Different Views On Tithe Payment Destroying Our Relationship, Please Help Me

Good evening A-Eya..I'm in my late 20's and also a regular reader of your blog...I have this thing going on in my relationship and I don't know whether to wait for him to come back or I should just move on...I'm in a relationship with dis guy,he is in his mid-thirties,we were friends for 2years b4 I accepted to date him 4months back,we are so much into eachother and I know he loves me so much..He has even ask that I marry him,even wanting to come introduce himself ,his parent to my own parent by december.

We've actually been talking about different doctrinal believes of churches around the world and he has been of the opinion,that tithe paying is a wrong interpretation of churches today,like tithes were meant for the levites alone and lots of different belief..

just 3months ago,we had the issue hot! that I had to tell him that I can't succumb to his believes and needs his decision as unto the relationship since he sees it as the bases of our moving forward..He eventually called and asked that we discontinue the relationship..we still do talk but as friends...he still tells me he loves me,wants a christain home for us and also send more biblical articles with bible references as to why we should not pay tithe since its not our obligation...

Recently we got chatting and he made mention of us getting back on our together again...its been 3months now that he has ask we discontinue..what should I do? Should I move on or wait more for him to come back...Aunty Eya,I need ur advice..thanks..pls

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  1. Anonymous7/04/2014

    Even though churches emphasize more on tithe these days than on true Christian living. Some don't even preach exemplary living and honesty. You wanna know the truth poster ?
    Our lord and Savior Jesus. Christ never asked his flock or anyone to pay tithe.
    It's a church tradition that pastors and church founders............

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  2. Anonymous7/04/2014

    Lady, your fiance may just be right you know? For those who now think that tithing is the gateway to heaven? SORRYYYY

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  3. Poster, study your Bible well and listen to the spirit of God himself. It's so disheartening to know that our Nigerian Christians can pay tithe even from stolen funds and then testify sef. SMH.

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  4. Johnson7/04/2014

    Issues are better addressed during courtship – be it beliefs, career, children… tithing, divorce, etc. The important thing is that we come to a landing on most of them before moving forward. The way and manner issues are addressed will go a long way in determining how conflicts will be managed when you get married. Amos 3:3 says can 2 work together except they agree? By the main fact that you come from different homes, you have varied opinion on certain subject – never assume your stand or his is right. There needs to be some compromise here & there.
    On tithing – one key question to answer is ‘did Jesus condemn paying of tithe?’ Read Mtt 23:23; Lk11:42.

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    1. @Poster, Let me paste Johnson's verses here incase your Bible is not near by:
      “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees—hypocrites!—because you pay a tenth of mint and dill and cumin, and neglect the more important matters of the law—justice and mercy and faithfulness! It was necessary to do these things while not neglecting those. (Matthew 23:23)

      “But woe to you, Pharisees, because you pay a tenth of mint and rue and every garden herb, and neglect justice and love for God! But it was necessary to do these things without neglecting those things also. (Luke 11:42)

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  5. Lady Eva7/04/2014

    Poster dear, if i understand you, the question is not who between you and your man is right or wrong. Then questioin is how your diveregent views on doctrines can affect your relashionship. My dear, it can really affect you guys adversely. How can two walk together unless they agree? Religious beliefs is a very serious matter especially in marriage. This particular matter will continue to crop up like recurring decimal even in the rearing of your children. You may never agree on the issue so which version will you impart on the kids? If per chance you get married and u want to use part of the family funds to pay tithe and he refuses, will you be able accept it without feeling hurt or even resentful?do you love him so much as to abandon your core belief? And wen you are done answering these questions , place it at the back of your mind that trying to change him and bring him to your side may end up frustrasting you. All the best dear.- Lady Eva Na wao. Aunt Eya. Wetin i do you this Sunday morning naa? Why are you deleting my comments? Diaris God o!

