My Husband Doesn’t Remember, Celebrate Special Days

Good morning Ladies,
Here is a mail I got last night. This was sent to me because she says that wivestownhallconnection is where she feels that other wives will get to read and feel what she is going through. I am permitted to share it but without her name:

Hi joy ojay; this is my first time writing you since I started
enjoying your blog. Thanks.

I have been married for five years now; I have a daughter in this marriage and a son from a previous marriage. I met my husband shortly after the divorce from my first marriage.
He
was in love, the courtship lasted just one month and he proposed.  
We   got married. I love my husband and do not want this marriage to fail again.
 I am ready to protect this marriage with all I have got.  I am not ready to experience another failed marriage so I think I need some help. Why do I say this? I have a good job, I support my family the way other caring women do BUT, there is a problem.
As a woman, little gestures do mean a lot to me. I want to still feel loved and appreciated.
For the five years that I have been married to my husband, he has neither remembered my Birthday nor tried to celebrate it.
Our Marriage Anniversaries were celebrated just thrice because I reminded him. After the third Anniversary, I started feeling drained, feeling like I am putting in too much effort to make it work.  
I got him gifts and we celebrated Father’s day because I initiated it. You won’t believe that while I try to make every Father’s Day special for him, he has never remembered Mothers’ Day. Even when I remind him, the only thing he does is just say Happy Mothers’ Day to the Best Mom in the world, and that ends it.
Don’t I deserve to be taken out and treated specially on special days?
Don’t I deserve even cheap jewelry or anything as a gift to make me happy?
Don’t I deserve a card telling me how he feels about me? I did not tell you that he has a good job. Money is not the problem; all I ask for is just some gestures that will make me feel like the special woman in his life.
My birthday is fast approaching and I am quite sure that he will not remember it! I do not think that he cheats on me; I do not also think that I am that really special to him.
I am not interested in his wealth; all I need to make me happy is just the “little things.
I am so confused.

1 thought on “My Husband Doesn’t Remember, Celebrate Special Days”

  1. There is no issue on this,just set those special days as a reminder on his phone for his awareness,at least he will remember,not all men register special days in their memories.

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