Just Had A Big Quarrel With My Wife, Did I Go Too Far? Is My Wife A Cheat?

 I used  to be one  of those  that condemn people who share their stories online. I used to think it was silly. But it seems I am getting addicted to it. This should be my 4th mail to you. I like the idea of being able share one's issues annoymously and get advice from different individuals, although, the abuses and improper language from some of your readers can be upsetting.

Okay, I feel very guilty. I had a big quarrel with my wife, called her names, involved her folks and mine, threatened to leave her. Now i feel very crappy. I would like to annoymously share the story and get people's feel on the whole issue.

Mid last year I noticed that my wife was always on Whatsapp chatting with a guy. I didnt pay much attention to it at first, being that she is a good christian and I trust her. But i noticed that the chats became a daily afair, sometimes dragging as far as 11pm at night. I complained to her and she told me the guy was an old friend that just reconnected with her. That they had known each other for over 10 years and that he was nice and harmless. So i made further inquiries and she told me, the guy was single, in
his early 40s, had once asked her out, but she didnt like him enough to date him. She even told me that she wished she had someone she could introduce to the guy, that he was too nice to be single.

The daily chat continued for like a week. On the Friday of the week, I noticed a message from the old friend, thanking my wife for visiting and asking when next they would see. It was just that nothing else. I was irked. I raked, I shouted, I screamed, I even wrote you a note then (it generated a lot of buzz on your blog then). She explained that there was nothing to it, that the visit was at his work place and that it lasted for a few minutes and that she wasn't alone with him. My mum intervened. I felt stupid, I apologized and we forgot about it

That was mid last year. But since then, I noticed that the chats stopped, the only other chat the dude sent was one saying she is not picking his calls, asking if all was well. But i also noticed that a week rarely passes by that this dude doesnt call my wife. I complained to her and she would just cry and tell me I think very little of her. That I dont trust her, that I'm jealous and childish. Sometimes self, she goes as far as saying my jealous was starting to affect my thinking.

Anyway, about a month ago, we were about praying around 7pm, when the guy's call came in, i cut the call, not because it was the guy, but because we were about praying. My wife got offended, said I shouldnt have that it would make her appear rude. I was pissed, but i kept it to myself. Perhaps, she noticed I had become cold, later that night she told me "Eh eh, remember the guy who called earlier in the day, it was the sister that wanted to talk to me, she wanted to make enquiries about a business. She was also complaining and asking why i didnt marry her brother, that i said he was too old". For me, that was adding insult to injury. I didnt want to be rash, so I kept thinking about the whole event. I thought about it for like month. Last Sunday, I just concluded, there was more to the relationship, so I flared up, called my inlaws to come get their daughter. I called her names. I verbally abused her (I feel bad about it). Everyone intervened, she was
told to apologize and block the guy's number. She swore that there was nothing between them.

Days after my raking, I am torn apart. A part of me thinks I went to far, a part of me thinks my wife is a cheat who is just very clever and good at covering her tracks and gets away with it cos she is a good christian and has a very innocent look. One minute I hate my wife, another minute I love her.

I need your advice and that of your contributors, did I go too far? Is my wife a cheat?
It would be unfair not to state that all of the phone calls are one way (from the dude to my wife) and half of them are missed calls.

Comments

  1. Johnson4/24/2014

    You reacted to save your home and should not be sorry for it. Did your wife cheat - most likely not. Would she have cheated - very high possibility if you had let the whole saga continue. Was it wrong to have called her parents - maybe, but nothing spoil… you were angry and wanted help.
    All said; you need to move on and make efforts to rejuvenate your marriage. For example, plan a romantic getaway, spoil her and apologize for the wrong things you said. As the man, you need to protect her from danger and that’s what you did – it cannot be too far. She was slowly walking into danger zone and you acted.

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    1. Anonymous4/24/2014

      Nice one

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    2. Anonymous4/24/2014

      Spot on Johnson, very succinct.

