The Two Guys Are Getting Me Confused

   Pls I hv come again with my wahala, and need ur advice n dat of all WC readers,pls hid my info. I hv this 2 guys dat r really dear to me,buh want to settle for one. Hv made a list to compare both. for d guy i met 1st he is God fearing,has a great respect 4 women,loves kids,has a good dress sense,hard working(buh nt business minded),funny,nt yet stable(he is a lecturer,buh doesn't hv a place of his own,stays wit parents 4 nw),thinks it silly sending airtime to girls(so has only given me airtime,once in our 8months of dating),we call each other equally,n we stay in d same city,am close to his family,he doesn't listen to me dat much,n we don't talk dat much,am still in medical school,n he doesn't really appreciate my course,he is an engineering graduate. And for the 2nd guy(met him 3months into my relationship with d 1st guy),he is God fearing too,respects women,good dress sense,hard working n business minded,he Is a lecturer too,but outside d country,stable,funny n loves kids,generous in sending airtime,n still calls a lot,he listens to me,am nt dat close wit his family yet,he appreciates my course,but my issue with him is am taller than he his,and I don't know if I can handle the long distance .

We talk very well on phone,all this while he has been trying to get me to accept him but I hv been holding back, so somehow he stopped but we still talk, and I realised I don't want things to be jst like dat. Sorry for my long story pls.

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  1. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Hian!
    Don't understand what you're on about really- airtime ke?

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    1. You need to 1st state out your priorities. Have you asked yourself what and who you really want to have as a hubby? The business of dating/marriage is serious business, I'll rather advice when ur priorities and post is well defined.... Thanks!

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    2. Anonymous5/17/2014

      Ace Bentley welcome!

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    3. Anonymous5/17/2014

      Ace Bentley welcome!

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  2. Okay you have made a list of both of them , what about a list of what you really want in a man? Just ask yourself what is really important to you in a man, write them without bias, pray about it and make a decision. Also remember to follow who you feel at peace with.
    Please visit www.bride2mum.com

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  3. Anonymous5/17/2014

    U dey sell airtym ni? What's with d airtym? Is dat the only need u have?

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  4. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Girl, free ur lecturers na, haba! Lol.

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  5. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Choose one quick quick, send the other make I give somebody. Thank you

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  6. Anonymous5/17/2014

    You have NO BUSINESS dating your lecturers.

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    1. Anonymous5/17/2014

      did she say they are her lecturers? na wa for you oooo

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    2. Kity'nymous5/19/2014

      Habaa! Nawa for u oo. Did she mention them bn her lecturers? Kai!!. Una too dey quick to conclude. Moreover, if they are her lecturers, kini big deal (what's d big deal)?...as long as they are single.

      I married my single lecturer and guess what, he's the best thing to happen to me. We've been married for 24 years now. Poster, i'll advice u to intensify your prayers.

      If u wana decide the way i did, beg God to make the one that is not for you pick up a quarel with u for no reason and as soon as he does, just take a walk. Don't even look back or think of considering him when he starts begging. It worked for me because after the one i rejected got married to another lady, i learnt he started beating her up 2 weeks after their wedding. My lecturer hubby has never laid a finger on me or reigned curses or insults on me. He makes me feel like the only girl in the world (...in my daughters words*).

      May God see you through dear.

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  7. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Interesting how airtime is your priority. Really? Bride2mum has said it all

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  8. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Pls o dy r nt my lecturers, n dy don't even teach in my school. Am nt bother abt d airtime,n I hv never asked 4 it,am jst worried if it's a sign of stingyness,plus I call as much as he does.

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    1. Kity'nymous5/19/2014

      My dear, spare yourself d headache of explaining. Even if they are your lecturers, what's the big deal.

      I married my single lecturer and guess what, he's the best thing to happen to me. We've been married for 24 years now. Poster, i'll advice u to intensify your prayers.