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  6. I believe it is a good thing that both of you are discussing these issues at this time rather than going into marriage on assumptions. Without imposing my own beliefs on you or giving you points with which to win your arguments with him, I'd like to suggest that by now both of you - since you are already talking of marriage, should have enrolled for courtship or relationship classes or counseling in your church. It at those classes that issues pertaining to difference in beliefs and ideologies can be safely trashed out under the guidance of a matured Spirit filled relationship mentor or counselor. Find out at your churches, most churches offer this service.

    The reason why I am suggesting this is because thithing is just one area of difference for you guys, there are still many other areas of disagreements that can show up later on and unless your relationship being guided by the right mentors you may find yourself walking in error.

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  7. We Christians sometimes are our own problem, we are our own enemies religiously and believe wise, different denominations preaching different doctrines, its so unfortunate SMH, sometimes we forget we are worshipping and praying to one God, if not that we have one bible, it would have been worse, I am sure if some pastors had their way they would have written their own bible to suit their teachings. Even though I don't like Islam as a religion, not Muslims but Islam as a religion itself, I respect the fact that they are one everywhere, they don't have different denominations under Islam, like Christians where you see "Rock of ages agbala itura, God butter my bread ministry, bye bye to suffering and poverty ministry, heaven is for me and my family ministry etc. Why can't Christianity be one all over the world where we build church under the umbrella of Christianity and not denominations which many arised from greediness and selfish desires? Anyway thank God for everything for he knows best

    Back to the matter on the piazza, tithe paying is good, but as a Christian there are more important things according to Luke11:42. Let us do the important things first, issue of tithe shouldn't be causing problems between you both , its a matter of understanding, just like you will apply same understanding on several other issue you both will disagree on, once in a while someone has to bend his or her ways for marriage to workout, for life to go on and for peace to rain, else nobody will marry and life will not be in existence because we all don't agree on one or two things. Let us as Christians not be religious bigots, let's be liberal, especially on petty Christian or religious issue which will not define our faith or our righteousness or our making it to heaven, or how God view us and focus on important issues of Christianity that will help us gain the promise of everlasting life in heaven or in a promised paradise
    May God help you make the right decisions


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    1. Anonymous7/05/2014

      Please y don't you like Islam as a religion if I may ask?

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    2. Anonymous7/06/2014

      Alloy,am with you, all the way.you nailed it.keep it up

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    3. Must u condemn other religion just bcos u want to give an opinion?How will d country move forward when we keep on condemning other pple's religion,tribe and beliefs.

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    4. Anonymous7/12/2014

      Well said omolola
      Dude do you know there are shias, there are sunnis and there are several hadiths that contradict each other?

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  8. Anonymous7/05/2014

    poster i had dsame issue not on tithes but on doctrines im 1yr into marriage and still findin it difficult to fit in even though we agreed before marriage he would follow me sometimes,babe pray abt it I STRONGLY BELIEVE IN TITHES NOT BCOS OF WAT D CHURCH PREACH COS IM A CATHOLIC BUT IV SEEN EVIDENCE WHEN I PAID AND D DAY I CHOSE TO CHOP IT LMAO!now for him to cut off d relationship becos u didnt agree with his views BABE D WAY I SEE IT DATS A TREAT! TO ME OOOO he feels u'd succum cos he feels u r desperate so he wants to use treat to manipulate u babe make i no lie u!PROVERB(WHAT U WILL NOT TAKE AS A RICH PERSON NA FROM WHEN PERSON POOR U GO START) Meaning sit think and pray cos he would one day threaten to leave u cos u both had a disagreement along d line.Im not say he's not urs but hmmmmmm its well.

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    Colonel ONYEMA NWACHUKWU
    for Director Defence Information

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    1. is it possible we hear from these alleged women?
      The military has lied to us severally...could this be one of their lies?

