TWO DAYS LATER THE GIRL SENT MY HUSBAND A MESSAGE AND HE STARTED HIDING HIS PHONE AGAIN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?

My husband had an affair for years with a lady I know too well, with all my instinct he kept denying it until he was caught red handed. After I decided to leave, he begged me and family members stepped in to settle us . In all those seven years he hide his phone like crazy. But in one of the conditions of staying in the marriage he promised never to hide the phone again, that the only reason
for hiding the phone was because of her and now that is over his phone will never be hidden again. Two days the girl sent him a note and since then he has started hiding it again . When I asked him why?  he said he does not have time to explain to me who is texting him.and I should trust him . I am tired of his infidelity. He chat with girls on his phone all the time .
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  1. Hi Poster, your mail doesn't shock me. My jaw has not dropped after reading it, know why? It's not a strange story, very familiar, have read stories like this hundred of times and more will still come. Men cheat a lot. THEY CHEAT A LOT! Many look clean because no one caught them. Only five percent Nigerian men do not cheat. Even in worship places, even some spiritual heads that one aught to look up to, haven't you heard or read their stories. Men, especially Nigerian men cheat a lot and looking at their phones can send you to an early grave while the mistress steps in and becomes your children's step mom.

    He lied to make you stay and you stayed. You are his wife, the one answering his name. The lady you know too well, if she's married, report her to her husband, if you know her family, report her to them, if she has kids, report her to them. Let everyone start from there first.

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    1. It's no longer a secret, he is not ashamed now. If you get angry and threaten to leave, he'll still beg, family members will step in and the circle continues. Tell him that since he doesn't want to end it with her, that you'll report her to her family and watch him, if he continues, REPORT HER and one thing though... be ready to see her one day as your kids step mom in case you get angry and leave. STOP thinking about leaving, fight for your marriage, go spiritual and physical. Enter your "war room" shake them.

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    2. Anonymous6/24/2016

      Anty I am very grateful for all your help, I all constantly reading your comments. Even though i don't really want to leave I wonder if I can ever be heeled from this pain? I can't stop thinking of all the pain and heartache. How do I move forward?

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  2. Some men don't cheat but majority do especially in Africa, just that some are more careful. Stay or leave him, just choose one now and save yourself the stress.

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  3. Chioma6/23/2016

    My husband does not cheat and he will never IJN.

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  4. The one thing I'll say is pray that God will lead your husband into a genuine personal relationship with Him. When He does that, your husband will focus on building his love affair with you because that is pleasing to God.

    I'll also say keep your hear free from worry. Don't worry about a thing. Instead, pray about EVERYTHING. Prayer always changes something.

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  5. The fact that majority of men cheat is not an excuse. Why can't your husband strive to be the exception to the rule and live a life that's pleasing to God? It's up to you to decide whether or not you can lived with what he is doing. For me 7 years is too long to have an affair and personally I would have walked out so he can be with who he wants to be with because it's not something I can tolerate. But that's just me, some people may agree and others won't but the truth is it all depends on what makes you happy in the long run. I guess what I'm trying to say is no one here can really tell you what to do, because you can stay and everything turns out ok and you can stay and he may give you an std or decide to take another wife or leave you for her

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    1. Anonymous6/24/2016

      My sister thank you so much for all the advice, I am really thinking of what to do next. The family has ask me for forgiveness and the expect me to forgive and forget just like that, somethings that happened for seven years . They are even telling him the worst that can happen is for me to leave that he should not worry. I know the only reason he is crying now is because he does not want his name tented.the truth was just reviewed one week ago, am I not forgiven as quickly as I should? The family think I don't forgive easily

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    2. His family is just trying to save face too and they are working in his best interest which is normal, yes you should forgive not for him but for you so that God will answer your prayers but it does not mean you have to stay. Forgiveness means letting it go in your heart. I really empathize with you because its almost as if the man is mocking you. How can his family say that he should not worry, he should be very worried, why can't someone sit him down and tell him the truth? If he ends up with a woman thats comfortable breaking another persons home, what kind of wife will she be to him? it might be ok in the beginning but trust me these things don't end well because even God said what he has put together let no man put asunder. I feel sorry for the woman if she thinks she will move in because when he is tired he will do the same to her too, trust me i have seen it happen before and the second wife came to my family complaining and we were shocked that she would complain after all she broke someone elses home, did she think it would end with her. So my dear I hope you have something doing and can cater for yourself or at least have a strong support system? This life is too short, how can someone be miserable for 7 years because of another person

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  6. The distrust is there already and I don't blame you, I'd do same. However, why bother with his phone? To give yourself further heartache? Only God can change a person because apparently, this soul tie is strong.

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  7. I wish I can tell you to leave him, but I just can't.

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  8. If you were my sister and I saw you leaving, will I try to stop you? Maybe no.Forgive him whether you stay or leave. With how his family is handling the matter? I'm pissed already.

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  9. Anonymous6/26/2016

    My dear we wome (me inclusive ) should learn how to use our powers right. You already made a mistake by not stating ur conditions well, u would hv called in Wives connection b4 giving a no hidden fone conditions! I would hv told u from experience to ask him to call d girl in ur present for a meeting with him and u instead. Then before u he shld tell d girl off and together u both will tell d girl u want her out of ur home. That would hv been a better condition for u to stay back ( note that he may not agree to do it but at that time u had d small power to at least demand! Hmmm, right now pls activate two cn play d game second option. Start looking super hot. Let him start stewing and wondering if u too is stepping outside. Pls and pls and pls boldly ignore him! For ur peace of mind. Cos we hv lost d one chance to really put him in his place and permit me to say his family isn't helping matters!

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