TOO MUCH TALK ALREADY ABOUT CHECKING HUBBY’S PHONE, JUST DO YOU

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Why all the talk about checking your husband’s phone na? The coming of gadgets and social media shouldn’t be the end of family/marriage o. If your husband has never checked your phone
nor answered calls on your phone, why are you so interested in his phone. Na wetin na? I am old school sha when it comes to that. My husband of almost 20 years has never opened my phone, asked for my password or picked my call. When my phone starts ringing and I’m not there, he looks for me around the house with it ringing. Has never pressed answer button on my phone. The only time in my life that my husband answered a call on my phone was when he got disgusted at an unknown caller who kept calling back even after I said wrong number. When it rang about the fifth time in about five minutes, he just grabbed it from my hand, answered and asked the voice on the other end what he wants. That’s all. I can’t think of any other time he was seen  with my phone. 

Why should I now be interested in searching his phone? Respect is reciprocal and if a husband respects and trusts you, why can’t you just trust too and let his gadgets be?

Woman! what do we want sef? if he leaves his phone for you, not that you want to read news or do something great, all you’ll do ius search and scroll through his chats, search his emails, look at Facebook, look at his Whatsapp to see if there are girls among his friends. Men who want to do those things will do and clean mouth without you knowing. He can have a sim you are not even aware of and do all his private stuff with that. What will you do? 

What bothers me about all this snooping is the after effect. If you have the mind to search, when you find what you are looking for, why cry and sleep in tears. You want to see side chickens, you see them and now your peace has flown out the window. Who send you dear sis?

There is nothing wrong with using your husband’s phone when you truly need it or if that is what obtains in your family, then fine. But, if he doesn’t bother about what you do with your phone, why the curiosity and lack of trust. 
Dear sis, Don’t mind me… what works for me may not work for you and vise versa.
Sha, not that I don’t know there are men who won’t leave their phones unlocked at home, will never let madam touch the phone but noop on wifey’s phone. Why na?

You want to check that phone? No problem. Go ahead but before you do, look first for a shoulder you may need to cry on. 
A beautiful Nigerian lady’s relationship is now on the balance and she is out on Social Media asking for what to do. Question time and she asks fiance if he’ll let her freedom with his phone after marriage and he doesn’t know how to answer that question. The answer is obvious anyway. When there were no phones in the world, men and women cheated on each other. Phone and social media came and made it easier. Most men have connected and are connecting with old ex’s on Social media. Women too are not blameless. That someone was once your Campus boyfriend doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends on Facebook or that because your husband is now a married man, he should reject all Friendship requests from the people he knew in the past. Na lie o.  Checking a man’s phone cannot stop him from connecting with lost contacts, they are adults, if they think they have unfinished business they want to attend to with their bodies and you want to snoop and know so that you balala  yourself with shock and avoidable High blood pressure, na you sabi. No one sent you there. 

Leaving a man’s phone alone might even be peace of mind for you and long years on earth. What do you want? to know if he’s planning to divorce you? To know if he has another wife in the village? To know if he is HIV positive?

“Good evening ma, pls I need advice and pls hide my identity. My husband  of two years, though he’s a good man but he always have issues with me going to his phone he will always tell me that he doesn’t like it as for me I was like what’s the big deal unless he’s hiding something from me. I had to go through his phone when he was sleeping last night and I discovered that he’s keeping in touch with his ex girlfriend. The girl called in my presence but he didn’t pick the call. I stayed to see if he will call back but he didn’t and I left because I was running late for night shift. I don’t know if I should confront him or pretend as if I don’t know what’s happening. I need your advice on what to do before it becomes something that I can’t handle” From Social Media

The story above shared on Social Media made me wonder why? Does he go through your phone? If yes, then I don’t know what to say but if he doesn’t, why the curiosity and lack of trust?

If you have been checking hubby’s phone, maybe that’s what works for you so, do not beat yourself about it. There are stories of women who snooped on their husband’s phones and discovered secrets that helped save their lives, like the one below shared on Social Media too. 

“Pls ma post my story for me and hide my Identity….Some women say checking your husband’s phone is not good, that you’re giving yourself headache. A very close friend of mine ran to my house around 10:pm last week Friday and told me the most incredible thing.
She said her husband has been cheating on her for the past 3 yrs but she chose to ignore all that and face her job and her kids…. But last week Friday, her husband was having his bath in the bathroom around 1pm in the afternoon to go out, as he was in the bathroom a message came in on his phone and read thus: (Rub that thing on your dick and make sure you have sex with her, after, use a white handkerchief to clean her private-part, by then she’ll be unconscious… So you leave that environment. 

And before that, hubby has been telling me he is travelling Friday night. I kept quiet snapped the message and copied that number on my phone and checked it on WhatsApp lo and behold it was that woman he’s been flirting with). 

I pretended as if I didn’t see anything, I took my wallet and told him I want to get eggs at the nearby poultry farm… And he told me not to stay long, that he really wants to have a nice time before going out. I took my kids and rannnnnn….
Now what if I did not check his phone???? It was a narrow escape for me”She said his husband has been cheating on her for the past 3 yrs but she choose to ignore and face her job and her daughter…. But last week Friday,her husband was bathing around 3pm in the afternoon to go out,as he was in d bathroom a message came in on his phone and read this ( Robb that thing on your dick and make sure u have sex with her,after use a white handkerchief to clean her p-part,by then she’ll be unconscious… So u leave that environment. And before hubby has been telling me his travelling Friday night. I kept quiet snapped the message and copied that number on my phone and checked it on WhatsApp lo and behold it was that woman he’s been flirting with) I pretended as if I didn’t see anything,I took my wallet and told him I want to get egg at the nearby poultry… And he told me not to stay long,that he really want to have a nice time before going out. I took my daughter and raaaaannnnnn….Now what if I did not check his phone???? It was a narrow escape for me” From An old Social media post.


About checking phones. I will say ‘do not check if he doesn’t check yours’

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