My Fiancee Loses Control, How Do I Tame Her

Hello Eya, I am a male WC  blog reader who enjoys your blog.  I have a little issue I know women and guy there can help me sort. My fiancee, I love her so much and she knows. Her attitude sometimes makes me wonder if she loves me the same way. I tried twice to break up with her but it isn't working, we always find ourselves back together again.

She is gorgeous and very hot, when we go out, I enjoy showing her around but she flirts a little. I don't mean cheating because
never caught her with any man. I mean she likes to hang out, chat and feel too free with other guys right in my presence.

If for instance she recognizes anyone cos she is the outgoing friendly type, she doesn't mind keeping me waiting while she chats up the old school mate or friend. I don't like this and each time I bring it up, we end up having an argument. I need advice on how to help her reduce flirting before my eyes. 
How do I tame her please, I can't afford to lose.

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  1. Der's nuffin u can do about dat. She cnt stop. Jst get used 2 it. Its called d stop and chat syndrome. She means no harm

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    1. Lol @ stop nd chat syndrome. WC una too much

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  2. Objective Observer6/28/2013

    Awww allow me to say its a nice change. Guy who doesn't want to lose what he has and appreciates it. HOWEVER your fiances behavior is unacceptable. I mean you need to have a talk with her about how you feel disrespected when she acts like that. Let's not conclude. She might not think there is anything wrong with her behavior. The least she can do is introduce you her fiance and afterward not kEep you waiting so long.

    I also sense she takes u a little for granted (please dnt tht my word for it, I have this feeling from the vibe I got off reading your post). I mean it sure seems like u have mooore feelings for her than se does you. Put your foot down and let her know as much as you love her, she needs to act appropraitely. You need to learn to do this because u will soon be married and u will have to tackle different issues that require u to be firm. Good luck!!

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    1. Johnson6/28/2013

      One key thing I picked from OO (1:45pm) comment is 'she SHOULD introduce you as her fiancée and can go ahead talking. If not brother, you can just being used as a body-guard!
      No woman (responsible ones) will want to marry a man that they cannot submit under his authority – so please be the man!

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  3. How do you "tame" her ? Is she an animal ? Tell her what you don't like a if she continues dump her . I would not be comfortable with by bf flirting with other girls let alone my fiancé ! If she loves you, she has to stop that . Unless you leave her.
    Cheers.

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    1. Anonymous6/29/2013

      Is this the honourable pearl uno?

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    2. Anonymous6/30/2013

      My thots exactly! Is she an animal u want to tame? Ha'an!

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    3. I would say he probably used the wrong choice of words. How about "how can I get her to understand that what she is doing is wrong." Different words, same meaning..Lol.

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  4. I can see that the reason u still with her is because she is hot and gorgeous. U just have her for shows abi. Love is much more deeper than dat. U havent mentioned a single reason why u love her or want to marry her other than she is hot and goorgeous. Hmmmmmmmm

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    1. Anonymous6/29/2013

      I dey tell u! Red carpet wife tinz, LMAO then SMH 4 him

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    2. Absolutely right. Gorgeous and hot isn't going to get you that far and it definitely won't sustain a marriage. Sorry...

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  5. Anonymous6/28/2013

    Tell her you can't cope with her behaviour. Request that she changes. If she doesn't change, you either live with it and turn the other cheek OR yoy quit the relationship. This time, for good.

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  6. It's either you take your mind off that or you visit a herbalist that'll do some total love package for you to put her in a spell... Or what again do you want?

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    1. Anonymous6/29/2013

      Hahahahah! *laf don make me piss for my ex-head* herbalist indeed! As for me, all i Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡ is the fact that ur gurl takes u for granted(maybe not intentionally) and u keep taking her back cos u love her body (pls do tell; are u ugly or probably ur have security issues?). And believe me, ur gurl uses her onion welllll! Marriage is not a red carpet event o! Doz men married to not-too-pretty women are not mad o! May dear,n marriage is a very long journey! Wat happuns wen she gradually starts loosing doz outward qualities? And please sir, respectt is a very vital part of a relationship! Me personally, respect turns me on, seriouusly. If my man does not respect my feelings, desires and wishes, den wat r we doing togeda? Does "love" block our reasoning? Anyway, mydear pray n tell God ♓☺w u want it. Talk to her too. If she CARES @all, she RESPECT ur feelings.