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  10. poster7/05/2014

    Thanks so much Aunty-Eya...seeing comment of readers but I wish I could also read your of advice via ur email for me too...I'm really losing it,I'm not getting younger anymore,my friends are all getting married and I haven't told any of relatives about the new development...hoping to hear from you..Thanks muCh

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    1. Well poster, since your mail has been published publicly, it's good I leave my reply public like others have done.
      Some marriage questions are better answered by the couple themselves. Questions on tithing are very sensitive and answers should also be personal cos Faith or let me say Chriatianity is an individual thing. We are assessed individually, our worship is received individually.

      Because our convictions are all different, you see readers sharing very different thoughts. It's not about a denomination and it's beliefs or traditions but about the written word that we all have at our disposal even though understanding may differ.

      He doesn't believe in tithing while you do same way some churches don't believe in it and ask members to give only free will offering.
      Churches that believe in Tithing teach you that not paying that one tenth to God is robbery and who wants to rob the almighty? They teach that failure to pay could lead to diseases, failure, suffereng and exposure to the enemy and even gross loss, poverty, lack and want... Bring in all your tithes that there might be meat in the lord's house... The shepherd or pastor has the church as his farm where he works and should eat from, he shouldn't be left hungry while working in God's vineyard and those to provide this food are the people who feed spiritually from his dishes.

      The church makes far more from tithes than free will offering. And like I was saying, some churches also do not believe in tithe and they teach members not to pay tithe reasons being:
      That the early church that started after the death and resurrection never asked for tithes. They make mention of Ananias and Saphira story where people gave cheerfuly and from their hearts without being taxed.
      They also teach like a commenter has said here that Jesus taught all his life but didn't make mention of tithe that is seen as a major major topic. But again like Johnson said, did Jesus condemn tithe?
      They teach that tithing is an old system when Judaism was practiced, used to tax members and that the New Testament is about freewill offering cos The New covenant does not place taxes on people. That God in the New Testament does not place any burden on his childre, that the Apostles always asked the church and their converts to give willingly and of their freewill without given them percentages that put them in bondage when they fail to accomplish. They say it is wrong to make people live in bondage of paying certain percentages to God as a mandate.
      They also teach that free will offering can even be bigger than what could have been paid as tithe but that it is very easy to pay cos it's not an obligation but comes from the heart.
      They teach that Tithing is a church tradition that found it's way into the New church and has been over rated especially because it is a denomination's main source of income.
      Their teaching also explains that God doesn't tax his children for taking care of them, so you see why you may not be able to change your fiance? He also beliefs strongly that you need to change from your ignorance just like you feel about him.

      If you can convince him, please do it now and if he can convince you to his side, he should also do it now cos later it might not be possible. You think he needs to change to understand Scriptures, you feel he needs to change his wrong views and accept what is right. Who then is right between both of you?
      God works with us individually my dear, that you believe in tithes does not condemn you at all neither is he condemned for not believing in tithing. People understand the Bible differently and no one should say that the other persons conviction is wrong cos God is the only judge. There are men everywhere who believe in Tithing, there are also ladies scattered all over the planet who do not believe in tithing so you both should just be true to yourselves now that it's not late.
      Can one person change for the other? OR you both look elsewhere for those who share your beliefs?


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    2. @Poster,this is what is in the Scriptues about Tithing, Verses From the Lexham English Bible. You can read whole chapters for a clearer understanding...
      “ ‘And any tithe of the land from the land’s seed or from the fruit of the trees is for Yahweh; it is a holy object for Yahweh. (Leviticus 27:30)

      And if a man indeed redeems from his tithe, he shall add a fifth of its value onto it. (Leviticus 27:31)

      As for every tithe of cattle or of the flock, all which crosses under the rod, the tenth shall be a holy object for Yahweh. (Leviticus 27:32)


      Numbers 18:21
      “Behold, I have given to the descendants of Levi every tithe in Israel as an inheritance in return for their service, which they are doing, the work of the tent of assembly. (Numbers 18:21)