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    3. Alloy Chikezie4/24/2014

      Mr Johnson! This your comment make brain, to the poster, you did not over react, you did the right thing, she might not have cheated but the chances that she will cheat are very high, the reason why you are torn apart is because you love her so much, and its natural that when we hurt our loved one, will feel hurt ourselves, nobody enjoys hurting a loved one, love sometimes can be painful, when you love someone and the person is going the wrong way, out of love you don't spare the rod, that's when love becomes painful love, "so when you use one hand to beat a child, you use the other hand to pull him closer affectionately" that is to say, its time to show affection for your wife again, make her feel love and respected, make your marriage sweet and spicy again


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    4. Anonymous4/29/2014

      +1000000

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    5. I remember this oga now...lol.. Don't think your wife is a cheat but I guess u did what you had to do although u must have fustrated your wife with all your wahala but has Johnson has said, nothing spoil. Just take things easy oga. *cheerst

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    6. What are guys on about? He did what stupid right thing by being verbally abusive to her.

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  2. Anonymous4/24/2014

    You did the right thing. She may not have anything in mind now but sooner or later, may start thinking the other way round. Hope she has removed d man,s number from her phone

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  3. Anonymous4/24/2014

    Ah ah.. she should tell d guy to stop calling her,dat her husband does not like it.

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  4. Anonymous4/24/2014

    i fink johnson answerd well

    i hope u dont cheat on her too

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  5. Anonymous4/24/2014

    i'm i d same situation and im just a click away from cheating. i just need an excuse from my usband to justify my actions. you did well but shouldnt have involved the family sha

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  6. The deed has been done, just focus on the future.

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  7. lonely Mrs4/24/2014

    No. You didn't go too far. You did just the right thing. A mans gotta do wat a mans gotta do. I'm also married wit kids but my husband works in a different state and more than half the time, he's away and whenever he gets back, I snoop through his phone and stuff and have gotten more than enough evidence to prove that he's cheating on me. Condoms,text msgs,bbm chats,facebook chats, etc. Apart from the fact that I'm very lonely and crave some masculine attention, de dude is cheating so why not I? I already confronted him and he came up with the dumbest lies ever. Fast forward,met this guy, fuuuuuuuun person. Can make you give up your breakfast,lunch and dinner for his gist and company. Smart guy, good job, decent,Just my kindda man. We've been friends for a while and we're getting along pretty well.
    We chat a lot and things are begining to get really steamy bw us and I've been the miss goody perfect type but right now, I'm throwing caution to the wind ! Just need me some good time. Not looking for love or money and not doing it to get back at my hubby. Just spoiling myself a little ! What is good for the goose is equally good for the gander !!!

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    1. Anonymous4/25/2014

      Two cheats. Both of you (i.e you and your husband) are meant for each other. Something tells me you are just as bad as your husband.

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    2. lonelyMrs4/25/2014

      No. I'm not as bad as he is, but I could be worse !!! Remember I'm a woman that has been scorned. My dear, never take anyone for granted cos youl end up surprising yourself.
      Pls don't judge me ( in Chris Brown's voice) I'm only making sure I remain happy and not end up a depressed, hypertensive, sad and bitter person. I'm just 29 for Pete's sake !!!

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    3. Mrs T.O4/25/2014

      lonely mrs, am not judging you, but i try to look at every action, mine inclusive with the mirror of the word of God.God hates adultery and what if, just what if, while you get down to sex cos that is the end result, the rapture takes place or death comes upon you, that my dear is eternal damnation, no remedy for ever.say NO to the devil, and tell God what you want in your husband and he will do it for you, he is interested in helping you

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    4. Anonymous5/03/2014

      Lonely Mrs, that Chris Brown's voice bit was epic. As a happy woman na with a lighter heart. I know right. I almost fell into that kinda thing before even though d person was far and there was no chance in hell of anything physical. I was happy but had no peace. So I let it go. I have decided to go for what gives me peace and not what makes me happy. Even though my hubby sometimes deserves it.

