My Fiance Has A Good Heart But I Am Not Proud Of His Looks

Good day aunty Eya, I am 24 years old about to go for my Nysc....I gave a boyfriend who I am not proud of his looks at all...I can't even put up his picture as my dp without getting laughed at because I'm quite beautiful and he is not good looking....

He has a very good heart though....It was my friend who encouraged me to date him about 3 yrs ago...even though I did not like him...He was the one all over me..I don't know if I should go ahead to marry him because
everyone keeps telling me that looks are not all that important but I am ashamed of his looks...I am not even proud to introduce him as my guy...

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  1. Brandy7/20/2014

    RUBBISH EWU GAMBIA, NOT PROUD OF HIS LOOKS BUT HIS MONEY?

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    1. Anonymous7/22/2014

      Why, why such resentment and self righteousness. Can you honestly say that looks have never mattered to you in dating someone? Please let's not turn this site's comments section to a vile place, if you have nothing constructive to say don't say it at all. Thanks

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  2. Anonymous7/20/2014

    Oh Brandy take it easy with the insults. Its so childish and frankly uncalled for. Poster,i won't advice you to marry someone you're ashamed of.However, think about the reason you're not proud of him and see if you can help him improve. I wasn't proud of my husband as well till I noticed it was his dressing that turned me off so I made out time to collect money from him and shop for him. You need to see how handsome he is now

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    1. Anonymous7/21/2014

      I like ur advice and wisdom. May God bless ur home and strengthen he more.

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  3. Anonymous7/20/2014

    Babe if u see d guy I'm loving u will think of flogging me... But believe d content is usually better Dan d container.

    Physical appearance I am 80% finer than this guy what he has on d inside is better than a million handsome guys put together...

    Go for d content not totally the container

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    1. Nnenna7/22/2014

      1,000 likes for you, Anonymous 11:32pm

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  4. Anonymous7/20/2014

    Why do you care about what others think of your man

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  5. Hmm,u are not proud of ur mans luk?then what are u proud of,I don't think u love this ur man cos if u do,u will not notice hw ugly he is,let me tell u my story,when I met my husband,I never knew how he looks,it was my friends and relative that where always drinking the paracetamol that was meant for my headech,my hubby was very very fat with a stomach that was like a pregnant woman who is due,my sister u need to see this my love but I wasn't interested in his luk all I do is pray so that he will not be diabetic,hmmm the day we went to my house for introdution every body was like eee, this old man? I was like na una he won marry?even my friends were against our marriage yet I insisted and married him,today as I'm commenting right now I don't put my love up to profile cos girls goes crazy when they see him,as in eeh he is one of the most slimest guys in the universe,even some of those my friends + relative are even eying him but 20men shall fall that day if they cross my lane#according to wizkid# so u better don't marry him cos u don't love him abi u think say people way say Love is blind no sabi anything?

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    1. Anonymous7/23/2014

      Correct woman...

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  6. Pls if you are ashamed of his looks, dear, leave him now, let him get someone else who will at least not be ashamed of him. What you feel for him is just pity and comfort bcos of his 'good heart'. (Most ppl who are generally considered physically unattractive, have a good heart. They have to choose one struggle... :-D)

    Jokes apart. No need to get all 'holy' about it. Looks are very important in marriage...to both male and female although women compromise on it the most. It is obviously very important to you now. Marriage won't change it. In fact, you'll see the 'ugliness' more once you get married.

    Don't let anyone deceive you. If you go into it, you'll keep looking over your shoulder, wishing...regretting. This is the simple truth. It will only take the grace of God to make you not cheat on him. You are still young, you will find someone who is better looking to you.

    However, if you decide to manage him like that, make sure you make up your mind to not be ashamed of him. Cos it's a mind thing. We look with our eyes but see with our minds.

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    1. Anonymous7/21/2014

      Wia av u been?

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  7. @Able mom chop knuckle u funny jor. Back 2 d matter. Girl take it easy cos dat guy dat is ugly 2 u is another beautiful gal's dream guy hehhehe. Forget what those frnds of urs say,what I can see frm them is a wish....'I wish I could have him'....pls don't listen 2 frnds opinion for some of them are wolves in sheep's clothing and also cool down and subtract d pride. Thank you

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  8. Anonymous7/21/2014

    So would you rather have a man who's so handsome but don't treat you right nor respect you? If you leave him, you will be so shocked what another smart woman will turn him into.

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  9. Anonymous7/21/2014

    If after three years with this man and you still havent fallen in love with him then you never will. I am not even going to try to convince you not to marry him and find your true love bla bla bla, because you are only there for his money everyone who knows you knows that. And money makes women think they can manage. So go ahead marry him. na you go hear am. Sex after kids with a man you love and are attracted to is hard enough not to talk of with a man who you dont like his face. I am just sorry for this poor man.
    Then again sorry am just going to say it lol, have you even considered the fact that he is with you so that your genes can soften his childrens looks. Like you said you are beautiful so maybe he just wants a beautiful wife. And he probably knows you dont love him. oga oo. Good luck.

