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Are Sex Toys Allowed In A Christian Marriage?

Good day Eya, how is our wonderful wives connection blog  doing? My phone misbehaved and I haven't read the blog for some
days now, it's like starvation from food. Thank God I got given a brand new fantastic phone last night. I have questions bothering me. My husband is a pastor and when I asked him, he says that the bible is SILENT on sex toys. I am a very adventurous woman but wouldn't want to go against my creator. I'll like to be clear on this please or to know if there are other Christian couples out there comfortably using these toys.

My next question is: Has anyone on the blog ever owned a sex toy?
3. If yes, what kind of toy is best for a wife whose husband developed  medical challenges in that area? Dildo or vibrator?
4. If anyone has owned more than one type. Which is your favourite? 
Aunty please remove my details before posting. Thanks in advance.

Comments

  1. Monique3/02/2016

    Madam forget dildos. Vibrators are the best. They can take you to orgasmic heights. Toys were not manufactured in Bible days, what do you expect. If you feel uncomfortable using, then don't . If you are fine, why not?

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  2. Anonymous3/02/2016

    Since the Bible is silent on TOYS, let's leave it to logic and personal preference. I'd love to try some but my wife is so conservative like Mary.

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  3. Chinyere Ebere3/02/2016

    What is ADULTERY? It is s3x without your spouse. Ok, if you use the toy with your spouse, that's ok. But if you use it alone, without your spouse, that's adultery. Masturbation or whatever that we do, must be together with the spouse or it is adultery so I can say that the Bible is not silent on this.
    Be that oral sex, manual sex, phone sex, cyber sex, self-sex, etc. We know that oral sex with a person who is not your spouse is still adultery, and porn use is viewed as adultery when you do it alone, the same can be said about masturbation. It is sex without your spouse. Even when you watch porn with your spouse, if you desire the person on the screen, I will call that adultery.

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    1. Anonymous3/02/2016

      Plz just shut upnn carrybur SU self away from this post.

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  4. Chinyere Ebere3/02/2016

    What is ADULTERY? It is s3x without your spouse. Ok, if you use the toy with your spouse, that's ok. But if you use it alone, without your spouse, that's adultery. Masturbation or whatever that we do, must be together with the spouse or it is adultery so I can say that the Bible is not silent on this.
    Be that oral sex, manual sex, phone sex, cyber sex, self-sex, etc. We know that oral sex with a person who is not your spouse is still adultery, and porn use is viewed as adultery when you do it alone, the same can be said about masturbation. It is sex without your spouse. Even when you watch porn with your spouse, if you desire the person on the screen, I will call that adultery.

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  5. Anonymous3/02/2016

    Christian couples can do toys if the so wish.I think that sex toys have been stigmatized because of the packaging and what they are sold in conjunction with. More Christian sex toy stores are needed to offer products in a non-pornographic environment.

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  6. Anonymous3/02/2016

    I am not married yet, engaged and won't want to defile my bed before time. When we are hungry, don't we all eat? When my hormones are raging, why shouldn't I relieve myself? No one should come here and type that masturbation is sin because I won't listen. I'd rather masturbate than go into a ny woman am not married to. My libs is very high, going a day hungry is risky so why not satisfy myself best I can for now. Later we pick it up from there. It's a long distance relationship,I would rather my fiance uses a toy than hits it with another man.

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  7. Anonymous3/02/2016

    My husband wants to use some toys but I don't think it's right for a christian to buy them.

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  8. My husband thinks that I want sex toys to focus on my pleasure and that I’m being selfish. However, it takes forever to orgasm and he doesn’t want to use anything except penetration. Once he is done, he falls asleep and leaves me frowning and hissing. I cannot leave this world without enjoying the pleasures of orgasm as much as I can. If I rely on him, I may not orgasm 5 times until old age and retirement.

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  9. Hehehehehehehehehehe,tnk God am ok wit the one God gave me oh! Not a sex fan either. Dnt knw if it's a sin to use sex toys,why not ask ur pastor.

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  10. Not really. Such decision is personal.

