Should I Leave Him Or Stay And Fight Both Spiritually And Physically


  • Hi aunty eya, I am an ardent reader of ur blog, pls I need advice from you and other readers. About 4 months ago I met this man, who was so sweet and loving and promised me marriage. He is a father of 3 beautiful girls from his first marriage until the wife died. And before her death , they were divorced He got involved wit another lady who used charms on him (according to him and his relatives) she never bore him a child.They just had introduction(knocking of the door) After 5 yrs he got seperated from her, bcos she was sleeping around and not in good terms wit his family.
  • He met
    me and promised me marriage if I got pregnat, I did; and after few months he changed. He started cheating on me and eventually went back to the lady, he leaves me at night to see her, answers her calls in my presence knwing I don't understand their language (ibibio) so I record wit my phone and gives someone to translates. His family and kids love me so much . But this man has changed and wants me out.I had to abort the baby wen I saw what was going on. I think he is being manupilated my the other woman. I am delta and he is from Akwa ibom. I don't know what to do. 
  • My friends and parents have asked me to leave him if that's what he wants. But I love him so much. And I love his kids too. He is 47 and not educated. Can't even express himself well in english but working as a contract staff tecnician in a reputable oil companny. I am a graduate without a job. Pls advice me, what should I do? leave and forget him or fight for my love spiritually and physically. Thanks

Comments

  1. Anonymous2/11/2014

    Please leave him alone and move on wit ur life.

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  2. Anonymous2/11/2014

    For how long will u keep fighting spiritual battles? The trouble of 2 day is enough. You will find somebody better!

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  3. Anonymous2/11/2014

    na wa o..you want to kill yourself??please leave the man alone o

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  4. I don't understand what you are waiting for. Someone that has blatantly lied to you? Does not have an iota of respect for you? And you're still asking? If it's cos he helps you financially, please fight and pray hard to get a job or small business. No amount of money is worth your unhappiness. A 47 year old man?In my experience.men who talk bad about their former partners are usually lying or embellishing the truth. Why is he still close to her? To love her and use you to get children? You can stay if you want but I can bet good money that marriage won't last 2 years

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  5. Anonymous2/11/2014

    Stay if u dnt want 2 c d end of this year.

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    1. Bola gorgeous2/11/2014

      U harsh gaan o! Loz

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    2. Anonymous2/11/2014

      at Bola na true na. Abi i lie? Sumone wil c fire and want to play with it.

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  6. Anonymous2/11/2014

    Thanks all, best advise ever; and to aunty eya thanks for posting this. U have saved a sister.

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  7. Mama Ijebu2/11/2014

    Pls leave the man.

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    1. chioma r.d2/11/2014

      Mama ijebu . Na wa o. I don mis u ni. U travel?

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  8. Anonymous2/11/2014

    LEAVE!!!!!!!!

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  9. Honey, please leave him. You will get someone better in the future that will treat you with respect and love you the way you should be loved. It'll be hard to get over him in the beginning but it'll get better with time. The first red flag came when the man asked you to get pregnant for him first. He doesn't deserve you dear. God will give you what you deserve.

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  10. Dear Poster, I know you are dragging your feet cos you're solely dependent on him. Gather the little savings you have and move on with a little business. Think of what you love doing and start up a business with it. I understand how painful it will be for you but just prayerfully know that there's light at the end of the tunnel.

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  11. Anonymous2/12/2014

    Sweetheart, you have to love yourself more than you love this man. Sweetheart, it is important to have more love for yourself than any man. I know that we can't control who our heart makes us fall in love with but we must control how we allow that person to treat us. While I don't think I should tell you what to do, I will say that YOU DESERVE BETTER than this kind of treatment. Can you be happy in this relationship? I don't think so.

    Remember that everything we go through in life are lessons that God would have us learn. Please learn the lesson from this situation. I think that part of your lesson is that you should not make decisions to please others without first thinking about how it could impact you. If another man wants you to have a baby for him, don't do it based on promises of marriage. Let him marry you first! Action speaks louder than words!

    Blessings!

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  12. Johnson2/13/2014

    The foundation of this relationship is faulty! Ladies – love is not sex! When you start sleeping with a man you’re not married to and it happens that he’s good in bed, you lose your own sense of reasoning.
    Poster – you are heading in the wrong direction if you continue in this relationship. I think you are the one that should go for spiritual help. Go cleanse yourself and ask God for mercy. He’s a God of second chance and will bring true love your way – provided you allow Him be in charge.

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  13. what is wrong with our women folk dis days?what love are u talking about?and how come u aborted a child conceived with such love?stop deceiving urself.if its the guy,s money u want then stay put endure the insult and enjoy the money.am surprised u said ur a working class graduate yet your messing urself up like dis.sorry anyway i like being practical so that if there is ant scale covering people,s eyes they will fall out instantly after being told the blatant truth

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  14. Anonymous2/14/2014

    Just move on dear

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  15. Anonymous2/14/2014

    Sweethrt,go to where u are celebrated not where u are tolerated. U made a mistake by aborting dat innocent baby,but like Johnson said God is a God of second change. Go to Him cos he's a loving father and u will see him give u a new life. If u are yet to give ur life to christ,u can do dat now cos he's with u and u will be amazed. We love u!

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