Friday, July 24, 2015

Nigerian Beef Sauce Recipe For Rice Plus More To Cook This Weekend

 Delicious beef sauce to be served with boiled rice or pasta.
 We have many beef, fish, chicken sauce recipes on the blog already and I wasn't planning on posting this but changed my mind when one of the two guests (gentlemen) served asked me for a written recipe. I was

How To Wear Skinny Jeans, My Look Today

How to wear skinny jeans.
I love skinny jeans, they just have a way of making one look slimmer especially the darker
shades.The name skinny jeans does not mean that they are meant for only skinny people, no. These are called skinny jeans because they are, and look skinny, tiny compared to flared and other types of jeans. With appropriate shoes, tops and other accessories, even Plus size women can comfortably wear skinny jeans. The word skinny refers to the cut of the leg which is tiny and skinny..

How to wear Skinny Jeans And Look Fabulous:

  • Choose the right size of skinny jeans, the size that won't look too tight and bumpy on the knees.
  • Pick a size that fits properly, that's just reasonably tight and allows you bend and squat comfortably.
  • If you are a plus size, I'll recommend the high rise jeans so you don't show off everything at the backside each time you bend to sit.
  • If you want to draw attention to your long legs, then go with brighter colors on heels but do not forget that darker shades make you appear skinny.
  • If it's too long, get a tailor to alter by, cutting off some inches and sewing back the end part to your jeans. Cropped skinny jeans look good on every woman.
  • With proper accessorizing, you can wear skinny jeans even to work, yes, to the office.
  • Skinny jeans should be worn on high heels to create a dressy look and on flats to look casual and smart.
  • Wear fabric that's stretchy, with a combination of spandex and denim.
  • Finally, you know your body and what colors and shapes flatter your figure, be creative when styling your skinny jeans, make it go with your body type whether petite or plus size.

Looking at myself here, some full neck with white pearls would have been magical, that's all that is needed for the wow effect.Now without them I look too simple and just about.

This is  What goes on behind the scenes each time mummy wants to take her pics for the fashion blog, thank God for holidays, his sisters are around to cajole and take him off the "set"
 he just threw his shoe and the keys away, throwing real tantrums to be picked up because someone is facing mom with a camera.
 Skinny jeans shouldn't be too loose or too tight, just enough to help you move around and bend comfortably.
 With my hair rolled up there, they look good but as I look at this pics now and type, it feels like letting these braids down would have given me a more feminine fuller look, anyway, there is always a next time.
 I am even more convinced here that wearing my braids down with chunky white pearls would have created a lovely look.
 What to wear with skinny jeans, block heels etal. Don't mind the nail polish o, I polish finger nails more often, for toe nails, it's like once in two weeks if not more, they last longer even though without the initial shine and gloss.

  • Wear skinny jeans with g string panties, tights or no panties at all ( If you chose "no panties" then please wash after wear, lol). However , thinking again, I think they can be worn with any under wear because they are very thick, enough to cover well. Like other pants,thinking that your lines might be showing at the back could reduce your self confidence. You are more confident as the wearer when you know that no shape is lined out on your bum bum.
  • Skinny jeans go well with any shoe, provided it's not bulky at the feet area. High, heels, flats, strapped sandals, and even  boots. The only no go area is shoes like trainers. With the upper leg looking skinny, there's no need to make the feet look over sized in those kinds of shoes else you look disproportionate and that's not fashionable. Lolz, see me talking like fashion police.
  • Fitted tops are a great accompaniment. For my today's look, I actually wore a short fitted top and it looked good but for some reason, I just didn't feel very comfortable and had to go change into this black top, then suddenly my confidence returned and we zoomed out immediately.
  • Wear tops that are not very baggy and shapeless. This chiffon top I'm wearing is not tight but kinda a bit hugging and, I like the way it reveals my flat tommy, and makes me look taller.
  • A fitted blazer or jacket can be worn with your skinny jeans.
  • A belt too can be worn on your top/shirt to help it cinch on the waist and show off that hour glass figure of yours that will make hubby stay home all weekend.

  • While skinny jeans are made of real denim and spandex, and are stretchy because of the spandex, Jeggings are not denims. Jeggings are heavier and thicker than leggings but not as thick as skinny jeans. Skinny jeans can be worn with short or cropped tops but jeggings will not look good in those. Jeggings are worn with long tops to cover the bum areas and prevent panty lines showing behind. Jeggings are made to look like denim but have fake pockets that look like drawings.
 Looking serious to pose, e nor easy.

