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Hello Anty Eya, as in you may know me but am writing you with a different Email so I can remain anonymous. How are you Aunty? Am an old customer, started reading your blog even before I met my husband and recipes on there have really made me my husband's favorite chef until yesterday that I got very confused. 
Please help me, I was about to post in a Facebook group I belong but am not the kind of person that can withstand


Hello Ma. I am on a weight loss program. Weight loss foods don't work for me so I tried water and it's working a bit. I lose weight using water but I don't know if that is making me sick now.
Before I forget ma,  thank you for everything I have learnt from old


Hello Aunty Eya. I am an old follower of your blog who used to comment anonymously but stopped talking and when quiet too when you stopped cooking and sharing your wonderful recipes with us like you started. I found your blog 5 years ago from Linda Ikeji's, when you just started blogging and frankly I got hooked to your delicious food and advise. I have tried a bunch of recipes from your blog and they all turned out delicious.  At a point I stopped

I married early to escape torture from mum, Now My husband mistakenly calls me his secret girlfriend's name... I need help

Madam Eya I am so so sad. I cry everyday. my husband does not

Can A Nagging Wife Change? HOW DO YOU MANAGE ONE?

So yesterday, I got a mail, replied and decided not to publish it here. However, thinking about it today, I feel it might be useful to someone on the blog so, here is it below and my reply to sender...

Dear Madam,

I read your post/blog on the internet on Nagging Wife. I will like if you can share with me how to

Heat rash ravaging my baby's skin

Please mothers I need urgent advice on how to treat this rash on my son's neck. My son had serious cold and catarrh...I was always covering him up and locking and rubbing baby mentholetol all over his chest...only for me

Surprised to discover that I no longer find my wife attractive after paying her in her own coin

Years back When I married my wife, we were in love or so I thought. However, I was always the one initiating intimacy in the bedroom. A little more than a year ago I started to give up. I started to withdraw from my wife a bit more and focus on myself. About nine months ago I stopped any attempts at initiating sex, intimacy or touching. More recently, I was surprised to discover that I no longer found my wife attractive. For the first time since I met her, I couldn't think of her in a sexual way. Yes, technically she was still attractive. All her attributes were the same, physically nothing had changed, but I just couldn't see her as "attractive" anymore.
Now it's easy to go without sex with her because I no longer find her attractive. I broke the habit. Then in a moment of clarity, I realized I was now as detached and uninterested in her sexually as she'd behaved for our whole marriage. Wow. I finally found out why she hasn't been interested in me all the…

At 31, I have decided to move out of my parents' house

Goodevening aunty Eya ,am an ardent reader of your blog please ma ,I really need your advice am a lady of 31years old , problem is that I have always experienced disappointment in relationships, no matter how nice and submissive I get all my relationships eventually end .I can't take this pain of promise and fail anymore .The problem now is that I have decided to move out of my parents to get my own personal Apartment, since I told my mother all hell as been let loose .at the moment


Hello Eya,  I came across your blog while looking for remedy for my daughter's dark spots on her legs. She is 6 years and has had these spots since barely 1 year of age.  She reacts to all sorts of bites, scratches her skin resulting in sores which end up with black scars. She wears pantyhose 24 /7 now even to school!. I have been to dermatologists to no avail. Please someone help me. What else can I do to get rid of these spots?? Thank you so much. A worried mother,


Pls wife connection, how do i handle a husband who has no truth in him, he hid everything he does from me, he cheated one severally and will swear amd promise tat it wont happen again, still i found out he is wit that same girl, for five yrs now, we had 3 kids, he take his responsibilities but am not at peace with his flirting habit, he will claim they are customers. What should I do?

How do I forgive a husband who has not even accepted his wrong?

Warning: If you are below 18, oya read the next post and ask your mum what's on this post. Good morning Aunt
Pls hide my ID... Am a 27yr old lady married for almost 2yrs now, I have a daughter and am pregnant for another one. I have a problem that I want to share with u concerning my husband... He's the type that's always with phone chatting mostly with ladies he's so addicted with it and I have told him that I don't like Several times that's why his phone has password.. On several occasions I have seen suspicious chat that indicates he's having extra marital affair but when I confront him he denies it.. 2 days ago I was reading an article on his phone and he slept off then a whatsapp message came in and lo and behold my eyes could not believe what I saw.. Pls permit to share it "baby it's been a while


Hello ma and fellow blog readers in the house, What would you do in my situation? I am the eldest of 4 siblings. My parents have been married for 20 years but I am 24 now because apparently they got wedded a few years after I was born even though the traditional marriage rites were performed earlier. All my life my dad has been abusive towards us and my mum. Physically, emotionally and mentally. I am grateful he did the bare minimum and fed us, plus provide a roof over our heads, we only had clothes during Christmas that we have to manage for the whole year until another Christmas. As for birthday parties no way, my mum would try her best and buy a few bottles of coca cola and sweets and sometimes a small  cake.
From two years old I was sent to live my Uncle and his wife, I suffered from his wife to the point where some of them abused and neglected me. If it wasn't for the neighbours telling my parents to get me out of there, who knows what would have happened to me.
  At the age of…

How Much Capital Is Needed To Start Yam Frying Business?

