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Marriage Plans With A Divorcee, Am I Being Too Cautious?

Hi, im a silent follower of this blog, I have an issue that I will like to share with the more Christian and mature members of this blog. 
I am currently in a relationship with a man who treats me very well,  and tells me how much he loves me all the time, iv even met his family and we have been dating for over a month. 


 Now he is a divorcee , with no kids, however I don't think I am in love with him. I keep obsessing over whether or not he really loves me cos of the effort he puts into making us work. But the presence of an ex wife,  with whom he does business, and numerous ladies , who keep calling him,  just makes me very cautious. 

I went to

church on Monday and the pastor told me that he could see a blessing coming into my life but I seemed reluctant to accept it, then he prayed for wisdom for me. I need advise on how to overcome this cos I don't want to miss a good thing cos I don't know what I want, he seems to have most things I want. Abi is it from my village.  Lol. Please hide my identity.

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  1. A divorcée who still does businesses with ex?? Am Running like Hussein Bolt.

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  2. Johnson7/17/2014

    You do not like this man but you are wondering if he really loves you; he does biz with his ex WIFE… Pastor told you he sees a blessing coming… The truth is ‘you don’t need a pastor to tell you this if you’re a child of God’. Every child of God has blessings coming his/her way because God Himself said it. And we all need wisdom…
    Sister, you need to wake up and know what you want! You sound really confused and materialistic… How could you say you ‘don't know what you want, but he seems to have most things you want?’
    Marriage is for people that know what they are getting into… Get yourself together first and weigh the consequences of getting into this relationship. Don’t be fooled by what you seem to be enjoying for now…

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2014

      God bless for this response

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2014

      Please don't be judgemental. That she said 'he seems to have everything' she wants doesn't necessarily mean material things, this could validly mean 'the qualities she wants'. Just saying...

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  3. Anonymous7/17/2014

    With all said nd done, kindly take your time nd don't rush into any hasty decisions. Be patient nd observe his attitude nd find out exactly why he is devorced from his wife. Pray very hard nd communicate with your God directly without any pastor or spiritual adviser. If you can,abstain from any sexual intimacy with this man, this will help you make a more objective decision about your relationship with him. So help you God.

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  4. Anonymous7/17/2014

    With all said nd done, kindly take your time nd don't rush into any hasty decisions. Be patient nd observe his attitude nd find out exactly why he is devorced from his wife. Pray very hard nd communicate with your God directly without any pastor or spiritual adviser. If you can,abstain from any sexual intimacy with this man, this will help you make a more objective decision about your relationship with him. So help you God.

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    1. Anonymous7/18/2014

      I like ur comment especially the prayer and abstinence from sex. U will be sure of what to do after doing this.

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  5. Sit down and think. Don't rush!

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  6. I think you should still find out y he got divorced in d 1st place.. he can just be a chameleon.. all dt glitters no be gold.. e fit be shine shine, d real person may show after marriage.. find out to be on d safe side

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  8. Anonymous7/18/2014

    U have to be sure u really love this man or at least feel something for him before entering the relationship so that u don't enter tomorrow and begin to exhibit attitude that he cant condone.So it(divorce) doesn't become a recurring issue in his life.So pls be sure u have feelings for him and find out why he still does business wt his ex.

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  9. poster7/19/2014

    Hi poster here, by most things I dont mean materially I mean character wise. Yea im looking hard and I do like him a lot, what's not to like right. Iv just been through some major crap and i just took time out to let myself heal. Like get in touch with my humanity. Now I have and I want this one to work but I dont know how to convey my desire, previous experience has helped me perfect the art of nonchalance. I hope this one turns out to be what he seems like. Also about the ex, I make sure to bring it up and he makes effort to reassure me at every turn and I wonder can someone be that good a liar, experience has taught me no one is that good and it just seems like im waiting for him to make a wrong move. Thanks for ur advice and im definitely watching with my eyes wide open.

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  10. Nnenna7/20/2014

    Over a month just seem like a short time to make these observations or conclusions as may be the case. Time will tell sister; give him six months to say the least.
    Meanwhile, you can still date other people while you avoid intimacy; somehow, it tends to becloud our judgements.

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