Again, I Love Him But I DON'T, Am I Alright Or Is Something Wrong With Me?

Hello aunty eya,congrats..please hide my identity...I'm 26,for the past 5years i've not experineced what it's like to feel love and be loved..my ex was the best man have ever met,till date I can't really seems to find any wrong in him,but the problem I had with him was I didn't feel anything for him,I tried my possible best then,just to feel something but all to no avail.I came out to him honestly and we both let go..fast forward,I met this amazing guy 2 year ago,infact,he's also a wonderful guy and he treats me like a queen but I don't love him.I've been doing all I could to spark it but I still feel empty with him

...I really want to know how love really feels..i always feel lonely anytime we are together and it killing me everyday but I can't just help it..am tired of pretending I love him but I don't..please am I really alright ?please help a sister out.

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  1. There are some relationships like that…not every amazing guy is your husband…. read my write-up on this. you deserve better!…you deserve to be loved and be in love….www.bride2mum.com… we can talk more about this though…bride2mum@gmail.com

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    1. Anonymous4/02/2014

      Bride to mum you be thief o. She came to Eya. To us and You blatantly want to tif her. Mtsheeeew.

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    2. hahahaha sorry o… I nor mean to thief am, if not I for nor thief am for public…nor vex

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    3. Hahaha Anon you cracked me up big time.
      Am still laughing o. oh my...

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  2. One thing with love is that its not forced, it flows from within, that a guy has all the best qualities Does not mean he will make a girl fall in love with him, sometimes, the good guys don't know how to make ladies fall for them, they are too conservative, too dull, can't make a lady go crazy in love with them, can't seduce a lady, but the bad guys, they are the players, they have sugary tongue, very liberal, funny, their nature is sensual, they are very good at seduction, they can even seduce a reverend sister, that's why most ladies fall for the bad guys, that why they say, good guys they carry last, although this is not always the case, but history has proven time and again that bad guys are masters at seduction, they know how to make a lady love them so much

    Women will tell you they want a guy that's nice, caring, good looking, spiritual or religious, will make a good father to her kids, and all those good qualities your ex had, but you will Still see them falling for the bad guys in place of guys with all these qualities they want, because women are adventurous, they want a guy that will make them feel like a real woman, and that's what the bad guys have that good guys sometimes don't have

    So in your case poster, I don't think there is anything wrong with you, I just think despite the near perfect quality your ex and current guy has, they seem to lack that spark, or the key to make you having strong feelings for them, to make you fall in love with them, they don't seem to be seductive enough, funny enough, so its because of this lack in some good, religious and near perfect guys, thats why sometimes, they end up in normal friend zone with a lady, just like your ex has ended up in friend zone, you love him like a brother and not a lover, so you have not really found that man that will make you fall in love him

    Guys with all our religious nature, our near perfect nature, we must try to work on our relationship with ladies, its not about being nice, caring, being religious alone, sometimes, its boring, its about making your woman feel like a woman, be adventurous with her, be funny, be lively, be hot, be a master at seduction always in seducing her, be in-charge, act like a man but be gentle and humble, don't be dull, surprise her, make it seem as if she can't seem to have enough of you, and they will always be in love with you, they can't seem to want another man, because they have not had enough of you, let's try to balance the qualities of the good and bad guy, but let's not be a player or an unfaithful man


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    1. Anonymous4/02/2014

      You summed this up nicely.my husband almost lost me...I wish our quiet and spiritual hubbys could know this...more wisdom from above bro!

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  3. Alloy take five.
    But lemme chip something in.
    The truth is we all differ and desire different things. I believe in Prayer + Action
    Poster please make sure they're not following you from village. It happens o infact I witnessed it but God pass them and I thank Him that I've overgrown demonic manipultions through the blood.
    I had this kind of experience with my husband at first but his cheerful persistence taught me what love truly means and that once a man has the raw material, a wise woman can build anything out of him.
    What is love to you? Are you looking for already made(emotionally) or want to take the pride of making a "huala" out of him like I did?
    If he is teachable then dig.
    However, I say ditch it if you don't feel it deeply

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    1. Alloy Chikezie4/02/2014

      1000 likes for this your comment Debbie!


