Nollywood Actor's Private Wedding Disrupted By Pregnant Wife

Solomon The Nollywood Actor that was getting married to a pregnant mistress. 
The only thing that made me believe this story is the pictures I saw. Solomon and Lilian have been together for thirteen years. From the story on Linda's blog, they courted for six years and have been married for seven years. For the first six years of their marriage, they were TTC. Now God has answered their prayers and she is heavily pregnant, how
come it's at this time he decides to treat her with so much scorn? Why choose this time of her life?

I am a woman too. Ever since I read this and saw the pictures on Linda Ikeji's, a lot has gone through my mind. What haven't I thought and talked about. The fact that traditional marriages come before church weddings, so, that means her disrupting the white wedding doesn't mean much, her husband is traditionally married to the Lagos Lady. 

How a man will travel out of town, send money to his wife at home, send a message he is on a movie set and won't be back till next week only for him to be at a church somewhere wedding his pregnant mistress. It baffles me how Actors sometimes live out what they act in movies. I like that his wife pays them a surprise visit and ends the wedding. What else can she do now?

I keep asking myself what happens to the marriage with his first wife? She actually succeeded in disrupting the wedding before they were pronounced man and wife. I am happy about that but, even if the priest or pastor had succeeded in the pronouncement, wouldn't that marriage be declared null and void by the Law Courts? 

What are those reasons that can make a marriage become null and void according to Law? Abeg na who sabi? let us in, because the shock of this fake marriage today is like the greatest shock of my life yet.
Should Lilian now forgive her erring husband? What happens to his pregnant second wife?

If she decides to leave him, what about her pregnancy? and will leaving solve the problem?  leaving at this time might even be seen as foolishness on her part? Leaving is like giving his pregnant mistress the go ahead to come take over. Staying is like adopting another child into a marriage that waited for so long to get a child. What if the mistress or second wife gives birth first?  
So many questions in my head
If she stays, will she be able to love him again. Is it possible to return back to loving a husband who does this to you?

When men cheat, their wives' hearts are broken. When a man travels out of town, leaves a pregnant wife at home, and is seen wedding his pregnant mistress in another town, what happens to his wife's heart?

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  1. Anonymous4/13/2013

    I really feel like pourin acid at his face!men are wicked,I'm sure he must have accused his wife of been infertile all these year that the reason he did that.But God that answereth prayers has answered the poor woman and this is how he said THANK YOU?!anyway I don't blame people that kills because people push them 2do so.

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    1. My dear, if we allow people push or influence us to kill, we have definitely become like them.

      The only thing that makes us different is refusal to act like them.
      He used to be one of my fav actors cos of his gentlemanly way of acting.

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  2. Anonymous4/13/2013

    I'm still in shock! After reading the story on LIB all these thots ran thru my head. Who I go swear for? The man or his mistress? How will the wife continue to look @ her husband home? The whole thing is a mess! Besides wetin go happen to the marriage food and cake?

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    1. Anonymous4/13/2013

      That kind food and cake, it will definitely go sour.

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    2. Food and cake for public enjoyment naa. What a waste.

      One thing with us humans is that everything is possible. Do you know its possible for Lilian to forgive him?
      It's all in the mind. If he shows remorse, it is very possible for him to be forgiven. Lilian can take the baby when he is old enough to be separated from his mother.

      If she decides never to forgive him, the other lady then becomes her child's step mother.
      Well, For me,I think forgiveness is possible here.

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  3. Anonymous4/13/2013

    The pains he has caused her can only be liken to the pain of losing someone close to death.

    This is devastating, callous, and wicked.

    May God console her, keep her pregnancy safe from hypertension and high blood pressure.

    Ihotu

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    1. @Ihotu, the pain will heal faster if he is remorseful and if she tries to forgive him.

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  4. Anonymous4/13/2013

    See him head like tray pan, it is men like this that spoils the image of other men.

    He is just occupying a space.

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    1. See how he made you cuss him, may God help us.

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  5. mizosa4/13/2013

    Hmmm dis is real wickedness, d lady he wants 2 get married 2 is nt evn as beautiful as his wife. Why will the pastor evn agree 2 wed such a man?guess he didn't know. I fEel 4 his wife.what can be done now?????*sad*

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    1. Thank you Mizosa, I thought pastors were supposed to do some underground checks and investigations before agreeing to wed people OR, have some pastors started to accept bribe too?