Have fun, have a fabulous weekend ahead.
Stay safe and blessed.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015


 Eya Ayambem featured on naij.com.
Nigerian, Food, Lifestyle, Relationship and currently Fashion Blogger Eya Ayambem granted interview to famous news website naij.com. She talked about her personal life and blogging; where she hails from, why she started blogging, how she is going on about it and her plans for the future:

"The Internet enables us to keep developing and never stop improving. It provides us with great information, tips and life changing creative ideas. All of these you can find on one of the best blogs

Fresh Fish Stew By SeyiFunmi Meg Ricketts

Fresh fish stew for Rice, yam, plantain and even swallow.

Fresh Croaker Fish stew.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Black, White, Blue And Red Outfit

Black and white fashion.

Black, white and blue here. 
 Dressed in black and white with a sprinkle of blue and red. So used to taking pics without a clutch that today I'm just learning how to handle it properly jor. This Italian purse came in with a pair of red shoe, I posted it here on the blog when I wore orange and red in my initial blog posts. I was going to just dress in three colors, black, white and red for today but dressing up in a dark closet,I didn't know I picked blue sandals, it was after a few pics have been taken that I saw the color on my
feet and I actually like it but just had to take them off to do what I initially planned on wearing. When you see the black shoe on my legs just know that mistakes can turn into fashion, lolz. I uploaded only the pics with black sandals but then said  to myself  'what the funch?' I'll just upload everything and let's see how they look on the blog.
 This black denim is actually a pair of jeggings so it's not tight on me. very stretchy
 posting for pics, this is how we do it at forty and above

 I wore the blue sandals in a dark room because I was very careful not to wake my light sleeper baby, after taking a few shots, I realized it's  blue sandals on my feet and had to then change to black, here is the black.

eya ayambem
 My blue high heeled sandals that sometimes look purplish but they are not ogbanje

White jacket on a black outfit.
Have fun, enjoy your day and trust in the lord with all your heart. Never lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he'll surely direct your path.

Ladies, Please Help A Bikini Hair Sister

Hello Eya, my name is Becky, am 27 years old. i have been reading your blog for sometimes now. please i want know the best product or cream to use for bikini area, i know it sounds awkward.but i am not really comfortable with the cream am using, i use veet hair removal cream for sensitive skin, and before

Monday, July 20, 2015

Short Wrap Dress

Eya and her brown braids in a wrap dress

Sunday In a short wrap dress, getting ready for church . 
I love this dress, the way it smartly sits on my body is not bad at all.Wearing a wrap dress wouldn't have looked this way if I was still carrying my baby weight, but come on, after one year of having baby, is enough time for the calories to drop off and lie somewhere else. I do not want to praise
myself o, but I think I'm trying. Only mothers who have ever struggled to lose baby weight after four, five kids will tell us how difficult it is to reverse the expanded woman's body after giving birth.

I am one woman who does not like to look bigger than my hubby and with the way he gyms, if I take any chances, I'll definitely look fat while he looks slim like my son. I like it when other couples prefer that size but on me? no...  I want to just lose 3 kg more and then rest and focus on Pilates and toning my arm and thigh muscles.
Don't worry about the make up dear, if you look at earlier posts on this blog, you'll know I'm getting better. For this look, I started with my tiny sized  Avon primer, moved on to  Mary Kay foundation, then, realised that for some reason, it looked lighter than my skin. Don't know if weeding grass in my garden under the sun made me darker over the weekend. There was no time to wipe it off, I quickly coated it with Mac studio fix fluid and that gave me the smoothness I wanted. Next, I added Jordana compressed powder, liked the look, moved to Jordana eyeliner, Jordana lipstick and Jordana foundation as borders for the eyeliner. I said it on this blog before that Jordana needs to pay me for the way I patronize and make use of their products. My cosmetic box is full of Jordana products especially nail polishes and various shades of lipstick that I may not even use in years because I don't think pink lipsticks suit my skin shade. I want to fix my lashes, I know how to do this myself at home but time and my attention seeking baby chairman. For my natural lashes, I used Jordana volumizing mascara.
See my life? Loving this selfie. My mobile phone taking clearer pictures than a camera. Maybe this phone should start doing the point and shoot snapping and let that digital camera sleep and snore for a while. The camera acts funny, sometimes great pictures by my assessment o. Other times I struggle to recognise myself. Anyway