      GAIL MARTINS

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  7. When we r in a relationship, we shld always try 2 put d feelings of our partners in view. I sense she is d out going & friendly type & may not know how & where 2 draw d line esp when u r around. U got 2 take d bull by d horn since she cant contain her long chat wit pple while u r waiting. I suggest u leave her behind when d pleasantries take 2 long. By d time u do dis 2x or 3x she will adjust. Dis might raise a lil dust in ur relationship cos she'll be mad but she'll definitely hv u at d back of her mind when next she starts chatting sm1 up.

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  9. I don't like her leaving you to chat with people for long without letting you know; for me, that's disrespectful.

    How to tame her? I'm sorry sir but IMO, I don't think you can. It's either you accept her the way she is or otherwise, which I doubt since you both end up coming back together.

    Or you go the prayer route. Honestly speaking, she's been like that before you met her so making her change might not be that easy.

    Maybe you could try playing her game too and see her reaction. If she doesn't like it then table your concern calmly but sternly and iron it out. If she isn't moved, then you've got to live with it or go your separate ways(which I doubt will happen).

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    1. Loool prayer route ke? Plz! This is something very practical. Must be burden God every time? In evry situation, we have our part to play just as God has his.. best advice so far from YUCEE. Leave her there!

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    2. Yes oh! He must pray!
      Pray is the key!
      Gerrit?

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    3. Ama, did God confide in you that He's being burdened with prayers? See, you people need to learn that prayer IS the only key. You ought to put God first in EVERYTHING! No matter how petty or trivial it sounds. That's why He's your father, and He'll always guide you right and help you make the best decisions. So you people should quit complaining on God's behalf. He's God not man. Thank you.

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  10. Anonymous6/28/2013

    Dear poster av a talk wit ur fiancee let her understand how u feel i knw she's just a free minded type lady dat dosnt see any harm talking to her male friends in front of u and also stop thinking shes flirting around It might reduce d trust u av in her. Wish u all d best hallyshally

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  11. sir no comment now, searching.

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  12. Anonymous6/28/2013

    Objective observer said it all, but poster pls don't put ur foot down to tightly cos u may lose her if too hash, sometimes men want to b men n over do it..
    Pls my advice wld b talk to her in a loving way( a way u know will not cos drama), let her know how u feel abt d wait n chat syndrome she has, n esp. U hanging while she chats with other pple.
    And pls d mentality of taming is wrong she is a human being not an animal u can't tame ppl.. Mayb dats where ur problem lies..

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  13. Anonymous6/28/2013

    my dear i was like dat tooo.u only need to (1)pray for her.(2)try to talk to her in a friendly atmosphere.(3)alwys try to make her undastan dat u luv her so much and wouldnt do any thing to hurt her,so she should put off all wat u dont like.(4)make her know dat every man dat loves a woman passionately wil alwys be jealous of her.(5) make her undastan dat,yes she might not mean any harm but she is a woman very vunerable to men wit wicked heart so she should limit her social nature in other not to b a victim,cos ure not ready to share her wit anybody. i hope dis helps....goodluck guy

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  14. Anonymous6/28/2013

    my dear i was like dat tooo.u only need to (1)pray for her.(2)try to talk to her in a friendly atmosphere.(3)alwys try to make her undastan dat u luv her so much and wouldnt do any thing to hurt her,so she should put off all wat u dont like.(4)make her know dat every man dat loves a woman passionately wil alwys be jealous of her.(5) make her undastan dat,yes she might not mean any harm but she is a woman very vunerable to men wit wicked heart so she should limit her social nature in other not to b a victim,cos ure not ready to share her wit anybody. i hope dis helps....goodluck guy

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  15. Keep taking to her till she change

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  16. Baby oku6/28/2013

    Did u say tame her?sorry, is she an animal?

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  19. Anonymous6/28/2013

    Pls let her be.

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  20. She is a sanguine 4 crying out loud! Tame ko is she an animal

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