This Married White Woman And My Husband, What Do I Do?)

Hi

I'm currently in a dilemma and don't know what to do.
In November last year while going to do some shopping with my family a white lady walked up to us and started talking to my husband she disregarded my presence.not sure who she was I walked away from them to wait at the front if the shop.

Their conversation never ended when they walked up to me . The lady said she had been having an affair with my husband and she wanted me to know as my husband was denying her.(She's married to a Nigerian with a kid and is not happy in her marriage).She said a whole lot and mind you I was dumbfounded and lost because she knew my name my sons name and some other stuff.He denied this affair in her presence.Before now my husband and I had been having issues as he hides stuff away from him while I'm totally open to him.Inmy confused state I wanted to find out more from her so we exchanged phone numbers(I regret this) but I never contacted her.She saw me some days after this and wanted to start a conversation with me.

I warned her and told her to back off me and my family because it turned out she knows my house,peeps at us while we are in the kitchen through the window etc (permit me to use the word stalking).She walked away as I told her i would  be getting the police involved .Saw her around a few times but no contact was made,but I saw her again this morning and ignored as usual only for her to send me a text saying my husband is disturbing her and I should tell him to leave her alone.

My husbands side of the story was that he met her at the gym and they started talking.She told him about her marital issues and he kept encouraging her to keep her marriage and make it work .She started asking him out and he refused that he was married.She said she didn't mind being his side chic,when he refused her advances she jokingly told him she would wreck his marriage.

Aunty Eya, I'm currently 7 months pregnant and don't need any of this stress.I'm confused and don't know what to do as me and my husband had earlier resolved this issue and i on my own personally weighed everything and resolved that he didn't have an affair with her .
Pls keep my identity anonymous and would like to have constructive advise from my fellow followers and not insults please.
Thanks

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  1. Anonymous3/01/2014

    chaiiiiiii chaiiiii chaiiiiiii......

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    1. Godstime3/02/2014

      Pls WC family, I need you people's help. My son is currently 4months old and has refused to suck as he use to. I am doing exclusive breastfeeding and also going to school. I usually express the milk and keep it at home with my sis to feed him, then when I come back, I will feed him directly. The problem now is that he has refused to suck well again, most times when he is crying and I try to breastfeed him,he will just remove his mouth. He sucks small sometimes and other times he will refuse totally. Someone that sucks like countlessly in a day, now I can readily count how many times I breastfeed him and he is not sick. I really wish to do the exclusive for 6months but with this his new style, I don't know if I should introduce baby food and which one if I should. Thanks and waiting for your comments fam.

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    2. Anonymous3/03/2014

      Try him cereals. Check that he is not sick in anyway.

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    3. creampalace3/03/2014

      My dear pls introduce cup and spoon feeding with cereal and pap,even d breast milk expressed,he mite b teething and feel too sore to suck.

      Moreso if u have an adult mum let her try feeding him pap traditionally,so that he can aleast feel fed.take easy and pray

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  2. Anonymous3/01/2014

    pls pls just concentrate on safe delivery first biko. still be very nice to your husband and have a healthy baby pls.

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  3. Anonymous3/01/2014

    I have a feeling the woman is lying. Focus on your family or you could have a word with her husband

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    1. Your husband had sex with her and he is no more intrested in d affair n d lady is coming after u.

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  4. do not let a stupid outsider wreck your marriage. now is not a good time to worry about this stuff. that baby in the womb is more important now. pamper yourself and block that fool away from your mind and your phone.

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  5. First of all how would the woman know all these things about you, your sons name, etc. if she's lying? How does she know where you live? I don't think your husband is telling the whole truth. I think there must have been more communication between them that your husband is not telling you. I don't know if they had an affair but I know he's not telling you everything. Please focus on a safe delivery and make sure you tell your husband never to contact or speak to her again. Let him know that this is insane and he's hurting you and the family. God is in control of all things. He will make things better.

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    1. OCM I have the same thought with you, I knw there is more to tell. That said pls you baby comes first now, and you have to watch your health and bp madam. Pls let me not forget to say: your hubby is has somthing with her and the white woman is a psycho.

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    2. **your baby** // your hubby has. Overlook typo errors

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  6. Anonymous3/02/2014

    Well, there might not have been an affair as ur husband said, maybe during their course of discussion,ur names came up and located ur house someway. But I'd plead with u to focus on ur safe delivery. Since they weren't caught 'redhanded'(permit me). I think u shud just take ur husband's word of honor. In my little understanding, I think that's what is called trust. It is well

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  7. Anonymous3/02/2014

    My sis, ask for God's guidance. He would see u through. It is well

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  8. Anonymous3/02/2014

    He probably had an affair with her at some point, but when he decided to break it off, she showed her crazy side. Do not give her the benefit of seeing her threat come to pass and focus on your home and baby on the way. That said, you need to sit yur hubby down and have a serious talk. All the running around aint gonna work. He better shape up or ship out. No time for drama please!

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  9. Anonymous3/02/2014

    Poster, from experiences (not personal but working) I can tell you categorically that some homw wreckers go miles to know all they want about their victim. And that does not eraze the fact that at a point ur husband may have strayed but the point is, as long as ur husband is still keeping the home front as expected and hasn't changed negatively towards you and ur baby, please don't allow that other woman succeed in her evil plots... may ur marriage work.