I got the dress from collectibles here in Abuja.
The neck pearls are old stuff, from my box.
My Shoes are from Ron White (Beige)
I don try small today to mention what I wear.
See you later.
 Eya Ayambem your momma in action. The wind is not helping at all. My  home made photographer daughter chopped off my legs, no wahala, she is trying her best

 Nigerian fashion blog on the move, let's go there

 Your momma posing for pishures

 Eya losing baby weight and feeling healthier. Pregnant moms can comfortably wear this dress.
Have fun, enjoy your day, be healthy and fashionable at any age.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

A Man Can Truly Love More Than One Woman At A Time? FALSE

So, I read Etcetera's thoughts on "infidelity by Most Nigerian men" and nearly started to think that since he is a man speaking from a man's point of view, then this must be true. But then I thought to myself ...These end times? it's best to encourage yourself in the Lord, to minister to yourself so you are not blown about by every wind and speech,  like dry corn chaf blown by harmattan wind.

Little wonder it went viral on blogs. For me, the word of God is my standard. Nothing is new and if Jesus came down here in the form of man, lived all his years without falling for any woman, then a man can be honestly faithful to one woman, Social media or not, Internet or not.

The Weakness of the flesh can be manifested in different ways by different people. To some it's women, to some alcohol and drinking while to some others it could be insatiable greed for money. I would say it is best for people to recognise their individual areas of weakness if any and to prayerfully work on those rather than try to sweet talkingly justify wrong.

See what he wrote below,  and my thoughts too.

When you heard the news that Toke Makinwa’s husband impregnated his girlfriend, you all took to social media to rain insults on Nigerian men. Why men cheat on women they love became a topic for all female radio presenters in the country. Aren’t you all tired of asking the same

Friday, July 17, 2015

Meet Nigerian Blogger Eya Ayambem At Typearls

 Eya Ayambem giving interview at Typearls. 
The interview with Christina TY of Typearls lifestyle reveals much more about the Nigerian lady behind

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Easy Efo Riro Recipe For This Weekend

Efo Rico is one delicious Nigerian meal that originated

Ankara skirt with Black Long Sleeve Shirt

 Ankara skirt made from Ghanaian prints with a long sleeve black shirt
 Hi, good morning, it's 1am and I need to hit the bed
now, will do the post tomorrow please, just enjoy the pics.
Sweet and colorful dreams.

Did you see my new braids?

 Eya and her ankara styles, lol

See What Became Of New Plate Rack

[09:38, 15/07/2015] Goodmorning ma'am.
[09:38, 15/07/2015] ‬: How are you? And the fashion blog? Lol
[09:38, 15/07/2015] ‬: I miss typing and posting. Its paining me gaan.
[09:40, 15/07/2015]  The camera isn't showing the rust well.
[09:46, 15/07/2015] ‬: Spoiler Alert : See what became of my plate rack.

I bought this plate rack some few months back o. Its

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Nigeria Must Legalize Gay Marriage Vows United States?

Shouldn't people, countries and other continents be left alone to do what they are comfortable with? Life would be so boring if everyone does the same thing.
 Linda Thomas-Greenfield
The US Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs, Linda Thomas-Greenfield (pictured above) has stated that they would continue to pressurize Nigeria until it legalizes same sex marriage. She made this known on Monday July 13 during a live-web chat with journalists in Washington.
"As a government, it is one of the highest priorities and strongest values that

Have You Seen TOP 10 Nigerian Dishes On Naij?

Nigeria is a country rich in traditions and ethnic heritage. This heritage is not only deep and versatile, also a very tasty one! Nigerian cuisine has so much to offer. Indeed the food has become an essential part of the local culture.
So, why not try it all out and learn how to cook and adapt many new dishes you have not tried before, these are a good variation from delicacies at wives connection recipes. 
Leading Nigerian news portal Naij.com has put together a list of 10 tastiest Nigerian dishes aside from delicacies on wives connection blog. .http://www.naij.com/471264-10-tasty-nigerian-dishes-you-must-try.html
These recipes come from across the nation. For hundreds of years they have been cooked, enjoyed and passed on by women from different tribes. Now these dishes can enrich our culture and experience. They can help Nigeria become more united. When we share our lives, our food and tastes, we become one; it becomes so much easier to understand one another.

