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My Friend Is Dating A Married Man, What Should I Do?

please find below the previous mail i sent,which you didnt get.thank you.

please keep me anonymous,thank you.I have a friend,this is not me believe me.i want it kept anonymous,because i don't want my friend to know it's me.okay,so the story is this.She is dating a married man,the man has been married for about 10yrs or so,and he has kids too.When she told me,i told her to stop it,that what she is doing is wrong,she said okay,that she would.She did not listen to me,and she even went on a trip with him outside the country.I was so annoyed,and i made her see reason again,she said the man was with her in trying times and when she was in a vulnerable state.To cut the long story short,i have sort of gotten used to the fact that the man would always be there because,he is her best friend,sx partner,teacher,bank,uncle,advicer,name it,her all in all..

But any time,i really think about it again,i am always so sad,i just feel it's a wicked thing she is doing,and that the man is just using her to enjoy himself. She does not have a boyfriend,she said she when she gets,that they will break up.I have talked to her about three different times now,on this issue,but she has still continued,should i just go ahead and just keep keeping quiet like i have been doing since i last talked to her ,or what should i do.Also,i am very tempted to buy a sim,send an anonymous message to his wife ,about her husband and my friend,and then destroy the sim after.If i really want to get her number,i would.I am just confused and unhappy.Please help.Thank you.

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  1. Anonymous5/13/2014

    I think you should let the mans wife know it's in your friends best interest please does she not want a family of her own clearly that man will not leave his wife

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    1. Anonymous5/13/2014

      Very immature reply.obviously u av never and are not married...you want to destroy another woman's home because of her friends inadequacy...please posters friend go and register and sit for jamb again.TAKING PANADOL FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S HEADACHE#longesthisspossible

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    2. Anonymous5/13/2014

      Very immature reply.obviously u av never and are not married...you want to destroy another woman's home because of her friends inadequacy...please posters friend go and register and sit for jamb again.TAKING PANADOL FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S HEADACHE#longesthisspossible

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    3. Anonymous5/13/2014

      Madam "gboromideleru". Mind your business. Its not in your place to tell the wife. She is enjoying her marriage. Don't break her home with your "tuletule" mouth. As a matter of fact,I just think you are jealous. Maybe she doesn't give you all the attention you seek or You don't have a bf or man that will take you on trips outside the country like the man does. #oni miliki o siere alagolo lonsiwin. #tongueout#

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  2. I think you should guide to your friend about him and also talked both of them, if she doesn't understand than definitely talk the man’s family on this topic. Maybe it will help to overcome from this problem.

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  3. Anonymous5/13/2014

    Why should you tell his wife? What would it solve? Do u think they will stop simply because the wife knows? If u are a good friend, keep talking to her. If she doesn't listen, u would have done ur part as a friend. They are two adults that have made their choice & it is really not your business at the end of the day. Tell her the truth & face ur life please. Trust me, she will come around soon when shit hits the fan.

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  4. Anonymous5/13/2014

    I think you should shun any gist about the married man if you arr with your friend. A man isn't worth breaking your friendship pls. Telling the wife will be doing more harm than good, please leave her out of it. What she doesnt know wont hurt her. There is God o! Do your best and leave the rest. She is spoiling her future with her own hands, do unto others as thyself, its that simple.

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  5. Its one thing to give someone an advice, its another thing for the person to listen and accept the advice, if you give someone advice and he refuses to accept that advice, then you have done your bid, whatever happens after that, the person bears the consequences, you don't force people to accept advice by doing it your own way even God doesn't force advice on us, he shows us the right way, the way to life and death, and leave us with a choice to make, if we decide to ignore God's advice and make the wrong choices, we bear the consequences Ourselves

    I don't think it will be wise to tell the wife, that's going too far and its like forcing your way on your friend, what guarantee do you even have that they will end the relationship? because they might continue in secret, also remember telling the wife could lead to the break up of their marriage, which you will be party to the caused of their break up, What God has joined together, let no man separate!


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  6. Fyn Ijebu Chic5/13/2014

    Pray!

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  7. Anonymous5/13/2014

    Hy WC pple pls I nid advice,am a lady of 24 datin a guy of 30 ,he has believes diff from mine.am still a virgin bt I didn't tell him since we jus started datin,he's views on sex n rship is so diff,he doesn't mind I com stay in his house,cook or clean,he tinks am missin out on Love by nt givin all,.Seeing my friends n askin dem dey tink its nthin,am a xtain nt perfect but striving,wen I look arund every1 is livin anyhow,Pls I nid advice I can't tell my mum cos she won't get me,n I rarely hav friends.

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    1. Anonymous5/13/2014

      Plssss dnt lose ur virginity it's ur pride.he juxx wants 2 get btw ur legs and dump u. AIDS is so real,millions of men r infected and dey want to spread it. Plssss stay away 4rm him. Dnt look at Wat other girls r doing,juxx look unto God.He wil see u through. Be blessed.
      Chizzy.

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    2. Anonymous5/13/2014

      please do no give in to his advances. A man that truly love you will wait till you are married. remember the bible says marriage is honorable with the bed undefiled. be very careful do not give a boyfriend husband benefits.

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    3. Anonymous5/13/2014

      God bless u dear.

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    4. Johnson5/13/2014

      Anon 5:08PM, be careful with dating - it's very dangerous! At this stage, strive to be in courtship by involving your parents and pastor... This will help you to make the right choices. Continue to make God proud and He will reward you in His time.

