Mother-In-Law Wahala, Please Help Before I make The Wrong Decision


Dear Aunty Eya,
I am a constant reader of your blog. God will continue to give you Wisdom for the great work you are doing in the life of married women and singles. Please help me to post this in your blog for advise and also advise me with a reply. Thanks.

There is this guy that proposed to me sometime in 2011. I started praying about it and asked God for two signs, either in a dream or in a prophecy. I didn’t see anything in
the dream it was the prophecy that confirmed it that he was my husband. Then we started the relationship.

The point now is that, after about five months, I asked him about his mother’s reaction when he told her. He now told me that the mother said it would have been better if it is an Ikwerre woman.

I am from Delta State while he is from Igbo. Immediately I heard the word, after a month I quit the relationship because I don’t want a mother-in-law that will not like me.
As I am talking now, the guy is begging me. I don’t know what to do.
Please I need your advice before I make a wrong decision.
Frances

Comments

  1. You are not marrying his mother though she will be in your life for sure. But if the man loves you and will stand with you first and foremost, then consider him again. All the best.

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  2. That is not a good enough reason to end the relationship. #JustSAYING.

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  3. U r not serious, I'm sure. If he was boxed enuf, u would have damned everything on ur way. I think u just don't like d guy like that, from d dream & prophesy u were expecting. So u r just making excuses.

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    1. Anonymous3/27/2013

      U've spoken my mind!

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  4. Anonymous3/26/2013

    You have not even met her! And you re running already. It shows you will run from challenges in the future. Put yourself together and show her you will make a better wife.

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  5. Cyndrella3/26/2013

    Love conquers all odds, please if u love this guy go for him.His mother should not be the problem here.it happened to me where the guys father said it would have been better if i was from Anambra(onitsha) meanwhile am from Abia but i loved the guy so much but he went wt his father's decision.Though i missed him but am married and happy.if the guy is ready to convince his mother and u are able to prove to her that u are a good woman for her son then u can go ahead.But love is very important.I always miss the fact that my husband is an orphan though my parent are still living.

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  6. Anonymous3/26/2013

    You need to meet his mom before quitting your relationship.. The home truth is that most mothers have their preferences, but that could change once they meet a good girl.. 'M hoping she'll love you like her own daughter once she meets you.. All they best dear
    Chinny

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  7. kendra3/26/2013

    I don't think u want to be with the man cos if u want to,there's nothing that would make u leave him. Besides,the mother inlaw didn't say no,she just said it would have been better if it was ikweere. U haven't even met her yet and u running olwedi. When my hubby wanted to marry me,his sisters said no cos I wasn't from there state(his mom is late) but 2day,they are the best inlaws one can ever ask for

    So if u love him,take him back and pray always..

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    1. Anonymous3/27/2013

      There MIGHT be stuffs the woman had said dat d guy cnt jst bring himself to spill

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  8. Hi Frances, how are you today? To me, her saying an Ikwerre woman would have been better does not mean she won't like you. I think she said her mind when it comes to her Scale Of Preference. Have you met her? How did she react towards you? I think you should meet her first, observe her reactions and then repeat your question to him. Ok.
    She may like you. We all have our preferences when it comes to making choices. Perhaps she is an Ikwerre woman, there is nothing wrong with her discussing with or telling him her mind.

    For now, I think you should accept him back, meet his mother, know what she thinks of you, and think also about his love for you before taking a decision Ok. Continue to pray while doing all these.
    Have a lovely evening.
    Eya

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  9. Fyn Ijebu Chic3/26/2013

    My fiance family DO NOT marry from my place. They av all sort of beliefs abt us. Both I love him and he loves me. Also, his parents are staunch CAC members and I am jus an ordinary christian. I dared all and met dem. Now u go think say na dem born me

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  10. Fyn Ijebu Chic3/26/2013

    Forgot to add dat my sister-in-law is a pain in my butt. I jus dust my butt and pretend like she doesn't exist. She wan marry her brother.

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    1. Anonymous3/27/2013

      Hahahhahhaha nice one jare

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  11. Anonymous3/26/2013

    Abeg enough of dis tales. Husband dis boyfriend dat... Madam Eya abeg give us food.

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  12. Anonymous3/26/2013

    I had a similar experience with an ex. Yours is even reasonable bcos you are from different states. Mine was that we are both from Anambra state but his family which r his bros and sis (his parents are gone) said that he must marry, not just a woman from Anambra state but specifically from Awka just like all his 7 siblings have done. With the kind of family he talks about, I knew that was the end for us immediately he told me that. I didn't even bother to wait and meet them. I thanked the good lord and moved on with my life.
    I wasn't inlove with him anyway and he was almost 40yrs old and I'm 27. So good luck with him finding his perfect town's girl, hope he doesn't clock 50 by then. That happened last year and dis year I'm getting married in Dec to the love of my life. Lol

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    1. Mrs Anon4/03/2014

      Hahaha... I don laff tire. Awka indeed. Abi na jazz? Take 5 jare

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  13. If u actually heard from God thru a prophecy that the man is ur husband so why not trust God to help u make ur mother in-law luv u. it could be cos of d tribe that pissed her off first and dat doesn't maen she will not come to love u later.

    My sis please learn to pray and also follow God's direction.

    When my husband introduced me to his mother before we got married, she bluntly told me that she doesn't want an ibo girl for her child. i smiled and went to God, she did not only approve, she can't stay without speaking wit me. she sees me as a blessing to her son.

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  14. Hello Frances,
    While I understand that having a mother in law who doesn't like you is a terriible thing, if all she said was that she would prefer someone from another tribe, in my opinion its not a good enough reason to leave your fiance.
    Meet her first and take it from there. Its another thing entirely if she shows you her displeasure.
    As long as you're sure this is the man for you, Pray for God to perfect everything about your relationship. He answers.
    All the best

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  15. LOL...1ST OF ALL, URE NOT THE ONE THAT WOULD TELL GOD HOW TO SPEAK TO YOU!! YOU DONT DICTATE FOR GOD! HOW SURE ARE YOU THAT HE'S UR HUSBAND.. HAVE U PRAYED? IS UR MIND AT PEACE? WHAT DID YOUR PASTOR SAY? JUST SO U KNOW, THE DEVIL ALSO "PROPHESYS" ... THAT BEING SAID, IF ALL THESE CONDITIONS HAVE BEEN MET, WHAT HIS MOTHER SAID "WHICH MAY NOT EVEN BE AS WEIGHTY AS URE MAKING IT SEEM" IS NOT ENOF REASON FOR YOU TO END THE RELATIONSHIP. UNLESS U DONT WANT IT IN THE 1ST PLACE..SHE ONLY SAID WHAT SHE'D HAVE PREFERRED.. SHE DINT SAY SHE HATES U ALREADY..UVE NOT EVEN MET HER, SHE'S NOT GIVEN U ANY FORM OF PHYSICAL WAHALA AND URE ALREADY RUNNING! ORDIEGWU!

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  16. Queen Bee3/29/2013

    Usually females in a man's family always look for an excuse once their son or bros brings someone home,its just jealousy.but I am happy that ur fiance knows what he wants,and is begging u to come back, and that is what matters (that he is protecting u from his family).its just a matter of time,the mum will get over it esp if she can't make him Change his mind.so I advise u go back to ur man and stand thru' together!

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