I Feel Insecure And Unsure About My Marriage As My Husband Posts Half Dressed Pictures On His Web Page

Good morning Aunty Eya. I am an old reader who discovered your blog as a single lady , before I got married, around the time when I was
planning my wedding. Wives connection blog has taught me a lot about life and may God continue to bless you and other readers who take their precious time to give us tips and advice.  I have never posted on the blog before but I  need help now.

I have been married 3 years. My husband is very attractive and charming. My husband is always looking at extremely fit females and also lets me know that he is by pointing them out of the crowd. what bothers me is that he looks at them with his bedroom eyes. He also likes to take pictures of him self almost undressed, why would a married man be comfortable taking such pictures? Not that he hides or takes those pics in my absence. We can be talkingwhile sitting in the bedroom and the next thing I hear is the sound of camera clicking, he is taking pics of his hairy legs or well shaven face, why? .

Lately I found out that he has been posting them on this web page that he uses to stay in contact with his friends. In the past we had a lot of arguments of this web page because I don't approve of the messages strange girls post under his pictures so he blocked me from seeing his web page. And the online girls,  they make comments that hurt me.

 I feel unattractive to my husband even though he says the contrary. He is always comparing me to girls who are well dressed, nails done, hair done. With 2 little kids, and working full time, i do not see the time to pamper myself. I am also young and i know what he is asking is normal but i am too exhausted to do it. I also think about the financial part. instead of me why not buy things for the children. 

 I feel very insecure about my husband and my relationship and his behavior is causing me to feel very unattractive and have low-self esteem. What can I do? Please Aunty hide my Identity. 

Comments

  1. Anonymous11/19/2015

    madam I suggest you find time to pamper yourself if not for your husband for your self esteem and emotional state,

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  2. Nobody should make you feel bad about yourself, however since this is your hubby, you should tell him how all this comparison is making you feel bad but also, keeping up the good looks after kids is not easy but you have got to try sist, you have got to have a little time for yourself and trust me, everything would go on just fine, even if you take sometime to pamper yourself. the struggle is real, just try okay?

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  3. I sense you are not the type that gets all made up with the nails and everything your husband is after. In that case why did he settle for you if you were never like that.
    Try to keep up your looks as it was before birth. If you want to go the extra mile to pleae your husband then have all those thingsyou talked about done (if you are comfortable with the look)this will help your self esteem and confidence. Have a heart to heart talk with him and let him understand that it makes you unhappy when he drools over such pictures. If you do not deal with this issue at this stage I hope it doesn't progress to him physically meeting this ladies and having some kind of relationship with them.

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  4. Dear, Only you can make yourself happy. Don't feel bad about yourself and think you are not good enough. Try to increase your self esteem and develop the attitude of joyfulness. Don't stress yourself too much over trying to please him or become like other girls. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

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  5. I am a man and I have an idea of what your husban is doing. First, by him showing you at what he is looking at, is saying that's my fantacy. Secondly, man don't really get over looking at beautiful women, so understand that, thirdly, blocking you from site would probably because he had enough of you mourning about what you see on the site, then rather do not see it.
    Resolution: first knowingly that wives do not want to accept when they are told they need to better that what they are, this time you need to go to the gym and get the body that satisfies you, it must be for yourself first and must be confident about yourself. secondly, purchase a full night dress but transparent to say here I am underneath this. Do not just give youirself but make sure he sees you jsut before you switch the light off, nut next time grab him and not be shy, shyness is a turn off. Lastly, give him luv, hubleness, respect in everything, not necessarily agreeing on everthing but if you disagree do it respectfully and show him your intelligence

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  6. I am a man and I have an idea of what your husban is doing. First, by him showing you at what he is looking at, is saying that's my fantacy. Secondly, man don't really get over looking at beautiful women, so understand that, thirdly, blocking you from site would probably because he had enough of you mourning about what you see on the site, then rather do not see it.
    Resolution: first knowingly that wives do not want to accept when they are told they need to better that what they are, this time you need to go to the gym and get the body that satisfies you, it must be for yourself first and must be confident about yourself. secondly, purchase a full night dress but transparent to say here I am underneath this. Do not just give youirself but make sure he sees you jsut before you switch the light off, nut next time grab him and not be shy, shyness is a turn off. Lastly, give him luv, hubleness, respect in everything, not necessarily agreeing on everthing but if you disagree do it respectfully and show him your intelligence

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  7. Anonymous11/20/2015

    My dear your own is simple. You need to sit up that's all. Personally I have 5 small kids below the age of 8. Its always hell but I somehow look good all the time. I even find time to do my nails at least once a month. You can do it too. And I have a job and also run a business. Its pure hell cos life is always one big rush filled with unplanned. Ups and downs and with all d houdelhelp issues. But you can never tell when you see me outside. Once your hair and nails are done, you are good to go. Especially d hair.

    So please take care of yourself. Pamper and love yourself and remove your eyes from him. The guy's head will reset. I promise you.

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    1. Wao, 5 kids under the age of 8! Well done. I have 3 kids under the age of 8 and I am losing my voice from constant yelling.

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