Can I Ask Him Out?

Hello Aunty Eya, I am a student in my final year. What I'm going to ask you is something that used to be Un African but I think times are changing. There is a guy
I really love to go on a date with and probably start something. I know him from a distance because his friend is dating my BFF and we kind of meet sometimes. I like him a lot and I know I can do this thing because I am a very extroverted person but I don't know how the African society still sees it. Is it still being frowned at?

Please advise me before you post it to your blog. I need to be sure of myself before I launch or not. Help with advice please.

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  1. Sure you can. But don't sound too desperate.
    Best of luck dear!

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  2. Anonymous6/06/2013

    If he hasn't approached you, then he's not that into you. If he is and he's just scared, trust me you don't want to be with a man who cannot go for what he wants, AKA being a man. Except you want to be the dude in the relationship. Just take a chill pill sis.

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  3. You can give him the green light and watch his reaction to see if he's interested. But wait o, doesn't he have a girlfriend? if he doesn't, give him the green light and if he does not respond positively, then keep your cool. Asking a guy out can be very dicey, some guys wouldn't mind while some will make you hate yourself for trying.

    Anyway babes whatever rocks your boat, go for it. What's the worst that can happen sef? but like Adaeze said, don't appear too desperate.

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  4. Anonymous6/06/2013

    Get ur BFF and her boyfriend 2 matchmake u 2. Safer that way.

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    1. *light bulb moment!*
      Great idea for the poster!

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    2. That's a great idea.

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    3. I second your motion...... Babe just go for this advice,am sure if he has someone he is seeing then ur bff will let you know or better still start with a phone conversation(like collecting his no from his friend inviting him for a movie or program)start on a friendship note oo,one who is not interested in a relationship then if him no suji,abeg bone! don't buy the idle doing a man's work when it comes to scoping levels.




      Am loving my self now ahhahahahahah

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  5. Soulspasms6/06/2013

    Don't ever come on directly to a guy. You can be indirect about it, and doing what anon 10:59 said is a great way to go about it.

    But don't ever ask him out yourself. I believe when a man wants a lady,he will go for her. If he doesn't even have the liver to ask you out but he likes you, youl see him always hovering around you or something. LooL

    But in your case,a little help from ur friends won't hurt. That way u keep ur head up, and u still get at least one date where he gets to really know you! Lol!

    Please let us know how it goes! All the best!

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  6. My dear take easy so u don't appear so desperate. You loving him and longing for his friendship aint enough. You never stated any action from him that proves his reasoning in your direction,notwithstanding his being the shy type.
    Atleast a guy that loves you,will atleast show it some signs to buttress that.
    Instead of taking the lead,I'll advice you try sending him the right signal just as Nekky said and if he feels the same way he'll play his own part. Don't force it,before you endup serving your waist on a platter.lol

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. ashawo6/06/2013

      Lol@ serving your waist on a platter.u no wella

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  7. This is a 50-50 situation; he may and may not like it. Like someone earlier asked, does he have a gf? If NO, then I advise you give him hints suggesting you like him and let him make the move.

    Some guys still believe it's in the place of a man to ask a lady out. Doing so might lower your worth in his sight.

    All I'm after is your dignity and self esteem still intact after this(if you decide to go ahead with it).

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  8. It is still Un-African. Be sure that he has no reservations about it or else, you will blow ur chances with him for ever. Also, the matchmaking idea is nice but ur friends have to be wise about it. Not, “Hey, remember Jane? She totally wants to date you so, we want to hook you up" lol

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    1. Ahdaisy why now?of all the names why did u decide to use mine.

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    2. Anonymous6/07/2013

      lol...hahahaha cant't help laughing at Jane's comment. u nor no say that name na armed robber motor. My sis once deceived a guy dat her name was Jane

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  9. Anonymous6/06/2013

    On d contrary,some dudes falls head ova heels wit ladies dat are bold enof 2 walk up 2 dem......startin an interestin conversation wit him is one way 2 start up ur game plan,its even mor easier since u are an extrovert...d matchmakin is also nt a bad idea al all bt u guys sud b mature about setting so d dude wont suspect fowl play.......r u 100% sure dis dude is single????.....cnt wait 2 hear how is goes sha....best luck!!

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  10. Anonymous6/06/2013

    On d contrary,some dudes falls head ova heels wit ladies dat are bold enof 2 walk up 2 dem......startin an interestin conversation wit him is one way 2 start up ur game plan,its even mor easier since u are an extrovert...d matchmakin is also nt a bad idea al all bt u guys sud b mature about setting so d dude wont suspect fowl play.......r u 100% sure dis dude is single????.....cnt wait 2 hear how is goes sha....best luck!!

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  11. The match making idea is the best. If that can't work, I doubt if any other style can work. You should tell your BFF first how you feel about the guy. Hear what she has to say. Depending on what she says and how she takes it, she could go on to tell her BF like "don't you think it will be a great idea if we try to match make 'poster' and poster's 'crush''s together?". Let her listen to what her own BF thinks about that. If he thinks it's cool, they will do the necessary. Maybe you guys could all hang out or something. If they don't think it's a good idea, listen to their reasons. All the best.

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  12. Anonymous6/06/2013

    Best friend friend

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  13. Anonymous6/06/2013

    Pls advice oh..My dream has always been to have halfcast pikin. I want to do artificial insemnatn but My Bobo wey no be Oyibo wan make we marry. i no love am like dat but family and all like him and he is a great guy but really I prefer to be alone cuz it’s more peaceful and I can make decisions on my own too. I dont know how to tell my family that this is what I want bcos they will think I am insane plus the guy loves me to bits, very handsome but aint Mr perfect. I just clocked 30. Pls advice guys…

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    1. Hahahahahaha. Serious loko O! U r 4 real ryt? Der r so many lebanese in ph, warri. Go try ur luck. #smh@urpriorities#

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    2. Anonymous6/07/2013

      Hmmm,girl u are serious,abeg leave matter,if it does happen naturally then it wasn't meant to be. We all fantasize

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  14. boss lady 016/07/2013

    There are other ways to get his attention, don't approach him ooo our society aint that develop yet, so keep classy not trashy!

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