I Want To Give The Baby Up For Adoption

Good evening Aunty Eya. May God bless you for the good works you’ve been doing through your blog. I’ve suffered a lot in life, and just when I felt my suffering was coming to an end, all hopes crashed.

 I would have gotten married last year, but it didn’t go as planned. Contrary to what people might think, I didn’t try to
hook him with pregnancy. I’m just a victim of circumstance. My problem now is that I’m looking for a good family that wants to adopt a new born baby girl.

I’m eight months pregnant and will deliver by next month. This is the ONLY option I have if am ever going to be happy again in life. Please help me post this on your blog so that any interested person can contact me through you. I’ve had plenty of time to think about this and my mind is firmly made up. I can’t care for the baby.

53 thoughts on “I Want To Give The Baby Up For Adoption”

  1. Hi Eya, I will like to advise that you temporarily handover this blog to the lady that use to manage it before…Not sure of her name again but I think it start from E….Since you are presently very busy with a lot to do, kindly let someone else manage the blog for now… You are totally killing the light of the blog and you have worked to hard to let it just go like that…Remember how you use to come advertise on Linda's blog and stella's blog, in fact you were everywhere advertising then and that was how you got the traffic, please don't let all that waste.

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  2. Hi eya , my baby is 4moths old pls I a name of a good solid baby food I can give him #cereal#solid food. Coz he drinks just sma gold for now and I want to add cereal to it now. Pls any tell me the one to buy thanks

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  3. Poster, I know exactly how you feel, I understand you loud and clear. But before you take that decision, you might want to go through my story. I will try to make it as brief as as possible.

    9years ago, I was exactly where you are right now. At 17yrs of age, I was pregnant and penniless. To make matters worse, the man who impregnated me was broke and irresponsible. He actually took advantage of my naiveness ( well, it's all in the past now).‎ I couldn go back home, cos I was more or less a disgrace, I was practically left to myself.. I couldn't even afford antenatal. I had my son at home, by myself, in an uncompleted building with the help of a man and his wife who stay close by.
    But look at me today, God has compensated my resilience and tenacity.im in my final year in unilag.I live in my own flat in the serene surulere, I'm a thriving entrepreneur, my 9yrs adorable son is in pry 4 in a posh private school. I'm not married yet, but I'm peaceful while I patiently wait for my husband to appear.( I didn marry my son's father)‎.
    No dear, the journey wasn't sweet at all.. did I mention that while pregnant, I washed plate in bukka's at ajah for my daily feeds? Oh, I also sold kerosene. Then while in my third trimester, I cooked indomie and egg for a living ( which I started with a a meagre 4000Naira).. all this while living in an uncompleted building heavily pregnant. What about mosquitos, the harmattan, cold, heat,..i was at the mercy of the weather.i had just 5piece of clothing, 2 rubber sands, I was friendless, lonely and alone. My dear. You dnt want to know.

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  4. 2months after I put to bed, I got a job.. guess as what? A cleaner! In a church. For 5k a month..but they allowed me bring my baby to work. It really was a trying period in my life. I did that cleaning job for 1 yr, in betwixt, I started selling pure water and soft drink to the construction workers in the church. ‎I have worked as a sales girl to an alaja, I hv worked as a writer in a driving school, I have worked as a cafe attendant, I have worked as a cashier in shoprite lekki, but the shoprite job didn allow me time for my son so I quit after 6mnths. I moved from one uncompleted building to another, then I later moved to a pako house all at elf around ikota lekki. Then in 2008, an aunt agreed to look after my son for me, while I cater for his upkeep.. i obliged… Guess what I did for the next 3and half yrs? I worked as a househelp.
    Every month, I would go see my 3yrs old son, I would drop feeding money, I enrolled him in a montessori school, and I was also buying somethings for my aunts two kids..

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  5. As a housegirl, I served that family faithfully and devotedly. Well, it paid off. And when I was leaving to go resume Unilag, they reluctantly released me. In their words, there has never been a replacement for me.

    It was from serving as a maid that I retook my ssce, and wrote my jamb in 2011. By God's grace, I passed and was offered admission in Unilag. Today, I'm in my final year..and come October 2015, I will be a graduate..

    My son is 9yrs old today, He's my jewel and he adds colour to my world.People say he looks like me a lot and they still can't believe I'm his mother. You should see me, I'm a stunner. I've recovered all those years.