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  8. Anonymous4/24/2014

    @lonely ,I can totally relate to your story. I've come to realize that so many women are depressed,hypertensive, suffer from low esteem issues and anxiety disorders,some have even lost it completely and are being confined and termed "mad" just because a man or men messed with their emotions.
    As terrible as this may sound, and yes I know that it goes against our christian values and all. It shouldn't be such a crime for women to also seek sexual or emotional relationships outside their official relationships or marriages. Provided they don't disrespect their partners or do it openly. That way, I believe that marriages and relationships will be healthier and the individuals would maintain their sanity. So many pple may disagree wit me on this but let's call a spade a spade !!!

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    1. Anonymous4/24/2014

      im in similar situation u wont believe i wasnt previlaged to have a honeymoon cos while i was about saying my vows my sister in law was already brewing trouble i didnt have an idea abt and d worse the man i was marrying dat was my hero turned out to be a liar! as bad as several gf wer around me during d wedding cos he introduced dem as friendsssss! and he's a so called born again christian! one day i would write my full story

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  9. Anonymous4/24/2014

    Supported @Johnson

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  10. Anonymous4/24/2014

    Dear Aunty Eya and readers,
    I got an issue, I did a lil snooping around on my bfz phone, well found out that there was a gudnyt text he sent to me and he also sent that same exact text to another girl, well d only diff was the luv u in mine, but the goodnight and Sweetdreams and miss yu were in both messages,
    my q is, i haven't bn happy since i saw dz, so idk... should I confront him? my mood today has not bn good at all, please help,

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    1. Anonymous4/24/2014

      There nting to confront him about. I think u are just being childish. Did u have prove dat hes cheatn on u? Am a lady 2. Dnt thnk am a guy. Moreover d girl may just be a friend only.. Unless u want to gv ur self headache.

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    2. Friend or no friend, confront him! Is he not ur bf? A relationship dt can actually lead to marriage! And u r askin if to confront him? Go ahead my dear but in a cool way tho' . U'l jst say u felt disrespected upon seein the text and nothing more. Besides, why will he b missing someone u don't even know? Smh! Speak ur own mind.

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    3. Yes o. Pls confront him ASAP beforee it goes any further or even matures into a full blown sexcapade. Na so e dey start o

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  11. Anonymous4/24/2014

    she is even d one at fault! Ur own part is dat u Overreactd! Just 4gv and 4get. Also plead 4 ur overaction. Just be her friend and make her happy. May be shes just emotional attached to d guy. But she must stp chatn wit him. Haba she shuld knw her status nah?

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  12. Anonymous4/24/2014

    As much as i would love to support u guys nd mr johnson mayb sumday ill write my story and i ended up in dis woman's shoes,mr writer pls was der anything u did to her like also having female friends she constantly complaining to u about hmmmmm im not saying cheating is right im sayin she might want to get back at u for sumtin similar u did?den no matter d challenge u guys r acing the biggest mistake u can make is calling her names u can never erase it!and threatening to tell her to pack just confirmed to her dat ur arms r not secured u can leave her in d dark anytime anyday dat is anoda way of tellin her to find security else wer!hmmmmm

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    1. I like. Words spoken can neva b taken bak n ha security in ur arms has been threatened. Being a woman, u ll hv 2 wrk ovatym 2 mak ha secure again.

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    2. mz Tee4/28/2014

      My thoughts exactly!! Never ever tell a woman or make her perceive she's not safe/secure in her home. U ve just signed ur trouble/death warrant. U shld sleep wt one eye shut!

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  13. Anonymous4/24/2014

    @poster,you have done the right thing,the only mistake you made was involving your family,its a NO for me.try amend ways and settle things amicably with your wife and see how things will turn out.

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  14. Anonymous4/24/2014

    good evenin readers pls i need help on hw 2 block some numbers n text,i use Nokia E5.thanks n God bless.

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    1. Anonymous4/25/2014

      Download the app if your phone doesn't have it.

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    2. Anonymous4/26/2014

      pls can u help me with d app thanks.

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    3. Anonymous4/26/2014

      Go to Ovi store and download Call blocker

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    4. Anonymous5/02/2014

      thanks so much ,u have save a soul.