Hello ma, I am a  wives connection addict, a full time housewife in need of something I can do to earn my own income.  I don't mind any roadside or petty business provided I'll make some money daily. I thought about frying yam but not sure how much capital is needed.

Tamarind Seed For Tightening. Anyone Tried It?

Good Morning Madam Eya, I heard from my Northern Nigerian friend that Tamarind is a natural tightener for women of child bearing age after delivery. That it is a natural home remedy after one is done with episiotomy treatments and sitz bath.Says she removed flesh, boiled the seeds, allowed to cool a bit and kept washing for just seven days and it was fast in healing and tightening her body again. I'll like to try it but first help me confirm on the

There Are Things I Can Do To Get Closer Hubby's Friend But I'm Scared Of The Consequences

Hello  Aunty Eya and the loving wives connection family.  I have been an ardent reader of the blog for only three months but have learnt so much more than I could imagine. I am female, 36 years old, and have been married 10 years. Lately, I have felt very ignored and restless in our marriage which has remained sexless for the past two years and counting. I don't think my husband is aware of these feelings because I try to talk about them but he doesn't seem quite interested in talking about sex life and that kind of stuff , but the urge and feelings? they are  alive in my heart. He buys me beautiful gifts and tries to give me his love and support in other ways,  still relates with me without problems and kept enjoying my blow down there for almost 2 years without reciprocating with at least a one time penetration or something. When  I got tired of satisfying him one sidedly, l stopped and that has been it. He acts

What Is A Lifestyle Blog?

Who Is A Lifestyle Blogger?  Hello Aunty Eya, I started following your blog around the time that you took a break to have your baby. Recently, I started my own blog but couldn't continue because I got a job in a bank and the work load cannot combine blogging.  Right now I'm pregnant and planning to leave the job for blogging but wouldn't want to go back to what I  left because that was basically about me and life as a student.  N as a soon to be mom, I like to start a blog that will document my pregnancy journey and family life. What niche is that please?  Am I correct to call myself  a lifestyle blogger?

My sis, start blogging already, time is not waiting. You are a lifestyle blogger.  I know that a lot of people think that lifestyle blogging  is done when you write about your way of life, like daily living and all that, but that's not all. Lifestyle blogging is bigger than just writing about how you

Why Does My Husband Still Keep Photos Of His Ex Girlfriends?

Hello, my husband still has pictures of his ex girlfriends in his photo album till date. Some of his University days babes and some he befriended even after he left school.We have been married for good three years and each time I try to make him understand that I don't like it, he just shrugs and makes me feel like I'm too petty or that I worry over unimportant things. The other day we had a heated argument and I told him that if those were unimportant like he wants

Benefits of fifty percent tithe

Good evening Anty Eya, please help me ask the house a question that has been bothering me for some weeks. Don't post my name please Anty. What are the benefits if I pay fifty percent tithe to the

My Husband IsTaking A Second Wife, What Can I Do?

Hi Madam Eya and Wc, please help me with. My head is confused this morning. Family members are even making things worse. My husband of  20 years is taking another wife and my aged parents are OK with it. I married him at 19. After secondary school, every other Education I got was while married to him. He was very supportive during my schooling days studying Economics and making babies. He stood by me all those years paying my school fees and the children' without complaining.  so am not yet forty, am still a young woman who tries her best to look good and take care of her family.
We are from different tribes and it has not been easy. His family kicked against our marriage in the beginning but when we continued, they began to accept me and things have been fine all these years. I have two girls for him and he has always loved his family. 
Recently, my husband's trips to his village have trippled. He spends practically every holiday at home using the excuse of checking up on th…

He Is Insisting I Keep This Pregnancy

Before I narrate my plight please I want reasonable responses and no insults.thanks.
I am a 26 year old lady, I met this guy in 2010 in my final year and we dated for 18 mths then I got pregnant for him toward the end of my nysc. it was really tough cos my then he was just bout going for his nysc. we did a hushed introduction 2 months before i gave birth and i was shuffling between my parents house and his mums house. cos i was spending a lot of time with my family outside lagos with the baby , issues started coming up with him and his mom so i had to move to his mums house in lagos. cause of the baby nd no one to really help out it wasnt easy getting a job.Last year the issues with his mum was plenty so we had to move outside of lagos to stay on our own.
Now the problem is everytime i bring up the issue of marriage he is always saying he isnt ready cos he hasnt got a job yet,i dont av one too buh i do makeup and learning beads.i am so frustrated and i told him see if a job isnt com…