I Did Not Love My Wife And Still Don't, Do You Think She Loves Me?

Good morning Eya, How is family and our lovely boy? I am in dire need of answers and advise from your readers, Its gonna be a long write-up, please bear with me.

I left Nigeria many years ago, and I have been married 5good times, all my exs were found by either family or friends for me, but once we got married (traditionally) and I bring them over here, they will leave me for another person within the space of weeks, (though they came back and asked for forgiveness, which I have forgiven but I couldn't take them back) I felt bad, hated women but my mum kept on pestering for a grandchild et al.

After a while, I met this beautiful young lady online, very
trained, a great cook, neat and honest and I didn't waste time, I wifed her immediately, traditional, white and court, she became pregnant before I brought here but I didn't love her and still don't, we are blessed with triplet 2boys and a girl(7years)

I treat her well, she doesn't lack anything,I help around the house and all, but I noticed that she doesn't like sex, If I don't write an application, beg for it, she won't open up, she creates problem so that we won't do, she has never asked for it, all that interests her is the kids, keeps the house sparkling white and cook all kinds of continental dishes and nothing more...

I have this Nigerian friend, that checks on me during my hearts breaks and all but we were not dating because, she was in a relationship then, after her relationship packed up, we became closer and I'm in love with this woman right from the onset till this moment, and she has fallen deeply in love with me as well, the sex is great, she gives it to me any how and any where I want it.

My wife is a very calm person, I am 100% sure that she is not cheating and that she is fully aware about my relationship with is lady, but she has never asked me about it, her behavior still the same, We have never had sex in 2years and she isn't bothered, My girl sends her our pics, insults her , she neither reply nor ask me about it.

I planted cameras in all corner of my house, she is very joyous, when I'm not there, they play, cook, eat and all but once I'm back, everyone becomes calm, that means she feels caged when I'm there, she isn't happy with me, right?

Many people will hate me once I mention this divorce thing, the only person that hates my wife is my girl friend, my friends and family loves and adores her but I'm not happy been with her.

Do you guys thinks my wife loves me?
Why doesn't all these bother her?
Is it a wise decision to stay in an unhappy marriage?
If I divorce her, will my kids be understandable when they grow up?
Do I elope with my girl to another city and just visit my kids?

Please help a brother..
 
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  1. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Is this post a joke or what? Pls madam ojay you dont have to post evry story sent to you. This poster is just ab idiot sha.. mshewwww. I wish ur wife will bath u and that stupid gf of yours with hot oil one day

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    2. There is so much to this story that doesn't add up. Why 5 women left you? Why your wife isn't asking questions?

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    3. Debbie4/21/2014

      Forgive me if I ran hastily into conclusion but am not apologetic about it.
      I strongly believe they are following you big time from village.
      You are not a normal man. Until they destroy you finish ba, your eye no go clear
      Longest hiss

      Debbie (google acct wahala)

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    4. You and your girlfriend have completely exposed your ignorance and the workings of your childish mind to the full glare of the public. That wife of yours is the most mature person you will ever meet. You expect her to kill herself because of your wagging dick. Another man's trash is some else's treasure. #BULLSHIT ...

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  2. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Is this post a joke or what? Pls madam ojay you dont have to post evry story sent to you. This poster is just ab idiot sha.. mshewwww. I wish ur wife will bath u and that stupid gf of yours with hot oil one day

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  3. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Dear poster why will evn cheat on your wife in de first place..when you know u dont love her why did you marry her? anyways i tink your wife is up to sometin normally she should av reacted.if you have made your cheating very obvious as to allow her know no need to wait for her reaction anmore you can go for a divorce and marry the person you said you love that is if you will still feel the same way after marrying your girl . bcos bad tin de sweet ooooo...lol

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    1. Anonymous4/21/2014

      You must be mad! I bind you evil spirit In Jesus mighty name. God is greater than your evil powers... agent of hell!