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  15. Anonymous4/24/2014

    you did not do the right thing at all. you're just pushing the girl away from you.if she wants to cheat, all this raking won't stop anything. u need to stop threatening to leave her bc one day she will leave you. go and apologize and sin no more. why are you reading your wife's messages anyway. stop being a control freak

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  16. Anonymous4/24/2014

    Am married with kids o my hubby doesn't com to me for sex until I go to him sometimes I get angry n not ask him n we will stay for months without sex till I go to him could he be gay cos I think he's not cheating besides if he's cheating dat shouldn't stop him from havin sex with his own wife rite? Am so sexually frustrated cos I promised never to ask him for sex again n its 2month plus cud he hav a health problem or wat. am writing this in tears cos am tired we've been married for 5years o can't believe hav endured this for dat long have complain to him abt it sometimes he will tell me that sex is all I care abt I told him is once a week too much chei I don suffer and am very beautiful o even with kids men still admire me on d road etc I don't want to leave him now cos I knw my kids will suffer but I know in future I will or ill cheat on him imagine some nights ill go to him he will say he's tired or if I don't sleep or if am a prostitute or let him just sleep for 2hours dat 2hours till day break mmmm. He has never told me am beautiful no matter how good my hair looks he will either ignore it or say its too long or too short or too dis even if I wear d cutest cloth he will say its too tight or too long or too this n that or he will just ignore it we don't kiss or caress ever if we lie down on d bed n I try holding him he will say he's hot etc b4 we got married I went to d bathroom n it was dark wen I on d lite I saw him with his dick hard I asked him wat happened he said he was horny but didn't want to disturb me mmm don't knw wat dat meant. PLS if u were in my shoes wat would u have done cos am loosing it we don't talk abt sex again. Could he be gay or he's cheating on me or he has a health problem. Help a frustrated sister abeg. #d sex only last for 3mins highest#

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    1. khloe14/25/2014

      hmm.....na wa ooooo!!!we are all really different. my own is i have 3 kids, expecting the fourth, and totally HATE sex with my hubby. he keeps complaining that ive never asked him for sex in all our 12yrs of marriage, but im soooo emotionally disconnected from him that most of the time i don't find him sexually attractive. don't get me wrong o he's fine and takes care of himself by eating right n exercise, but i've come to discover the problem is actually from me. im not frigid either, i enjoyed sex during my uni days, but now i think after all the years of emotional abuse its difficult to be turned on by your abuser. i was soo happy it took only two rounds to get pregnant this time around *lol smh. for you anon 11:46, i will say either he's gay (most probably) or you are nagging too much abt it. try to find other safe ways of satisfying urself even if its not physical (50 shades of grey is my go to novel lol) or give him some time and put more effort into creating sexy moods. Goodluck but also remember sex is not everything. ur kids must always come first.

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    2. Anonymous4/25/2014

      I can authoritatively tell u that your husband masturbates and has become addicted to it. Yes, I can bet my lunch on this ! Half way through your story,I had already drawn the conclusion before I got to the part where u saw him in the bathroom.
      How do I know? Cos my husband has the same problem. He watches porn on his phone and masturbates like mad. I've caught him several times and he opened up to me about it. Its an addiction, that's what keeps him from chasing other women (according to him.#yimu#). but its destroying him. He's trying everything to stop it. Some periods are so bad that he does it up to 5X in a day. Even @ work ! He still responds to me sexually but the frequency has reduced. I've given him articles to read, we have prayed, etc etc but as long as he has access to the internet, he must watch porn. If u snoop thru the browser history on ur hubby's phone, there are very high chances that you will find porn sites there. Its an addiction remember, its a bad habit that won't go away.
      We had quarrels about nude pics and. Videos he used to store on his fone, now he doesn't download them, he just goes there and watches them. (I'm a 1st class detective. Lol) So its a very difficult situation to deal with. I've decided to give him space. It doesn't matter how much I push him to stop, he has to decide to stop and take steps to actualize it. We still have a fairly healthy sex life so I'm good. It really hurts though. Your hubby's case seems to be really bad for him to lose interest in making love to you completely. You need to investigate like I did and then once ure sure, confront him about it. Maybe ur knowledge of it may reduce it or somehow u guys can work someth out. Goodluck