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  10. Anonymous7/21/2014

    Am nt going to advice you to marry him, bt lyk anonymous 11:32 said, look at the content not the container. For one, everytin was created was beautifully and wonderfully made, meaning no one or thing is ugly. U don't love dis guy, bcos if u do, u won't even be ashamed of him. I jst wonder how u even spent 3years with a guy u are ashamed of and don't love.

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  11. Anonymous7/21/2014

    Love is all that matters,what benefit is it,if a man is handsome and doesn't av a good heart.am about 90% finer than my hubby,but his good heart is incomparable.me and his kids are always first on his mind.A friend of mine even said to my face,that my husband isn't handsome that he doesn't even look like someone that has money in his pocket,but yet I love him dearly and I will marry him again and again.so dear poster,if u don't love him just leave him for people that will not even notice his look,i didn't notice my husband's look when I met.and pls don't marry him out of pity.

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  12. Anonymous7/21/2014

    Love is all that matters,what benefit is it,if a man is handsome and doesn't av a good heart.am about 90% finer than my hubby,but his good heart is incomparable.me and his kids are always first on his mind.A friend of mine even said to my face,that my husband isn't handsome that he doesn't even look like someone that has money in his pocket,but yet I love him dearly and I will marry him again and again.so dear poster,if u don't love him just leave him for people that will not even notice his look,i didn't notice my husband's look when I met.and pls don't marry him out of pity.

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  13. Pinkyberry7/21/2014

    Am sorry poster but what you feel for this man is pity and not love believe u me, if u love him u wouldn't even notice he is "ugly" like u said... plz marry someone u love and u are sure u can be proud to introduce tomorw as ur hubby, your husband should compliment ur confidence and not demoralise u.....
    Btw I sight u Ahdaisy dear.. I missed u here.

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  14. Pinkyberry7/21/2014

    Am sorry poster but what you feel for this man is pity and not love believe u me, if u love him u wouldn't even notice he is "ugly" like u said... plz marry someone u love and u are sure u can be proud to introduce tomorw as ur hubby, your husband should compliment ur confidence and not demoralise u.....
    Btw I sight u Ahdaisy dear.. I missed u here.

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  15. 1 Samuel 16:6-7

    …6When they entered, he looked at Eliab and thought, "Surely the LORD'S anointed is before Him." 7But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

    Heart is better than face, any day any time.

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    1. Anonymous7/23/2014

      abeg is she God?
      Look I get your point but God created human beings to like or dislike what we see.
      If she doesn't like his looks, she should move on.
      You cannot because you want to be like God force yourself to eat what you can't bear to look at.
      God will provide him with someone that likes his looks

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  16. Anonymous7/21/2014

    He is wonderfully made by God. Sister grab him ooooo! Good heart is better than fine face. You can work on his looks.carry go!!!!!

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  17. Anonymous7/21/2014

    He is wonderfully made by God. Sister grab him ooooo! Good heart is better than fine face. You can work on his looks.carry go!!!!!

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  18. Kachuska, DSM,TZ.7/22/2014

    madame Eya, can you create "like" or dislike icons? I know it needs web reconstruction but i beg if you can afford to do that it will be great. sometimes I wish to comment but before i post my comment, i read all the comments, in most cases i find out what i wanted to type is already there...the likes or dislikes will help a lot.

    Back to the topic, I agree with those who imply the look can be worked upon, the important thing as the poster says is that the guy has a good heart which is very good quality in a man. is better to help him improve his sense of dressing which in most cases has impact on one's physical appearance. Go ahead gel, i think he is a husband material. the rest is up to you.

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  19. Anonymous7/22/2014

    i dont agree with marring him bcos he is nice, NO NO NO you dont love him if you i tell you u wont notice he is ugly, so ur love is based on pity and which is wrong. if u wait you can get a man who is good looking with a good heart. its after marriage that you will notice his ugliness more and more. be careful.

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  20. You don't love him that much or you are not ready. 👏

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  21. Anonymous7/24/2014

    i once dated somebody i liked but was not proud of,though we are no longer together. Dat thot me a lesson. Don't marry someone you are not proud to show around. Imagine dating someone you can't imagine kissing...lol...

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  22. Anonymous7/24/2014

    Dont judge d content of a book frm d cova page and dont marry 4 pity luv is crucial

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  23. Anonymous5/21/2015

    Please i will advice from advice that you quit...fnks to my friend that hlped me to mk my own decision after a yr wt him...right nau am wt a guy we are both into each other...d best relationship av had in my life....like we love each other more everyday...he also has his flaws but i can deal with it...dont marry someone for the flaws you cannot deal with..
    When i was with the other guy i will always wsh i had my handsome ex back...wen we chat and he tells me he wants to come back...but nau mehn...i no dey send dem...when u av someone ur ok with...contentment will come...dont let anyone lie to you that you cannot find a googlooking man with a very good heart...my elder brother and my boyfriend is a living testimony...lolz...i hope you get to read ds...love ya

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