Should I Insist On Getting A Househelp?

Hi Aunty Eya and my lovely WC readers,pls I want to know you peoples opinion on this matter,I'm a mother of two expecting the third,my hubby says no house help, but one of his brothers lives with us, he's in his early 20's and he does help out but there are some chores I don't like him to do for me, like bathing my girls.

I really need a house help(female),  but, he says he doesn't want peoples wahala, that any time our kids are on holiday we will travell to his people, who honestly I can say do take good care of us too. and honestly I love going to his people cos they love me and my kids very much as if I'm their child.

my
question is,can being apart from hubby for some time destroy/weaken our marriage, or make it stronger? or, should I insist on bringing a house help and stay with him knowing fully well he dislikes house help,which one is better.

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  1. Insist on getting a house help, even with their wahala they are necessary evils.

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  2. Mrs Dayo7/20/2014

    The stress of chores and kids together can make you a very very bitter exhausted wife.

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  3. Anonymous7/21/2014

    madam persuade your husband to the brim and get a house help ooh. e no easy two kids ke! I am a first time pregga in my 8months and have started looking for a househelp. initially my husband was against it all I did was let him know that getting someone to be helping with the child and house will help me in still taking care of my husband before my child .

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  4. Anonymous7/21/2014

    madam pls talk to him, make him see reasons y u need help or better stil if u guys are financially strong get a professional nanny hu wil come help u during the day. most of them resumes as early as 7:am nd closes 5pm or 6pm.with this help u can be able to do other things well.wish u a safe delivery. **hugs**
    Annie

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  5. Woe betide u if u bring a matured house help. Aside from them being nuisance ur hubby knows d rest. If u must insist just get them young 'assless' 'breastless' 'hipless' etc and if possible a relative of his or yours(for the sake of uncle who lives in the house)u know what I mean or better still get a mama dat comes daily 2 do house chores for u. That solves it.

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    1. Anonymous7/21/2014

      Please stop advising people to employ underage girls

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    2. Anonymous7/22/2014

      Thank you Anonymous 3:22 pm. Child labour to protect our interests, tsk tsk tsk.

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    3. U can have an underaged child and still send dat person 2 school,pamper dat child. It depends on a womans motive,but u will see it that way cos most of our Nigerian wives are very wicked that's y u tend 2 see it dat way...I know u anonymouses will say its bad,tell me non of ur sisters,aunties etc don't have young gals staying with them? Stop coming here 2 pretend. Child labour ni child labour ko.

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  6. Lazy Nigerian wives. You want chefs, house help, nanny to satisfy your laziness. What's the job of a wife?

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    2. Abeg who open gate for this one?

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    3. Anonymous7/21/2014

      @ Dave, don't mistake a wife for a slave. I just pity the poor woman who will end up with you.

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    4. Anonymous7/22/2014

      Dave remind me again, what is the role of a husband? The last time I checked it was only financial, and these days some women are even better at providing that. Mscheewwww

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  7. Anonymous7/21/2014

    Well personaly, I tink u shd do d cores dt u cn do for each day and leave d rest for another day. I personaly don't lik housegals, sins ur huby say e no want then bear it. Sins ur inlaw dt stays with u do help in chores, u shd b gr8fu. My 2cents tho

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    1. Anonymous7/21/2014

      POOSTER: thank u very much all,I appreciate. Will tell u all what I have decide after talking to him again cos he still insist I should not bother him again with it or face anything that follows it.

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    2. Anonymous7/26/2014

      See grammar o!!!!! Oyibo bu agbara. fia!!!!

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    3. Anonymous7/26/2014

      See grammar o!!!!! Oyibo bu agbara. fia!!!!

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  8. PriscoBest7/21/2014

    My Hub is like that too, his own reasons being that he scared of us falling victim of possess househelp. I have two kids too even though I am not preg. But I had patient with him talking to him about it gradually any time we are having a really good time, I will find away to raise the issue jokily even though is not easy with me. But thank God we got someone last month. Just have patient with him.

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  9. Anonymous7/22/2014

    I just don't like the solution of you going to his people's place every holiday, that is not sustainable. As someone suggested above, see how you can broach the idea of hiring someone that comes and goes to him. Best of luck

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