Tuesday, October 28, 2014

How Do I Say No Without Hurting?

Good evening Aunty Eya and all wives connection family. I have a challenge and need your advice and that of blog members.

I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for close to 8years now. NB i met him when i just finished secondary school and was seeking for admission into the university. I was really young then so he decided not to do anything sexual to me(was a virgin n still am). He has been there for me and by God's grace we are having our introduction this december and marriage next year.

I started attending my church few months before i met my fiance as i said before i was quite young and didnt show him off cos i was worried people will think that as small as i was, i was already into a man without knowing there was no sexual attachment.

To cut the story short, a brother

Monday, October 27, 2014

He Suspects His Wife Sends Money Home Which Is Not True, Please Help My Sister

Good day! I would like to be anonymous. I earlier posted my story on this blog which attracted meaningful advices from you and blog visitors.  This time I need your advice and that of blog visitors for my younger sister. She has been married for 2 years with a baby boy .

 Now the problem is her husband; the man is a business man and he is doing very well financially. After their wedding he made sure my sister stopped using her bank account , he in fact doesn't want her to be going to the bank for anything whatsoever.  He goes about telling people that God disappointed him by giving my sister to him as wife.

 My sister is currently doing her nysc and he told her to withdraw all her monthly allowance and give to him that he would add money to it and buy a new set of seat for their sitting room. My sister did that for the sake of peace. 

 Every now and then it is always money this money that. He suspects that she sends his money to her family which is not true,  cos our parents are not lacking. He said my sister does not give him change whenever he gives her money to buy food stuff and all that. 

 Just 3 days ago he beat the

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

He Accepted The Pregnancy, Proposed Marriage But The Problem...

Hello Anty Eya and Fellow blog readers,
I am a yoruba lady dating a guy from the south south. we met in school during our Post Graduate Diploma (PGD), he was actualy a very nice guy back in school though I never had any intention of marrring him then until...  I got home and found out I was pregnant for him. 

 i went to see him and he accepted and even proposed marriege but the problem now is i just discovered he is very clueless about life and real living all he has worked for 16yrs without saving a penny and lives in just one room!

 His daily routine is

Friday, October 17, 2014

Easy Guide To Wives Connection Nigerian Recipes

 Okro soup image courtesy: soupamarket.
For those interested in Wives Connection Step By Step Pictorials of yummy food recipes but cannot see the 'post categories' because you blog with phones, Click on the links below to arrive at

the recipe you
are looking for:


Wednesday, October 15, 2014

He Asked Me What I Wanted, My Reply Before Saturday

Hi Aunty Eya,pls hide my ID.I'm 24yrs and a virgin(i want 2 keep it till i'm married) i ve never dated.There's this guy in church(he is 32) that is seriously pestering me for a relationship.I ve been to his house 3rice.The 1st time i went,he asked me out and i refused.The 2nd time we talked extensively,i asked him if he believes in sex b4 marriage,he said YES.I told him i don't and he said he will never force me into it.

He forcefully kissed me for

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Low Cost Nigerian Tomato Stew

 I made a low cost lunch and decided to share with my online family that you dont always need large amounts of money in order to cook a sumptous meal.

rice/beans with tin-tomato stew(i would lay all emphasis on the stew)

ingredients for the stew.

tasty tom tomato paste (2 sachets)
garlic clove
ground crayfish
knorr chicken
canola oil


-wash fish and place the cleaned fish inside a pot, spice it up with salt, pepper, seasoning, little thyme.
-bring it to a boil but do not overcook the fish. separate the boiled fish from its stock.
-in a clean pan, fry the fish in oil. i prefer canola oil because it has omega 3 in it.
-in a clean bowls, slice your onions, garlic(used two pieces), pepper(you can manual blender because i want the pepper coarse)
-in a clean bowl, put the thick tomato paste,add the previously sliced onions into the paste and add water to this ensure its not too watery and too thick( sorry i couldnt take the picture)
-in your pot, add your oil, allow to heat up, then add the pepper. stir for a short while, then add the not too thick tomato and onion paste and stir.
-ensure the mixture doesnt burn by stirring at intervals and tasting to ensure the sour taste of the paste isnt evident.
-when the tomato paste is fried, add benny chicken spice and thyme and garlic.
-after a short while, add the fish stock and stir, add salt and if need be, add knorr seasoning, stir and cover the pot to cook.
-check to ensure it isnt burning and after a while, add the blended crayfish, stir and add your fried fish.
-3 to 5 minutes later, lunch is served.
-please try it and give us feedback.

