Showing posts with the label women matters


She was our neighbour's house help, she couldn't be more than two years older than me, I was around eight years old at the time, we became friends. Beautiful, very fair and hard working, I marveled at her strength.One day I entered their house to visit her, she was backing baby G,


There are so many types of perfumes in the market today. Depending on the mood, many women sometimes have more than one type to use according to how they feel at any moment. Perfumes date back to around 7000 BC in The Middle East. 
In the past, the sole reason


In your teens and 20s, you can get away with anything you put on your body. But once you pass 30, those swerves—the mismatched patterns, the unflattering silhouettes—aren’t as acceptable as they once were. Basically, now that you’ve grown up, it’s high time for your wardrobe to.
If you can afford it, focus On Buying Investment Pieces Instead Of Fast Fashion Pieces. By the age of 30 you’re likely to be moving into a better salary bracket with a bit more disposable income, which allows you to spend a bit more on your clothes. Your investment pieces don’t have to be designer, just good enough quality to survive more than three washes and save you the stress of shopping clothing items all the time all year round.Do not be careless about your fitting. Fit Is Everything. No matter what size you are, make sure the size you buy is a true reflection, and that the fit is tailored and refined. Take time to have your clothes properly tailored. If your tailors don't impress you with their sew…


It's Okay to be single. However, if that's not what you want for yourself, then know that THESE are no longer the days of asking God to show you your wife by sending a kind lady to feed your donkeys or cows as sign that it's God's will. Times have really really changed. The technique for knowing God's will in marriage for you has changed just like the means for travelling from Lagos to Abuja is no longer on horses and chariots. Nicole tells you why... Below:

In the years that I've spent navigating through dating app profiles and YouTube tutorials on "how to be un-single," I've noticed a


Let the new mom live and enjoy this mommy moment with her newborn son. What do we Nigerians really want sef? Remember how the questions kept pouring in? The comments very callous and mean... When are you getting married? Will you get married to your laptop? Are you going to make all that money with no child to call your own? 

See ehn? If I  were that very successful, stinking successful with


The importance of  disposable baby diapers to our generation cannot be overemphasized. Aside taking care of baby's poop and pee and all that kind of stuff, baby diapers have saved lives since the day women discovered ways to do more with these pads aside wrapping on baby's cute little bum. There are also adult disposable diapers in the market, for those who need them at night, sick on hospital beds or just for comfort. Apart from the pampers baby diapers and Huggies that are common with Nigerian families, there

Pregnant Student Needs Advice

Hello Aunty Eya and everyone else,

Woman shares a photo of what it looks like after losing both her breast to cancer

She is indeed a very courageous woman and this should serve as a form of encouragement to other women who hide in shame and begin to have insecurities because of just little blemishes or tiny accident scars on their skin. See her smile like she just doesn't care and that is exactly how to defeat cancer. This is the spirit of a survivor!

Cancer as we all know, is a disease of the body, mind and spirit and can only be defeated with this kind of attitude. If she didn't let this here bring down her spirit then she'll let nothing


These bras are what every woman should have for different purposes. When it comes to lingerie, some women can do without under pants and tights and petticoats but can you go out without a bra? How many do you have and ... is there any that's not really necessary? Which do you think is best for mummy breast? I think the push-up bra is a necessity for all mums with mummy boobies. Which bra would you recommend for


Hello ma, I had an abortion four years ago and thought I had gotten over it. I was 24 years old, we were planning our wedding and I didn't want to be seen as a pregnant bride. Although my husband (then fiance) tried to convince me to leave it, I couldn't stand what other church members will think of me when I give birth earlier than 9 months after the wedding. "I'm in the church choir, what would they think of me" how will they start treating me afterwards?". Our courtship was seemingly very strict as my church has rules about all these things, what would they say if 6, 7 months after the wedding they receive news I gave birth to a baby that doesn't even look premature?  I went ahead and secretly did it. 
Let me not lie, I was haunted after the wedding, I never thought another

Tamarind Seed For Tightening. Anyone Tried It?

Good Morning Madam Eya, I heard from my Northern Nigerian friend that Tamarind is a natural tightener for women of child bearing age after delivery. That it is a natural home remedy after one is done with episiotomy treatments and sitz bath.Says she removed flesh, boiled the seeds, allowed to cool a bit and kept washing for just seven days and it was fast in healing and tightening her body again. I'll like to try it but first help me confirm on the


Greetings! In crisis situation,  the needs for shelter and food are often given urgent attention.  Sadly, the specific needs of women and girls are often ignored.  According to the International Displacement Monitoring Center, there are an estimated 2,152,000 Internally Displaced Persons (IDPs) in Nigeria as of 31 December 2015. Among them, women and girls have heightened needs- including the need for protection from gender-based violence,  health and hygiene needs. For many of us, buying sanitary products is as easy as buying

Ladies, Please Help A Bikini Hair Sister

Hello Eya, my name is Becky, am 27 years old. i have been reading your blog for sometimes now. please i want know the best product or cream to use for bikini area, i know it sounds awkward.but i am not really comfortable with the cream am using, i use veet hair removal cream for sensitive skin, and before

Pregnancy Weight, Romantic Husband Plus More

1. Hi aunty Eya. Hope yoџ and your family are doing great?. Please i'†ђ3 like to be anonymous.
I've been married for just 2years n my marriage isn't what ℓ̊ want it to be. My husby isn't romantic and is soo nonchalant about it. I try buh he is not encouraging me. I buy him gifts on both val day and his birthday buh he does reciprocate. even ordinary txt he won't send. I've talked to him about it and he was like those things don't matter, buh those littlr little things matter to me. We are young buh am certain our parents share more love than us. Please what can i do to gain his full attention, to make him appreciate me, to be romantic? Pls help!

