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I Don't Keep Friends, I Need Advice From Strangers Please

Hi Aunt Eya and WC family.....I met my guy January and we have been going on fine as if it's being years,He has met my Father and I have been talking to his family members on phone, I haven't visited them cos of the distance and our job too but we have planned to see them soon. 

The problem now is His ex, He told me when he met me that his EX jilted him that he was hospitalised and had HBP buh he has to move on with his life, After 5 month he met. For 2 months now The girl had been pleading to come back.she calls anytime. 

Anytime I am there for weekend she calls earlymorning and bedtime...,Now I aam confused who the Real Madam is, I
got pissed and told him he's reaaling hurting me and I am not comfortable with her calls..My guy said he can't tell her to stop calling because he's not a baby, that he had already told her he got someone else..I said that won't change her mind since u still give her warm response over the phone....

Now I am confused,I always be frank to my Ex I can't go back to him and he stopped disturbing so why can't He can't he tell that? Is he because he still have feelings for her or what...I don't keep friends but I think I need advice from people that don't know me....I am Thinking of Taking a Walk....I am always sad. so sorry for the long story

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  1. Lol! readers please help us out.

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    1. Dear poster, even YOU are not yet the madam, Your relationship isn't really defined yet o. I don't know what to say. This one pass me.

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    2. Anonymous6/24/2014

      Pls ma how do l post a story so l can be advised on an issue most pressing. Thanks ma.

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    3. Email the story to cuulme@gmail.com. It Will be published here as a blog post .

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  2. Anonymous6/24/2014

    Dear Poster
    what you tolerate in relationship be ready to tolerate in marriage. It seems like he is sacrificing your feelings to avoid hurting his ex's feelings. This one is not even a big problem if I were you I would ignore him and I wont go to his house till he gets his act together. This is the kind of thing where you vex and walk out of his house.........what nonsense

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  3. Anonymous6/24/2014

    You just met him, January is too soon, just cox he met your father does not mean anything. Keep your options open if possible. Don't bother about his Ex and don't give him too much to him.

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  4. You need to stay away from him for some time, let him know what you cannot deal with.
    If he's ready to make a change then you continue if not let him be.
    The Beautiful Eagle

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  5. Anonymous6/24/2014

    If a man cannot clearly define where he stands then y waste ur precious tym with him? Meeting ur parents means nothing. Please don't settle for less, tk a walk nd let him get his act tgeda..

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  6. Anonymous6/24/2014

    Who says its too soon to take a stand. I have seen many people who got married within 4 to 5 months of meeting and doing well in marriage. One is very close to me and dt was just four months of meeting.They will b 10yrs in marrige by Sept dis year. There r ppl who court for many years and their marriage will not last one year. Ur guy should tell her to stop calling him and he should stop taking her calls if he is serious wt u. If he doesn't, u may have to talk a walk cos she will soon find her way back to his life.

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    1. Anonymous6/24/2014

      You are right. I for one met my huby in august 2007 and got married in December 2007. Happily married with 3 kids. Issues come and get settled ASAP. Marriage is sweet sha......enjoying every bit of it. Chidinma

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  7. Anonymous6/24/2014

    Take a walk. If he loves u, he'd come bk and u gv him ur terms

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  8. Na so e dey start oh,u are fully aware that the ex still calls him and he answers,pls my dear, I know to leave a relationship is not easy but pls try as much as u will want to leave if eventually he marries u and the Ex is still calling to the extend she comes to ur house to show him the dress she is wearing,abeg,pls use ur Tongh to count ur teeth .

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    1. Your soybeans was over roasted. It should look brown like roast peanuts. Dark meant it was burnt. Burnt soybeans taste bitter same way burnt peanuts taste.
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  10. Fyn Ijebu Chic6/25/2014

    Dear Poster..
    Let me just tell you that you haven't reached your busstop!
    Pls move on with your life and leave the guy alone
    Like he said, he is not a baby and since he doesn't want to make a decision, I suggest u make dat decision.
    A man that can get hospitalised because a lady jilted him is drunk in love with that lady and they might likely get back together.

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    1. Anonymous6/25/2014

      Best advice

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  11. Anonymous6/25/2014

    he may love you and just not understnd how strongly you feel about this. there's nothing wrong with talking to your ex and you shouldn't be dictating to your man who he can speak with. just explain to him again that you don't like it and when he speaks with her, it makes you feel he's not committed to you. if he keeps doing it and you continue being unhappy about it, then move on with your life.

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  12. Aptly said. Poster, let me repeat what Fyn Ijebu Chic typed: "A MAN that can get HOSPITALISED because A LADY JILTED him is DRUNK IN LOVE with THAT LADY and they might likely GET BACK TOGETHER." Please. Pay attention to the caps. I'm sorry darling but you are A REBOUND. The question is: why DOES he KEEP PICKING her CALLS and GIVING her his ATTENTION? Please don't settle for less. He's not your man. Yours is on the way!

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  13. Anonymous6/26/2014

    hmm poster I had the same problem with my fiance now my husband. the ex will call ,tex, and do u know d painful part ?my guy reciprocates, and he talks of her whenever we are together. I had no choice but to marry him sha cos my stepmother was giving me hell in my fathers house, I just have to get married and leave. But God has been wonderful in my marriage, they lose contact for over a year now and am at peace. at least for now. if u don't have my kind of family problem that will make u want to leave/ run away from home, pls kindly leave this man or stay away for a while cos old love hardly dies.

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  14. Anonymous6/26/2014

    hmm poster I had the same problem with my fiance now my husband. the ex will call ,tex, and do u know d painful part ?my guy reciprocates, and he talks of her whenever we are together. I had no choice but to marry him sha cos my stepmother was giving me hell in my fathers house, I just have to get married and leave. But God has been wonderful in my marriage, they lose contact for over a year now and am at peace. at least for now. if u don't have my kind of family problem that will make u want to leave/ run away from home, pls kindly leave this man or stay away for a while cos old love hardly dies.

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    1. Anony - u don marry another person husband bcos of family pressure. Sure u'll be praying dat the ex dies?
      Poster - men enjoy this game when their ex comes calling. I have not seen a man that closes the door permanently on an ex that keeps coming. The least these men do is continue sleeping with them. The exception to this rule is when it is the man that leaves the babe.
      If you think he would make a good husband for you, do the following:
      1. Get him to make a commitment of marriage and start the process ASAP.
      2. Stop/avoid sleeping over at his place. Give him some space...
      3. If he refuses to commit, increase the space and begin to borrow leg.

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  15. Anonymous6/26/2014

    Please jus take a walk! What nonsense!

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  16. Anonymous6/29/2014

    What Nonsense! Some gals can take rubbish oo, please take a walk my dear, now dt his ex is back give him his needed space, let him be d one to make a choice... Truth is he might not value u until u leave and get him to make a decision btw his Ex n u, n if he chooses his EX, at least u'll know u re just d rebound.. U need to leave to force him to choose, he cannot keep receiving attention from two grown ladies and feeling lyk Doro.. Mtcheew

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