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    2. Anonymous4/21/2014

      You must be mad! I bind you evil spirit In Jesus mighty name. God is greater than your evil powers... agent of hell!

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  4. na wa oh, problem dey this world...
    Mummy baby , I dont think u posted the full story,
    whats up with the camera, what did he see?
    After that i ll advise...

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    1. Anonymous4/21/2014

      Didn't you read the entire post. She's so happy when he's away and sad when he's home.

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  5. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Good evening readers, I really don't have much to say on this issue all I have to say is marry who is gonna make you happy. Pls readers I have something bothering me. I have dated numerous girls and it always turns out that any girl I have sex with always gets pregnant whether its their safe period or not. At the end, we always do an abortion, but I am not always happy doing abortions that's because I know couples who are looking for babies and yet I have that gift on a platter of gold. I have decided to post my number here so dat if anybody needs to have babies ASAP he can call me 08184451149

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    1. u want to give out ur baby?
      Or u want to dooo her?

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    2. Anonymous4/20/2014

      U are madt! Pls get out of this blog ASAP.

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    3. Cutest4/21/2014

      Seriously??? Are u drunk?

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  6. Poster, I ll advice u guys talk things over,
    Divorce? No, who is going to marry after 3?
    If you dont luv her, dont u luv ur kids?
    U can relocate with ur gf, then visit ur kids,
    Don't marry ur gf, she doesnt worth it.

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  7. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Na wah o, Men get issues sha

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  8. Bad man, there is more to this story than you are telling us. You are flaunting the affair in her face and yet she keeps quiet. Don't think she is a fool because she is definitely gonna hit you hard when you least expect it. You were married 5times and they all left you don't you.something might be wrong with you ?
    You said you haven't had sex for 2yrs, did you talk to her about how you felt before starting the affair. Communication is one of the keys to a successful marriage.
    Your wife don't want to develop H B P because of your infidelity.

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    1. Mrs Dayo4/20/2014

      Thank you jare, the reason women keep quiet is to avoid high blood pressure when kids are still growing.

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    2. *you think something might be wrong with you*

      @Mrs Dayo am sure he is the one encouraging his girlfriend to send
      pictures of both of them.

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  9. creampalace4/20/2014

    Well poster all I can say is a big congrats to you, u 're on d verge of creating hbp for your self.do u know the problem you have? Men like you generally wants women who lean on them for everything, turns them to slaves, gives them physiological pressures, abuses them, turns them to a shadow of themselves so that you can feel like a supreme beings and their lord.but I have good news you married a wonderful woman who took you for who you were and married you, sawyour short coming and made them a thing of d past, she decided not to be unhappy with you and infidelity issue's, she has to keep herself and not get infected from diseases from you.

    Think about it every one loves your wife but your girlfriend hates her how does that sound to you, she wants her place and can never be half of a woman your wife is, your wife's even abstained from sex for 2years, can your girlfriend do that if you have issue's and she mite be sleeping with other people behind you, how do u Knows she isn't set to dupe you.
    If u were that perfect 5 women would have left you, check yourself sir
    God decided to make your crooked path straight but you have decided to turn your peace to sorrow.have you even given it a tot, if one of your kids decides to go thru this path, what will you advice? Anyways d only person I pity is your good mum, giving u hope all these while.congrats on your self destruction once again

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  10. Anonymous4/20/2014

    I think you are still in love with your wife. Why are u concerned if she still loves u or not. U are just angry and hurt about her seemingly nonchalant attitude towards u! U both need counselling ur marriage can still be salvaged. Talk to her. Not every woman has the energy for gbegbe. I know am capable of acting that. Because i become very very calm when am hurt. I just swallow the hurt and face other things that make me happy. My fiance always had issues with it he use to say i should speak out that someone like me can kill. I explained that its not true i just dont have the energy for strife.