      Numbers 18:24
      because the tithes of the Israelites that are offered to Yahweh as a contribution, I have given to the Levites as an inheritance; therefore I said to them, ‘They will not receive an inheritance in the midst of the Israelites.’ ” (Numbers 18:24)

      Numbers 18:26
      “You will speak to the Levites and say to them, ‘When you receive the tithe from the Israelites that I have given to you from them for your inheritance, you will present a contribution from it to Yahweh, a tithe from a tithe. (Numbers 18:26)

      Numbers 18:28
      So you will present your own contribution to Yahweh from all your tithes that you receive from the Israelites; from it you will give the contribution of Yahweh to Aaron the priest. (Numbers 18:28)

      Deuteronomy 12:6
      And you shall bring there your burnt offerings and your sacrifices and your tithes and your donations and your votive gifts and your freewill offerings and the firstling of your herd and your flock. (Deuteronomy 12:6)

      Deuteronomy 12:11
      and then at the place that Yahweh your God will choose, to let his name dwell there, there you shall bring all the things I am commanding you, your burnt offerings and your sacrifices, your tithes and your donations, and all of the choice things, your votive gifts that you vow to Yahweh. (Deuteronomy 12:11)

      Deuteronomy 12:17
      You are not allowed to eat in your towns the tithe of your grain and your wine and your olive oil and the firstborn of your herd and your flock and all of your votive gifts that you vowed and your freewill offering and your donations. (Deuteronomy 12:17)

      Deuteronomy 14:22
      “Certainly you must give a tithe of all the yield of your seed, which comes forth from your field year after year. (Deuteronomy 14:22)

      Deuteronomy 14:23
      And you shall eat before Yahweh your God in the place that he will choose to make to dwell his name there the tithe of your grain, your wine and your olive oil and the firstling of your herd and your flock, so that you may learn to revere Yahweh your God always. (Deuteronomy 14:23)

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    3. Contd"
      Deuteronomy 14:28
      “At the end of three years you shall bring out all of the tithe of your yield for that year, and you shall store it in your towns. (Deuteronomy 14:28)

      Deuteronomy 26:12
      “When you are finished giving a tithe, all of the tithe of your produce in the third year, the year of the tithe, then you shall give to the Levite, to the alien, to the orphan, and to the widow, so that they may eat in your towns and they may be satisfied. (Deuteronomy 26:12)

      2 Chronicles 31:5
      And the word spread. The Israelites gave abundantly from the firstfruits of grain, new wine, olive oil, honey, and all kinds of grains from the field. And they brought tithes of everything in abundance. (2 Chronicles 31:5)

      2 Chronicles 31:6
      Then the people of Israel and Judah who were living in the cities of Judah, they also brought a tithe of cattle and sheep and a tithe of consecrated objects to Yahweh their God. And they gave heaps upon heaps. (2 Chronicles 31:6)

      2 Chronicles 31:12
      Then they brought the offerings and tithes and holy objects faithfully. And over them as leader was Conaniah the Levite. And Shimei his brother was second in rank. (2 Chronicles 31:12)

      Nehemiah 10:37
      And we bring the best of our dough, our offerings, the fruit of every tree, new wine, and olive oil to the priests, to the chambers of the house of our God; and to bring the tithe of our soil to the Levites, for the Levites receive the tithes in all of our rural towns. (Nehemiah 10:37)

      Nehemiah 10:38
      And the priest, the descendant of Aaron, will be with the Levites during the tithe the Levites receive. The Levites will bring up a tithe of the tithes for the house of our God to the chambers of the storehouse. (Nehemiah 10:38)

      Nehemiah 12:44
      On that day men were appointed for the storehouse rooms, the offerings, the first fruits, and the tithes, in order to gather in them from the fields of the cities the requirements of the law for the priests and Levites; for the joy of Judah was upon the priests and Levites standing there. (Nehemiah 12:44)