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    3. I totally agree wit anon 6.46. Your husband must be addicted to wanking. But 5yrs? Gosh ! That's a pretty long time ! If he lasts just 3mins then you really need to act fast! So that it doesn't degenerate to an issue of premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. Its a major disorder that needs to be dealt with ASAP. I'll never advice u to cheat or leave him cos marriage is for better for worse so you have to help him get through it but u must realise that you are up against a serious problem. God will see u through.

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    4. Anonymous4/25/2014

      All wives are first class detectives and me? Am the leader though most times I just kak for peace sake.

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  17. Anonymous4/25/2014

    My sisters its true o chei my mind neva took me there b4 we got married he had more than 15 porn movies he use to watch I used to wonder why but didn't ask him he destroyed them 3yrs after we got married . He also download porns in his phones or gets from his friends since we were married I told him I didn't like it so he stopped I guessed he used to watch them online. 4months ago I saw porn on his phone he said his friend gave him bla bla bla he deleted it mmmm. He now sleeps in d parlour o according to him d room is always too hot I guess to have space to do his dirty stuffs I woke up around 2am one night to go n charge my phone n I saw him sitting with his phone (maybe he was watching porn I don't know) am happy now cos I know d problem though am feeling bad it was hurting then cos I didn't know wat could be wrong with him I browsed n browsed for sicknesses etc. Imagine our wedding nite I woke him up for sex around 11pm mmmm according to him he was tired from d stress. Have suffered but God dey. 5years of pain Some days it will be as if God touched him he will just come to me n apologise that he will change. Pls what should I do how will I help him to stop it.

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    1. Mrs T.O4/25/2014

      Hmmm, cases dey o,i guess no marriage is perfect, my sister i used to have same problem few years back that my husband will just shun sex for weeks but then i got to know that its cos we were always quarreling so i made sure that no matter who is the guilty one, we always settle every quarrel and now he is always asking for it and me am always ready even when am tired, i still comply and another major thing is PRAYER, PRAYER PRAYER, it took me some time and counseling to believe that God is interested in marital sex but he is, very much so. so dear go to him in prayer. If it turns out he is masturbating, pray for him, love him through it, never judge him

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  18. Anonymous4/25/2014

    Good morning Aunty Eya. Pls I need your advice.

    I have been married for 2 years now and my husband still calls his ex-girlfriends. He tells me all about them and that there is nothing going on between them now, that he separated with them amicably and just feels free talking with them. He tells me who called him and what they discussed each time he receives call from them or when he calls them himself.

    Meanwhile, when we got married, I deleted so many of my friends leaving only the ones I am sure he knows how we are related or that I can't have anything to do with them. But still he doesn't like it when I receive calls from them which is not even often but he chats with those friends of his as he pleases.

    Initially, I used his phone to browse but later he stopped me from using it. He would keep the phone by his side whenever he sleep and will drop anything he is doing to collect his phone from me if he sees me going through it. He would always subscribe my BB just to make sure I don't touch his own phone but he checks my phone and asks questions on all my calls and chats.

    I wanted to put our picture on his Facebook after our marriage but he told me not to do such thing, that he wants to tell his exs that his married with his mouth but up till now, he has not done that.

    Please tell me, is there anything going on that he is not telling me. Should I keep on confronting him about those friends he calls and calls him. Should I believe what he tells me they discussed each time they call or chat.
    Pls your candid advice is needed.

    He even told me that his ex wants to be a family friend with us. What do you think about this?