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  4. Anonymous4/02/2014

    Intelligent comments τ̲̅õ̸̳͡ y'all.@Alloy God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ Fø̲̣̣я̅ making м̤̣̲̣̈̇ε̲̣ fall in luv wit you..lolz. Mrs.Alloy

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    1. Alloy Chikezie4/02/2014

      Lols @God bless me for making you fall in love with me, and even Mrs Alloy. Lols you are so funny dear!


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  5. concerned4/02/2014

    Sorry for posting this here Eya, but pls I need advise. I have a little issue bothering me. I have this younger female relation who I'm like 10yrs older than. My three younger siblings are older than her and I carried her as a baby. Now we work together in the same place and for some reason she doesn't have that respect for me
    . Sorry am old school and I respect my seniors, I call ppl 10yrs older than me Aunty, tho I don't need it from her. I feel weird when she greets me "hello darling'" in front of our colleagues who are my friends too. Its annoying to me andmy sisters too who are older than her are annoyed when i told them....I have been ignoring it and pretending not to hear but one day i feel i will embarass her since she lacks manners. One day she said "baby girl" to me as her greeting and I was shocked tho I still ignored it. I wonder if I'm acting normally as some people might consider this petty. This is Nigeria sha and in our larger family we show respect which she knows. Shes a small child to me and I wonder if its bcos we r doing the same job that is bringing all this rubbish, kindly advise me please.

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    1. Anonymous4/02/2014

      You need to have a talk with that little brat

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    2. so wait oo.. so if she says aunty and hates you and is even rude to you.. that will make you happy..she's respectful and calling you pet names and you have an issue ? you remind me of d naija pple that want to eat RESPECT! please go remove that stick that is way up your ass..10yrs difference and you want to die on top titile ? "sista concerned" or "aunty concerned" which one will you prefer ?
      you are a funny person I tell you.. smh

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    3. Anonymous4/03/2014

      People are different and if you don't like the way she addresses you, then you need to speak up. Let her know your feelings. It just may be an innocent error. I have younger relatives who refer to me as dear, baby, my love, etc. I appreciate it and see it as an endearment and not a sign of disrespect at all. It just shows me that they are comfortable with me. But like I said, people are different due to how we were raised.

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  6. concerned4/03/2014

    I may be funny to you but no problem. Go and read my post again before you throw your insults pls. Like i said i never needed titles, simple goodmorning wd have been ok rather than her talking to me as if shes talking to her junior. For ur info I consider her behaviour rude and disrespectful and I'm not the only one that thinks so. I also have cousins that are older than me in the same way, even smaller age gap and even tho we are in the same profession and im even senior to them there I would NEVER refer to them as "baby girl" in the name of greeting when I am not mad. I need meaningful advise from mature minds pls. Thanks

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    2. I had to read my comment and also searching for a part where I insulted you .. still can't find it .. sigh you are too rigid oo ..can't go on like this. aunty or sister concerned.. baby girl suits you just fine.. cheers!

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  7. Anonymous4/03/2014

    Did you not read the part where she said she carried her, now the lady is forming big girl. Poster abeg there is nothing wrong with you. Call her pribvately and let her know you would rather she greets you normally without endearments. If she no gree tell her in public, before she go call your husband "baby boy".

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    1. concerned4/06/2014

      Anon 8:48 Hahaha @ baby boy chei! But true o, cos my hubby can conveniently be her father... His eyes would just POP ....lol

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  8. Poster i understand you well. You need to talk to her and let her know u don't want to be addressed that way. @ Simply bells, are you just naturally rude or silly to know that your first comment was rude and even the subsequent comment??? SMH

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  9. concerned4/06/2014

    Thanks for your comments all. I will take youradvice. Though i had thought of doing it where other family members are present cos like someone said she may not see anything wrong with her attitude and only majority opinion will open her eyes... Its not just about me after all she may do it to somebody who won't tolerate it tomorrow.
    @Simply bells so in your opinion telling someone who asked for advice that they want to eat respect or die on top of title, and they Shd remove the "stick up their ass" is not rude and uncalled for??? Then wow is all I've got to say. Again thanks for your comments all. At least I know I'm not weird.

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