How Do I Walk Away Without Hitches? Really Confused

Hello ma, goodevening...pls help me post this mail and pls I also need ur
private advice too.thank you.

I am a pretty young girl in my final year and I am datin a really really
nice guy that is way older than me and he wants to settle.firstly mum wont
even hear, anytime I talk of him she talks of how I must do masters and get
a job first since age is much on my side.I understand her alot and I know
her reasons.backward to vals day period 13th to be precise I was at his
place and I snooped on his phone but that was because for two years we have
been dating, his phone has been a no go area and its only normal to be
suspicious and yes I saw sumtin to piss me off.without telling him he
realized I snooped so he started giving attitude. . Vals day one girl dat I
know has been disturbing him"so he said" and he was answerin weirdly I sha
confronted him and he lied and lies led to lies and more lies, then a
breakup...durin dat period he wud call by 3 at night and say he can't sleep
and beg and all and I forgave him....fast forward to today, I had to make a call on his fone and I stumbled on a chat btween him and his cousin, its
all bout hook me up wit ur frnd or sumtin, cant keep waitin for my gf..he
told her we broke up but didnt tell her why, he made it look like it was
cuz of my mum's decision, he told her he wants to move on, and he feels
sorry for me......sorry for this long epistle but I need just one
advice.....HOW DO I WALK AWAY WITHOUT HITCHES OR LIKE I SNOOPED AGAIN CUZ I
CANT DO THIS AGAIN.....thanks for ur replies.

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  1. Alloy Chikezie3/20/2014

    I really don't understand the advice you need, you have seen it clearly written that this guy doesn't want you in his life, and you are still asking for advice, is it that you love him so much that you can't move on with your life? Or is it that you are in a very tight angle? Well your case is not difficult at all, just end the relationship and move on with your life, he is very deceptive with sugary tongue, that you should know by now, that's why he calls at 3am to lie to you that he can't sleep, he is the type that will praise you in your front call you all sorts of sweet names and laugh at you with his friends at your back that you are a fool, well I think you are just too good for him and marriage is too precious an institution to see danger signs at the early stages of courtship and still continue with the relationship or marrying that person.

    Proverb 22:3 says "Sensible people will see trouble coming and avoid it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and regret it later"

    How should you go about breaking up with him?
    First choose a proper sitting for the discussion,
    what would you say when the time come? Be tactful, yet firm, state clearly why you think this relationship won't work for you, you don't need to recite litany of faults, or let loose with a barrage of criticisms, just focus on how you feel, like telling him how you think you both are not compatible, and making him understand that if you get married to him in future will he be happy if you are not meeting your marital responsibilities, so all in all, instead of telling him what he did and making him feel bad or giving him the opportunity to manipulate you and start begging that he will change, just tell him why you feel you both are not compatible and why the marriage will not work, if possible tell him the problem is you and not him

    This is no time to be wishy-washy or yield to another's opinion, remember you have chosen to break-up for a serious reason, so be cautious if he tries to change your mind through subtle forms of manipulation
    May God help you to make right decisions


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    1. Do u actually slp here?

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    2. Anonymous3/21/2014

      Azubike sommie,what does it matter if he sleeps here or not? At least he gave a great advice. Where is your own advice?

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    3. Anonymous3/21/2014

      Pkomo lips azubuike, which one concern you?!

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    4. Anonymous3/21/2014

      First comment and i dare say is just excellent! I couldn't had said better.....poster follow number one comment advice...is all over there supported by Bible quote....BEST WISHES.

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    5. Alloy Chikezie3/21/2014

      Lol @Azubike you remind me of my friend in secondary school, he bear same name with you, yes I sleep on blog, not just here, I sleep here, I sleep on LIB, I sleep on SDK, and I also sleep on promo blog by Gloria


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  2. Anonymous3/21/2014

    Please find an open space like a restruant or outside and tell him you're breaking up with him, then tell him what you saw. Then leave him there....don't wait for him to form anger or give you excuses or lies. After that, keep away from him...no calls, notexts, block him from ur social media. It is high time ladies stopped alloqing men treat them like dirt! He doesn't love you, stop throwing urself at him. You have a long wonderful life ahead of you and will meet some one who will value you and not sneak behind you sending silly messages and hiding his phone. Good luck!

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    1. Anonymous3/21/2014

      *allowing*

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  3. Exactly how 'young' are you dear poster cos I didn't see your precise age and it would help?
    Ill advise you take your mum's advice, stall the relationship if you really 'think' you love the guy. go for your masters and use that period to get more mature cos you maybe confuse love for some other thing. Also, this guy may perceive your immaturity and is taking you for a ride. Take a break from him, clear your mind thru the period of your masters and see what the future holds for you.
    You didn't exactly say the reasons your mum gave for disliking him and she maybe seeing things you are overlooking. Mind you, its not every discussions you have with your mum concerning your boyfriend you tell verbatim to him.
    Goodluck

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  4. Anonymous3/21/2014

    My dear pls break up with this guy,and move on,dere will be other guys,so why settle with someone that is so desperate he needs to ask his cousin to hook him up. Pls go for your masters and get a job before you settle down,bcos every woman need to be empowered and any guy that is not willing to wait for you to mature and be a strong woman is not worth it,trust me. Btw mothers are usually right about this things, they have the best instincts.you sound young so you have enough time to settle down and figure out what you want out of life.



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  5. Leave the guy and respect your mum. Your mum means well for you. He is obviously not worth it. You need to get rid of this guy sharply whether with hitches or no hitches. He is just a player. You will hurt and miss him though, but with time you will get better and later regret why u even loved him as first.

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  6. Anonymous3/23/2014

    Poster,e be like say u be virgin... The only reason this guy is still keeping you. He is full of lies and deceit,am sorry to say but your mum is right.. Get your career first, don fall for this liar. Everything he has told you plus d love he says he feels for u is all lies! Move on.. Best way to move on is to totally blank him out. Make up your mind and stop picking his calls,ignore his pings,aviod him totally... Shey he feels pity for u shey,blank his side totally. God has opened your eyes pls don't ignore the warnings.. Cheers

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  7. Ur mum means well for u, she only wants u to b empowered cos guys of nowadays will confuse you into marrying dem then dey start maltreating when u dn't hv anything to do. I dn't even think u need 2 break wit him cos it might just mk u weak when u see him so pls just move on nd face ur studies its very evident ur guy is in a haste to marry thus, can't wait for u.

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  8. Ur mum means well for u, she only wants u to b empowered cos guys of nowadays will confuse you into marrying dem then dey start maltreating when u dn't hv anything to do. I dn't even think u need 2 break wit him cos it might just mk u weak when u see him so pls just move on nd face ur studies its very evident ur guy is in a haste to marry thus, can't wait for u.

    Buy ur quality baby clothes (0-7yrs) from uk @ affordable price!!! Holla (bb-27e7efa1). I'm based in lagos.

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