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  11. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Mr poster if you did not love your wife why did you marry the poor girl ehn? Do you know there is a reason why people said there has to be love! If i were you I would end it with your gf because she is a lousy woman and she would not make you happy. If everyone one loves your wife then it means there is something wrong with you especially if you have been married 5 times. The devil is playing ten/ten with your destiny and you do not know. Better go and pray

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  12. Anonymous4/20/2014

    Mr poster,pls talk things through wit ur wife, from ur write up d only fault I see is dat she doesn't like sex, there ar ladies like dat,so many people wants to av d kind of wife u av,u told us dat d only person dat hates her is ur gf, Wat do u expect?? Dat ur so called gf is very stupid.pls if I may ask u poster is sex all u want in a marriage?? Better fix things wit ur wife be4 u will regret ur actions.

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  13. Anonymous4/20/2014

    This Mr poster is either mad or tryn 2 be mad. Better talk 2 ur wife and shun dat gf of urs, u don't knw wat u have until u've lost it. Mshewwwwww

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  14. Anonymous4/20/2014

    This Mr poster is either mad or tryn 2 be mad. Better talk 2 ur wife and shun dat gf of urs, u don't knw wat u have until u've lost it. Mshewwwwww

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  15. Odanibe4/21/2014

    Mr Poster!!! U really hv no respect for ur wife or urself, why will u give ur girlfriend the opportunity to insult ur wife or hvnt put a stop to it? Dats just complete nonsense! Been married 5 times haba!!!!!!!! U definitely hv a very very very big problem. There is a 100% chance that u will be without a companion @ old age and filled with regret.

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  16. Anonymous4/21/2014

    I,m sooo loving ur wife...as for the unfortunate concubine,whatsoever you sow,you will reap...oga pls I like be your wife friend jare...that's a very classy wifey and the divorce is your lost not hers...oshico

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  17. Anonymous4/21/2014

    I,m sooo loving ur wife...as for the unfortunate concubine,whatsoever you sow,you will reap...oga pls I like be your wife friend jare...that's a very classy wifey and the divorce is your lost not hers...oshico

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  18. Hmmm. Na wa oº° . Poster u nid deliverance bcos d devil doesn't wnt ur happiness. Kip chasing robocop sex. Dnt keep ur legs @ home till u end up d way many b4 u hv ended. Dnt evn hv wrd 4 u.

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  19. Anonymous4/21/2014

    poster wat is wrong with u,u want 2 throw away diamond 4 stone then u are cause, don't let selfishness make u a barren man

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    1. Anonymous4/21/2014

      Ha ba

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    2. mrs okeanya4/21/2014

      Mr poster u really need 2 work on ur self,I can now see u are less a man,if u are very good in love making am sure ur wife will love it 2,people like u have sex without 4play,fine ur wife don't like sex,it remein like dat bcos u are not romanic,take it or u leave it ur wife is. Great,pls if u think she is less a woman and D fact datshe don't like sex make her stupid 2 u abi,ok pls send her number 2 me,so I can give it 2 my brother,I can asure u he will bring out D best in dat woman,I no she is great and u don't deserve a woman dat is as good as dat.

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  20. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Which country do u reside in poster? If it's not Nigeria be prepared to loose almost everything u have to ur wife and kids cos she's gathering enough ammo to use on u. Idiot. That ur girlfriend is not a wife material So don't bother. U should just get a divorce if sex is all u need from ur wife so u don't infect her with ur unruly behaviour. U were married 5 times and they all left u, u managed to get someone who stuck with u and u are complaining about sex? U are a real fool. Can't u see I are the one who has a problem? Get spiritual help biko and leave the poor woman alone. Ewu Gambia

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  21. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Which country do u reside in poster? If it's not Nigeria be prepared to loose almost everything u have to ur wife and kids cos she's gathering enough ammo to use on u. Idiot. That ur girlfriend is not a wife material So don't bother. U should just get a divorce if sex is all u need from ur wife so u don't infect her with ur unruly behaviour. U were married 5 times and they all left u, u managed to get someone who stuck with u and u are complaining about sex? U are a real fool. Can't u see I are the one who has a problem? Get spiritual help biko and leave the poor woman alone. Ewu Gambia