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  6. Even as an undergraduate, I was still enterprising. I vowed not to do aristo, upon say I am a very attractive young lady. ‎I worked for myy living. And God has been faithful. I can't deny that.

    My point is, before you conclude on your adoption thing, pls think twice. There are some things you'd never learn until you go through some experiences. Why postpone it? See, 2005 – 2011 was a trying season of my life,I entered it young and unprepared. but looking back now, ‎I thank God for those years, I thank God I went through those things early in life.
    It has forged a better me. Reason why God cannot just hand me over to an anyhow man. This is just a brief summary of one chapter of my life.

    In it all, I should mention that I loved God, and our relationship has deepened the more over the years.
    Somehow, even during those trying season,I knew He had his eyes on me. ‎It's a deep story.

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  7. Yes, i did toy with the idea of giving up my son, but anytime I held him to my bosom, while he sucked my breast,we bonded the more. I knew ‎I couldn't even give him out for all the gold in the world. I love him too much. And I was still penniless.

    My advice: Pls reconnect back to your creator, ask him for forgiveness and guidance, then brace yourself to face whatever comes. Do NOT give up. Where there's a will, there's a way.
    You might also want to check out Pastor Nike Adeyemi home for girls at magodo. They house and reconcile ladies like you. They will help you find your footings back in life. That's if your story is genuine to them.

    May God guide you through this phase of your life.

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  8. @ Poster, I am interested in adopting your baby. I got married five years ago and still waiting for the blessing of a child. I will send my contact and number to Eya, please call me.

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  9. i think this blog is coming back to life gradually, pls eayah do something, the lord is your strenght

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  10. @M, you a trully resilient!! You need to be doing motivational speaking in churches to young girls and boys wasting their lives away. @Poster, pls forget the happiness you will get now for the sake of that child. the pain in later years will be too unbearable to live with. Pls think again and again and again

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  11. Dear Poster, there is a proper way to go about adoption. Money should not exchange hands other wise that is technically SELLING your baby. Appropriate authorities should be involved otherwise you could just be selling your child to someone who wants a child for ritual purposes.
    From your post you said you have suffered, is it financially? if you have a family that you can live with that is half of your problem solved. Like M above said, as long as you are willing to work God will provide for you. No matter how hard you think you have it now you know in your heart that things could be worse.
    When you eventually give birth to that child and hold him/her i can guarantee you that you will not want to let go of that child. No matter what his/her father has done to you, you will love that child. Its is going to be difficult. Just trust that God will protect, and provide for that child. He does not give us what we cant handle.
    Imagine if you cant conceive later in life? Truly wishing you the best. God bless.

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  12. I thot I have suffered too much in life, then I read a comment from M and I say ohhhhh I haven't suffered even half then. That comment made me cry tears. Only few women can withstand those experience and overcome. WHAT?

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  13. Poster check yourself and think well well o, if you know that you can't withstand what M withstood , better to give up for adoption than abandon her later cos of suffering,

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  14. God won't give what is beyond us but if you must give up, ensure it's properly done, maybe you get a lawyer or police involved if that's acceptable cos I don't know how these things are done but I think involving a lawyer should be okay.

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  15. Dear Poster,
    I understand your plight and right now, it's like you really do not have any option but to give your baby up for adoption. I am interested in adopting her for my aunt. My aunt really needs a child, she's in her forties, she's a good christian, a working class lady but she has no child to call her own. She has been looking for avenues to adopt but hasn't found any. I told her about this post and she's very interested. Please contact me :dazzlechibugo@gmail.com and we will take it further from there.
    God will never abandon you.

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  16. Thank you so much Aunty Eya. May God bless you. I don't think putting up my contact is a good idea because it might make many unserious people to start contacting me. I think its best if an interested person makes the effort to reach me. Thanks once again

    @M, I really appreciate ur words of encouragement. I cried while reading your post cos the truth is, I kno Im not strong enough to pass through what you did. Children are special gifts from God but not when they come at the wrong time. I believ this happened to me so I can learn a lesson. That lesson has been well learnt. In a year's time or less, my life wil be back on track, rather than spending so many years languishing in penury and suffering with an innocent child. By God's grace, the child will be adopted by a good family and God willing, I'll stil get married in future and have more kids. So many people kill their unborn babies through abortion. At least, I didn't kill this baby even when I could have done so and knowing she's alive and growing up somewhere is enough to keep me going.
    Thanks to everyone that contributed

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  17. Dear Poster,
    I commend your efforts in not aborting this baby and I think your mind is made up even after all M said. I was really touched by M's story and still am. God is your strength dear. In all, just remember that He will never leave you. I really don't know how to contact you since your phone number or email addy is not on the site. But as I said earlier, I am interested. Do send me a mail, dazzlechibugo@gmail.com and I'll take it up from there.
    God bless you.

