My Husband Fast Asleep In Same Bed With Male Friend

Hello Aunty Eya and WC, I am a new reader of your blog,and l find it very entertaining and educating. I was moved to tell a story of a friend who is very dear to my heart,so that your readers can give advice on this story am about to share. It's a long story but l'll try to make it as brief as l can.

         A very close friend of mine who is in her early 20s fell in love with a man 10years older than she was and that year in 2012 they got married. But had not been able to conceive. In 2013,her husband lost his job and things became financially unstable for the couple. But later that year,she decided to travel out of the country to stay with her mother for a while at least to clear her mind off the stress. Early 2014. 

She came back to the country and noticed that everything had changed for her husband. He now had a job in a big company,he was living in a company house,he had a brand new BMW X6,and lots of money to spend. She asked him how it all happened and he just simply said that an old friend of his gave him the job and helped him bounce back. She then insisted they go over to his house to thank him and also meet with him. So on a chosen day they visited the friend's  home,he was still single and lived alone. They went out to have dinner.

 The friend later suggested they go out to hang out at a night club,she was reluctant to go at first but decided to go just to please them. The next morning at about 4am,she found herself in one of the rooms in this friend's house and decided to look for her husband in the house,so they could go home. She looked around the house down stairs but couldn't find him. She decided to go to his friend's room upstairs to alert the friend of her husband's absence,but on getting to the room,she found her husband and his friend asleep on the same bed naked together,with drugs that looked like cocaine on the floor. In a state of panic,she ran back down the stairs,took her purse,got a cab and went straight home to pack her things. 

All these happened in April and since then her husband has been begging her to forgive him,explaining that he had to do it to give them a better life. But just last month,she discovered that she was pregnant with his child. Since then she has been depressed and unconsolable . She doesn't know what to do and l don't know what to tell her or how to console her. Pls how can l help my friend? Pls Aunty conceal my identity,for the safety of my friend,thanks.

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  1. She don enter one-chance: she has to carry her cross daily! She’s married to a drug addict, an homosexual… A man in this status can do anything to be rich, including rituals and even give his family future away in exchange for better life.
    Tell your friend to keep running far far away. She should concentrate on saving her baby & herself. She has to report this to family members for the record.

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  2. Anonymous6/26/2014

    Report to the family members and ruuun. Report or he will turn it around that you cheated. Report and run from him.

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  3. Anonymous6/26/2014

    o di kwa egwu. This man is definitely not homosexual but it is apparent that he will do anything for money which is why i am afraid for your friend. I think he is doing drugs because that is the only way he would let another man touch him. but that doesn't excuse his actions. Only two options here as usual i am tired of talking too much, she should stay and pray if she is not too homophobic or leave. But if she is going to stay she shouldnt tell anyone what her husband did or she will also be ridiculed also. And also with the antigay law in Nigeria her husband will not be safe.

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  4. Deep sigh....I am Lost for words, is there anyone her husband respects? Someone that could talk to him, let her give him time to change and prray for him. She shoud get somthing doing and take care of her baby. If he doesn't, then am afriad she has to WALK. But honestly I can't deal

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  5. Ha! This one Na big wahala oooo!
    Running away might not solve the problem, if the husband is really sincere that he did it because of the money, that he is not an homosexual, and if he is sincere that he really wants your friend his wife back, then its time to sit down and dialogue, time to iron issues out, let her tell him what she want, if he has saved enough, its time to get out of the mess and begin a new life, its time to let go of the friend and whatever benefits coming from being associated with him, and start a new life with whatever he has saved, and if there is nothing he has saved, she should still be bold enough to tell him to end that friendship, she is not legally divorced from him yet, that makes him her legal husband, so how long will she remain like that, running away from her matrimonial home with a baby on the way? so instead of running away from her cross, she should face it and look for a way out, also in talking to him to end the friendship, if her first attempt fails, she should include someone he respects and listens to and probably family members for a second attempt in persuading him.
    But if he refuses to listen to her, that means his happiness is more important to him than that of his wife, that means he is not ready to sacrifice his personal pleasure, materialism and vanity to please his family, that means money and material acquisition is more important to him than his wife and family, in which case he is not worthy to be a husband, I would advice she begins to look for a permanent alternative to that marriage.


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  6. Anonymous6/26/2014

    First of all, your friend made the mistake of going away from her husband to ckear her head. She shiuld have stayed. At least who knows, she might have been able to do something earlier. Now the deed has been done and all she has to do now is pray for her husband and also talk to him to leave that business. If they are not born again, pls they should dedicate their lives to Christ. May God see her through.

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    1. Anonymous6/26/2014

      so its now the womans fault abi...........the man no get common sense to see that what he is doing is wrong??? Abeg have several seats

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  7. Story doesn't come through like it's real... Sorry!

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    1. Anonymous6/26/2014

      Trust me,these things happen and even worse! Some couples do threesome,my dear strange things happen!

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    2. Anonymous6/26/2014

      Ace - exactly!!! Story, story. This one na nollywood plot abeg. Strange things do happen, sure, but dis sounds too one kind. First she travelled, he conveniently has dis gay friend. She finds herself in a room by 4am. Next thing, na now she come carry belle... I hear

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  8. Anonymous6/26/2014

    My dear tell your friend to stand by her husband and baby,its obvious that he did it to give you a better life,and pls keep this a secret o,dont go about spreading it that he is a sleeping with his friend o,if not na prison and stigma and that would just make things worse. She should just take him for counselling that is if he is ready to change o and stop. Other families go through worse issue and still we don't hear about it. She is still young and shouldn't give herself name as a divorcee! All the best

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  9. Anonymous6/26/2014

    My dear. To tell u the truth. Ur husband is in a cult. It's not normal. It's occultic. He is deceiving you by saying it's just for d money. But it's an occult. Thats just what he has to do.so think carefully. Wud advice you to leave.

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  10. Anonymous6/26/2014

    My dear. To tell u the truth. Ur husband is in a cult. It's not normal. It's occultic. He is deceiving you by saying it's just for d money. But it's an occult. Thats just what he has to do.so think carefully. Wud advice you to leave.

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  11. First of all ur friend shouldn't hve travelled in d first place,wat is she clearing her head for? Marriage is for better or worse,since she has money to travel abroad,she could as well reserve dt money and probably ask her family to help her hubby out in any small way since dey have money to send her abroad to stay wit her mum. Back to d matter on ground,she really has a battle to face,she has to mke sure dt her hubby change Frm des new life by talking to deir pastor and backing it up wit prayers since he Ws not like dt b4,all hope is not lost,he can still change by d grace of God, is not evrytin u will tell one to run,where re U running to? Finally if U put to bed Ur son or dota will still hve blood relation wit dt same person and will U be proud to tell ur child den who d father is!?,pls tell Ur friend to try her best to change him it's not easy thou but God will give her d strength to do it but if no changes afta trying den U knw dt U hve done Ur best and move on wit Ur life. It's well.

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  12. Anonymous6/30/2014

    u sure its u or ur frnd*rolls eye* plus ds story sounds lyk nollywood movie sef .aw wd u leave yo hubby to travel out to stay wt ur mom cos tins aint rosy?pray nd b wise tho! if hes turned homo nd a drug addict just to gt rich nd u r really pregnnt my diya, u r sitting on a looooonnnggg sometin.

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