled and eventually what you succeeded in doing Is mere "shifting grounds"... From BB to FB.

    Apparently, dude is not interested in you he's only sad about the humilation of deleting him, if he loves you and needs you he'll express that out-rightly on facebook!

    Sadly... Move on!


    Nuff'Said...

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    1. i suggest u delete him as well from the facebook sef. abeg all this women una wahala too much. y cant u guys just date normal guys and walk out if the guy is abnormanl. tufiakwa in ever see oo. u kno clearly that someone is behaving dysfunctional yet u keep on putting up with his shit. the God I know and whom i serve will not give u a rship that comes with so much bsaggae. abeg abeg abeg!*bbmtalktothehandsign*

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  2. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Please you guys were not even dating. You are 32 and you should know by now what a real relationship is. The guy is even asking you how many times you've met.
    Girl he's not even your ex cos you guys never dated

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  3. My dear, d guy's second is stingolo, haba, not even a call. Pls 4get dat guy and move closer to BABA GOD cos wit him all tins are possible.
    U re even a virgin at dat age, u shud be happy and wen u finally meet ur real man, he will cherish u like a "Treasure",(dats my pet name). Pls move closer to God, pray, read ur bible and commit ur heart desires to God, he will surely ans u soon.

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    1. Queen Of The Coast Reloaded7/18/2013

      Lol @ read ur bible,mary u are a bonafide mgboli.
      Poster carry ur virginity go carry award u hear
      Todays rich men like women with plenty experience biko,na only poor men dey cherish all those virginity ish
      Poster go and break ur uirginity biko and tart urself up men will come in quatum.virgin @ 32,what do u know abt cosmetis nne,ur mum deceived u badly jare virgin no dey reigh again jare it went with d 70s
      Am still waiting 4 my anon yawner aka otele mmiri mmiri lmao

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    2. Anonymous7/18/2013

      Yawns and farts @ queen of the crazes

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    3. Queen Of The Coast Reloaded7/18/2013

      Loooolllllllzzzzzzz@anon I ve told u to stip eating beans ooooo,I wonder how ur shanty room is smelling now biko go and baf jhor
      Anon u forgot to add otele mmiri mmiri buhahahahaha

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    4. Anonymous7/18/2013

      Yawnsssssssssssssssssssss

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  4. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Poster pls ignore d guy n move on he is not worth it time ....what a dush...

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  5. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Dear poster, pls and pls, fashi d dude oohh..he isn't or wasn't ever into you.he is jst a time waster..pls don't allow desperation make u settle for less..virgin or no virgin , a man that really wants you and be a part of your life will work very hard to get our attention before you consider giving him your heart..marriage isn't r/ship dt u leave wen u tired or tins aren't working out..PLEASE ignore him..so imagine if there wasn't BB OR FB, he wouldn't bother to call u sef..my dear poster, you deserve better..to the happiness you deserve..

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  6. What in the world is this guys problem? He cannot call? Facebook? He cannot arrange for you guys to see? Is he a kid or something? How old again sef? I would have suggested un-friending and blocking the dude from facebook. Yeah ya, I'm that mean when it comes to rubbish. Aint nobody got time for nonsense!

    Just keep silent. Don't even reply. Cos SILENCE IS THE BEST ANSWER FOR A ............. Trust me, he'll be heavily bothered about the 'no reply' and if he really wants you, he'll be forced to call you and try to see you. Don't just reply. Don't.

    I'd advice that you Press DELETE on the message sef so as not to be tempted to reply. It'll go into your archives.

    And also, If you're as mean as I am, you know what to do with his fb friendship. The word starts with B and ends with K :/

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    1. Jay abeg there is nothing wrong with the guy, even if there is e no concern u? the question shud be what in the world is wrong with a 32 year old woman who does not know her worth, places no value on herself and is ready to take shit from some non - entity.

