30 Things Nigerian Husbands Want And Expect From Our Wives

  1. Go and slim down. Do not let people take you for our mother when indeed you are our wife. We love to see you exercise and eat less.
  2. Mind and control your tongue.  
  3. Keep the house clean.
  4. Be hospitable, how you receive our friends and families matter to us. Make them feel welcome by coming out to greet them, serve them water if there is no drink.
  5. Dress neatly and smart always, look good for us.
  6. Do not disrespect us, we want to feel respected even with our imperfections, correct us with respect.
  7. Treat like a king, make us feel important and we shall treat you back as our queens.
  8. Do  not always claim right.
  9. Be polite
  10. Be quick to say "I am sorry"
  11. Do not delay us when we have to go out together. Start getting ready well ahead of time and don't keep us waiting because we can be very impatient.
  12. We don't like tension, make us smile and laugh around you and we will want to hang around.
  13. We love good food, if you have to go to a catering school to make us eat well, please do.
  14. We do not like nagging. When you make your request, believe in us to do it in our own time. No amount of nagging can change us
  15. Do not belittle or gossip us to anyone. If there are issues that need be addressed, find a quiet time when we can talk, just the two of us.
  16. Do not prioritize others ahead of us, Make us your number one; Not the children, your friends, your family or anything around.
  17. We love sex, do not withhold it. Never use it as a bargaining chip.
  18. Be disciplined and wise in spending.
  19. Be our friend and stop acting like our mom.
  20. We can be jealous, do not get too close with the opposite sex on Social media. Seek our consent before accepting a male as Friend.
  21. Do not paint us bad to the children, help them love and appreciate us.
  22. Do not leave the home and children unattended.
  23. Accept and relate well with our family members.
  24. Assist us in paying the bills, if you earn well.
  25. Do not try to pry too much by reading our mails and responding to messages meant for us without our consent.
  26. Stop snooping and stalking us on Social media, stop being suspicious of our female colleagues. 
  27. Stop answering our calls without our permission.
  28. Smile always, even when you are exhausted from tending the kids. Constantly frowning will scare us.
  29. If you need our help, ASK. We cannot read your minds.
  30. Stop asking to know how we spend every dime. Just trust us and all will be well.


  1. Johnson1/27/2016

    10. Don’t be too quick to say “I’m sorry”. We want to be sure that you are really sorry.
    31. Stop snooping on our phones as if there are treasures hidden therein.
    32. Occasionally take the leading role in initiating and handling love-making. And learn some new things (styles) – we would not suspect you. You can learn from reading and discussing as friend - we know you talk about these things (lol).
    33. Don’t assume that we should know when you are not happy with us, especially when you are not able to articulate the reason for your foul mood.
    34. Make effort to love what we love… whether football, church worship, visiting our mothers, etc. Encourage us to do these things occasionally. Let us not try to hid them from you.
    35. We look seeing you cat-walk in those lovely and sexy night gowns. Make us hungry and see the lion come out in us…
    Make I leave my other brothers to add to the list – We need this list to get up to 50! How una go give us 40 things and expect sey na 30 we want?

    1. Anonymous1/28/2016

      Ha oga Johnson u too much.

  2. Anonymous1/27/2016

    As in? What in the name of God is this. Some of these request are mandatory for any relationship to work but most of them and the way that they are worded makes me feel like some egotistical maniac wrote this. .... Ask our consent before accepting any male as a friend? common now!

  3. Mr Johnson I like the extras you have added on

  4. 36. And the wives should contact the husbands before breathing.
    37. Wives should also ask which men to greet.
    38. Wives should wake up and worship husbands every morning.
    39. Wives should bath u always.
    40. Wives should equally take permission before eating.
    Anty Eya dt number 20 is annoying to me abeg. N uncle Johnson now added his own, so I decide to complete it. #wink

  5. Anonymous1/28/2016

    @williams u are correct

  6. Chinyere Gift Ebere1/28/2016

    Nigeria husband, the woman was never fat (maybe when you met her ) but you got her pregnant and ; there is what is known as baby fat. If you don't provide good and healthy meals for her during and after pregnancy there is a tendency of her being fat. Fruits and veggies are very expensive so you may likely buy bag of rice, garri, bread and all affordable carbohydrate to enhance the fat growing. Buy her treadmill and good meals she can keep fit and healthy too. She did it for your joy and peace so respect her sacrifices .

  7. Chinyere Gift Ebere1/28/2016

    Nigeria husbands : Don't make your wife Jealous of the other woman. The other woman is to be jealous of your wife.

    Don't have pot belly in the processing of hanging out with your friends.

    Don't make your phone private and your spouse private part is always accessible. "Two shall become one as scripture said"

    Don't come home late and expect your spouse to be happy with her arms open , after keeping her waiting.

    Don't make bill payment part of her responsibility even if she is a working class. She is a helper and not the HEAD.

    Nigerian husband your wife should be your best buddy so tell her how things are going with your job or business. This will either make her more prayerful or powerful.

    Nigerian husband, spend time with your wife just like you did during your first love. It will keep the love burning between you two.

    Nigerian husband don't embarrass your wife in front of your friends even if she came out not well dressed. A gentle word softens the heart.

    Nigeria husband, assist with school runs . It gives the children an identity and draws you closer as family.

    Nigeria husband, surprise your spouse with home made food once in as long as you can. It is romantic.

    Nigeria husband, love your children for that is what we want as women.

    Try to call your spouse when you are at work or stress moment. She is always there to listen.

    Give your spouse time to explain herself when there is need to.

    Protect her outside and scorn her indoors. ( privately) .

    Praise her bad cooking with wisdom. E.g Sweet heart your food taste good . I would like to eat this again lets say in two weeks but can you cut down or the pepper, salt , water , maggi or whatever your observation is? I think it will pay rather than " O God!! When will you ever cook what somebody will eat? Did your mum not teach you how to cook? What kind of salty , water , maggi soup is this?

    O boy!!!!!! She will go gaga!!!!

    Kudos to you all and a big LOVE to my sugar, buddy , best half, sweet , bobby and husband. He is a blessed Nigeria husband.

  8. Anonymous1/28/2016

    Chinyere u kno wats up joor!thumbs up!

  9. Anonymous2/01/2016

    Hehehehehehe d list is endless. Thank God for d super strength he gave us as women o, even wth kids. I hope they listen to our own rules. @ chi, u nailed it


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