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  18. I would Love to adopt a Baby i have everything needed for the baby i am 38 my husband is 37 If you want you can call me at 614-405-2328..Or angelofglass@aol.com If you live in the Us there will be no cost to u are i would have all the paper work done!!!! My Name is shawna

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  19. Why don't you take the baby to a motherless babies home or ministry of women affairs where they can help look after the baby until you find your feet and come back for the child? It will b a great pain to carry a child for 9months go through labour and just give him or her up and never can call him or her your child or have access.Its like sowing for another to reap and besides this is a child. Please think very well please.

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  20. Hi poster, this mail is for you…
    Good Morning

    i am writing in respects to the woman that wants to give up her child for adoption for financial reasons. I am not interested in adopting the child but I am willing to provide financial assistance till she is able to get back on her feet. In other words I will be willing to take care of the child's expenses all she has to do is let me know how much she would need on a monthly basis and I would credit her account every month with that amount

    Please communicate this to her on my behalf I am not interested in meeting her or even speaking to her directly unless it is necessary I just don't believe that a mother should be seperated from her child especially since many people are looking for children

    Thank you.

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  21. M lady U rock. tell them . i suffered too. my boy is ten and am Married with two kids. Tough time never last but tough people do:))

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  22. Abortion is so easy but the memory/devil will torment you for years, until you forgive your self. Adoption is going to be even worse. you knowing fully well your baby is alive and somewhere strange. although a good idea but have you asked your self what God has planned for you. Tough time never last but tough people do.

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  23. Same position, a month gone now. I have some savings and I don't think I can marry the father too much drama. I'm so confused now I don't even know how to face the reality of it. Iv had abortions before this but I know I can't take this one out. I am confused, money is not so much the issue as the knowledge that il probably do this on my own.

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  24. God bless you M for your inspiring story. Poster tough times dont last but tough people do. Hang in there – you have read M's story. U have to forge ahead in life. Dont sit down, give up and indulge in pity party. Be strong and forge ahead. Keep your head up and trudge on. There is always light at the end of every tunnel…..

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  25. God bless you M for your inspiring story. Poster tough times dont last but tough people do. Hang in there – you have read M's story. U have to forge ahead in life. Dont sit down, give up and indulge in pity party. Be strong and forge ahead…….

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  26. Eya had gold in her hands but she threw it all away. I haven't been here in over a year. I hope it gets better.

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  27. This is my first time here and am 1month pregnant. l have aborted four babies before this with the help of cytotec. you can call me stupid but i made a convenant with God that no more sex and i was faithful for 8months. Few weeks ago my fiance is to go for nysc. and i gave in and now am pregnant again. am graduate but i dnt ave a job i already have a daughter for him and ave got too many responsilities to handle and dnt want to abort dis child. i want to give it up for adoption please if any body out there who can really take care of this child pls call. 08108597298

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  28. Hi Eya,i want to give my baby up for adoption,i'm 6months pregnant now,its a pity everything turned out this way cos the father of my unborn child is a ''mike tyson'',very aggressive nd doesn't give it a second thought before beating a lady,i told him am pregnant buh he doesn't care abt it,telling me to do whatever i like to it,buh not ready to take any responsibility whatsover,am not ready to be a mum now,nd i can't see my baby suffer or live in penury,08129171881,my email is not active for now ,,,,, anyone interested should be given my num, really really facing a lot right now,infact my parents is unaware bcoz it wud make my mum fall sick,pls get back to me as soon as possible,i can't even afford antenatal….thanks.

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  29. Am 6mnths pregnant, my baby would be due by early january, I dont know the sex but would like to give the baby up for adoption, call +23408054852848, if you are interested

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  30. Please am six month pregnant and would be due by january, I want to give up the baby for adoption, my number is 08054852848

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