      Nehemiah 13:5
      prepared for Tobiah a large chamber where they had formerly put the grain offering, the frankincense, the temple objects, tithes of grain, wine, and oil commanded for the Levites, the singers, the gatekeepers, and the offerings of the priests. (Nehemiah 13:5)

      Nehemiah 13:12
      So all of Judah brought the tithe of grain, new wine, and olive oil into the storehouses. (Nehemiah 13:12)

      Amos 4:4
      “Come to Bethel and transgress; to Gilgal and multiply transgression! Bring your sacrifices in the morning and your tithes on the third day. (Amos 4:4)

      Malachi 3:8
      Will a human dare to rob God? Yet you are robbing me! And you say, ‘How have we robbed you?’ In the tithes and the contributions! (Malachi 3:8)

      Malachi 3:10
      Bring the whole tithe to the storehouse, so that there will be food in my house, and test me please in this,” says Yahweh of hosts, “if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour forth for you an overflowing blessing. (Malachi 3:10)

      Hebrews 7:6
      But the one who did not trace his descent from them collected tithes from Abraham and blessed the one who had the promises. (Hebrews 7:6)

      Hebrews 7:8
      And in this case mortal men receive tithes, but in that case it is testified that he lives. (Hebrews 7:8)

      Hebrews 7:9
      And, so to speak, even Levi, the one who receives tithes, has paid tithes through Abraham. (Hebrews 7:9)

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    4. Finally poster, how does your fiance feel about your Tithing? That you are a sinner? going to hell? And you too, what do you think about him for not sharing your views on tithing? he's a sinner? on his way to hell? :))

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    5. Anonymous7/05/2014

      I am particularly worried about the calling off of the relationship. You will both share differing views on issues but the most important thing is that you respect each other's view. I belive in paying tithes but hubby doesn't. I am not God so i wont judge him. I only pray that God changes his mind.

      My question therefore is, whsr happens when you share different opinions in the future? Will he pack out of the house or give you a silent treatment for 3 months? The truth is marriage comes with a lot of baggage. Is his love able to conquer whatever differences you have.

      Forget about what your friends are doing or your age? Do not let that blur ur vision cos you need to shine your eyes. Face your life and make an unbiased decision

      He must be expecting you to run back to his arms. I just hate the way some guys treat ladies.

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    6. Anonymous7/05/2014

      Ms. Poster. Marry the man. tithe YOUR own income and he won't tithe his. easy peezy. stop torturing yourself over things that don't matter.

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  12. Anonymous7/05/2014

    This post carry weight sha o.

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  13. Poster what's your decision na? pls share with us.

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  14. Sorry for d diversion, how do I import cheap goods from aliexpress, thanks

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  15. Anonymous7/05/2014

    tithing is very important. @alloy..yes you are right about what you said but you should not misinterpret the verse. just as giving grudgingly does not yield any blessing, if you pay your tithe and do not worship God in spirit and in truth, your tithing is in vain. please read Malachi 3. @ poster please you have to discuss this before it becomes an issue when you finally marry.My parents had a misunderstanding over tithing cuz my dad does not believe and my mum does.

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  16. Anonymous7/06/2014

    It depends on his attitude towards the matter. Is it a do or die thing with him? You have to understand that you will have differing opinions on so many things even though both of you are Christians. But in my opinion, tithe payment can be resolved. The truth is that technically, your guy is right and I believe as he does that it is not mandatory. I do pay my tithe though, not as a requirement but as a yardstick for the minimum I should pay towards the work of God. So you guys need to talk and has the matter out. Is he against both offering and tithing? Does he give a sizable enough offering to the church? Look, I would rather a man that is giving and helps his neighbors and strangers than one that gives precisely 10% to the church and turns away when he see someone in need of food and clothing. Finally, if he is willing to respect YOUR decision, I see no reason why YOU can't pay tithe from YOUR earnings. But honestly, if you earn the same amount and you give say 100$ in tithe and he gives $150 and calls it offering, I don't see God discriminating against him because he did not tick tithe on the offering enevelope. Just make sure you agree on important things like Christ, his purpose for coming, the fundamentals. Look, I have seen people change their theology after marriage, especially regarding tithing, baptism, grace, repentance, one saved always saved etc. What would you then do?