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  8. Anonymous5/13/2014

    pls dont gv him ur virginity nw! Wait til u are married. I beg u. Kip ur virginity. Dnt be intimate with him as regards physical expression of love. Dnt start wat wuld lead to sex. Dnt spend a nite in his house. Am in my thirties stil a virgin. Nt d fake one dat wuld allow men to do all such of silly thngs and claim virgin. And am happy. Pls do wat is rite.

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  9. Anonymous5/13/2014

    Pls don't sleep with him don't cook or clean for him either if he wants all that he should marry you, I didn't do any of that for my husband till after we did our introduction

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  11. chubi umeh5/14/2014

    Nxt time, ask your friend if she's ever heard of †ђ3 word NEMESIS?! Make she no come here in 5yrs time to tell us her hubby is cheating on her #things some girls bring on themselves smh. Its a pity

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  12. Dear poster,from the way u sound,its quite clear u r very jealous&bitter. You wish u were in ur frnds shoes right nw. Do u honestly tink sendn d wife a msg wld solve anytin? D man can damn his wife&carry on wv his relatnshp wv ur frnd. Sum women wld evn ignore wateva u sent&wld nt confront their hubbys 4 peace sake. All I cn tell u is,since u said uv spoken to her severally&she ddnt listen,I'd advice u to shut up,mind ur biz&stp bin jealous! Get sumtin to do wv ur tym seein dt d 1 u used 2 spend tym wv has found sum1 else. Leave ur frnd to nemesis&her fate!

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  13. Anonymous5/14/2014

    Hy WC,tanks for ur advice,I broke up wit him ASAP,I feel Joy and peace within me,he still feels am selfish and self centered,by nt givin In 2 his ideas,bt I hold on 2 God ,Bless U all uve saved a sister.poster wit a 30yr old X lols

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  14. POSTER5/14/2014

    @ anonymous 1;28 ,2:47 and Princess Gabriella.**bi*tch mode activated*hahaha!,i have no words for all of una,you all sound like bitter people.All i simply did was ask for advice,you didnt need to abuse me.As for one of you that said i am jealous because i have no married man to take me on foreign trips,ha i would rather be VERY single,than heap curses on my own head by dating a married man.You hide behind your computer,or what ever it is you used in typing this nonsense message you called a reply and just cyber bully people.If you think i am one that would read your cruel replies,and just let it slide,you are very wrong.One thing all of you have in common is bitterness that runs so deep.So in all of what i typed,all you can get from it is jealousy,o ma shey o!Advice that is all i asked for,not advice heavily tinted with abuse,one cannot even see the advice.Awon alianise oshi,mscheeew.Me sef i can abuse now.*Good girl mode activated*As for the people,who gave me real advice without abusing me,thank you guys,it was helpful.I'm out!

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    1. Anonymous5/15/2014

      Poster y don't u put ur name and fone number and also ur frends number so we can tel her ur plans if u are not afraid#olodo

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    2. Anonymous5/15/2014

      Don't mind her #shoboleyonke1. Mind your fucking business.

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  15. Anonymous5/14/2014

    Dear poster, kindly shut up n mind your business, your friend is an adult capable of discerning n making decisions, you dont have to force your views on her, respect her choice even though you might disapprove of it.a lot of people believe in polygamy n her relationship may lead to marriage, i see no reason why you should go report to the mans wife, i mean, they are not kids. The best you can do is advice her and move on, n if you think her relationship with the man will affect you or your image in a negative manner then call off the friendship. But i believe a good friendship is all about having different ideas/opinion/faith but still looking beyond that n adapting, not to seat on a pedestal and expect the person to do as you say/do..
    Furo

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  16. Anonymous5/15/2014

    Its amazing and ridiculous how people just sit down and abuse someone seeking for advice. The poster need our candid advice and some people think she is jealous. @ Poster kindly get the wife's number and send her an sms and u will save her home.Am of the school of though
    t that believe in telling a woman if u find husband cheating before it goes to the point of no return( talking from experience). Married with two kids.


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  17. Anonymous5/16/2014

    Dear poster,never mind the people insulting you,some of them may actually be strange women/ husband stealers themselves. I find myself in the position of the wife n trust me,she may know and could have been slugging it out with her hubby to no avail.All I do now is pray that she has good friends like you that will make her see the pain and heartache she's causing a fellow woman like her and that karma is real.Keep talking to her and make her know that God is on the side of a praying wife and will eventually visit her in kind. Cheers!

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  18. Anonymous5/16/2014

    Dear poster,never mind the people insulting you,some of them may actually be strange women/ husband stealers themselves. I find myself in the position of the wife n trust me,she may know and could have been slugging it out with her hubby to no avail.All I do now is pray that she has good friends like you that will make her see the pain and heartache she's causing a fellow woman like her and that karma is real.Keep talking to her and make her know that God is on the side of a praying wife and will eventually visit her in kind. Cheers!

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  19. Anonymous5/19/2014

    i slept with a married man once, his pregnant wife found out by reading his text and confronting him, he told her every detail, the poor wife was very pregnant. she called me and heaped all the curses in africa on my head. i had to plead and beg her oh, it was done for money(that i didnt eventually get). i didnt feel as bad as what the poor woman went tru. please leave her out of it and talk to your friend more, if she no gree hear..leave her abeg

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