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  6. Such an unfortunate situation. I don't know how he thought he would get away with it. I pray the pregnancies are not threatened by this trauma.
    But why would Solomon's family and friends accompany him to take a new wife when he wasn't divorced from the first? It is a wah!!

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    1. He nearly got away with it. @Virtuosity, you forget that some families are the ones to suggest another wife once there is delay in conception/pregnancy.

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  7. Anonymous4/13/2013

    It's jst a Wicked act! No 2 ways abt it. If not 4 anytn, at least, at least #sighs deeply#, he shud av considered the fragile heart of his wife and his unborn child! Dnt evn kno who to blame. Is it dt d mistress wsn't aware of his status of bn married? Abi na d mumu guy of a friend wey he carry do escort? Wasted money! How dem go do d rice, drinks, gift items..? And funds, never refundable. Anyways wetin b my own sef? #passes by#

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    1. You sef eh, how can a mistress not know about his marital status. Did he ever take her to his house/apartment?

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  9. D heart of man Is desperatly wicked. D 2nd marriage, if it hed gone tru, wld hv been null n void ab initio, if he had his first marriage duly registerd @ d registry. Dis is one of d rizons y we advice ladies 2 marry @ a registry or a church dt is a registerd place of worship. Most of diz pentecostal churches r nt duly registerd n d certificates dey issue r not d marriage licence of d fed rep of Nig. If dt is d case, n a sharper woman takes ur husband 2 a registry or a church dt is licenced,she takes precedence in law bcos it is assumd dt u jst had a customary marriage n unda customary law, a man can marry mor dan 1 wyf. So pls ladies dnt jst hv a weddin, hv a marriage dt is duly registerd 2 avoid Surprises...

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    1. Thank you Ivy Brown, this is eye opening.

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  10. Am just lost for words,but I found strenght to pray for such not to be my portion,before I embraced my bed.

    HAPPY MOTHERING SUNDAY to my lovely mum and all mothers. Been busy since evening went to the market with dad,cameback and we both prepared Ofeakwu stew for my mum's celebration tmao.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Hi Bonario, thanks to you and Dad for doing this for your Mum, it will mean a lot to her I tell you.

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  11. omo na true gbege oo... I feel for both women It's a wicked world we live in. God bless everybody.

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    1. Thank you Banke, some wicked can be avoided. We just don't know how to listen to and communicate with ourselves as humans.

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  12. Anonymous4/14/2013

    Dis is wat I was saying in d previous post!dis new wife can't tell me she didn't no d dude is married,1)he's a public figure,easy access 2his profile 2)he still communicates with his wife normally,she wud av bin with him on several occasions like dat!bt yet mayb bcos of her money n d guy can nack her well,as e don nack pregnancy join!she deems it fit2marry anoda person's hubby in a church 4dat matter.d pastors in dat church are 419s,God will judge dem all!I won't b surprised if dey decide 2go 2court n still marry low key!bet I hope lillian has a genuine marriage certificate,if she does she can show d guy pepper.bcos if I were her,ders no possible way I would evn want him2father my child not 2talk of remain married 2him.he's a waste!

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    1. The statement from the church even shocks me the more, as if they are blaming Lilian for disrupting the church Service.
      Some churches and their pastors eh, the only thing they know how to teach members is Tithing.
      forgetting that God will ask them why they never taught their congregations that no one paid tax or tithe in the new testament because God has stopped taxing his children.

      I wish people read their scriptures themselves too without relying solely on what they are told. These kinds of pastors see nothing wrong with marrying a stranger to their pregnant sister without investigating a public figure like Solomon Akiyesi.

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    2. Anonymous4/15/2013

      Aunty Eya..pls abt d tithe can u explain more cos i was talking to someone abt it n he was like ple shud give out of free will....so r u saying we aint suppose to pay tithe..*confused

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  13. Anonymous4/14/2013

    End times...that's all I can say. It's a big shame, and no arrests made? Naija sha!!!

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    1. My thoughts exactly, no arrests made?

