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In My Thirties With No Relationship. Help A Sister

Hi Aunty Eya.God will surely perfect all that concerns you in Jesus' Name.I am a 30 year old lady without a relationship. I don't know what to do.I've prayed,fasted,and all sort but no show. Can fellow sisters advise me? (kindly hide my identity)

Eya Says: Your mail is too short for
a blog post o, anyway, I'll still post it so you get tips and advice.
My tip is that you start associating more with people and watch how you relate with even people you don't know. Sometimes people begin to like you when they see how you relate to and treat other people NOT how you relate with them. Like, if you are good and kind to me because you know me, the day I realize that you treat other people differently will cancel how I feel about you. If there is a permanent frown on your face, take it off now cos it scares people away. Even if you are an introvert, try to be more friendly and outgoing ok?

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  1. You should learn to love yourself, look and feel good because the way you see yourself determines the way others would see and treat you. Also as Aunty Eya said learn to be kind and smile more often you will look more relaxed and accommodating that way.

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    1. Anonymous2/20/2015

      it might just be your demenor for me I have men that want to approach me but are afraid because I am a very principled person, independent and strict. finally I work in an environment where the men are mature and are not afraid of my person. so long and short of it the right man will find you and finally try to go out more often.

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  2. Anonymous2/18/2014

    Go out, be social, be active on social media, join a group in church, do movies, make friends etc and don't ever stop praying, list scriptures to back up ur request to God. All the best dear

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  3. Anonymous2/18/2014

    Go out, be social, be active on social media, join a group in church, do movies, make friends etc and don't ever stop praying, list scriptures to back up ur request to God. All the best dear

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  4. Anonymous2/18/2014

    dear poster pray very hard and don't joke with with your physical appearance especialjy your face cos it is d centre of attraction. ensure u are more beautiful inside i.e a good heart, a virteous woman. few years ago I was in d same shoe as u, when my time came my sister it came! God is not asleep. show yourself more luv and stop complaining. Appreciate God that u are even alive to be 30 some dies even before clocking twenty.
    and once there is life there is hope. may God smile at u soonest.

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  5. Anonymous2/19/2014

    My dear. D 1st thing to do is to love and accept urself, luv and treat pple well. Have a gd self esteem. Pray vry well. Hv faith in God.

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  6. God's time is the best..just have faith in God

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  8. Anonymous2/19/2014

    My dear d Lord is your strength.I was in d same shoes for so many years and d few ones dt came around were asking for sex and I said NO NO and I must confess it wasn't easy.I prayed,fasted,sowed seed and cried.Bt thank God d Lord has blessed me wt a wonderful man. Wedding coming soon at d age of 36.It is well with u. Pls don't give in to premarital sex cos most of them just want to get in between ur legs and move on with their lives.God will remember u.

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  9. Anonymous2/19/2014

    ".I prayed,fasted,sowed seed and cried" Anonymous 8:59am has just given you the perfect answer. If you like be nice for africa it doesn't guarantee anything. I know women that are very mean and have husbands that worship the ground they walk on...........all na by God's grace o don't let anyone tell you differently. I didn't meet my husband until I surrendered my dating life into God's hands because I realised i sucked at doing it myself and within 3 months I was engaged and still happily married several years after..........sometimes I wonder what my husband sees in me that makes him love me so much because I am not always nice to him but na God o

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    1. Anonymous2/19/2014

      Abeg love d man o . Haba sister!

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  10. Are you emotionally detached and can't really connect with people?
    Have you handed it entirely to God?
    Do you make a conscious and deliberate effort to be physically attractive? (not beautiful o. There is a difference)
    Try going out more....movies, hang out etc.
    I met my hubby in 2011 and kept friend zoning him for no particular reason and dating other people I knew would not last( I was probably unconsciously sabotaging myself because I wasn't ready or was scared of more).
    Check to be sure that you are not unreasonably critical or unconsciously pushing potential relationships away because you are scared

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  11. Its spiritual problem sis...I knw a powerful man of God dat can pray for you n ur story wil change for d better...if interested let me knw

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    1. Anonymous2/20/2014

      Pls oh I'm interested! Pls drop ur email address let me contact you! Thanks!

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    2. Give me ur email address.

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    3. Or better stil dear, dis is my pastor's no call him 08077419687 I sense a spiritual attack on ur life its nt jt about meetin pple on social media etc wot abt meeting them n they dnt stay what wil happen then? Its well sis God hs taken over ur case dis min jt believe.

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    4. Anonymous2/20/2014

      is ur pastor a true man of God? If yes then i nid to cal him o.am nt d poster

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    5. Yes he is try n u wil come bck to testify

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    6. If he's nt a true man of God, I won't be bold enough to put his number here

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    7. @poster hv u called ma pastor

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  12. Will advice u always tune to 92.3 inspiration fm.... Aunt Landa programme everysaturdey 12.30pm nd 7-8pm nd sunday 7-8pm..... Its called shareing life issues weekend special with auntylanda meanwhile u get close to ur God.... Remember God will nt give u ur future husband right in ur bedroom so socialize.

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  13. Mrs Anon3/23/2014

    You don't have to do anything to get a husband, it'll come... At the same time u have to do some things while u wait. 1. Pray pray pray. Tell God what you want. Tell Him to prepare ur mind to recognise the person when u meet him. Desperation isn't attractive so throw it away, it scares men off. They Like to pursue what they want so don't ever throw urself at a man. Have respect for urself. Its not pride... Nextfocus on improving urself in all areas, read good books on preparing for marriage, work on making itself the best u can be physically, mentally, career or bizwise etc. Remember as you are praying for Mr right, he is praying for Miss right too. Work on becoming that miss right with those xters u wish to see in him. Ur turn will come if u calm down and stop worrying. Blessings

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