2. Dear aunty Eya, pls I will be very glad if you can post this anonymously on the blog. I gave birth last month through CS so I wasn't allowed to do most of the therapy a new mum does to get back in shape but I am really anxious to get my shape back especially my tummy. What should I do pls? Is it ok to go on a d…

Bucket Bum Lift, Curvy Hips, Hour-Glass-Shape For Ladies

This comment has been on the blog since last week and I wanted to try and confirm before posting but time. We can all try and come back to share how it went. Success on growing and tightening your butt. 
Read it Below:

Good day Aunty Eya. Please help me make this a topic so my sisters on here can benefit from my discovery. I was the same person that made it known sometimes ago that Instagram is on BlackBerry, that is by the way.

What I brought today is Super and i'm sure anyone who gives it a trial would ever be grateful. It's nothing but a Butt lift, Curvy hips and firm butt. It cost nothing but dedication and a Bucket, It is called Bucket I laughed when my South African friend told me about it but I was grateful I did not ignore it because even blind men are commenting on my curve. some even went as far as saying she has started wearing Bum Bum but na lie o, na my bum bum gan gan I dey carry about.

To cut the whole story short, let's get to how its done. Get a bu…

Farting From Front Passage

Dear Eya and wives connection blog readers,

How you doin? God bless everyone.
I wrote you some weeks ago ... The first time mum with an unstitched tear I sustained during delivery and I got a few suggestions that helped (God bless everyone),I feel better now, the tear has closed up but the problem is that

Updated: Dear Pregnant Mom, Your Mail Vanished

I wanted to post with a phone very early this morning. Copied and do not know what my finger touched next thing, the mail disappeared. I must have unconsciously touched a button or something. I spent the whole morning looking for this mail cos from the tone I guess you are a first time mom (inexperienced), who wants to do what is right for you and  baby but mom won't let you and now you seem confused.

From the little I can remember, your mother wants you to dump the car and use public transport cos according to her driving is not good for the baby. She has stopped you from bending to sweep and suggests that your husband helps out but you feel he has been doing great since you got pregnant and now it seems he is over stretched and you don't know how to help out.From your mum's rules, all you need to do now is just rest so as not to stress the baby.

You are worried cos you can't stay in a dirty environment and now you are not expected to bend down and sweep. I know ther…

My Husband IsTaking A Second Wife, What Can I Do?

Hi Madam Eya and Wc, please help me with. My head is confused this morning. Family members are even making things worse. My husband of  20 years is taking another wife and my aged parents are OK with it. I married him at 19. After secondary school, every other Education I got was while married to him. He was very supportive during my schooling days studying Economics and making babies. He stood by me all those years paying my school fees and the children' without complaining.  so am not yet forty, am still a young woman who tries her best to look good and take care of her family.
We are from different tribes and it has not been easy. His family kicked against our marriage in the beginning but when we continued, they began to accept me and things have been fine all these years. I have two girls for him and he has always loved his family. 
Recently, my husband's trips to his village have trippled. He spends practically every holiday at home using the excuse of checking up on th…

Giving Used Clothes To A Broke Friend. Can You?

Male and female clothes in lilac. Neat used clothings like these, can you give to a friend or you'd rather take to an orphanage?Last night I read this post @ Femme Lounge. I do give but only when asked o, and even at that I make sure old ones are selected out of the pack. Kids outgrow their clothings very ast and sometimes do not even get to wear some before they are taken off the wardrobe. If a friend asks, I make sure the items are all brought out and properly inspected before giving cos it would be very embarrassing to give out and later discover that your items were never used or to get a NO THANK YOU reply.

I remember times when I gave even without asking and that is because I was sure this friend trusted me and w'd appreciate my effort and truth is the items were used like the very next day. 
For me, it's a yes and no answer: I know my friends and know the ones that won't appreciate that type of giving so I won't dare. I know the ones that would collect and jok…

Married For Seven Years, Fending For The Family With My Earnings While Hubby Works For God. What Can I Do?

Hello sister Eya Ayambem, I love your blog and I've introduced it to a lot of my family and friends and they re hooked.please I need advice from wcm, I've been married for 7 yrs plus with no kids.
Since i married my husband I've been the one fending for us with the job am doing,he doesn't give me money for upkeep cos he does not have, even I've had to buy some basic electronics we need and use in the house cos he can't afford to, I even give him money from time to time..I've had to pay Gynae  tests and drugs prescribed for us.
But the thing is, he is very committed to God,the Lord told him to go to hospitals to be praying for the sick and he is been doing that consistently for 4- 5 yrs now, in church if no one