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    2. I don't recall saying anything about it 'concerning' me dear madam. #confusedsmiley

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    3. Anonymous7/18/2013

      @madam/oga ify abegggggggiiii zuzupuo gi dia.Mst u comment?ewu lafia

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  7. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Pls leave dis guy already dis kind of attitude is 4 a boy n gal under 20 4 christ sake u ar 32 dis is not time 4 Trial n error relationship.just believe u will meet sum1 dat will luv u 4real.talking 4rm Experience.Rose

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  8. He probably has a relationship already dats y he is talking like this.. He just wants to keep u by the side.. Its a good thing u accused him sha.. Please don't reply him,just keep your silence

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  9. itohan7/18/2013

    D bible say"for God so luv the world That he gave...any guy that claims to luv u but can't give(time money gift credit)anything is a player!since its only FB n BB(free more or less)that he can communicate thru dat tells u his middle name is arradiat n his surname superglue, my advice? Ja brake n scobydoo!and pls ignore those general donors n maintain what you have got the fact dat everyone is loosing theirs dose not mean it d right thing to do!

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    1. Anonymous7/18/2013

      LIKE 20x! Haba, you nailed that aspect of giving. Life is too short and, no time to check time!

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  10. He is not into you, simple!
    I had to laugh at the you didn't seek my consent before deleting... Consent e kwa? Hehehehehe

    This guy is not for you; your instinct isn't wrong here. What I find very funny is that you both have never talked about sex and he's bringing it up in his message to you.


    Does he think you are interested in the "relationship" for sex alone? This should give you an insight on how he thinks.

    His kind won't lift a finger in a relationship. He would only want be served. He is just lackadaisical in this regard. Such a man would make a woman age faster and frustrated because she would be the one serving the relationship.

    Please, don't reply; you deserve better! Just move on with your life.

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  11. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Pls ignore him and even if he decides to call, ignore the call and forget about him even if he comes to beg heaven and earth. He does nt deserve you. Very childish.... How do you cope wih such a child?

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  12. Good riddiance to Bad rubbish.

    Don't even bother answering him.
    I'm sorry to say this,but he doesn't sound enlightened or intelligent. Please ignore him. He's not worth your time.

    "Those that trust in the lord shall not be put to shame"... Let this be your mantra. Believe that God will not fail you. Delay is not denial.

    Your Man will come. And while ure waiting,Look Good,smell nice,smile more and keep praying. It will end in praise.

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  13. Dear Poster, delete him 4 FB, n don't bother replyin his msg. Cos dats wat he wants. Ignore him. He's not d man 4 u. A man who rili wants u will show u in evry way.

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  14. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Queen of the coast, it is obvious that you've lost your own virginity and it is paining you.

    Go and read 1Thes4:3-8, Col3:5-6, Romans8:8,Romans12:1.
    I am sealed and soaked in the blood of Jesus, your curses or mockery won't affect a hair of my head.
    I advice all ladies who are still virgins to maintain their virginity and offer it up to God.when you get married, God in His graciousness will bless you abundantly. Your husband will treasure you.Your children will be inspired.

    Even if you are no longer a virgin,strive for secondary virginity.

    May we also be chaste in our words and thoughts. May God help us as we strive for holiness.

    Dear Poster, you'll get your own man.God bless you

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    1. Y should it pain me?taa!I got mallied at 15 a virgin so its no biggie,my hubby likes a whorish wife in his bed every night,sex with he says peels his prick he had to get a sexologist to give me training
      Its only poor men that value this virginity rubbish jhor.
      Rich men like everything with experience
      I would ve love to continue but my attention is needed on the other kayan whatever post (hausatins)

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    2. Anon I am also soaked and sealed with blood of Jesus
      Mama thesalonian

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    3. Anonymous7/18/2013

      LOLZZZZZZZZZZZ.

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    4. Anonymous7/18/2013

      Eya blog rocks

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  15. Anonymous7/18/2013

    I say a big AMEN to ur prayers and a big thank you for ur replies.God in His infinite mercies will continue to uphold ur marriages and r/ships.I know Gods time will be d best 4me.Big Hug 2u all.
    POSTER

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  16. LIKE ACE SAID, DO NOT REPLY THE MESSAGE! CLOSE THAT CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE. IF HE CALLS, FINE! TALK TO HIM .. DONT ADD HIM ON BBM ANYMORE.IF HE DOESNT, STAY IN YOUR LANE.