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  11. Anonymous3/02/2016

    Depends on individual preference. Those are oyibo tinz please. We Africans go direct.

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  12. Anonymous3/02/2016

    Does anyone know where I can codedly buy a vibrator? Does it come with a manual?

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    1. Anonymous3/04/2016

      Konga and jumia are your friends in that regard. Thank me later.

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  13. Am on the fence on this, but as I always say, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

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  14. Anonymous3/02/2016

    If your hubby doesn't like toys, use ya fingers instead. Cucumber is cheap now.

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  15. Anonymous3/02/2016

    Aunty Eya please help me post this. I don't know how to make it a post.
    I don't have a man, and as a christian lady, is it ok to use toys and cool that side of my life? Please tell me what I want to hear.

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  16. Great topic poster. What about Anal between couples, is it ok?

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  17. Anonymous3/02/2016

    For the single lady, why start something you may not be able to finish?. It's understandable that "body no be firewood" but is it really worth it?. You say you're a Christian-Hence I advise and plead with you to pull all that pent up sexual energy into positive and life transforming activities like discovering new hobbies, developing your talents, going for training or workshops ,joining a charity, helping your female friends.
    Yes, it may sound stupid or off putting but it's better so that when you're finally in a committed relationship that culminates into marriage you can fully enjoy the joys of lovemaking with your partner.I hope you do the right thing dear.

    For the guy asking about anal sex for couples, it's actually wrong and has it's attendant health risks. Would you truly want to hurt the person you love that way.?. Whoever is on the receiving end of such an act runs the risks of haemorriods, anal abscess.
    Again continued use of this act weakens the anal wall making the person to be easily available to contract STDs through the bloodstream.
    Need I say more?. Please, let the affected couple devise other means of sexual gratification. Nuff said.

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  18. Anonymous3/02/2016

    If the man can also let his arse be ripped first to know the feeling its ok now.

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  19. Good Evening Madam Eya,
    You're doing a great job as a blogger. I must say I appreciate your foresight and demur towards improving women. I came across your work today as I was browsing and had to drop a word of advise.
    Though I tried to register to your blog but wasn't successful.

    For the Christian lady, I advise her not to start what she can't finish. But instead be happy and glad that she is young which gives her the opportunity to deviate that unused sexual energy into productive energy like having a new hobbies, meeting new friends by networking better, learning new skills to promote your employability rate. By the time you have a committed related which will transcend into marriage you and your partner will appreciate the joys of lovemaking.
    For the question about couples and anal sex, it's highly dangerous because it weakens the anal tissue of the receiver of such an act . Thereby making their immune system susceptible to infections and STDs via the person's blood stream over time . Would you even consider putting the person you love through that ?. It's unimaginable and must stop.

    Kind Regards.

    A.

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  20. Johnson3/02/2016

    How i n t e r e s t i n g!
    This same subject/question took more time during a gathering of Christian women in Netherlands last month... Then, I realized the need the need for the church to do more work; esp in teaching our women the TRUTH. The world is changing @ the speed of light but the WORD never changes - it provides answers & guidance to ALL queries. Only if we would listen and follow the path of righteousness.
    I like the response from the last anonymous, which I believe was also re-posted by aunty Eya...

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  21. Baby Doctor3/03/2016

    Dear Mr Johnson, it's not just teaching women the truth. Men also need to be taught how to satisfy their wives sexually. So many men believe that a penis is enough to make a woman climax while 90% of women cannot climax from penetration alone. Women don't help matters by pretending to orgasm just to make the man feel good. It's a big problem.

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  22. Its easy to say channel all the energy into something else but truth is being a frustrated sex 'orgasm' deprived wife can be annoying.
    Also remember she said husband developed medical challenges in that area. So should she say bye to sexual intercourse or what?

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  23. Johnson3/03/2016

    @ Baby Doctor - I agree with u 100%: Men (husbands) need to be taught, esp. good christian men. The number of unsatisfied wives is getting alarming and if we are not careful the devil takes over. And this is one area the anointing will evaporate quickly if we fall.

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