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  22. Anonymous4/21/2014

    My dear no be small ewu gambia, no very big ewu gambia o, God will punish u and dat ur whore gf,don't knw y some men ar very stupid,u want ur wife to start crying and begging u to stop cheating on her na, idiot, just wish I will get ur wife number and give to my uncle dat will treat her like an angel dat she is,be there,u will soon cry dat a he goat dat u ar, rubbish.

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  23. Anonymous4/21/2014

    see painment.i guess ur gf is also pained cos d woman has neva replied her.na una go die and not dt poor woman.i v already joined ur family and friends in loving ur wife.i knw yr type,u want to frustrate d woman so she came bury hrr eyes wt tears and eventually gv her hbp but alas d reverse is d case cos u r d one havin high bp.u want to divorce her and marry d 7th time.mind u dt ds isnt going t b d last.u wl definitely make them 15but among ir 15 exes.u wl always wish u had kept ds one.as fr ur gf,u think u r d only one shagging her,then u must be on a long thing.

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    1. Anonymous4/24/2014

      In fact u get am. Don't mind this yeye person. Even a fool will have more sense. That stupid gf is not even faithful. Better go and check ur HIV and std status ewu. Instead of finding more mature ways of solving d sex issues with ur near perfect wife you are going for number 7 'wife'. When will u grow up??? Good luck to you

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  25. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Thanks everyone for ur kind replies, I appreciate,
    I started having sex with my gf when I found that my wife isn't interested in making love to me...
    She neglects me as if I don't exist,
    I didn't encourage my gf to insult her and I ve put a stop to that.
    But I'm scared of living in the same house with her,
    I still eat her food blc I'm 100% sure that its not poisoned.
    I married her blc I was under pressure from my mum,
    I'm divorcing her so that she ll be happy and be free to date or remarry.

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    1. Anonymous4/21/2014

      Arrant nonsense!!!

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  26. Anonymous4/21/2014

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  27. Anonymous4/21/2014

    "I'm divorcing her sƠ̴̴͡ she will be free to date or remarry". This man, your case ehn, only God will give you the punishment you deserve. SƠ̴̴͡ after three kids, you feel she will be free to date or remarry. You should have showed this honesty when you first met her, not now that you have wasted her years. Besides, she's not asking for the divorce, you are! SƠ̴̴͡, simply say you want to be free to date or remarry. I really love your wife, Madam please, don't give him that divorce o άήδ maintain your no sex stand before he infects you with rubbish. Let him continue wallowing in adultery, he will pay.

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  28. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Poster y can't you beg ur wife and let everytin bi normal. I beg swallow ur ego joor bcos if you remarry, I'm seein d same tin happenin 2 u.

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  29. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Oga, give me a good reason why you should exist to her, when you have said you didn't love her άήδ still don't love her. Ά§ obvious you wooed her άήδ she accepted, thinking, you love her. Now she has found out you don't love her, why should she love you or care about you? Or you think providing things in the house is love? This man, I lack words for you, just lie on the bed you have made for yourself. Let me rest here.

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  30. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Dear Poster, you're a disgrace to fatherhood. I'm not surprised 5 women left you and this one that has stayed, you want to hurt her all because of your irresponsible lifestyle.

    By the way how old are you? Too old for this mess I guess.

    Your wife behaves the way she does because of the way you treat her. Do you expect her to be all smiley when there's no single joy from been around you.

    Kai I feel like flogging you 24 strokes of koboko because you have the best woman you can ever get and yet you're trading it for a lady whom you don't even know if she can sacrifice half what your wife have sacrificed in your marriage.