      If u wana decide the way i did, beg God to make the one that is not for you pick up a quarel with u for no reason and as soon as he does, just take a walk. Don't even look back or think of considering him when he starts begging. It worked for me because after the one i rejected got married to another lady, i learnt he started beating her up 2 weeks after their wedding. My lecturer hubby has never laid a finger on me or reigned curses or insults on me. He makes me feel like the only girl in the world (...in my daughters words*).

      May God see you through dear.

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    2. Anonymous5/21/2014

      Thank a lot kittynymous. God bless

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  9. Anonymous5/17/2014

    Can I deviate a bit. How do you handle your pastor husband who watches porn and masturbates. Always suspected but no proof. First time I had proof, initially denied and then accepted. Threatened to report him but didn't. That was last year. Recently caught in the act with ear phones watching porn. Says he's reached turning point but has taken no steps. Suggested install netbllock. Nothing. I
    My worry? I am not even angry. I just feel so numb. Am I that disconnected from him or what?

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    1. Anonymous5/17/2014

      the demon of immorality. Is in operation and if u dnt do sumthing abt it fast. It may cause more problems in ur marriage. Yes to add to johnson advice. U have to pray. Fast. And talk to ur hubby. U can contact mature christian counselors 4 assistance.

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    2. Anonymous5/18/2014

      leave him alone. he's enjoying a simple pleasure

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  10. Anonymous5/17/2014

    My husband does porn too and its killing me inside. Any suggestions?

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  11. Johnson5/17/2014

    Get him to born again again! Sure there are foundational issues around his testimony of conversion - Jesus is able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him (Heb7:25).
    Demons are behind porn and related habits and it seems they already have access to your husband. They (demons) have one mission - to steal, kill and destroy. This is more a spiritual battle and you need to be prepared. You should also take steps to withdraw access to devices that allow him to watch porn. For e.g. replace his handset with cheap (non smart) phone... God will give you the wisdom to handle this situation.

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    1. Johnson5/17/2014

      This was meant for Anon 7:47PM...

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  12. Fyn Ijebu Chic5/17/2014

    If I tell you that I understand this ur post ehn...
    I will be lying to myself big time!
    Pls, save us the headache,
    I know it's a saying 'dat doctors(medical practitioners) have horrible writings, I av neva heard of doctors having horrible way of expressing themselves on paper!

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  13. Anonymous5/17/2014

    abeg original poster. Follow ur heart and d peace of mind u hv concerning any of them. Also knw wat u want ok?

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  14. I'm dating a guy I'm taller dan. The tn is he's d only guy iv eva knwn tho I kinda get a lil uncomfortable wit d height tn, but I alwyz let myslf knw dt d physical attribute of a man is notn compared 2 his qualities(gud). But I hp I'm not dating him out of pity, cos wev bn datin 4 a long time nw. rilly scared of my decision to marry him o.

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    1. Anonymous5/18/2014

      wat do u mean u are dating him out of pity? So nw ladies shuldnt go 4 short guys or wat? As far as he has gud xter spare urself d headache.

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  15. Anonymous5/18/2014

    Lmao!!!!! @ Jane Ashley. Are u kidding me? Love spell??? Like seriously???? Dat's d most ridiculous advice I've heard in a very long time. Biko! Babe write out the priorities u need in your man, easier to strt striking from thr, coz it seems like u not rily clear on what u want. And above all pray for God's direction. Shikena!
    Love spell ni bo buhahahahahahahaahahah

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  16. Anonymous5/18/2014

    Aunty Eya pls stp posting these spell customers coment ot d blog. Pls...

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  17. Anonymous5/20/2014

    Girl, you are the confused one.

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  18. Poster if I were u, I will go for the short man no mater that I am taller than him cos from what u wrote that's d only problem. That am taller than him doesn't mean anything so long as he is God's fearing.

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  19. Babe na u wey dey confuse wallahi! And bsides if I tell u I understand this post I dey lie gv my self. 1have u made a list of what u want in a man?
    2, Don't use buying airtime as a yardstick to stinginess cus it dos not count enough.
    3, Pray, pray for Wisdom from above

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