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  17. Anonymous7/18/2013

    you are worth more that piece of shit. He is not worthy of you at all. There are good men out there, he will cherish you, love you unconditionally and you won't have to beg nor fight him to call you. A good man will do all these things and more without any coercion. Please know your worth

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  18. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Go on fb right now and block him ASAP. If he calls you, please do not answer cos now you will be become a game he must conquer.

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  19. Anonymous7/18/2013

    This is just beyond weird. She lost me at "He didn't even bother to call or send message to my facebook or phone".
    That fact alone should mean you lose interest in the guy. Once he's not trying to talk to you, he's not into you. I can't drum that message enough into women's ears

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  20. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Poster, @ 32 you came here talking like this? You were never in a relationship with this guy to begin with and have no justification to drag him here to wc to be bashed!

    Btw, why do Nigerian women who are virgins think they already have a free passport to heaven or men should worship the ground they walk on? Nigerian women should learn to have their self-worth and not depend on a man to give them that!

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  21. Anonymous7/18/2013

    Well,if u are not in someone's shoe,don't judge bcos u don't no where it hurts.Ofcourse,there is freedom of speech but mind d way u talk.Ofcourse virgin or no virgin,its ur CHARACTER dat matters a lot.There r many things I didn't say here.Av been thinkin of suicide bcos am just tired of dis life,so pls if can't encourage me,don't accuse me or mayb I say,u'll find urself in my shoes IJN.I leave evritin 2GOD.
    POSTER

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    1. U've been thinking of suicide...Why? because of a man? Or.... anyway whatever d reason is, suicide is never an option! becos first, u'd go to hell after suffering here on earth. Jesus loves u please. Turn to him and allow him fill up the vacuum in your life. At 32 you have a lot of life ahead of u. Don't give in to d demands of d devil. You have no right to take that life because it's not urs. God loaned it to u. Invest it wisely. You're not married isn't d end of d world. Work on ur self esteem, be single and whole, don't accept less than what u deserve. Stay happy! Happy people are attractive. Don't ever forget that God loves u immeasurably. :*

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    2. I am forced to comment here cuz almost evy1 hav said all dt I ve in my mind. @poster biko! Pluuuuzzzz! Don't eva think of suicide cuz its a big No go area. Do u believe in God atleast? Whr is ur faith? Clinge to ur author cuz christ is d author and finisher of our life, we are only acting out a script written by our author and guess what? It must end well cuz his plan for us is of Good and not of evil. Always encourage urself in christ cuz his moulding u for sometin great. Forget ur age for now aftral some people married @ 20 bt are dead today; wit or witout a man appriciate this God for life first. Work on ur self, do the tins dt mk u happy, smile alwys, smell good, be responsible and socializ wit ur neighbours. Before I replied u, wat I had in mind was just to bash u cuz I was irritated and d post was making me angry somehow bt am surprised ve ended up having a rethink and writing this piece. Gods grace and good luck.

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  22. Anonymous7/19/2013

    PLEASE, I BEG YOU, DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE, NOTHING WORTH DOING IT!
    YOU WILL GET FREE PASSPORT TO HELL IF YOU DO!
    SORRY IF PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND YOUR PLIGHT AND THEY SEEM INSENSITIVE,
    YOU ADMIT YOU DID NOT SHARE ALL INFO HERE.
    I AM BEGGING YOU.
    AUNTY EYA, KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HER CONSTANTLY.

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  23. Anonymous7/19/2013

    Poster, but do u know that there's nothing u need that u can't get? God said so. If it mattered to him about "coupling" of animals during d tym of Noah, hw can u even think marriage isn't in God's mind? Really pray for trust in God and also improve urself in everyway possible. Suicide? Please don't think that no more! Its not an escape route.

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