These ancient recipes bring along the taste of different regions of Nigeria. Some of them are spicy and fresh, others present fine textures and amazing taste. What is more important, trying the foods from different country regions you can come up with a more balanced diet for your family. In some regions people consume and cook more fish than meat. In other regions wives may not have such awesome recipes of fish dishes. Introducing new ideas and food on your table, you contribute to the overall health and wellbeing of your family.
Plus, learning new recipes helps you to become an expert cook. What a man could value more in his wife than her exceptional culinary abilities? Cooking can be fun and creative. Once, you master new approaches, dishes and recipes; you can become creative and produce new culinary masterpieces and treats for your family.
Plus, you can have much fun doing new stuff. Get together with your friends and get up a cooking session trying out new recipes from other parts of the country. It would be fun, I promise. Then you can share with me the results of your kitchen experiments. And Naij.com is at all time a great resource for discovering inspiration, information and news on politics.

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Ankara styles Updated

 This Ankara fabric alone has three pieces, two different jackets and a knee length skirt. When I decide to rock my other top with a denim, a beg don't see it as re rocking. Let that count as a different outfit. 
Hi, welcome again to my Nigeria fashion. So,  some of my ankara outfits are right here with me and I'm so happy to update. If only I learnt how to sew, things
would have been different. Just buy the fabric, get home, cut and sew in a matter of days. But come on, can one person do everything in life? No one can do all. We need each other to survive so,  dear tailors, mind yourself. I wanted this skirt exactly on my knees o, from these pic looks like it's below the knees. Slow network just acting up now. When it gets better, I'll upload more of this outfit pics: The ones with my neck bent to the south o, the ones with my keg crossed like I don't care,  the ones with me learning to smile at the camera. But sha,  must one smile at the camera? I don't see anything wrong with just looking straight and normal for shoots o. My people like to beg me to smile at the camera all the time. Na by force?I don't know how to do it and not even interested in learning sef. How can a mama like me be shining teeth every time because I want to post outfit photos to my fashion blog. See me o, am I some teenager in love at first sight or what na. I keep telling these amateur photo takers that smiling is not necessary but they won't let me be. Maybe I need to do a research to know if the real fashion bloggers shine teeth for pishures. How can anyone think that inability to smile can scare blog readers? Nor be lie. Who say visitors want to count teeth. When we read blogs, we just want to have fun while learning one or two things.
 Ankara or African prints to me depends on the tailoring. Any texture can look great if the tailor is meticulous with the finishing. 

smart  ankara
Do have a fabulous week.

Monday, July 13, 2015

Monday Morning Meditation: What's All The Fuss About?

 What's all This Fuss About US Same-Sex Legislation?
"You who abhor idols, do you rob temples?" Romans 2:22, NIV
¶ Last week, the United States of America was in the news again - for the absurdest reason. For the second time in the history of the world, a nation poked God in the face. The first was the infamous Tower of Babel. The Supreme Court ruling is the type the Trbiune God would say, "Let's go down and take a look." Even Russia felt revulsion!
••• I'm not sure America understands or cares about how other parts of the world view the copious outpouring of spiritual pollution streaming from Washington DC. I've watched dozens of interviews originating from China, Middle East and Africa that basically posture thus: "America, why don't you clean up your house first before complaining about my backyard?" The gun violence and racial killings of the past couple of months are equally appalling to us as the terror attacks in Tunisia, Kuwait or

My Sunday Wear: Maxi Dress In A Jacket

This sleeveless dress is so comfy and warm, the real deal for such a chilly Sunday morning. It had rained cats and dogs at night, the strong wind continued till the early hours and I thought I should just stay at home because it's cold and very windy but, the two girls at home won't stop asking
"mummy, "what time is second service?"  You see the cute little boy standing there? I never plan on posting with my young man staring at the camera but he is always there. You won't believe he is such a light sleeper that can wake up even at the click of a camera, sometimes, I wait for him to go to sleep before getting ready for my pics but for where? before we tiptoe out, he is looking for mom. So attached to me I've never experienced it this way, could be because with the other kids, I got help and the babies only saw me in the evenings after work or on weekends, they weren't this glued to me. When you see him beside my blog pics, just ignore his screams and look on, he'll be fine.
 The long dress is warm except for the hands, and, this is what I can wear now without going late for the sermon. I have tried to change my style but it isn't working so I give up. How people manage to get ready ahead of time, pick what to wear the previous day and just relax is what I don't know o. When I attend events late, it's because I'm looking for what to wear at the very last mionute. I rush to iron when I should be dressing up. If there's no electricity at the time, say NEPA is her best, I start rushing outside to turn on the generator and while doing all that, time is ticking. 