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  14. kendra4/14/2013

    I read this story ystrday and I was in shock. To think that I only see this kind of thing in movies and actors like this man playing the role,not knowing he can bring it to reality. I have never heard of a cancelled wedding before or a disrupted wedding till ystrday and if there were no pix,I wouldn't believe it at all

    There is no reason why she would want that man again,well who knows,she might. But he deserves to be abandoned by her,dealt with.. She should put him thru hell,make him suffer and take all he has that's if he does... Ah,she should take the matter to court,this is bigamy jor,ah ah,what nonsense. I'm so mad at the guy.. And there's no way the mistress didn't know he was married,she knows well but still tot her baba has cooked enough charm for her to go thru the whole process... Cos I saw what he wrote on his FB ystrday and it didn't seem like he was in his normal senses...

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  15. Anonymous4/14/2013

    D tin tire me my Sisters!!
    How can a man be dis heartless? Wat was he tinking? Even wen d wife is pregnant! Dis is a very big lesson to all dis mushroom pentecostal churches dat are springing up everywhere nowadays! How can u marry a man n woman in ur church without verifying? Didn't u pray? God did not tell u anytin? Mr pastor fear God o!Dis is a big disgrace to d church!
    Wanna be wife,hmmm sorry o better Luck next time!
    The chikoo

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    1. @Chikoo, verifying ke? that pastor didn't even have to pray much. God has provided the vast internet for our use. If only he Googled Solomon Akiyesi, may be all this mess would have been controlled.
      A big shame! I wonder the sermon he'll give his congregation today.

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  16. Anonymous4/14/2013

    When I read that story,I just became weak. What is wrong with women? What? Women can't have their fellow womans back. How can you knowingly do that to a fellow woman like you? Honestly,I am tempted to start exposing some Men that sleep with other women....Naming NAMES of both sexes. Since they are as mean as hell,Meanest measure will be taken against them. Bonario,thank God for the Man you will become.

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    1. They say women are their worst enemies. What happens to the pastor or priest that failed to do his investigative job?

      With the internet now, he didn't need to travel anywhere to find out basic information like marital status, yet he failed.

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    2. Anonymous4/14/2013

      I personally will not blame the pastors becos pastors do not investigate the background of the people they are about to wed, they will announce it and ask anybody who think this ones should not be joined together should notify them in person.

      He might have even lied to them that he was a divorcee.

      Ihotu

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    3. Anonymous4/16/2013

      I know in the Catholic Church bans o marriage are sent to any where you have lived for a long time, so that it can be announced for three consecutive weeks before the wedding. Even if the person does not stay in that area anymore, there'd be someone who knows him/ her there.

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  17. this is pure shame! shame on the man most especially and shame on the second wife (if she was fully aware of the first)

    I do not even know what I will do, I have no idea I can't even say anything.. I think I will be silent in shock first and then.. I don't know but the silence wouldn't be a good type

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  18. This solomon's behaviour is so disgusting! Since I 1st read about this yesterday,I've been thinking about it and following d story and people's comments. The man's cowardly action,his yeye post on facebook;honestly its horrible. Why didn't he just divorce her instead since she wass holding him down in life? So sneaking to marry his mistress is d way out? Some people are blaming d man's friend for knowing abt it & I read d wife was cussing him out,what is d point? Of cos he will know! She expects him to tell her? Dts men for u! Dy'll come 2 ur house to eat & dy'll follow hubby 2 joint with mistress to enjoy. Never expect better from them! D funny pastor and his child's statement is just disgusting! God alone will judge them. Its all just a very sad situation for the wife. Some men are just funny sha! May God help us all.

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  19. that's why i like my Anglican and Catholic o. at least they will announce the bans of marriage three times before going ahead in both the intending couple's home and city churches. even if the man lied and the lady knew but decided to go ahead regardless, i expect the church to do a better job.
    Dear God, i want to marry an Anglican but if not please bless me with a catholic man. these Pentecostal churches know how to turn things upside down. this kind of thing will NEVER happen in an Anglican or a Catholic church!!! quote me anywhere!!!

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    1. Anonymous4/16/2013

      So it is because of this you want to marry an Anglican or a catholic! # IlaughInlatin#

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