I LEFT SCHOOL TO MARRY MY HUSBAND, NOW I FEEL DIFFERENTLY ABOUT HIM

Good morning Aunty Eya and wives connection, please I need some  advice on how to carry on from here. I am a mother of one, still very young in my 20s who left school to marry my husband but now I hate him, I feel he is ugly. I was still a 200 level student at the University when I got pregnant and we had to hurriedly get married to avoid the shame. There was no proposal and all that kind of stuff, I agreed to the marriage because of the pregnancy.

Honest Truth is, I knew my husband's family long before we dated and have always admired my husband's younger brother, I liked his charisma, the way he treats other people and always felt like he was more intelligent than my now husband. I think I had a crush on him back then but how things turned and I started dating the elder brother I didn't really like, can't tell. Somehow, not long after, I
found out was pregnant and we immediately got married, promising my parents that I'll continue schooling but, the pregnancy landed me in hospital bed too many times, I was forever sick and pouring excessive saliva and unable to hold any food or drink down. Schooling became almost impossible I had to defer but didn't return.
Now, my baby is three and I secretly regret marrying him.

If I could start all over again, I won't date him. We are not fighting right now, he has strayed just once that I know, he is not a bad husband or father but my feelings have changed over the years of being together, I can't even rate my own husband as a fine man. We are just there like senior brother and younger sister, boringly living like an old couple, I know I should try to bring the spark but I don't even want to, am not interested in the relationship anymore. I see only ugly these days and I want to love him but it's not there. What can I do please and please?

Comments

  1. Sisi08:48

    Point of correction poster.
    You didn't leave school to marry him, you left school because you couldn't cope.

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    1. Johnson10:44

      First thing to do is get back to school... After that get a living - u are going to be in this marriage for a very looooong time. Finness in a man does not come by his looks but more from his character; you need to wake up to reality and stay the process of building a happy home. Your current attitude will rob u of your joy. Make your husband feel like a king and expect the best for the future - better days are ahead if only u can see it and work towards it.

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  2. Anonymous09:09

    That's why Uncle Johnson and co always advice us not to marry cos of pregnancy, you are in for many long years of boredom but please don't cheat on your innocent husband.

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    1. Anonymous22:04

      Oh but the husband can cheat on her right?

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  3. Johnson10:45

    First thing to do is get back to school... After that get a living - u are going to be in this marriage for a very looooong time. Finness in a man does not come by his looks but more from his character; you need to wake up to reality and stay the process of building a happy home. Your current attitude will rob u of your joy. Make your husband feel like a king and expect the best for the future - better days are ahead if only u can see it and work towards it.

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  4. Go back to school & get your priorities right this time.

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