There are times I have dressed up for an event, walked out the door and turned back to go change the outfit because I'm not comfortable or don't feel what I'm wearing is appropriate. This is such a bad habit I don't know how to change. So, this Sunday morning, this lovely dress is all I can wear without ironing or thinking too much but the sleeves. My old jacket to the rescue. When I stopped working after my boy was born, my neighbor had/s an NGO that takes care of widows in some villages at the outskirts of Abuja, so, I emptied my wardrobe because those blazers and work outfits took space that I needed for wears of the moment, so, I packed almost all my outfits in two large ghana must go bags and she was extremely happy to take those to the widows (I don't know if that project is still on now as I don't see her gathering items for the trips like she used to). Those dresses, shoes and even other items ? I'm happy they made some other woman happy somewhere and also very happy that I forgot to pack along this jacket and two others, this has come to my rescue today. Well,I didn't ask for the dress to be made this sleeveless o, I specifically told the tailor to just make the sleeves short and smart, maybe because he heard me say that I do not like bogus or puffy hands on my dresses, he decides to completely do away with sleeves. After all the months of delay, trust me, I didn't have the energy to complain anymore, quietly collected my dresses, tried them on and so long as they fit, all is well.

 The ones that needed some adjustments (They have lasted so long with him that my new size began to swim in them. For the period these dresses lasted with the tailor, I have moved three dress sizes down, so, congrats to me, the baby weight is gradually shedding off). He wasn't allowed to take them back for adjustment o, in fact I opened my daughter's sewing room for him to do all the dress altering there and that was even good as he helped her fix her sewing machine parts that started falling off since her sewing lesson teacher traveled. 

This my 9 year old Riri loves to sew and used to try to do so even with needles. She keeps saying that she wants to be a fashion designer when she grows up so, my sewing machine was gifted to her to help start pursuing her passion in a way, she has actually mended some wears for us with the machine and, I think she is doing very well. I am now so happy that the lady I asked to come pick up this machine never showed up. Tailors' disappointments made me buy the machine to enable me learn how to make my own outfits and do some DIY mending for the family, but years passed and I couldn't find time to learn how to cut or sew. After about five years of being unable to find time to sit on the machine was when I asked someone to come pick it up but, thankfully, like hubby keeps telling me to always remember that my kids will someday grow up before I give away everything. 

Her failure to come pick it up is a blessing to my dear "fashion designer" daughter who is now using her free time wisely, learning to sew on weekends and holidays. The tailor fixed everything here at my house before he got his money but, I didn't complain about these sleeves after all, if not the cold morning, the dress is pretty and Abuja is naturally such a hot city, so, no problems. 
 Dressed for church with my  long gown and very large Bible that I just recently stopped taking to church. I remeber there was an argument on my other blog  (wives connection) about software and hard cover Bibles, some argued they can never take Ipads and phones to church for the sake of reading the soft Bibles in there while others think that is more convenient and, in my mind then, I think I supported those who kept Ipads at home cos that is what I have been doing all these years, but recently, I see that almost all the preachers read their Bibles in their Ipads, so, why would I leave mine at home every week and go struggling to open pages of paper when I can just click to get to the page I want, lol, hehehe, who no want easy, comfort life? This Bible? I'm taking to just keep in the car because my minipad has about three different versions and types that I can comfortably read without struggling to protect my pages of paper from my energetic son. 

 Those lovely beige sandal?  you know them already courtesy my re-rocking habit.

 The ankara dress testifies that I have come down three dress sizes, so I smile in thanksgiving. If anyone tells you that losing weight is easy, they are not saying the whole truth, one day I'll share some of my exercise pics so you can laugh and see what I do in front of the TV with Gena West of "A Different View"

 Have fun laughing at the momma dressed in her ankara dress and having fun with the camera. I'll learn to wear neck pieces with long earrings cos I see people do it and I love it but once my ears are heavy, I don't want to add neck pieces and when my neck is heavy, I wear tear drop earrings or nothing. Still learning sha.
Have a lovely, stress-free week!