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    1. Mrs T.O4/25/2014

      MY DEAR SISTER, DON'T GIVE YOURSELF EXTRA HEADACHE. LET THE PEACE OF GOD GUARD YOUR HEART, IF HE TELL THEM OR NOT, THEY KNOW HE IS MARRIED,FB OR NOT.THERE ARE SO MANY YOUNG LADIES GOING AFTER MEN MARRIED OR NOT, THEY DON'T CARE,YOU ARE THE ONE THAT WILL JEALOUSLY PROTECT YR HOME.COMMIT HIM INTO THE HANDS OF GOD AND WATCH HIM TURN HIM AROUND SO MUCH SO PEOPLE WILL THINK YOU VE USED LOVE PORTION ON HIM.LOVE HIM, SUBMIT TO HIM COMPLETELY,PRAY FOR HIM ALWAYS NOT TO FALL INTO TEMPTATION, IT WILL NOT BE EASY I ASSURE YOU BUT IN CONSISTENCY LIES THE POWER.GOD BLESS

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    2. I think your husband is a very clever cheat. Is he controlling? He won't let you touch his phone yet won't let your BB rest.

      He wants to tell them with his mouth? When?
      Frankly you know the truth but may just be in denial. What he is doing is not fair.
      Commit him to God and please don't keep quiet, express your feelings in a calm manner. A woman's instinct... always right. He is very smart!

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    3. I didn't mean to type the word "cheat" wanted to say "clever man"

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  19. Anonymous4/25/2014

    Erm I'm confused but at the same time m no expert, didn't these exes know when u guys were dating? y is d marriage thing a big deal to him now? Well maybe u should try to communicate with him more about how u truly feel,

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  20. By Eya From Poster4/25/2014

    Thanks for publishing it. Thanks also for your one liner. But i dont think taking steps to protect one's health and happiness is going too far. What if she visits the guy's house next and he rapes her and infects her with std? I bet she wouldn't tell, just like she didnt tell about the visit. Women are vulnerable, married women especially. Respect begets respect. After complaining consistently for over 6 months, i dont think i deserve being told I shdnt have cut his call before prayers. I bought the fone, I bought the car she drove to meet him, I fuel the car. I work my ass out to make life easy for her and she spends all the extra time taking care of a single 40 something year old guy, who barely works and who is probably a pro at befriending comfortable married women I'm still very bitter, but like you said I went too far. I have resolved to apologize and to never bring up the issue with her or any one again. I have also decided to never sleep with her without protection again. Once again, thanks for your advise

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    1. Don't allow this issue to get out of control. Don't wreck your marriage because of assumptions. That she chatted with him and went to his office doesn't mean they slept together. Besides, using protection while sleeping with a woman isn't less pleasurable for her,at least it's not for me. And it's funny cos women can tolerate blatant cheating from a man,forgive and move on yet men cannot. Suit yourself sha,if you end of alienating your wife and creating an unhappy home for yourself cos of assumptions, don't say you weren't warned.

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  21. Anonymous4/25/2014

    Then what is the essence of the apology. Mr. poster am a man and pleading on his behalf, if you dont use protection before and you suddenly started using it, she will think so many things, just have a heart to heart talk with her to stop picking his calls and let your marriage come back to normal. plssssssssssssss

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  22. Anonymous4/25/2014

    He said he will not sleep with her again without protection and someone asked that "what is the essence of the apology"what business does a married woman have with a single guy she has dated before?why would she chat with him till 11pm at night,what are they discussing biko?if the man ready marry shey he tell u say he no fit look for wife himself?and all this years the sister did not ask why u broke up with is brother na now to ask hungry her abi?why on earth will you go visit him at work?oga your wife is not telling the truth abeg.

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  23. Aunty Eya pls why didn't you post my comment? www.makeupcubicle.blogspot.com

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    1. When last I checked, Eya was not responsible for posting comments. Abeg post your comments and don't wait for Eya that just delivered a baby like yesterday.
      WC comments are not moderated o, na free posting.

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  24. Anonymous4/26/2014

    The woman is just an innocent liar.. She is deceiving u with her cries. I can bet my left ass that she is sleeping with this guy already

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  25. Anonymous4/26/2014

    Anty Eya i ilke ur Blog becous hav gain alot all dose come are similar 2 wat am pas throu Eya God Bless u

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  26. @Cindy, I didn't see your comment. Did you send as a mail to me?