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    1. Anonymous7/06/2014

      A million likes.
      What would you then do???

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  17. I NEED HELP AND TIPS7/06/2014

    Am a 27 yrs old lady,got married in Dec 2011.and Eva since den Have not been able to get pregnant ,after i had a miscarriage in July 2012 @20weeks.recently went for check up and was advised by my doctor to go for Hsg ,which i did in April 2014 and d result showed that there was a minor blockage which has been treated.my hubby is Ook medically... a problem shared is half solved.pls is there any tin i can do,like,drugs,supplements that would be helpful,Becos d questions keep coming as to wants delaying us.i Hv prayed ..but i need advice from my sisters here.Baby dust to all ttc .

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    1. Anonymous7/06/2014

      You just did the HSG, relax everything will be fine. You don't expect to get treated and fall pregnant same day do you?

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    2. Anonymous7/06/2014

      you're under the care of a doctor. as well you should be. stop mixing other things with it. pray, relax, eat right and exercise. and relax again.

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  18. Anonymous7/06/2014

    if he won't let you pay tithe on your own income, then don't marry him. because he's being controlling. he can refuse to pay on his but shouldn't stop you. if he says if you continue, then no marriage, bid him farewell.

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  19. Anonymous7/06/2014

    My sister relax, I too did Hsg and I am 37 weeks pregnant now though there wasn't a blockage. Since u have been treated, I believe u will soon smile.

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  20. First, Tithing is core to the Christian faith and Tithe is defined as ten percent of your income paid to God often in appreciation for His supplication. That amount is God's and not yours, any action alien to that is tantamount to robbing God.
    I would advise that you do not return to the relationship as you can't seem to agree on this core issue. Being a Christian is much more than sending biblical extracts and other religious actions but also carrying out God's rules.
    Its a hard choice but I'm sure its a worthwile one which would certainly payoff in the long run.

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    1. Anonymous7/09/2014

      Actually tithing is core to the Jewish faith not the Christian faith. Big difference.

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  21. This is serious. Please follow your heart and know that Tithing is both spiritual and personal.

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  22. Testing my google account!

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  23. Tithing isnt by force. It shd be done willingly. It isn't a sin either not paying. I pay my tithes, but my reason for paying isnt becos a pastor or someone forced me to or that i'm scared that if I dont pay i'm sinning. NO! I see my tithe as giving a little back to God out of the abundance he has given me. The Truth is, most persons have an issue with tithes only because it involves money. And they bring up arguments to justify their not giving it. God deserves way more than 10%. How much is 10% sef? If for instance, you have 100 naira, 10% is just 10naira. If you appreciate all God has done for you, giving him 10naira from your 100naira shd b very easy for you. It is when you do the maths on a larger income and d tithe amount becomes huge, some persons become less willing.. Well, if you can let 10naira out of 100 naira go, a multiplied(larger) amount is the same thing.
    And in addition to that, I must say, I am a living witness to getting more in my income since I started giving my tithes.
    @Poster, if ur fiance will allow u tithe on ur income alone without interfering, please by all means do and you too dont be pushy against his tithing beliefs. Its no big deal!

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  24. Anonymous7/11/2014

    Tithe is a law of God,bt i tell myself dat it is beta to get and b praised 4 being too righteous dan condemned 4 nt bein righteous enough.

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    1. Anonymous7/12/2014

      Sigh...... Another sheep

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  25. sheamapo7/14/2014

    Omg! Missing here lol! Enjoying the comments.

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