Confessing to a Nigerian husband that you cheated on him with another man might be the end of your marriage. It is a big risk and if you are not a risk taker, Don’t try it. African men are different
from their oyibo counterparts when it comes to marriage. For an oyibo, bothof you are meant to be faithful to each other, uphold marital vows and express affection even publicly. However, majority African men have the mindset that men are polygamous in nature and have a license to cheat afterall… who is the head of the home? You answer in the African language.
This question posted got me thinking… Only very few African men can truly forgive infidelity. For the rest, your confession will hurt so bad they may never be able to forgive. Our men have a sense of entitlement. They can do it and go scot free. Do they apologize when they cheat on you wives? Answer na? Has your Nigerian husband ever confessed that he cheated on you even with glaring evidence? They never do that. They are too in-charge to start confessing to a subordinate. If they do at all… only very few!!
See the question posted and my reason for why you should not confess an affair to your African husband and the more preferred thing to do:“
A Nigerian wife posted…
But it didn’t work out like that as the first year of our marriage was hell. He was loving and caring but I was not feeling it. I was always thinking of divorce.
Then I cheated on him couple of times with a colleague of mine.
The affair lasted few months and I became ashamed of myself.
I decided to make things work and started doing the things I know he loves. My husband forgave me though he didn’t know I cheated.
Our relationship is going on so well now and for the past years we’ve been fine and I must say I have truly fallen in love with my husband.
My problem is, I still feel guilt all the time. Do I just let sleeping dogs lie or confess to him?
I feel so guilty and it hunts me so bad“.