Should I Let My Husband Attend That Wedding Or Not? Please Advise

Good day everyone,
My husband cheated on me with a particular girl and I was hurt greatly. We had a big quarrel over this same girl that my husband's family had to interfer to settle us. 

Now this girl whom kissed and slept with my husband is getting married, and she sent an invitation to my husband specifying that my husband is a special guest. 
Unlike other people who gets married and sends an invitation to my husband he shows me, but for this girl's  invitation card he has not shown me, but I just happened to see d card which he is not aware of. 

Should I allow him go for the wedding or not?. Already my husband told me he will be travelling, and after seeing the invitation card I found out that the date and duration and place my husband said he is travelling is
d same on the girl's date of traditional and white wedding, but he told me he was going on an official trip. How do I handle this? Please help me.
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  1. This is serious,over to marriage experts
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  2. Anonymous11/14/2014

    ask him if he's going to attend the wedding. if he is, then ask him why? if you don't like his answer, decide whether you're ok with staying with a guy who is continuing to cheat on you. if you're ok, then stay with him

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  3. Anonymous11/15/2014

    Well sorry for that but I really understand what you are going through. Now asking him means you have been going through his personal things (monitoring him) he will say because he didn't tell you the exact place he is going so how did you find out this kind of men we need special wisdom from God. If you know the city my advice is do you have anyone there pretend as if you don't know he is going there tell him you are visiting there Same day

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  4. Anonymous11/15/2014

    Honestly A̶̲̥̅♏ feeling for ƴ۵џ! Ah swear if na me, ℓ̊ won't keep quiet o.. ℓ̊ won't, can't tolerate cheating! Ask him, if he lies then let him knw ƴ۵џ knw. Mtshww. Men sef! Dogs!

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  5. I also think you should pretend that you are going to that City on that day. Isn't it possible you heard about the wedding somewhere? Tell him you have another event in that city or pretend to be looking for something around where the card is kept, in his presence o, then, accidentally bump into the card and begin by admiring as if you don't know who sent it...

    If the card is in a drawer, when he is in the room, quickly dash to that drawer while saying something like, Honey, I need to look for my tiny earring here don't know if I mistakenly dropped it in this drawer... HE WILL NOT ATTEND THAT WEDDING!!! BY FIRE BY FORCE but don't make it obvious yet. Start subtly and let's see how it goes.

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  6. Is it possible you keep quiet about the whole thing and then attend that wedding and quiely look for him and quietly sit close to him without a word and watch his quiet embarrassment and exit? No drama o.

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    1. Aunty Eya, GOD bless you. After I read her mail, this was EXACTLY what popped into my head. Just do the above and don't cause any scene.

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  7. Anonymous11/15/2014

    ‎Good evening,i'm in mid-twenties and I have not been lucky with relationships even despite my love and sacrifice! Had my last breakup since may and I'm yet to go into another relationship...but early september,i met with this guy and we've been good friends,i like him and he likes me too...just last month,he asked that we date....The clause here now is that he is SS and I am AA...please I need your advice on whether to go ahead and date him or not...I'm really much in love with him and I know he loves and fond of me too...‎thanks much.

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    1. Anonymous11/15/2014

      Hi,does he know u re AA? If yes,he will love u by force. I hv a frnd dat had ds same issue only t realise d guy wanted her simply cos she is AA. But if he dsnt know abt ur genotype,u re good t go! (Sue)

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    2. Anonymous11/24/2014

      My advice to single ladies is stay single and enjoy it as much as you can... There is no hurry in marriage, i long for my single and carefree days again... d sacrifices in marriage, Trust me, nothing and no one can prepare you for

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  8. Anonymous11/15/2014

    Hmmm,we really learn every day! Ordinarily,if ds were me,I wld flair up n really gv it like it hot but after ready Eya's response,I hv learnt more. Poster,pls b careful as this happened to someone I know. They were still datin b4 she got married n she invited him as a special guest too. This same kind of scenario too o. He went without d knowledge of his wife. U need to see d cash ds married man spent on d wedding day. Na so we d frnds dey look. Pls,b careful n handle ds well.

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  9. Anonymous11/15/2014

    U are a fool 4 saying dat@anon1:49pm. Infact u are a goat. Wat has genetype gat 2 do with LOVE anuman! My dear der is nothing wrong 4 u 2 love and keep up with d relationship, ur seeking advice here is 2know whether u will hear he is going 2 die or not. DEATH is in GOD's hand and since he has passed dat 23yrs my dear he is as good as anyone. So it's now left 4 u 2love up cox u never can tell dis might be ur own bone and stop looking at him as if he will die now.

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    1. Learn to correct with Love sweeties.d insults weren't necessary.

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    2. *wasnt*

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  10. I don't think silence is going 2 work in this case o. Pls confront him. Is he atttending the wedding as friend of the bride or ex lover. Tell him he is going no where.