as for the low cost, this is my analysis.

tasty tom tomato paste (2 sachets)       -N80
atarodo                                 -N50
garlic clove                            -N20
onions                                  -N50
ground crayfish                         -N50
knorr chicken                           -N20
fish(half kilo)                         -N250
thyme                                   -N20
salt                                            -N20
canola oil(Available in your kitchen)
TOTAL                                   -N560


Monday, October 13, 2014

My Life, My Story, What Can I Do Please?

Good evening, Pls,I need
serious advice from blog visitors on how my life can change and not be
stagnant!                                   I am a lady of almost
35yrs.I graduated almost ten yrs ago from geology dept and proceeded
to have a PGD. Several times,I wld b called for an interview but one
thing will always come up and I won't be given the job. Even if
someone tries to help me,it won't just work out @all. About three
times now,if we are two candidates that goes for interview,the other
 person is always preferred to me.

 Even the schools I applied to,I
wasn't called also!!! I don't have any man in my life,as in,no guy has
ever toasted me oooo except people like okada men,meat sellers and the
likes.I dress well,am size 6(so pple won't say maybe I don't makeup or
too fat) I dreamt two times that there's mark of irritation on me.
People advised I go to MFM,which av done,av done dry
 fasting,gone to mountains,gone to see pastors and what they all said
that surprises me is that am a glorious child and someone is covering
my glory! I observe that there's always disappointment @d point of my
breakthrough. My parents see nothing wrong with me,though I still stay
 with them,dey r both retired but even if they have the money dey are
not ready to part with it to help me with business. Some people said I
should ask my parents questions which I did but nothing came out of

I have

Thursday, October 09, 2014

Searching For Adoptive Parents For My Unborn Child, How Do I Go About It Please?

I received this short message and the expectant mom  wanted me to advise on how to go about getting adoptive parents in Nigeria but I honestly do not know the process so I replied that it would be posted on the blog.. Please who can help her out?

...Good day Aunty Eya, I am a

Wednesday, October 08, 2014

Easy Pan Grilled Fish Dinner

Pan grilled fish with rice and vegetables
 While posting Omalicha serendipity dinner, the plate of served food got me craving. That evening, I tried to fix one for myself with only ingredients at home. I told myself that "if it turns out not tasting good, I'll just keep it to myself" Initially, there was no plan to share this here but the taste won't let me forget. It turned out much more delicious than I'd expected, dinner that was meant to be for me alone became general dinner, more forks and spoons appeared to take from my one serving and we so rushed it. Would have posted this the following day sef but slow connection wahala.

Would have loved to add shrimps but the cost of those seafood in Abuja can be annoying some times.

Ingredients I Used:

Washed croaker fish rubbed with garlic ginger sauce and pepper sauce beginning to

Tuesday, October 07, 2014

Wheat Flour, Meal/ Fufu From Scratch

Wheat meal with blended afang soup
 Wheat is the third most produced cereal after maize and rice, with lots of potassium, protein, magnesium and Iron. It's health benefits depend on the form on which it is eaten. Wheat can be used to make pastries, bread, cakes etc. We know that one slice of whole wheat bread contains about 1.5 grams of dietry fibre.

Wheat flour sold in bags at supermarkets is very good too and makes for easy preparation but I just learnt that some contain cassava even when it's not obvious on the label.

I love eba, so. this post is dedicated to diabetics and those with high blood sugar, those who need

Monday, October 06, 2014

How To Make Pap, Akamu, Ogi, Corn Starch from Scratch

 Millet soaked in water for eight hours about to be taken to the mill for processing.
On May 6, 2013, I published a request here on a blog. A reader wanted to know how to make corn starch (akamu) from scratch. You lovely ladies helped out with the proceedure but there were no pics added. Then, I had no baby and depended on my akamu customer for raw starch. whenever we wanted to serve pap on a lazy Saturday morning with some delicious home-made akara she was right there. 