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  27. Anonymous4/29/2014

    Hmmmmmm. Don't know what to say! All d good Women even our men has advice u. Poster if u think divorcing your angel(beautiful wife) is d best pls do. Its just a pity that good wives are very diff. to get, I love your wife cus she behave matured. Mr poster,You are pushing your wife to d best place i mean it. By d time u realise your mistake it will be too late. Pls think before u take any step!!! That ur gf of yours is a demon.

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    1. Anonymous4/29/2014

      Seems the last poster is the dude the OP's wife has been visiting (cos I don't know how you got to know the OP's wife is beautiful). Plus your very bad written english, your contribution lacks any form of logical reasoning. Crap. Did the Op tell you he has a gf, wondering how you were able to infer that from what he wrote.
      How did the wife behave maturedly? and how is the wife's friend, the best place. After reading that part of your statement, I became convinced you are the dude the Op's wife has been visiting.

      I want to personally advice you. You are lucky you are dealing with someone as gentle as the Op, if it were me, I would have found out your address and would have brought your gf (Op's wife) and come embarrass you terribly.

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  28. Anonymous4/29/2014

    I wanted to coment on one of d Aunty Eya's positing. There's this particular one Aunty posted last wk. The man said he want to divorce his wife because of his gf. Tot it was d one and i was rushing to morning service. The comment was a mistake. And for my English thank you and God bless u so much. God will reward u.

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  29. Anonymous4/29/2014

    Yeah I knew immediately that he posted on the wrong story... Cos I read it and commented too. The annoying guy dat wanted to divorce his very good wife. Its an honest mistake @Anon 10:23

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  30. Jus reconcile BT Pls desist from name calling it's not healthy and for d records u dint go to far, u did Wat u had todo

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  31. Anonymous8/20/2014

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  32. Anonymous8/20/2014

    An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me.. My name is Collins i live in UK,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family 6 months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.{priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next 5 day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next 5dats morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {6}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my kids . Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com},if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to “bringing your ex back. So thanks to the babatemple for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once Thanks…

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  33. My name is Marjan Viki, AM from Canada i was propose to be marriage by a love one, but he suddenly changed his mind just because he found himself a new love, my heart was broken and so i was devastated to the extend of committing suicide a friend of my introduce me to a powerful doctor called Dr. Okoro when i first head of him i never believed his powers until i visited DR. OKORO JUBILEE SPELL CAST TEMPLE of the great prophetic, a man of wisdom and understanding he helped me out after having some conservation with him, and my ex love who promise to marry me later came back to apologize to me, today we are happily married with two lovely kinds. All thanks go to Dr. Okoro the powerful spell caster, if you need any help from him contact him with this email JUBILEESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR JUBILEESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM

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  34. My name is Marjan Viki, AM from Canada i was propose to be marriage by a love one, but he suddenly changed his mind just because he found himself a new love, my heart was broken and so i was devastated to the extend of committing suicide a friend of my introduce me to a powerful doctor called Dr. Okoro when i first head of him i never believed his powers until i visited DR. OKORO JUBILEE SPELL CAST TEMPLE of the great prophetic, a man of wisdom and understanding he helped me out after having some conservation with him, and my ex love who promise to marry me later came back to apologize to me, today we are happily married with two lovely kinds. All thanks go to Dr. Okoro the powerful spell caster, if you need any help from him contact him with this email JUBILEESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR JUBILEESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM

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  35. I want to share a testimony of my life to everyone. i was married to my husband emma Silvester, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady who encharm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in our marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and she introduce me to a man called Dr Bhabumenre . who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Clara ask me to contact Dr Bhabumenre . I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 6pm. My husband called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much, he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or our kids.It was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Bhabumenre in any problem you are passing through, he is very nice, here is his contact email: drbhabumenrespellhome@gmail.com
    contact him is the solution to your problem, he will help you get your ex back, email him: drbhabumenrespellhome@gmail.com

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  36. Anonymous5/22/2015

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