    My advice to you is this:

    Get rid of that intruder. Trust me, if they keep you two together in a room, you will get tired of the sex because that's all she can offer. She's so desperate that she can sleep with any man just to get what she wants. You think that's love, no bro that's LUST.

    Go on your knees and ask your wife for forgiveness. She has never been loved and yet she still keeps the home together. Start afresh and pamper her: she deserves it. Such an angel you have there.

    But if you insist on digging your grave, go ahead. I'm sure madam and the kids will be fine. I've never heard of this kind of thing before.

    Abeg make I stop before I get angry... Agadi Nwoke....

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  31. Anonymous4/21/2014

    lol. D poster is highly possessed... U better repent of ur sins and go 4 deliverance asap!

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  32. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Indeed being wise has nothing to do with age! Can't get over this story o.

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  33. Anonymous4/21/2014

    You need Jesus in your life ASAP. www.mariasdesire.wordpress.com

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  34. Anonymous4/21/2014

    Mr , there is a devil on ur case dt want to make u die as an old frustrated lonely n sad old man. U need deliverance. Dt girlfriend of urs, once she destroys ur home I promise u , d love u hv for her will die.ur children , friends, parents , wife will never forgive u. Then u will start all over again to loook for n marry a new wife. Its a negative circle dt d devil wants u to keep repeating until u die. So u better wise up, look for a true man of God to brk d curse u r under . Ur wife probably knws dts y she's not bothered but praying probably for God to intervane. U divorce her nw, who will loose?.....U , u hv lost 5times n u want to keep loosing , wise up cursed man

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  35. Anonymous4/21/2014

    No wonder five women left this idiot.

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  36. @ Poster, like I said in my repy to you, I think you two don't love each other. Difference is ...She doesn't cheat and her kids make her happy. Maybe she is ready to swallow ANYTHING for the sake of those 3 kids while you are a bit selfish.

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  37. Anonymous4/22/2014

    Mr sex problem i pray God should touch ur heart befor is to late

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  38. Anonymous4/22/2014

    As the saying goes... You don't know what u have until you lose it! Mr Poster! Until u divorce that woman, you will never know what a wonderful wonderful woman you have married! U see, what most clueless men like u don't know is that we women have to be emotionally attached to someone to enjoy sex with them, not like men that can get aroused simply by lookin at tits and ass! After three kids, ur wife knows d truth, that u don't love her cos I am sure u don't treat her right... So tell me pls, how on earth is she expected to enjoy sex with u wen she feels emotionally disconnected from u? Its as simple as that!!! If u try to love this woman,open ur eyes and see her for d true paragon of beauty she is, even u won't be able to handle her passion in d bedroom with u!!!! As for ur girlfriend, what a man soweth, he will reap, PERIOD! The biggest mistake u'll ever make in ur life is divorcing ur wife n marryin ur girlfriend! Mark my words, u will regret it!!! D grass isn't always greener on d other side ooo! A word is enough for d wise...
    As for d sex she gives u anywhere anyhow, u'll soon get tired of it, u no be man??? Romance ur wife all over again, regain her trust and u'll be a happy man!

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    1. Anonymous4/22/2014

      Best advice....... Well said. Mr Poster read and take note. Pray to God for the grace to love your wife

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  39. He has been ditched five times....allow him, dude just wants to know what it is like to ditch someone and beg later. Ogbeni u r raving mad.
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  40. Anonymous4/24/2014

    Mr Poster u better check ur life. Not even one person even the males here support you. That should tell you something if indeed you needed genuine advice. Anon 9:11 has said it well.. A woman knows who loves her and u have said it that u don't, I can imagine how u treat her yet u want super sex..it doesn't work that way. Sow love and u will reap it in abundance. Women are so easy if you know how to press the right button, she will give u that sex till ur tired. But u rather be selfish and cheat forgetting ur children... Seek prayers o cos ur case is serious.
    Dat ur gf fit don jazz u.

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  41. #bringbackourgirls and take this stupid man. Book haram take note.

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