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  10. Anonymous3/02/2014

    Pls next time you see her at your window call the police she is taking it too far (stalking),some of these oyibo women are sick,as for getting your children's name she can easily get them.i have watch too much crime and investigation not to take some things likely especially if you live abroad.however do your own investigation and find out who she is...good luck

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  11. Poster pls forget about the white woman & focus on ur baby for now. God will not allow her evil plans to prevail in ur marriage,its well wit you.

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  13. Report to the police and get a restraining order. Be more security conscious. Buy pepper spray or mace.These people can be dangerous and the woman sounds crazy. Tell them she's been stalking you and your family.

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  14. whether she is laying or telling the truth is not an issue here.but the question is would you leave your marriage bc your husb is having an affair?the next man you will marry is he going to be pope jonh paul d 11?my dear we are in a society where pastor and clergy men cheat on their wives and not usa uk or england where people work out from their marriage bc of adulterous scandals.just concentrate on ur family especially ur son and the unborn baby.ignore ur husb and his mistress.i assure u that when he is tired and done with her he will come back home fully, pending when he meets another away match lady bc that is what their lives are made up with.

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    1. Anonymous3/04/2014

      Dis ur advice no follow Oo°˚˚˚°! She tell u say she wan leave d man? She tell u say they had an affair? Abeg read d story and understnd and give her constructive advice.

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    2. i understood the story perfectly well.she said she is confused and in our nigeria setting that will be paramount in her mind now and that is where i based my advice on.and i believe its constructive enough.what about you?you didnt even have anything to tell her?or would you rather she continue worrying herself over nothing in her state?you shoukld be able to say something instead of reprimanding me for making an effort,at least i tried better than people who leaves the story and concentrates on other people's comments.

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  15. There is fire on the mountain. Anyway, keep your calm and concentrate on having a safe delivery first.

    You should also watch you back

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  16. Anonymous3/03/2014

    For the fact that your husband denied the affair shows he still respects you. You have not seen men that will throw on it on their wives face. The woman might even be lying!

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  17. Anonymous3/03/2014

    have u watched obsessed abi na obsession, the one Beyonce acted? your husband might not have had a relationship with her for her to start wrecking your home. u sef, report to her husband na, post her pix on ur facebook wall, stalk her small too, pay her in her own coin. pele

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  18. creampalace3/03/2014

    Madam i think u should report to neccessary authorities at least to protect ur home,God forbid any bad occurence and it might help reveal hidden truths sooner

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  19. Anonymous3/04/2014

    For nw concentrate on ur unborn baby. Only God knws whose bn truthful btw her n ur hubby. Be warned Stalkers Can Be Dangerous,If u,ve watched Investigation Discovery channel nor b person go tel u to call relevant bodies for d' woman has she is a mental case. God hlp u n i wish u safe delivery. Amen. MM

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  20. I am not saying dt dere ws somtin btw d two ooo,wat I am saying is evn if dey ws nothing btw dem y didn't ur hubby made an introduction wen d lady walked up to U guys,dt being said. My dear evn if dere ws neva a relationship btw dem which I doubt bcs I tink dere is more to wat ur hubby told U,but all dt is not impnt now pls concentrate on ur marriage and dnt allow any home breaker to distroy ur home pls,seriously talk wit Ur hubby abut it and if possible report her to an authority for ur own safty bcs to me it seems dt dt woman is a Psychopath,its well all dsame,d Lord is ur strength.

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  21. Anonymous3/04/2014

    mydear ur husband's version sounds true..ill say believe ur hubby's side of d story.everything about d woman sOUNDS false n weird.as for having issues wt hubby,it s natural bt try nt to let pregnancy hormones change u frm a sweet lady to a quarrelsome lady.MOST IMPORTANTLY, ALWAYS PRAY WITHOUT CEASING...GOD BLESS U N GIVE U SAFE DELIVERY IN JESUS NAME AMEN.

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  22. Anonymous3/08/2014

    watch obsessed. Acted by beyonnse then u will understand that desperate home breaker can cook up whatever just to get the man they want. She knows too much about u is no proof of anythin. Remember everything is possible plus google is ur friend. There is no privacy again oh. So stick to ur hubby and even help him fight her off. Cos u may never know what he is passing through to keep her off. Who knows if he is really guilty his conscience will judge him and he will tell u the truth, but if he is innocent u will be happy in the end to know u didn't condemn him wrongly and loose ur home. May God help u Dear ask for His direction also. Peace

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  23. Anonymous3/08/2014

    watch obsessed. Acted by beyonnse then u will understand that desperate home breaker can cook up whatever just to get the man they want. She knows too much about u is no proof of anythin. Remember everything is possible plus google is ur friend. There is no privacy again oh. So stick to ur hubby and even help him fight her off. Cos u may never know what he is passing through to keep her off. Who knows if he is really guilty his conscience will judge him and he will tell u the truth, but if he is innocent u will be happy in the end to know u didn't condemn him wrongly and loose ur home. May God help u Dear ask for His direction also. Peace

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  24. My dear there would be trials, face God now, alert the police before she would come n attack you one day, but focus more on ya baby, try n block the tots of this woman when dealing with ya hubby. it is well

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