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  11. Anonymous11/15/2014

    U re d fool her anon 2:06. Who goes on spewin trash lik an idiot lik u? Face reality my frnd n stop being being sentimental. I hv nothin against SS n will neva do bt u sound lik one on d verge of collapse n my comment seems t gv u d succour t vent on. Pity! Next tym,read n digest b4 soundin so silly! I neva asked her not t love him,I only said she shld open her eyes cos I know sm1 smthn lik ds happened to n she almost got married due to pity. Ds is d world we live in.

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    1. Anonymous11/15/2014

      *Anon2:08pm I mean*

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  12. Anonymous11/15/2014

    1. Check the IV card.
    2. Call the RSVP numbers and find out the one for the groom or his representative.
    3. Inform this person on the groom's side of the game their intended wife is playing.
    4. Sit back and watch the shit hit the fan,

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    1. Anonymous11/15/2014

      Oh boy,see SPOIL!!! Lolz

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    2. Chai,ds is mean but I tink dt girl deserve it. poster insist on goin 2 d weddin wt him n knw wat his reaction wl be.

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    3. One thing we mustn't do is destroy someone else's happiness even though they had attempted at destroying ours. As the girl is, believe it or not she will meet her waterloo but do not let it be through you. The thing is doing that will not help your situation in any way. My advise is pray for wisdom. If it were up to me, I'd confront my husband before he even attempts leaving. Yorubas say 'ojo toju ba r'ibi ni ibi n wole'- 'The day one sets eyes on evil, it must be dealt with'. But please confront him with wisdom, ask God for guidance.

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  13. Anonymous11/16/2014

    Did u actually see them sleeping together or did he admit sleeping with her? I'm thinking this is one of those situations where the guy says they r just friends and u won't believe so now he has to sneak to go to her wedding. If u r one of those wives that is just jealous of a fine friend of ur husband's, u better don't get in the way of this wedding cause of he misses his frd's wedding, he won't forgive u

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  14. Anonymous11/16/2014

    Call the number i.e RSVP somehow ask for the groom's number or hopefully someone with the name of groom (perhaps his brother or cousin)
    Ask for the groom's number or just tell the person up straight what you think is going on. Dont tell hubby anything and watch things begin to scatter all around.

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  15. Anonymous11/16/2014

    Eya,ds is my third tym of replyin witout seein my comment hop no problem
    Pls,i wnt 2 no if tradtnl mariage can b registered in court or how can 1 gt d mariage certificat wit goin thru white wedin/court
    Pls,sugestions welcomed,thanks.

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    1. It's possible you didn't click on publish. African Trado cannot give you a certificate. You need to wed at a Registry too, which is extremely important o. Some churches also give but not the trado done inn your father's compound.

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    2. Make arrangements to go to the Registry in the morning wearing your wedding dress, invite a/your pastor there, he'll bless the rings and join you two while the legal thing is going on or immediately after, then, you drive back home for the traditional wedding where the reception will also take place. Killing three birds with one stone. Very simple. QED.

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    3. Your invitation card should have only the Traditional wedding cos everything is same day. While decorations, arrangement and stuff are going on, you, maybe a few friends too and both parents who are witnesses will quietly go to the registry and then return for the owambe later in the day after trado.

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  16. Anonymous11/17/2014

    Forget about stop him, d girl in question is getting married and chances of seeing ur hubby will die off. But let him know u saw d card. Don't let this cheap girls bring misunderstanding btw u and ur hubby.

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  17. Anonymous11/17/2014

    Forget about stop him, d girl in question is getting married and chances of seeing ur hubby will die off. But let him know u saw d card. Don't let this cheap girls bring misunderstanding btw u and ur hubby.

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  18. find out from him if he is actually going to attend, depending on his answer, if it is on the affirmative, then pick the rsvp number probably the one that belongs to the groom and tell him about his bride's adulterous escapes with your husband or better still make yourself anonymous.tell the groom to watch out for your husband at the wedding. i hate home breakers and i always try to teach them bitter lessons.send me the rsvp numbers and names let me even help you make the call.

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  19. Mehn, una wey dey suggest number calling to divulge information about the bride's waka waka, haaaa! Though it's a bit mean but what do I know?

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  20. @nuella et al. Ths suggestions r totally mean and uncalled 4. D girl merely invited d man. Its his decision weda 2 tell his wife or nt. I think he didn't tell her bcos of d fracas he feared it'd cause given d brohaha his dating dat girl had earlier caused. Personally, I can't b bothered over such tins. I av com 2 realise dat my hubby is a chronic liar so I always take watever he tells me wt a pinch of salt. A liar is also an adulterer. So I can't rili b bothered dat my hubby is being invited 2 an ex's wedding, dats his own abeg. I av my kids 2 occupy me instead of monitoring his every movement. Bt Poster, I believe U shud bluntly confront ur hubby wt ur findings and tell him he is nt going period!

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