Over one year has passed and now, here are the pics poster, if you still need them and for other new moms who cannot trust anyone to process their babies' corn meal. If this pics are not clear enough and you still have questions, feel free to ask, other moms here and I will try our best.

My babies were/are all fed with pap. I never buy for babies, process myself and store in the fridge. The girls all enjoyed their pap with my simple soyabean powder which I also make myself (I have the pics waiting to be posted). The soybean for babies is a bit complex for me cos of time so I always just roast and grind the beans without adding other ingredients and it worked for me however, their brother took that for a few weeks and started turning his head when he sees the spoon approaching so I tried adding SMA and that worked perfectly. He now takes ogi with SMA and he is fine.

To make the akamu, I like to use yellow maize because of the bright colour but decided to try millet this time around and it's great. For maize, it is soaked for one or two days before milling, depending on how fermented I want my pap.

Millet doesn't need to

Thursday, October 02, 2014

Omalicha's Serendipity Dinner

 UPDATED:  Please read and follow the numbering before looking at/for matching/corresponding images.  Slow connection is delaying upload and proper tagging.

 Serendipity dinner
 Hello everyone, it's actually been a while! I have missed my kitchen days so much that I couldn't wait to post this.

After work on Monday I felt extremely peckish and I wanted to eat something that had a thousand spices bursting through my head. I was working on a spontaneous energy, because I suddenly saw myself in the market. I
wanted fish that came straight out of the water. So I bought freshly caught croaker fish and shrimp. 

My serendipitous dinner! 
Croaker fish
Spring onion
Green chili
Ground Cameroon pepper
Oyster sauce
Soy sauce
Fish spice


  1. Wash, clean, dice, and set out all ingredients.
  2. Boil your rice (white).
  3. Blend tomatoes and pepper (set aside).
  4. Rub into your your fish,pounded garlic, soy sauce, thyme, fish spice, oyster sauce. Keep in a coverd bowl in the fridge to marinate for 20 min. 
  5. Pour blended to make tomapep paste into a dry pan and leave on medium heat to dry out and thicken.
  6. Put your fish in the oven to bake for about 15 min. 
  7. In a dry pot heat half cooking spoon of olive oil.
  8. When hot, add shrimps. 
  9. Stir, add Cameroon pepper, curry and salt. 
  10. Keep stirring until shrimps are cooked and have let out their natural juice. 
  11. Using a perforated spoon, remove shrimp from pot and set aside.
  12. In the same pot, add tomapep paste, little water and allow to simmer. 
  13. In a dry pan, add all veggies. 
  14. When slightly tender, add shrimps and mix properly. 
  15. When fish is baked, remove

How To Make, Import Customised Wristbands, Others From Aliexpress

Dee sent in this lecture yesterday, I have tried unsuccessfully to upload it and the many lovely images here. Follow the link below to view samples of her customised items. If you need help or have any questions, come back here and leave them, she promises to respond to all:


In this lecture I will assume that we all know how to search for items on aliexpress and alibaba, how to communicate with sellers, make payment via MasterCard or through an agent, and also how to ship item through an agent. If you are new here kindly read the other lectures.


If you have carefully read my post from the first lecture till this fifth lecture you will notice that my importation knowledge from when I started till date has a big difference, believe me I have tried my hands on retailing stuffs I buy online especially human hair (Peruvian, Aunty Funmi, Brazilian etc.) but it is not as profitable as what I am about to unveil to you.

Today I am writing on wristband making because it is highly, I mean highly profitable. It took me more than 3months of online learning and research from various write-up on making customized wristband before I finally made my first wristband for a church in my state which landed me a profit of N45k for producing 500pcs of the wristband, the same month I produced 1500pcs for another church and made 125k profit, in just a month I made a cool profit of 170k plus.

After producing the band I noticed some flaws which I improved on and it has made me better, I can hardly give accurate record of how much I have made since I started making this wristband 7 months ago (March 2014).


First let me start by giving a brief explanation of what a customized wristband is. Customized wristbands are those colorful bands worn on the wrist by various churches and organizations. Just take your time and observe people around you, you will notice majority of people wear wristband owned by different organizations especially churches. E.g. Winners, Redeem, etc.

Let’s begin;

Step One: